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- Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i kahi pilina ʻawahia?
- Hiki paha i nā breakup ka mea maikaʻi loa loa?
- Pehea e uhaʻi ai me kahi mea āu e aloha ai
- Lula wāwahi olakino
ʻIke paha ʻoe aia kekahi mea i kapa ʻia he haʻihaʻi olakino? ʻAe, ʻaʻohe koi no ʻoe e hoʻomau me ka pilina ʻawahia a hōʻino paha.
Ma kahi o ka hemo ʻana i kou ola āpau, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke koho ʻana i kahi haʻihaʻi olakino. Akā ʻaʻole maʻalahi e like me ka mea.
He maʻa mau iā mākou ke kuhi he hauʻoli, māʻona kekahi, a ʻoiai he "laki" inā lākou i loko o kahi pilina aloha me kekahi. ʻO ka hiki paha i kēlā me kēia kanaka i kahi pili lōʻihi ka mea ʻoi loa, ke kanaka kūpaʻa ʻole o nā mea āpau.
No ke aha mai? No ka mea ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia ko mākou naʻau i ke ala e loaʻa ai ka "hoʻokahi" nou iho ke kumu maoli o ke ola.
ʻOiai ʻo ia ka pahuhopu hope loa o nā poʻe he nui, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e koi aku ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i nā pilina i hiki ke hōʻino iā ʻoe.
Hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā pilina i nā ʻāpana ākea- nā pilina olakino a olakino hoʻi. Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona nui e hōʻike ana i ka pilina a me ke olakino ʻole o ka pilina iā ʻoe. ʻAʻohe mea e makemake e noʻonoʻo i ka maikaʻi o kā lākou pilina a i ʻole e manaʻo he maikaʻi ʻole ia.
Makemake mākou āpau e ʻike i ka mea ʻoi loa i ka poʻe a mākou e aloha ai. He paʻakikī paha e ʻae he mea make kāu pilina, akā ʻo ka wikiwiki o kāu hana ʻana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i kahi pilina ʻawahia?
ʻO ka pilina olakino ka hana a me ka manawa. Hoʻokumu ʻia kahi pilina hauʻoli i ka mahalo like, ka hilinaʻi, ka like, ka pilikino, ka pīhoihoi, a me ka hoʻopili. Lawe kēia mau mea i manawa no ka hoʻomohala. ʻAʻole pono kahi pilina olakino ke kumu o kou koʻikoʻi a hopohopo.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo ʻole e pili ana i kahi mea āu e pono ai e hilinaʻi loa.
ʻO kēlā me kēia pilina e kānalua ai iā ʻoe iho, e kānalua ai ʻoe i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, e hoʻoweliweli iā ʻoe a lilo i kou nāwaliwali, ʻaʻole ia he olakino maikaʻi.
Inā pili ʻole ʻoe e pili ana i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo maoli i ke kanaka, ʻaʻole pono, ke hūnā a hūnā paha ʻoe i kahi kīnā o ke kino, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia.
ʻAʻole pili ka pilina olakino a me ka maikaʻi i kāu ʻike pilikino a me kou wahi pilikino. ʻO kāu pilina wale nō, a he ʻāpana liʻiliʻi wale nō ia o ʻoe a ʻaʻole e wehewehe pono iā ʻoe.
Ke ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe a me kou ʻike, ke uhi ʻia nei kou pilikino me kāu pilina a me kāu hoa, a he hōʻailona maikaʻi ʻole paha ia.
Hana like nā pilina ke pili like nā poʻe ʻelua i loko.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻo ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻo kāu hoa ia e hoʻoholo ana iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole nānā i mua i kou mau manaʻo a me kāu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, ua hiki i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo hou i nā mea a koho i ka haʻihaʻi olakino inā pono.
ʻAʻole pili kāu pilina me hoʻokahi kanaka i kāu mau pilina me nā mea nui ʻē aʻe i kou ola. ʻAʻole e hoʻopilikia ʻia ka manawa o kou ʻohana, kou ola kaiaulu a hiki i ka nui o kou mau lā e huli a puni ai hoʻokahi kanaka wale nō.
ʻO ka huhū, ka hoʻomanawanui ʻole, ka hoʻomanawanui ʻole, ka lili nui loa, ka huhū, ka hilinaʻi ʻole, a me ka hoʻomāinoino kino paha, he hōʻailona nō ia no ka pilina ola kino ʻole. A laila pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina ma mua o ka paʻa ʻana i kahi rut.
Hiki paha i nā breakup ka mea maikaʻi loa loa?
ʻOiai ʻo ka pilina ka hōʻailona o ka kūleʻa, ʻO nā breakup nā hōʻailona o ka holo pono ʻole.
Akā, pono ʻoe e hala i kēia kumumanaʻo a hoʻomaopopo ʻo ka haʻihaʻi paha ka mea nui a olakino loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no ʻoe iho i kahi manawa. Hiki ke hōʻoki olakino.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi ʻole ka haki ʻana; ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa ka noho ʻana a paʻa ʻana i ka pilina hopeless i hana ʻole i kahi mea ʻē aʻe akā hōʻino iā ʻoe a me kou kūlana noʻonoʻo.
Ke kiʻi nei iā ʻoukou iho mai kahi pilina olakino lōʻihi lōʻihi he mea koa e hana. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka neʻe ʻana. Akā ke hana ʻoe, wehe ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i nā hiki a me nā manawa hou a me nā manawa hou.
ʻAe ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hanu i kahi ea o ke kūʻokoʻa. Hiki i nā haʻihaʻi olakino ke hōʻailona i ka hoʻomaka o nā mea maikaʻi i ke ola e hiki mai ana.
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi wahi kaumaha ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, e noʻonoʻo ana i ka hōʻeha naʻau āu e hāpai ai. E hāʻawi i kahi manawa a lawe i nā wahi āpau āu e makemake ai.
E ʻike koke ʻoe i ka hōʻoki ʻana i nā poʻe ʻona a me nā pilina mai kou ola ʻo ia wale nō āu e pono ai. ʻO ka haʻihaʻi olakino kahi ala e hoʻopau ai i ka mea ʻino i kou ola.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka lele i ka hopena e pono ʻoe e wāwahi ke alo ke alo i kahi hoʻonohonoho liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole ia ka mea kūpono. Loaʻa nā pilina āpau i nā manawa maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole, nā hopena maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻO ka mea nui ka pinepine o nā ʻike maikaʻi ʻole e kū nei. Inā he pilina paʻa mau kou pili, he hōʻailona maikaʻi ʻole kēlā. Akā inā ʻoe e hoʻokaumaha ʻia a hele paha i loko o kahi āpau paʻakikī i ke ola a kau i ka hewa i kāu pili, a laila ʻo ka wāwahi ʻana he mea i koi ʻole ʻia no ka hoʻoholo impulsive.
Pehea e uhaʻi ai me kahi mea āu e aloha ai
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka haʻi ʻana me kahi mea āu e aloha ai ma mua o ka hana. He hana kaumaha loa ia no ka hoa i haki pū ʻia. Hiki iā ia ke hōʻeha ke hele ma waena o kekahi mea ke ʻole ke manaʻo ʻia.
I ka manawa like, ʻaʻole maʻalahi no ka mea nāna i hoʻomaka ka haʻihaʻi. ʻO ka haki ʻana me kahi mea āu e aloha ai hiki iā ʻoe ke makaʻu iā ʻoe i kahi ʻino o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
He mea maʻamau ia no nā hoa ʻelua e kū i mua o ka nui a ʻoi aku paha o nā hōʻailona kaumaha i ka mea nāna e hoʻomaka ka haʻihaʻi.
No laila, inā e haʻohaʻo ana ʻoe pehea e uhaʻi ai me kekahi me ka ʻole e hōʻeha iā lākou, eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e ukali ai e hōʻemi i ka ʻeha o ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina me kahi mea āu e aloha ai.
