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- 1. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa iā ʻoe iho
- 2. Hana papa inoa
- 3. Hoʻohui hou me kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo
- 4. Hele lohi i ke aloha
- 5. E launa me kāu hoa
- 6. ʻAʻole kāu hoa pili kāu ex
- 7. Hilinaʻi i kāu ʻike
- 8. Hoʻololi i kou kuanaʻike
Pili nā pilina iā mākou ma kahi pae hohonu, no laila ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha ke hele hewa kahi pilina, hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea paʻakikī e nāwaliwali me kekahi mea hou a hoʻomaka i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pili maikaʻi ʻole. Ke wāwahi kahi hoa i kou hilinaʻi a i ʻole ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana iā ʻoe ma o ka infidelity hiki iā ia ke paʻakikī e waiho i kou hilinaʻi i kahi hoa aloha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomohala i nā pilikia hilinaʻi ke hoʻi hou nei ʻoe mai kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana mai kahi pilina ʻino ka mea maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hana no ʻoe iho. Akā ʻo ka waiho ʻana i kahi hoa ʻona hiki ke hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi pilina hou. ʻOiai inā makemake ʻoe e aloha a hilinaʻi i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, ke hana nei e like me ke kaua kū i luna.
Ke aʻo nei e hilinaʻi hou ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole hiki ke hoʻāʻo no nā hoa ʻelua, akā me ka hoʻāʻo iki, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi pilina hou kūleʻa. Mai waiho i ka mea i hala i ka hopena i kāu mau pili e hiki mai ana.
Akā, pehea ʻoe e kūkulu hou ai i ka hilinaʻi i kahi pilina? Eia nā ʻanuʻu 8 no ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
1. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa iā ʻoe iho
He paʻakikī ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole, akā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole. Hiki i kēia ʻano hoa ke hoʻopōʻino i kāu ego, kou olakino noʻonoʻo, a me kou hiki ke hilinaʻi. He naʻauao e hoʻolōʻihi i kahi manawa nāu ma hope o ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi hoihoi ʻē aʻe.
Hāʻawi i kou manawa i ka manawa kūpono e ʻike iā ʻoe iho. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia manawa e kaumaha i kou pili i hala, e hoʻomaka i kahi leʻaleʻa, hui hou me nā hoaaloha, huakaʻi, nānā i kāu ʻoihana, a hoʻohana wale paha i ka manawa e hoʻomaha ai.
2. Hana papa inoa
I kēia manawa i loko o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole, ʻike ʻoe i ka mea āu e makemake ai a ʻaʻole e hoʻomanawanui i kahi pili hou e hele nei i mua.
Nui ka poʻe i ʻike he mea kōkua e hana i kahi papa inoa o nā ʻano maikaʻi a lākou e makemake ai e ʻike i kahi hoa aloha e hiki mai ana a me kahi papa inoa o nā ʻano, nā ʻano, a me nā ʻano āu e hoʻomanawanui ʻole ai mai kekahi.
3. Hoʻohui hou me kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo
Hiki ke paʻakikī ka mālama ʻana i kou mau pilina me nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana ke hele ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole. Ua lawe paha kāu ex i ka hapa nui o kou manawa, kahi i hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe mai kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo. He mea maʻamau kēia i nā pilina ʻona mai ka mea e koi iā ʻoe e hilinaʻi piha i kāu ex.
I kēia manawa ua kaʻawale ʻoe i kā lākou hopena maikaʻi ʻole, ʻo ka manawa kēia e launa hou ai me kāu poʻe i aloha ai. E kōkua kēia mau pilina iā ʻoe e hōʻola mai kou wāwahi ʻana, a e aʻo iā ʻoe aia he poʻe hilinaʻi i waho e hiki ai i ka neʻe ʻana i mua ke kūkulu maʻalahi i ka hilinaʻi i kahi pilina hou.
E hana lākou ma ke ʻano he kākoʻo ikaika e ʻike iā ʻoe ma o nā hoʻāʻo e hiki mai ana i kou ola.
4. Hele lohi i ke aloha
ʻAʻole wale ia no ka mea he kāne ʻole ʻoe e lele i kahi pilina hou. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e pili i ka pilina, mai alualu i kekahi me he rebound lā. ʻAʻole maikaʻi ia iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole maikaʻi i kāu ʻāʻī.
