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Anter
- Akā he aha ka hana ke hala ke aloha ma waena o nā kāne?
- COURTNEY ELLIS, LMHC
- JAKE MYERS, MA, LMFT
- CODY MITTS, MA, NCC
- EVA L SHAW, PhD, RCC, DCC
- KERRI-ANNE BROWN, LMHC
- JOHN SOVEC, M.A., LMFT
- ʻO DR. AGNES OH, Psy, LMFT
- ʻO DR. CANDICE CREASMAN MOWREY, PhD, LPC-S
- ERIC GOMEZ, LMFT
- GIOVANNI MACCARONE, BA
- DAVID KLOW, LMFT
- ANGELA SKURTU, M.Ed, LMFT
- CATHY W. MEYER
- ʻO CINDY NASH, M.S.W., R.S.W.
- BOB TAIBBI, LCSW
- Kauka CORINNE Scholtz, LMFT
- ʻO DR. LEE BOWERS, PhD.
- JUSTIN TOBIN, LCSW
- EVA SADOWSKI, RPC, MFA
- GREG GRIFFIN, MA, BCPC
- ANDREA BRANDT, PhD., MFT
- DENNIS PAGET, M.A.
- KATHERINE MAZZA, LMHC
- ʻO DR. ʻO DAVID O. SAENZ, PhD, EdM, LLC
- ʻO DR. ANNE CROWLEY, Ph.D.
- ʻO DR. DEB, PhD.
- AMANDA CARVAR, LMFT
- CARIN GOLDSTEIN, LMFT
- FARAH HUSSAIN BAIG, LCSW
- ILENE DILLON, MFT
- DONALD PELLES, Ph.D.
ʻO ka hana makua kekahi o nā hana ʻoʻoleʻa loa o ka honua. Pono ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki i ke ahonui, ka ahonui, a me ke aloha. Akā he hana ia no ʻelua mau kānaka, ʻo ia ka mea e pīhoihoi a pīhoihoi ai hoʻi.
ʻO ka huakaʻi makua, ʻoiai paʻakikī, he ʻike maikaʻi loa ia no nā kāne aloha a kākoʻo hoʻi.
Akā he aha ka hana ke hala ke aloha ma waena o nā kāne?
Aia kekahi mau kāne i hoʻokaʻawale i nā ala ma hope o ka hānau keiki ʻana. ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka co-makua no lākou. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kākoʻo a me ke aloha mai kahi hoa ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka launa makua ma hope o ka hemo ʻana he paʻakikī ia no ka mea he kuleana ko nā mākua i kahi kuleana hou - pono lākou e pale i ka ʻawaʻawa o kā lākou male male ʻana mai ka hopena o ka ulu a me ka ulu ʻana o kā lākou keiki.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole kūleʻa ka hapanui o nā mākua hemo pili ana i nā pilikia co-makua. Akā ʻaʻole pono ia e lilo i mea mau loa. Hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia ka co-makua makua kūleʻa a me ka maikaʻi.
Kēia Makahiki Hou, hiki i nā kāne hemo ke hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lāua mākua makua. ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā mākua kōkua kūpono e ka 30 mau loea pili pili hiki ke kōkua iā lākou e hoʻokō i kēlā.
1) E hoʻokau i nā pono o ke keiki ma luna o kou iho Tweet i kēia
COURTNEY ELLIS, LMHC
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
ʻO kāu hoʻonā no 2017 e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi i kou ʻano a me kou ex co-makua, kahi hana maʻalahi ʻole. Akā hiki, ke hāʻawi ʻia kāu pahuhopu e hoʻokau i nā makemake o ke keiki ma mua o kou iho.
A hoʻokahi mea e pōmaikaʻi nui ai kāu keiki ka manawa kūpono e loaʻa ai kahi pilina olakino me nā mākua ʻelua. No laila i kēia makahiki e hiki mai ana, e hoʻāʻo e ʻōlelo ʻoluʻolu wale e pili ana i kāu ex i mua o kāu keiki.
Mai triangle kāu keiki i waena, e koi ana iā lākou e ʻaoʻao. E ʻae i kāu keiki e hoʻomohala i kona mau manaʻo ponoʻī e pili ana i kēlā me kēia makua me ka ʻole o kāu komo.
ʻO ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no kāu keiki he pilina me ka makuahine a me kahi pilina me ka makuakāne - no laila e hana i kāu mea maikaʻi e kāpae ʻole i kēlā. A inā ʻaʻole holo pono nā mea āpau, “Inā ʻaʻohe ou mea maikaʻi e ʻōlelo ai, mai ʻōlelo iki.”
2) ʻO ke kamaʻilio ke kī Tweet i kēia
JAKE MYERS, MA, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
Inā ʻaʻole kamaʻilio pololei nā kāne hemo me kekahi, e hōʻike ʻia nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo ma o nā keiki, a ʻaʻole na lākou ke kuleana e lilo i kanaka waena.
Ma ke ʻano he kuleana co-makua pono nā kāne male hemo koho i hoʻokahi kāhea kelepona a i ʻole ka hālāwai o ke kanaka i kēlā me kēia manawa e kamaʻilio e pili ana pehea e hele nei a hōʻike i nā pono, nā hopohopo, a me nā manaʻo.
3) E hoʻokaʻawale i kā lākou pilikia pilikia Tweet i kēia
CODY MITTS, MA, NCC
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
ʻO ke ola kino makua, ke haʻalele ʻia, koi i nā mākua e hoʻokaʻawale i kā lākou pilikia pili pilikino e hana i kahi no nā pono o kā lākou keiki.
E hana ma ka loiloi ʻana i kāu mau kōkua makua me ka nīnau ʻana, "He aha ka mea maikaʻi loa i kaʻu keiki i kēia kūlana?" Mai waiho i nā pilikia o kou pilina e hoʻoholo i nā hoʻoholo i hoʻoholo ʻia no kāu poʻe keiki.
4) 3 Nā lula nui no nā mākua hemo Tweet i kēia
EVA L SHAW, PhD, RCC, DCC
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
- ʻAʻole wau e hoʻopili i kā mākou keiki i nā paio aʻu me kaʻu ex.
- E makua wau i kā mākou keiki e like me kaʻu e ʻike ai ke kūpono ke hele pū kā mākou keiki, a ʻaʻole au e hoʻopilikia i ka makua ke hele kā mākou keiki me kaʻu ex.
- E ʻae wau i kā mākou keiki e kāhea i ko lākou makua ʻē aʻe ke hele ma koʻu hale.
5) Kono i ka kamaʻilio hāmama a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo Tweet i kēia
KERRI-ANNE BROWN, LMHC
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
Ua pau paha ka pilina, akā aia ke kuleana ma ke ʻano o nā mākua. E mālama pono i kahi aniau e kono i ka kamaʻilio hāmama a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka co-parenting e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa pāʻoihana, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e holo i kahi ʻoihana me kahi mea āu e launa ʻole ai.
ʻO kekahi o nā makana maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kāu keiki (ren) he laʻana o ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio olakino a maikaʻi.
6) ʻAʻole ia he hoʻokūkū kaulana Tweet i kēia
JOHN SOVEC, M.A., LMFT
Psychotherapist
ʻO ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki, ʻoiai ke hemo ʻoe, he hana paʻakikī ia, a no ka nui o nā mākua aʻu e hana nei me ka hoʻomaka ʻana e hoʻolilo i ka makua i hoʻokūkū kaulana.
Nui nā mea hoʻokahi i hāpai ʻia i hiki ke kūʻai i nā mea pāʻani maikaʻi loa a i ʻole lawe i nā keiki i ka huakaʻi maikaʻi loa. ʻO ka mea, e nā keiki, e noʻonoʻo wikiwiki i kēia a hoʻomaka e pāʻani i nā mākua no kekahi no ka loaʻa kālā.
Hiki i kēia ʻano pilina o nā mākua ke hana i ke aloha i ke ʻano kūlana i nā keiki a hana i ka hopohopo i loko o lākou ke ulu lākou.
