Anter
- 1. Ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā keiki i ka mua
- Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
- 2. Ke ʻike nei i kaʻu kāne ma ke ʻano he keiki ʻē aʻe
- 3. ʻAʻole hoʻonohonoho i nā palena me nā makuahōnōwai
- 4. ʻAʻole aʻo e hakakā pono
- 5. Pono i ka kaohi
- 6. ʻAʻole hālāwai i nā pono pili aloha
- 7. ʻAʻole e hoʻāʻo e nānā i ka maikaʻi
He aha ia e pili ana i ka "pāʻani pāʻani" holoʻokoʻa? Maʻalahi loa e hāʻule i loko o kēia hana luku a pinepine i nā wahine a me nā wahine hiki iā mākou ke ʻike iā mākou iho e kuhikuhi ana i nā manamana lima me ka paʻa o ko mākou mau maka. Akā inā mākou e lawe i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo pono ai a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli, ʻike koke mākou ma ke ʻano he wahine hana hewa pū mākou. Eia kekahi o nā mea pinepine pinepine:
1. Ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā keiki i ka mua
Hoʻohanohano mākou āpau i kā mākou keiki; maopopo ia. Akā hiki i kahi pilikia ke hoʻokuke ʻia ʻo hubby i kahi ʻoluʻolu no nā keiki liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole lōʻihi ia ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana iā ia o ka leka ʻaʻole ia he mea nui hou inā koho mau ʻoe e hoʻolilo manawa a me ka ikaika i nā keiki, e hoʻokau nei i kā lākou mau pono ma mua o kāna a me kāu iho. E hoʻomanaʻo, i loko o kekahi mau makahiki pōkole e ulu ana nā keiki a lele ʻia i waho o ka pūnana a laila ʻo ʻoe a me kāu kāne e noho pū hou ana.
Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
2. Ke ʻike nei i kaʻu kāne ma ke ʻano he keiki ʻē aʻe
ʻO kahi ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi e iho i lalo o ka pali mai ka hoʻokau mua ʻana i nā keiki e mālama ana i kāu kāne ma ke ʻano he keiki ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻohe mea i mamao aʻe mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Malia paha e hoʻohālikelike kēia iā ʻoe e like me "supermom" akā he hōʻihi loa ia i ke kāne nāna ka makua kāne o kāu mau keiki. He mea ʻole paha ka hemahema o ka mākua o kāu kāne i kou manaʻo, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana iā ia ʻo kāu keiki ʻelua a ʻekolu paha ʻaʻole ia e hoʻomaikaʻi iki. I kekahi manawa hiki ke kāmaʻa ma ka wāwae ʻē aʻe a mālama ʻia ka wahine e kāna kāne e like me ke keiki ʻē aʻe i ka home. He hōʻailona maʻamau kēia o ka hoʻomāinoino a inā ʻaʻole hoʻoholo ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻia.
3. ʻAʻole hoʻonohonoho i nā palena me nā makuahōnōwai
ʻO nā mākua kāne kahi kumuhana kontroversial i ka manawa maikaʻi loa. Inā ʻaʻole hoʻonohonoho pololei ʻia nā palena paʻa mai ka hoʻomaka, hiki ke hōʻino ʻia ka weliweli ʻole i loko o ka male. E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo ka mea mua a me ka nui ʻoe i male ai i kēlā me kēia ʻaʻole ka ʻohana o kēlā me kēia. ʻAe, he kuleana nui ko nā ʻohana a me nā mākua i ko mākou ola, akā he wahi pū kekahi kā lākou a ʻaʻole hoʻi e ʻae ʻia e komo i loko a komo i nā wahi o ka pilikino a me ka hoʻoholo ʻana no nā kāne wale nō.
4. ʻAʻole aʻo e hakakā pono
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻole o ka mākau hoʻonā hoʻonā ʻo kekahi paha o nā kumu nui no ka hemo ʻana o ka male. Inā he pōhaku a ʻuā paha i kāohi ʻole ʻia a i ʻole ʻelua, hiki i kēia ʻano o ke ʻano ke hōʻoweliweli loa i kēlā me kēia male. Ke aʻo ʻana e hakakā pono kahi mākau e pono e hoʻohanohano ʻia me ke kūpaʻa a me ka hoʻoholo inā makemake ʻoe e ulu pono kāu male. Pono ka manawa, ka hana a me ka makemake i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua e noho a kamaʻilio i loko o nā pilikia, me ka mahalo a me ke aloha.
5. Pono i ka kaohi
He mea paʻakikī kēia - ʻo wai ka luna ?! ʻO ka manawa pinepine nā mea liʻiliʻi o kēlā me kēia lā (a me nā mea nui aku) kahi a mākou mau wahine e makemake ai i kēlā huaʻōlelo hope. No ke aha e paʻakikī ai e ʻae ke loaʻa iā ia kahi manaʻo maikaʻi aʻe? Inā mākou e hoʻi i hope a ʻae i kēlā kāne a mākou i male ai e hoʻoholo i nā hoʻoholo nahenahe e hiki ai iā ia ke komo i loko o nā mea pūʻiwa leʻaleʻa. He mea pono e hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ka male ka wahi e hoʻokūkū ai, akā e hoʻopau i kekahi i kekahi.
6. ʻAʻole hālāwai i nā pono pili aloha
Hiki i kēia ke lulu i nā ala ʻelua, akā ma ke ʻano he wahine hiki i kekahi manawa i kāu male, keu hoʻi me nā keiki ʻōpio, ke luhi loa ʻoe. ʻO ka mea hope āu e manaʻo ai e aloha ana, ʻoiai no kāu kāne ʻo ia paha ka mea mua. I loko o ke kumu, inā lilo kēia i kumu maʻamau no ka hālāwai mau ʻole ʻana i kāna pili pili pono, hiki i ka make lohi no kāu male ʻana.
7. ʻAʻole e hoʻāʻo e nānā i ka maikaʻi
Ma hope o kekahi mau makahiki o ka male ʻana, hiki ke maʻalahi i ka noho ʻana i loko o kahi kaʻina hōʻoluʻolu o ka huki wale ʻana i ka lole mua a maʻalahi hoʻi, ʻoiai ke noho nei i kāu pj i ke kakahiaka āpau inā hiki iā ʻoe. ʻIke mākou āpau ʻo ka nani o loko ka mea e helu nui ʻia, akā mai hoʻowahāwahā i ka waiwai o ka nānā ʻana i waho loa pū kekahi. ʻO kēia kahi ala hou aʻe e hōʻike ai i ka mahalo i ke kāne āu e aloha ai, e mālama pono ʻoe e nānā pono iā ia - a i ka hapanui o nā hihia e mahalo ʻo ia iā ia.
E like me kāu e ʻike ai, ʻo ka hapa nui o kēia mau hewa i hōʻike ʻia ma luna nei e pili ana i nā “hana haʻalele” a i ʻole nā mea maikaʻi a mākou i hana ʻole ai, a laila aia kekahi mau “komisina” a i ʻole nā mea ʻeha a mākou i hana ai. No laila, he hana paʻakikī ka male ʻana a pono mākou e hana mau i ka hana ʻana i nā mea hōʻemi, a me nā mea kōkua ʻē aʻe. Inā loaʻa kekahi kumu kūpono no ka hana ikaika, ʻo ia ka male.