Ke mākaukau ʻoe e noho me kahi mea hou, e hoʻolōʻihi i kou manawa. ʻO ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole e lilo i mau hana hou me nā hoa like ʻole ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana i kahi mea e koʻikoʻi me. E akahele me kāu hoa hou a hoʻohana i kou poʻo a me kou puʻuwai a hiki i kou hiki ke hilinaʻi iā lākou.
5. E launa me kāu hoa
Inā ʻoe e hoʻomaka nei i kahi pilina hou a i ʻole me kekahi me kekahi mau makahiki, e lilo ana ke kamaʻilio i mea pono nui loa no ka mālama ʻana i kahi hoʻopaʻa olakino. Inā ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi pilina hou, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio ākea me kāu hoa e pili ana i kāu pili hope.
E haʻi iā lākou i ka mālama ʻana o kāu hoa iā ʻoe, pehea kou manaʻo, a wehewehe pono i kāu hoa e pili ana i ka hopena o kekahi ʻano a huaʻōlelo paha i kekahi manawa.
ʻO ka wehe e pili ana i kāu mau pilikia hilinaʻi e kōkua ia i kāu pakanā e hana pū me ʻoe e kōkua i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi a me ke kahua paʻa no kou pilina ma kahi o ka hana kūʻē ʻana iā ʻoe.
6. ʻAʻole kāu hoa pili kāu ex
Inā makemake ʻoe e aʻo i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole kāu ipo kāu ex. ʻAʻole lākou i hana i kekahi mea e nīnau iā ʻoe i ko lākou kūpaʻa a i ko lākou aloha iā ʻoe.
He mea pono kēia e hoʻokomo i loko o kou noʻonoʻo i nā manawa he nui a aʻo i nā ala e pili ai i ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kekahi i ka pilina ma mua o kou poʻo a ʻike kou puʻuwai i nā mea like.
7. Hilinaʻi i kāu ʻike
Inā makemake ʻoe e aʻo pehea e kūkulu ai i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole pono ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hilinaʻi mua ai iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hoʻomaka ka pilina maikaʻi ma kēlā ala. I ka manawa mua, hauʻoli loa paha ʻoe me kāu hoa. Ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe ua maikaʻi lākou nāu. Akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa ua lilo ka pilina i mea ʻawaʻawa no ʻolua.
I loko o ka manawa o ka mea ʻawahia i loko o kāu pilina, ua loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi ʻōpū e manaʻo ana ʻaʻole pololei kekahi mea. ʻAʻole ʻoe i makemake i ke ʻano o ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe a hōʻoia paha ʻaʻole maikaʻi ke ʻano āu e kaʻana nei.Ua nānā paha ʻoe i kēia mau naʻau no ka mea makemake ʻoe e hoʻopakele i ka pilina.
I kēia manawa a puni, e aʻo e hilinaʻi i kou puʻuwai a neʻe i mua i kāu instincts. Inā maikaʻi ʻole kahi mea, kāhea aku i kāu hoa. Kēia manawa a puni, e nānā pono i nā hae ʻulaʻula.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā haʻi aku kou ʻōpū iā ʻoe ua kūpono i kāu hilinaʻi i kāu hoa hou, e hele pū me ia. Mai hoʻopaʻi iā lākou no nā hewa a nā hoa i hala inā ʻaʻohe kumu.
8. Hoʻololi i kou kuanaʻike
Inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo mau iā ʻoe iho he wahaheʻe nā wahine āpau a i ʻole e hoʻopunipuni nā kāne āpau, hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e piliwi. Inā makemake ʻoe e aʻo e hilinaʻi i kekahi mea hou, pono ʻoe e hoʻololi i kāu kuanaʻike i ka pili pili. Mai hoʻokuʻu i hoʻokahi ʻōpela e hōʻino i ka puʻupuʻu holoʻokoʻa, ʻoiai inā he pala nui kēlā ʻāpala.
E hōʻike i kāu hoa hou iā lākou he mea hiki ke hilinaʻi ʻia a aia ko lākou hoihoi i ka noʻonoʻo.
ʻO ke ʻano āu i ʻike ai i ka pilina ʻawahia hiki ke waiho iā ʻoe me ka hilinaʻi ʻole i kahi hoa hou, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo e hilinaʻi i kāu hoa ma hope o ka pau ʻole o ka pilina?
He maʻalahi ka pane i kēia nīnau. Ma ka hana manawa ʻana iā ʻoe iho, me ke kamaʻilio hāmama ʻana me kahi hoa hou, a me ke ahonui loa hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo i ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi ma hope o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole.