Anter
- 1. E ʻoluʻolu me kekahi
- 2. E nānā piha i ka wā e kamaʻilio ana kāu hoa
- 3. E hoʻopono me kekahi
- 4. E hōʻoia i ke kamaʻilio ʻana he alo a he alo
- 5. Pono ka pili kino a me ka ʻōlelo kino
- 6. Mai hōʻoki a hōʻeha paha
ʻ saidlelo ʻia ke kamaʻilio ʻana he mahele nui ia o nā pilina, he pilina pili loa ia a i ʻole me kāu mau hoaaloha, hoa hana, ʻohana a me nā keiki.
ʻOiai hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio ākea me lākou i kahi ala e hoʻoliʻiliʻi ai i nā hakakā a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻole ʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāpai i ke aloha a me ka mahalo i waena o ʻolua he mea nui no ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina olakino.
Hoʻopili nā mākau kamaʻilio o kekahi kanaka i ke ala a lākou e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia a hoʻonui i kahi pae o ka hilinaʻi i kā lākou pilina.
Hiki i nā mākau kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole ke hopena i ka huikau a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau e hoʻomoe mālie i ke ala i ka make ʻana o ka pilina.
No laila, he mea nui e hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio ākea me kāu hoa e pili ana i kekahi kumuhana.
6 mau ala e hōʻoia ai e kamaʻilio maikaʻi i kāu pilina i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo e kōkua i ke alakaʻi ʻana i kāu pilina ma ke ala maikaʻi i ka kūleʻa.
1. E ʻoluʻolu me kekahi
He kūlohelohe wale ia hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me kāu hoa e pili ana i nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau me ka hopohopo ʻole.
E lilo i kumuhana e like me ke kālā, nā keiki, nā politika, ka ʻohana, nā ʻokoʻa kāne, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me lākou me ka ʻike he hiki ke hōʻike manuahi i kou mau manaʻo a me ka leo i kou mau manaʻo me ka makaʻu ʻole o ka hoʻouka ʻia a i ʻole paʻa ʻia.
2. E nānā piha i ka wā e kamaʻilio ana kāu hoa
Hāʻawi i kāu pakanā me kāu nānā pono ʻole. E nānā pono e hoʻolohe pono a waiho i kāu mau papaho ʻoihana āpau i ʻike kāu wahine i ka lohe ʻia ʻana.
He ala maikaʻi loa kēia e hoʻomaopopo ai i kāu wahine e mahalo ana i kā lākou ʻike. Hiki ke kōkua hou aku i ka mālama ʻana i ka maka o ka maka a hilinaʻi kokoke iā lākou e hōʻoia i kou hoihoi maoli a hoʻouna i kahi leka o ka pili.
3. E hoʻopono me kekahi
ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka hūnā ʻana i kāu mau huna.
I ka wā o ka pili male, pono ʻolua i ka pono me kekahi a lawa a kaʻana like i nā mea āpau, no ka maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. ʻOiai he ʻawaʻawa paha ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea nui e ʻae ʻoe i kāu mau hewa a e kala aku inā hewa ʻoe ma kahi o ka hoʻohalahala.
He paʻakikī paha kēia i kēia manawa akā i ka wā lōʻihi, e hoʻoikaika kēia i kou pilina.
4. E hōʻoia i ke kamaʻilio ʻana he alo a he alo
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana he alo a he alo e pili ana i nā kumuhana nui kekahi ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻalo ai i nā kuhi hewa i makemake ʻole ʻia a me nā kamaʻilio hewa pono ʻole ʻana.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio kamaʻilio ʻana i loko o ke kanaka kahi e hiki ai iā ʻolua ke nānā aku i kekahi i kekahi a me ka heluhelu ʻana i kā lākou mau ʻōlelo i haʻi ʻole ʻia ma o kā lākou ʻōlelo kino.
Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēia ala ma kahi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma o nā ʻatikala a i ʻole nā leka uila i kahi e hopena ai i ka wehewehe pono ʻole o kāu hoa i kāu mau huaʻōlelo.
5. Pono ka pili kino a me ka ʻōlelo kino
He mea ʻole ke ʻano o ke kumuhana a i ʻole ke ʻano o kāu e kamaʻilio nei, hiki i nā ʻōniu liʻiliʻi e like me ka hoʻopā ʻana i kāu hoapili a i ʻole ke ʻume ʻana i ko lākou lima ke hele lōʻihi.
He mea nui ka pili kino ʻana ma ke ʻano he hoʻolaha i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻia ʻana o ka oxytocin ʻo ia ka hōmona e hoʻoulu ai i ke aloha, ke aloha a me ke aloha ma waena o nā ipo ʻelua. Hiki iā ia ke kōkua i ka de-stress a hāpai i ka laulima.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ke kino o ke kino e hōʻike ai i kāu pakanā e nānā pono ʻoe i ka mea nui.
Noho i luna, e nānā i nā maka a kūlou pū. Hoʻolohe e hoʻomaopopo a ʻaʻole pane wale. E mahalo i kekahi i kekahi ma ka hoʻolohe ʻana a me ka pane ʻana me ka maikaʻi e hoʻopau i nā paio a me nā kūlike ʻole a kōkua i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi paʻa paʻa.
6. Mai hōʻoki a hōʻeha paha
E hōʻole i ka hōʻoki ʻana ke ʻōlelo aku kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka mea mua, hoʻonāukiuki ke kumu o ke kahe o ke kamaʻilio e haki i ʻole e haʻi i kekahi ʻaoʻao i kā lākou makemake maoli.
ʻO ka lua, huhū a lohe ʻole paha ka hoa ʻē aʻe ma muli o ke keʻakeʻa ʻia ʻana i ka hapalua o ka manawa.
No laila, kōkua ia e hōʻalo i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waena a kali i kou manawa, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻaelike me kāu hoa a manaʻo he wahaheʻe a pololei ʻole kā lākou ʻōlelo.
ʻAʻole e kōkua wale ka hana ʻana iā ʻoe e lohe i kā lākou mau kiko āpau akā kōkua pū kekahi i kahi kamaʻilio kūkulu kūpono a me mua.
Eia nō naʻe ʻoiai hiki i nā huaʻōlelo ke paʻakikī a hiki ke hōʻeha, mai hopu i kāu hoa. Ma kahi o ka hoʻouka kaua ʻana iā lākou, e lawe i kahi ala i kahi kamaʻilio aloha ʻole e pale aku iā lākou.
Hoʻopili ʻana
ʻAʻole kūlohelohe nā mākau kamaʻilio pilina i nā mea āpau. Pono ʻoe e aʻo i kou ala e like me kou ʻike me kāu hoa. ʻO kou pilina ia a ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻoi loa, e hoʻohana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā alakaʻi āu i ʻike ai e hana maikaʻi loa no kāu pilina.