Akā, ʻo ia nō pono ʻoe a me kāu ex e hana i kahi hoʻolālā pāʻani kahi i loaʻa i nā keiki nā ʻike leʻaleʻa he nui akā i hoʻolālā ʻia kēlā mau mea e nā mākua ʻelua.
Ke hana nei i kahi kalena makahiki, e hoʻopili ana i nā hanana i makemake nā mākua e hāʻawi i kā lākou keiki, kahi ala e hiki ai i ke kahua pāʻani, hoʻohui i nā mākua, a ʻae i nā keiki i kahi manawa maikaʻi me nā mākua ʻelua.
7) E ʻoliʻoli kāu mau keiki i ke kūʻokoʻa o ke koho Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. AGNES OH, Psy, LMFT
Psychologist Lapaʻau
ʻO ka hemo he hanana hoʻololi i ke ola. Eia nō naʻe, leʻaleʻa i ke kaʻina hana, hiki i ka hemo ke hoʻoulu i nā hopena nui a i kekahi mau manawa i ka hopena o ka ʻōnaehana ʻohana holoʻokoʻa, me kā mākou keiki.
Hoʻokaʻawale i nā pilikia mālama
ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki ke pale aku i kā mākou keiki mai nā mea āpau i hiki ʻole ke pale ʻia, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohanohano iā lākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka me ka mahalo a me ka noʻonoʻo ma o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kekahi palena palena makua.
Ma muli o ko mākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī, residos animosities (inā kekahi), a i kekahi manawa co-makua me kahi ex cooperative hiki iā mākou ma ke ʻano he mau mākua ke hoʻolohe ʻole i nā manaʻo o kā mākou keiki a me kā lākou mau kuleana e ʻōlelo iā lākou, me ka hoʻokomo ʻole i kā mākou iho maikaʻi ʻole manaʻo o ka makua ʻē aʻe.
Pono kā mākou poʻe keiki i ka manawa kūpono e mahi a mālama i kā lākou mau pilina ponoʻī me kēlā me kēia o ko lākou mau mākua, kūʻokoʻa i ka puʻupuʻu ʻohana e ulu mau nei.
Ma ke ʻano he co-makua, loaʻa iā mākou ka kuleana nui e kōkua a paipai i kā mākou keiki e hana pēlā ma o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi milieu palekana e hiki ai iā lākou ke alakaʻi kūpono ʻia e hoʻohana i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa i ke koho a holomua ma ke ʻano he kanaka kūʻokoʻa.
Hiki wale nō kēia inā hiki iā mākou ke waiho i kā mākou papahana ponoʻī a hana pū i ka hana e hana pū i ka mea e pono ai kā mākou keiki.
8) Hanu i loko a i waho hohonu Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. CANDICE CREASMAN MOWREY, PhD, LPC-S
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
"E noʻonoʻo e hoʻohana i ka rula hanu ʻekolu ma mua o ka pane ʻana i nā koi, nā hoka, a me ke kahe pau ʻole o ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana - hanu i loko a puka hohonu, a piha piha ʻekolu mau manawa ke manaʻo ʻoe e piʻi aʻe ana kou mahana. E hana kēia mau hanu i kahi no ka pane ʻana ma mua o ka hana ʻana, a kōkua iā ʻoe e noho i kāu kūpaʻa ke makemake nui ʻoe e lash. "
9) Prioritize i ke aloha naʻau o kā lākou poʻe keiki Tweet i kēia
ERIC GOMEZ, LMFT
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
ʻO kekahi o nā kaʻina hana maikaʻi loa i hiki i nā mākua hemo ke lawe i mua o ke olakino naʻau o kā lāua mau keiki ma ka lawe ʻole ʻana iā lākou i kahi kūlike ʻole.
ʻO nā mākua e hana i kēia kuhi hewa e hana ʻino nui i kā lākou mau keiki, a hiki i kahi manawa kūpono ke hoʻokaumaha loa i kā lākou pilina me lākou.
Pono lākou e hoʻomanaʻo he keiki a nā mākua hemo ka pono e like me ke aloha a me ka palekana o ka naʻau e hiki ai a ʻo ke kōkua ʻana iā lākou e palekana, hoʻonoho mua ʻia, a aloha maoli ʻia ka mea nui.
ʻO ka mālama ʻana iā lākou mai nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa a ka wahine kekahi ala nui e hoʻokō ai i kēlā pahuhopu.
10) E mahalo i nā ʻano o kāu keiki Tweet i kēia
GIOVANNI MACCARONE, BA
Kaʻi Ola
"Hoʻāʻo ka hapa nui o nā mākua e hānai i kā lākou keiki i kā lākou kiʻi. Inā hana ʻokoʻa kā lākou keiki mai kēia kiʻi, ʻike pinepine nā mākua i ka makaʻu a me ka hōʻino i ke keiki.
Ma muli o ka noho manawa o kāu mau keiki me ka makua ʻē aʻe, e hoʻohuli ʻia lākou e lākou a hana ʻokoʻa paha i kāu makemake.
ʻO kāu ʻōlelo hoʻoholo no ka makahiki hou e mahalo i nā ʻano o kāu mau keiki ma kahi o, ʻoiai inā ʻokoʻa lākou i kāu kiʻi ma muli o ka hoʻohuli a ka makua ʻē aʻe. "
11) E noho! Tweet i kēia
DAVID KLOW, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
Hoʻohou i kāu pilina makua me ka lawe ʻana mai i kēia manawa. Lawe ʻia nā ʻeha he nui mai ka wā kahiko.
Ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i hope a me ke kala ʻana i kā mākou makana, e hoʻoholo e nānā i mua i nā mea hou i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Aia i ka manawa kahi e ala ai nā manawa hou.
12) Kānana i ka ʻike no nā keiki Tweet i kēia
ANGELA SKURTU, M.Ed, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
Hoʻokahi rula o ka ʻāina co-makua: Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina co-makua makua chaotic, hiki ke kōkua i ka kānana ʻana i nā mea āu e ʻōlelo aku ai i kāu hoa a me nā ʻike āu e lawe ai.
ʻO kahi laʻana, ma mua o kou kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu hoa, e hōʻoia ua kānana ʻoe i ka ʻike i nā ʻike a i ʻole nā pono o nā keiki wale nō. ʻAʻohe ou kuleana no ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau o ko kekahi.
E haʻalele i nā manaʻo mai loko mai o ia mea, a pili i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me ka mea e pono ai e hele i kahi, ahea, a no ka lōʻihi. E aʻo e hoʻopōkole loa a pani i ke kamaʻilio ʻana inā hele ma ʻō aku o kēlā. I kekahi mau hihia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana a nā kāne inā lākou e kaʻana like nei i nā leka uila.
ʻAe kēia iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea āu e makemake ai e ʻōlelo a noi i kahi ʻaoʻao ʻelua e nānā i nā kikoʻī. ʻO kēlā me kēia ʻano, ʻo kāu poʻe keiki ka mea nui i kēia kaʻina.
E hoʻāʻo e hana i ka mea kūpono no lākou, a mālama i kou mau manaʻo ponoʻī mai ka hoʻohālikelike. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kāu huhū huhū me kahi ʻaoʻao ʻekolu, e like me kahi hoaaloha a mea hoʻoponopono paha.
13) E hoʻolilo i ʻohana ākea i ʻāpana o kāu hoʻolālā makua Tweet i kēia
CATHY W. MEYER
Kaʻi hoʻokaʻawale wahine
He maʻalahi ke hoʻopoina ma hope o ka hemo ʻana o kā kā mākou poʻe keiki he ʻohana pili a aloha a makemake e noho manawa me lākou.
Ma ke ʻano he mau mākua, he mea nui e kūkākūkā ʻoe a ʻae i ka hana a ka ʻohana nui i nā ola o kāu mau keiki a pehea e loaʻa ai iā lākou ke mālama ʻia nā keiki ma ka mālama ʻana o kēlā me kēia makua.
14) E mālama i nā pilikia "mākua" mai nā keiki Tweet i kēia
ʻO CINDY NASH, M.S.W., R.S.W.