- Loaʻa i kahi kamaʻilio pololei a hāmama
He mea nui ka ʻōlelo pololei e pili ana i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo ke hoʻopau ʻoe i ka pili.
E hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio hāmama me kāu hoa i ke kanaka. Mai ʻimi i ka leka uila a i ʻole ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā leka hoʻowahāwahā a i ʻole nā leka uila.
Maikaʻi loa nāu e puka aku i kahi pilina inā ke hana nei ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka pōʻino ma mua o ka maikaʻi. Akā, i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka aftertaste maikaʻi ʻole, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e koho i kahi haʻihaʻi olakino.
- Hōʻalo i ka pāʻani hewa
Maʻalahi e hōʻino i kāu hoa ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻoe. ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hume ʻana i kāu mau wāwae a kau i ka onus o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe.
Akā, pehea e uhaʻi ai me kekahi me ka maikaʻi, a pale i ke kūkaʻa ʻawa o nā huaʻōlelo?
ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e haki ʻo ia ka pale ʻana i ka pāʻani hewa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke koho e haʻi aloha me ke aloha no ke aha āu e makemake ai e haʻalele i ka pilina. I ka manawa like, pono ʻoe e ʻaʻa i ka lawe ʻana i kāu kīnā ʻole.
- E hoʻolohe i ka ʻaoʻao o kāu hoa
ʻOiai he kumu ponoʻī kāu, ʻo ka haki ʻana me kahi mea āu e aloha ai he ʻeha loa.
No laila, inā e hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e haki me kāu ipo a ipo paha, āu e aloha ai, e hoʻolohe nō i kā lākou ʻaoʻao o ka moʻolelo. Ke hana nei paha ʻoe i nā manaʻo no ka nānā ʻana i blinkered ma nā mea he nui e pili ana i kāu pili.
Hiki i ka ʻaoʻao o kāu hoa ke hele mai i kahi mea pūʻiwa a ʻo wai ka mea ʻike, hiki iā ʻoe ke kāhea i kāu hoʻoholo.
- Mai hāʻawi i nā manaʻolana lewa
Ma kahi o ka ʻeha ʻana, ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale olakino kahi koho maikaʻi loa. Akā, pono ʻoe e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻalele i kāu pilina.
Inā maopopo ʻoe makemake e hoʻokaʻawale, e akāka e pili ana. Mai hāʻawi i nā manaʻolana lewa ʻaʻole wale e huhū ʻole.
E nānā i kēia wikiō e loaʻa hou ai ka ʻike i ka manaʻo o ka hoʻokaʻawale olakino.
Lula wāwahi olakino
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka nui o nā lula breakup e hana puni ana ma ka pūnaewele. Akā, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i nā lula e kau nui i ka haʻihaʻi olakino.
Nui a hewahewa nā ala e hemo ai. Akā, eia ke helu ʻia nei kekahi mau rula olakino olakino hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā ma loko o kahi jiffy. Na kēia mau lula e kōkua iā ʻoe e loaʻa i kahi mea iki e hōʻole ai i ka post-breakup.
- E akāka, akā akahai me kāu ʻōlelo
- Mai haki ma ka ʻōlelo
- Mai hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo koʻikoʻi
- Mai haki mua i mua o nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha
- Hoʻoponopono i kāu mau hopena
- Mai hoʻāʻo e hoʻopili i kou pilina i ka aloha
- Mai hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu hoa a pilina paha
He mau mea liʻiliʻi maʻalahi kēia e hoʻomanaʻo ai inā ʻoe e koho i ka haʻihaʻi olakino ma mua o ka haʻihaʻi huhū.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea koho wale nō ia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke koho e hōʻehaʻeha a hele i kahi huakaʻi hewa ma hope. A i ʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke koho i kahi haʻihaʻi olakino a me ka liʻiliʻi o ka minamina no ʻelua a me kāu hoa.