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- 1. He aha kāu ʻōlelo aloha?
- 2. Aloha nā kāne i kāu wahine.
- 3. Hoʻohanohano nā wahine i kāu mau kāne.
- 4. W.A.I.T.
Ma hope o ʻeono mau makahiki o ka pili aloha - ua hui māua ma ka papa 5 akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e pili aloha iaʻu a hiki i ka 11th - a me 38 mau makahiki o ko māua male ʻana, ke hauʻoli nei māua me kaʻu wahine i nā makahiki maikaʻi loa o kā māua pili.
He mea maʻalahi ia akā aia kekahi mau manawa i ka manawa a mākou i manaʻo ai he maʻalahi paha ke kāhea ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke pili?
ʻO kēia aʻe ʻehā kī i ke aloha mau ʻaʻole wale he mea hana i ka mālama ʻana iā mākou pū, lākou lawe mai iā mākou i ka launa male a me ka palekana ʻoluʻolu mākou i kēia lā.
He hopena maikaʻi loa kēia mau loina āpau i kāu male ʻana ke hoʻokau ʻoe iā lākou i ka hana.
ʻO kēia mau kī i ke aloha ola e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pehea e loaʻa ai ka male āu e makemake ai.
1. He aha kāu ʻōlelo aloha?
I mea e ʻike pono ai i kāu wahine, pono ʻoe e ʻike pono iā ʻoe iho. Kupaianaha mea hana pono e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻike hou i loko o kāu uea kūloko ʻO kā Kauka Gary Chapman puke, Nā ʻ Lovelelo aloha 5.
Ua kūʻai ʻia aku he 12 miliona kope a ua unuhi ʻia i 50 mau ʻōlelo. Hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke lawe i kahi loiloi ʻōlelo aloha me ka uku ʻole ʻia
E hōʻike ana nā hopena i nā ʻōlelo mua ʻelima āu e ʻōlelo ai. Eia nō naʻe, nui a hewahewa nā ʻōlelo i waena o nā ʻōlelo mua.
Lawe i ka loiloi, paʻi i nā hopena, a kūkākūkā me kekahi kāu ʻōlelo kiʻekiʻe (s). E kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā nuances he nui o kāu ʻōlelo aloha a hāʻawi i kekahi i kekahi i kahi laʻana o kā lākou kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu ʻōlelo e like me ke kamaʻāina.
2. Aloha nā kāne i kāu wahine.
He mea kahaha ole i ka Alakaʻi ka Baibala i nā kāne e aloha i kā lākou wahine. Akā ʻo ka huaʻōlelo Helene kumu no kēia ʻano aloha ua ʻoi aku ka piha ma mua o ka huaʻōlelo Pelekania.
Ma hope, pehea e hiki ai i ka huaʻōlelo aloha ke hōʻike kūpono i kou mau manaʻo no kāu wahine a me kāu meaʻai punahele, kiʻiʻoniʻoni, kāmaʻa, leʻaleʻa, a i ʻole he hui haʻuki? Ke ʻano o ke aloha a ke Akua i aʻo aku ai i nā kāne e hoʻolalelale i kā lākou wahine ʻaʻole pono a nonreciprocal.
Koina kēia ʻano aloha. Kūʻai paha ke kālā, ka ikehu, ka manawa, a me ka ikaika, akā mau ka uku. A kēia ʻAʻole makemake ke ʻano Baibala o ke aloha i kekahi mea i ka uku. Maʻalahi? Aʻole iki.
ʻO ke ala wale nō e hiki ai i nā kāne ke hāʻawi i kēia ʻano aloha ma ke noi mau ʻana i ke Akua no kāna kōkua. A ʻo ka makemake nui ke kāne i kāna wahine e haʻi iā ia i kēlā me kēia manawa ke kūpono.
He kōkua nui nō ia i ka wā a ka wahine e hoʻohiki ai i ke ʻano maʻalahi o ke aloha me ke ʻano ʻole o ka wahine ma ka mahalo piha ʻana i kāna kāne.
3. Hoʻohanohano nā wahine i kāu mau kāne.
He mea haohao ke Akua i haʻi ʻole aku i nā wahine e aloha i kā lākou kāne akā e mahalo a mahalo iā lākou. Ua hoʻokūpaʻa i nā ana kūʻokoʻa a me nā noiʻi ʻana i ke kula nui ka mea a ka Baibala e aʻo ai.
ʻO ka makemake nui o ke kāne, e ka hoʻolālā, e mahalo ʻia. E nā kāne, ke lawe ʻoe i ka loiloi ʻ Langulelo 5 aloha, pani i ka huaʻōlelo aloha me ka huaʻōlelo mahalo.
E kōkua iā ʻoe e pane maʻalahi i nā nīnau. E nā wahine, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohanohano a mahalo iā ia iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hele kūlohelohe ia nāu.
No laila, e noi i ke Akua e kōkua mai iā ʻoe. A hoʻomaopopo i kēia: ʻo ka wahi e makemake nui ai kāu kāne me kāna hana.
E ʻike pono nā kāne e haʻi ʻoe i kāu wahine i kēlā me kēia manawa ke mahalo a mahalo ʻia ʻoe. Hāʻawi ʻoe iā ia i ke ʻano o ke aloha e pono ai ma ka ʻimi ʻana e lilo i ʻano kāne e maʻalahi e mahalo.
4. W.A.I.T.
No ke aha wau e ʻōlelo nei? Ua hāʻawi ke Akua iā ʻoe i nā pepeiao ʻelua a me hoʻokahi waha no laila e ʻike pono e hoʻohana kaulike ʻoe ia mau mea! I mea e hoʻolohe pono ai pono ʻoe e lohe i kāu wahine.
Inā ua male ʻoe ma mua o kekahi mau minuke, ʻike maopopo ʻoe i ka ʻano kūlohelohe a mākou āpau e makemake ai e lohe ʻia ma mua o ka makemake e hoʻolohe. E hakakā i ka hoʻowalewale e hōʻolo i kāu kiko.
E aʻo iā ʻoe iho iā W.A.I.T. E hoʻomau i ka nīnau ʻana a hiki i ka maopopo ʻana o kāu wahine iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo a mahalo i ko lākou manaʻo. E hoʻomanaʻo e ʻōlelo i kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha i kou hoʻolohe ʻana.
Hāʻawi i kāu male i nā mea āpau āu i loaʻa ai ma ka hana ʻana i kāu ʻāpana. E noi i ke Akua e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia lā. E hoʻohiki i ka hana ʻana i kēia mau kumuhana a e hoʻohanohano ʻoe i ke Akua a e hōʻeuʻeu i kāu wahine, keiki, hoa aloha, a me nā mea āpau i kāu pūnaewele o ka mana. E hāhai i kēia mau kī 4 e hana i ka male āu i moeʻuhane mau ai.