Anter
- Kaila hakakā passive o ka kamaʻilio male
- Ke komo nei i ka hana pōhaku a pale aku iā ʻoe
- Ke hoʻopiʻi nei iā ʻoe e lilo i freak control
- Hōʻole e hele no ka lāʻau
- Mālama ka kaila kamaʻilio passive-agresive i ka inaina
- ʻO ka hana mua i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana
- E noʻonoʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana i kāu mea i kāu wahine, e noʻonoʻo i kā lākou pane
- E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai ma o ka pane kūpono i kāu wahine
- He mea nui e mālama ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
He passive-agresive kāu wahine? ʻO kāu ʻōpio paha? ʻO ka hapa nui o kaʻu e ʻōlelo ai ma aneʻi e pili ana i nā kāne male a me nā ʻōpio.
Kaila hakakā passive o ka kamaʻilio male
Ke huhū nei paha ʻoe i ka wā e pane ʻole ʻia ai kāu mau nīnau kūpono a hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio me ka hāmau? Ke huhū nei paha ʻoe i ko lākou hiki ke hoʻohuli i nā mea a laila ʻo ka mea i hoʻomaka mua ʻia e pili ana i kahi mea a lākou i hana ai āu e makemake ai e kūkākūkā pū me lākou ua lilo ia i mea pili i kou huhū?
Inā kamaʻāina kēia, a laila hiki ke male ʻia ʻoe i kekahi mea i loaʻa kahi ʻano passive-agresive o ka kamaʻilio male.
ʻO kekahi laʻana i kahi kūlana a lākou i hana ʻino ai iā ʻoe.
ʻO ke kanaka e hoʻohana i ke kaila kamaʻilio passive-agresive he hiki ʻole ke lilo i mea hōʻeha.
Ke komo nei i ka hana pōhaku a pale aku iā ʻoe
Hiki i kahi wahine passive-agresive ke hoʻopau i kahi kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana me ka hōʻole ʻana e kūkākūkā i nā mea hou aʻe a laila e hōʻino iā ʻoe i ka wā, no ka huhū, alualu ʻoe i kahi hakakā.
ʻ saylelo paha lākou i nā mea e like me: ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka wā e kū ai-kāu mau nīnau. ” A i ʻole “ʻaʻohe mea e kamaʻilio ai. Hana mau ʻoe i kēia. Ke ʻimi nei ʻoe i nā pilikia. ”
Hiki paha iā lākou ke komo i ka Stonewalling-hōʻole e kamaʻilio me ʻoe a pale i kāu hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio pū me lākou e ka hāmau huhū, a pale aku iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole pane ʻia kāu mau leka no nā hola a i ʻole pane ʻole ʻia paha, kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi lākou, a hoʻopili paha iā ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio pū ʻana me nā lālā ʻohana ʻē aʻe, e like me kāu poʻe keiki.
Ke hoʻopiʻi nei iā ʻoe e lilo i freak control
ʻAe paha lākou e hana i kekahi mea, ʻaʻole hana, a laila ke kū ʻoe me lākou, koi lākou iā ʻoe e kaʻi.
No laila ʻo ka nūhou maikaʻi ʻole he kāne kāu wahine Passive-Aggressive.
ʻO ka nūhou aia he mau ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu kaila kamaʻilio ponoʻī me lākou i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka pahele passive-agresive. He mea nui ia e hoʻonui i kou ʻike i ke kumu hana pono ʻole āu e noho nei me kāu wahine.
Hoʻokumu ʻia ka passive-aggressiveness ma luna o ka kaohi.
Ma ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana a me ka pale ʻana i ka nānā i kāu mea e hana nei, loaʻa iā lākou ka lima kiʻekiʻe a pale kūʻē ʻole i ka hakakā.
Hōʻole e hele no ka lāʻau
ʻO ka hopena no ka wahine huhū ʻole passive ka mea hoʻonāukiuki lākou, huhū, a i kekahi manawa no ka hopohopo nui, hana huhū waha. Ua nalowale ka hoʻopuka kumu ma ke ʻano o ka nānā i kāu hana maikaʻi ʻole.
A eia kahi ʻāpana maikaʻi loa: hōʻole pinepine lākou e hele no ka lāʻau. Ke ʻaelike lākou, hana lākou no ka mea maopopo lākou e haʻi ka therapist iā ʻoe ʻo ʻoe ka hewa. A ʻo ka mea maoli, i ka manawa a ʻolua e hele mai ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male, ua hana hewa paha ʻolua i kā ʻolua mau kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu kāne passive-agresive.
Mālama ka kaila kamaʻilio passive-agresive i ka inaina
No ka mea, i kekahi pilina, pono i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua ke kuleana no nā pilikia i kā lākou pili. Akā kekahi, he ʻāpana ia o ka pōʻai kūkā kamaʻilio passive a kā lākou passive hakakā e hoʻoulu ai i ka hui ʻole, haki i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a me ka inaina mai kā lākou mau hoa.
No laila, he aha e hana ai?
ʻO ka wahine e hoʻohana i nā hana passive-agresive he paʻakikī loa e noʻonoʻo me. A ʻo ka hopena, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kaohi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hiki iā mākou ke kaohi iā mākou iho.
ʻO ka hana mua i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana
No laila ʻo ka hana mua e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me kekahi kanaka passive-agresive e aʻo pehea e pane ai a pane ʻole i kā lākou hana. ʻIke wau, paʻakikī ia!
Akā inā ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hoʻēmi ʻana i kāu reactivity ke ʻole ʻoe i kahi pilikia a huhū paha, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻoiho hou ke loaʻa ka pilikia.
ʻO ka hana ʻole ʻana e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka lima kiʻekiʻe.
Ke ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka hāmau pohaku a me ka hōʻalo ʻana mai kāu wahine mai, e lawe i kahi manawa e lawe i ka hanu, a noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo i kāu ʻano kamaʻilio maʻamau me kāu wahine.
E noʻonoʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana i kāu mea i kāu wahine, e noʻonoʻo i kā lākou pane
E noʻonoʻo i ka piʻi ʻana, ka huhū hoʻonui, a ʻo ka hope loa, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hele ʻeha ana, luhi, a hauʻoli ʻole hoʻi.
E nīnau iā ʻoe iho, inā ʻoe e hele i mua me ke kumu maʻamau, a i ʻole he mea kūpono ia e hōʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe iho, e hoʻolōʻihi i kou manawa e noʻonoʻo ai e pili ana i kahi pane kūpono, a lawe i kahi manawa.
I kekahi manawa, e ʻike ka wahine huhū ʻole i ka mamao āu i lawe ai a neʻe iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole holo pono ia, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻolālā ma mua o ka hanana maʻamau o ka piʻi ʻana, ka huhū, a me ka mamao i lawe ʻia e kāu wahine.
E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai ma o ka pane kūpono i kāu wahine
E hana i ka pane pōkole a kamaʻilio i kou manaʻo.
E hoʻomaopopo i kāu wahine e ʻike ʻoe, ma ke ʻano he kāne, ua paʻa ʻoe i kahi kamaʻilio kamaʻilio ʻole. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hiki i ʻolua ke hana e hoʻololi i kēlā.
E hoʻomaopopo i kāu wahine makemake ʻoe e lohe e pili ana i kā lākou huhū me ʻoe. He hiki nō paha kēia ʻaʻole kōkua nui, a he mea hiki nō paha ʻaʻole e ʻae kāu wahine e hele no nā ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne.
He mea nui e mālama ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
Inā ʻaʻole e hele kāu wahine me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, a laila paipai nui wau iā ʻoe e hele hoʻokahi. Paipai pū wau e heluhelu i kekahi o nā puke maikaʻi i kākau ʻia e nā mea hoʻoponopono ma ke kāpae ʻana me ka wahine kāne hakakā passive.
He mea nui e mālama ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, mai hāʻawi i ka reactivity, a hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā hoʻolālā coping pono aʻe, lana ka manaʻo me ke kākoʻo o kahi therapist maikaʻi.