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- Hana i ka hoʻolaha ma kahi hanana
- E kamaʻilio i nā lili
- Hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia i kahi hana i ka lā hānau o ka pēpē
- E ʻike i nā ala e hoʻopaʻa ai ma ke ʻano he ʻohana ʻohana hou
- E hoʻohana i nā inoa e hoʻoikaika ai i nā pilina
- Kōkua i kēlā me kēia keiki e hoʻopaʻa me ka pēpē
- I makua hou
He hihia nō kāu, nāʻu, a kā mākou. Hiki i nā ʻohana ʻohana kahi hui ʻokoʻa o kāna mau keiki, kāna mau keiki, a me kahi pēpē hou hoʻi e hiki mai ana ma hope o ka lua o ka male ʻana.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē ua piha i nā manaʻo like ʻole. Hiki ke hoʻohui i nā mea o ka ʻohana stepfamily i mea paʻakikī iki i nā mea.
Pehea e manaʻo ai kēlā me kēia e pili ana i ka lawe ʻana i kahi pēpē hou i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia? I kekahi mau hihia, leery paha nā keiki, akā ʻo kahi pēpē hou i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia kekahi ala paha e hōʻuluʻulu i nā mea āpau.
Inā ʻoe e lawe ana i kahi pēpē hou i kahi ʻohana, eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ke kuleana o ka makua makua no ka hoʻololi maikaʻi ʻana mai iā ia a iā iā mākou.
Hana i ka hoʻolaha ma kahi hanana
Ke ʻike ʻoe he hāpai ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo i kahi ala e hoʻolauleʻa ai i kēia hoʻohui hou!
E hōʻuluʻulu i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa a hoʻolilo ia i hanana no ka haki ʻana i ka nūhou. Hana i kahi hoʻomanaʻo leʻaleʻa i hiki i nā mea āpau ke manaʻo i kahi ʻāpana. ʻO ka leʻaleʻa, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
ʻO ka nūhou o kahi pēpē hou i loko o kou ʻohana i hui ʻia he paʻakikī paha e ale i ka wā mua, akā ʻo kahi hōʻike leʻaleʻa e hoʻomanaʻo ia.
E nānā pū kekahi:
E kamaʻilio i nā lili
Ua manaʻo paha kāu mau keiki e hehi wāwae iki me kēia male hou — e like me ka nui o ka nānā ʻana, ʻaʻole nui nā kuleana e like me nā keiki ʻē aʻe, etc.
Ua loli iki ko lākou honua, no laila hiki i nā loli hou ke hoʻohui i ka lahilahi.
ʻO ka manaʻo o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia e lili paha iā lākou i ka pīhoihoi a me ka nānā a ka pēpē, e lawe ana iā lākou.
E nānā i ka hana a kāu poʻe keiki ke kamaʻilio ʻoe e pili ana i ka pēpē hou. Hewa paha lākou a huhū paha? E kamaʻilio me lākou e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo a hoʻāʻo e kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i nā makaʻu i loaʻa iā lākou.
Hāʻawi i kēlā me kēia i kahi hana i ka lā hānau o ka pēpē
Ke hānau ʻia ka pēpē, pīhoihoi ia akā pīhoihoi nō hoʻi. ʻO kēia ke kokoke e loli ka ʻohana.
Ke hāʻawi nei i kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka ʻohana i kahi hana “lā hānau” e kōkua i ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka ikehu o kēlā me kēia a kōkua i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa e nānā i ka hui pū.
Hiki i nā keiki ʻelua ke kaʻana like i nā kiʻi ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o ka pēpē, hiki i kahi keiki ʻē aʻe ke lomilomi i nā wāwae o ka makuahine, hiki i kekahi ke mālama i ka lawe ʻana i nā lako e pono ai i ka lumi, hiki i kahi keiki ʻē aʻe ke ʻohi a hāʻawi i nā pua i ka lumi.
E hoʻonohonoho i nā mea āpau ma mua, no laila loaʻa i kēlā me kēia mea kahi mea e kakali ai i ka lā nui.
E ʻike i nā ala e hoʻopaʻa ai ma ke ʻano he ʻohana ʻohana hou
I kekahi manawa e ʻāpana ka ʻohana ʻohana i ka ʻāpana, keu hoʻi inā e hele ana kāna mau keiki i kā lākou makuahine no kekahi manawa, a laila inā e hele kāna mau keiki i ko lākou makuakāne no nā lā nui.
I kekahi manawa ua hala nā keiki āpau - koe ka pēpē hou i ka ʻohana stepf. He mea paʻakikī paha ke manaʻo e hoʻopaʻa ʻia me nā mea āpau i ka manawa like.
Akā ʻo ka piha piha a me ka hoʻohui pū ʻana he mea nui ia i ka kūleʻa o kou ʻohana.
E pili a pili ke kaʻawale; hana i nā kuʻuna ʻohana ma waho paha o nā manawa hoʻomaha nui; ʻai pū i ka ʻaina awakea ke hiki; e ʻike i nā mea āu e makemake ai e hana pū, kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke lawe mai i kahi pēpē.
E kākau pono i kēia mau manawa me nā kiʻi a me ke kiʻi ʻana i kekahi mau mea a puni ka hale.
E hoʻohana i nā inoa e hoʻoikaika ai i nā pilina
ʻIke loa, ʻo kēia pēpē hou ka hapalua o nā keiki ʻē aʻe; hoʻohui inā he "kāna" a "kāna" mau keiki, a laila aia kekahi mau wāwae wāwae a me nā kaikaina.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻohilahila mai ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka "hapalua" a i ʻole "ʻanuʻu" nui. Maikaʻi ka pololei o kēlā mau inoa, akā ʻaʻole lākou e wehewehe pono i ka mea āu e hoʻāʻo nei e ʻōlelo.
E ʻōlelo ʻo "kaikuahine" a i ʻole "kaikaina" ma kahi. Kōkua kēlā mau inoa pololei i ka hoʻoikaika i ka pilina.
Kōkua i kēlā me kēia keiki e hoʻopaʻa me ka pēpē
Inā he keiki ʻuʻuku kāu, e kūlohelohe maoli paha lākou i ka pēpē. Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua ma ka lawe ʻana i nā pale pale a paʻa i ka pēpē no nā manawa pōkole.
Hiki i nā keiki o ke kula waena ke hele i kahi wāwae a hānai a mālama i ka pēpē ke hana ʻoe i ka ʻaina awakea.
Hiki i nā ʻōpio a i ʻole nā keiki makua ke mālama pēpē i ka pēpē. ʻO ka nui o ka manawa e hiki ai iā lākou ke loaʻa hoʻokahi, ʻo ka nui o ka hoʻopili ʻana me ka pēpē.
E kuhikuhi pono he kaikuaʻana nui lākou no ka pēpē, a he mea nui lākou i ka ʻohana.
I makua hou
ʻO kahi keiki hou i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia e hōʻike iā ia iho he manawa kūpono no ka ʻohana āpau e hoʻopaʻa pū kekahi me kekahi, a no ka nani o kēlā manaʻo, ʻaʻole ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Ma ke ʻano he makua hou, pīhoihoi paha ʻoe i ka manaʻolana o ke keiki, ʻoiai ka hopena o ke aloha āu i aloha ai.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole makemake ka koena o kāu ʻohana ʻohana i kou noʻonoʻo ʻana e like me kā lākou, a i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi e hoʻohana i kahi manawa no ka manaʻo e kaʻana like i ko lākou home a noho me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe.
Ma ke ʻano he makuahine, inā ʻo kāu keiki kēia, a laila manaʻo paha ʻoe e kūʻē, lili, a i ʻole huhū paha i ka manaʻo e kaʻana like i kāu pēpē me kahi ʻohana e kū nei.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ma ke ʻano he makuakāne, ʻike paha ʻoe i ka ukana o ka mālama ʻana i kou mau naʻau i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka nui o ka ikehu a me ka manawa ma waena o kāu keiki hānau a me kāu keiki hānau.
ʻO nā pilikia a me nā haohao a kahi mea liʻiliʻi e lawe mai ai i kou ola, pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e paipai iā ʻoe iho a me kāu ʻohana ʻohana e noho lōkahi a hui pū.
ʻOiai ʻino a paʻakikī hoʻi nā ʻohana huikau a luhi hoʻi, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka nui ʻana o kou ʻohana, a ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻokau i ka pilina e kaʻana like ai me ko lākou ʻohana.