E hoʻokau inoa ka mea hana kaiaulu
ʻO nā mea i hala ma waena o ʻolua ʻaʻole pono e hoʻopilikia i nā keiki a hoʻokau iā lākou i kahi kūlana a lākou e manaʻo ai e koho i nā ʻaoʻao. Hiki i kēia ke hāʻawi i nā manaʻo o ka hopohopo a me ka hewa i ka manawa paʻakikī e lilo iā lākou.
E nānā pū kekahi:
15) E launa, hoʻopilikia, hoʻolohe Tweet i kēia
BOB TAIBBI, LCSW
Kōkua Ola Mental
ʻO kekahi o nā mea aʻu e ʻōlelo mau nei i nā kāne hemo me nā keiki ʻo ia ka mea e pono ai ʻoe e hana i kēia manawa i ka mea āu e hakakā ai, e hakakā me ʻoe i ka wā e hui pū ana: kamaʻilio, kuʻikahi, hoʻolohe, mahalo.
ʻO kaʻu manaʻo hoʻokahi e e hoʻāʻo a ʻoluʻolu kekahi i kekahi, mālama kekahi i kekahi e like me kahi mea āu e hana pū ai.
Mai hopohopo e pili ana i ke kāne ʻē aʻe, mai mālama i ka helu, e hoʻoholo wale i kahi mākua, kau i kou ihu i lalo, a kau i ka hana i ka mea hiki ke hiki.
16) E hōʻole i ka ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka wahine ma mua Tweet i kēia
Kauka CORINNE Scholtz, LMFT
Kahuna Huahana
ʻO ka ʻōlelo hoʻoholo aʻu e manaʻo ai e hōʻole i ka ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka wahine ma mua i mua o nā keiki. Hoʻopili kēia i ke kani, ka ʻōlelo o ke kino, a me nā hopena.
Ke hiki mai kēia, hiki iā ia ke hana i ka hopohopo a me ke ʻano o ke kūpaʻa i ka makua a lākou e manaʻo nei ua ʻeha, a me kahi ʻano huhū e pili ana i ka manaʻo me he mea lā aia lākou i ka waena o ka neg nego a kā lākou makua.
He kaumaha loa i nā keiki ke lohe i nā ʻōlelo ʻeha e pili ana i ko lākou mau mākua a hoʻomanaʻo hoʻi ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke 'un-lohe' i kēlā mau mea.
17) ʻAʻole pili iā ʻoe; pili ia i nā keiki Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. LEE BOWERS, PhD.
ʻO ka mea kālailai laikini
Hiki paha iā wau ke ʻōlelo ma lalo o 10 mau huaʻōlelo: “ʻAʻole pili iā ʻoe; pili ia i nā keiki. ” Hele nā keiki i ka nui o ka haunaele i ka manawa / ma hope o ka hemo ʻana. ʻO nā mea āpau a nā mākua e hana ai e hōʻemi i ka disruption a kōkua iā lākou e mālama i kā lākou hana maʻamau maʻamau ka mea nui.
18) E launa me kekahi Tweet i kēia
JUSTIN TOBIN, LCSW
Mea Hana Pilikino
Aia kekahi hoʻowalewale e hoʻohana i nā keiki ma ke ʻano o ke kahawai no ka ʻike:
E huikau wale kēia kamaʻilio pololei ʻole ʻana i kēia manawa i ka laina o ʻo wai ka mea mālama maoli i ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā lula.
Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pilikia me kahi mea a kāu hoa i hana ai, a laila e lawe iā ia i kā lākou nānā. Mai noi i kāu poʻe keiki e hāʻawi i ka manaʻo.
19) Mai hoʻohana i kāu mau keiki me he mea kaua lā Tweet i kēia
EVA SADOWSKI, RPC, MFA
ʻLelo aʻoaʻo
Ua kūleʻa kāu male, akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hāʻule ma ke ʻano he makua. ʻO kēia kou manawa kūpono e aʻo aku i kāu poʻe keiki i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka pilina, ka mahalo, kaʻae ʻana, ke ahonui, ka pilina aloha, a me ke aloha.
E hoʻomanaʻo, aia kekahi ʻāpana o kāu ex i kāu keiki. Inā hōʻike ʻoe i kāu keiki inaina ʻoe i kāu ex, hōʻike pū ʻoe iā lākou e inaina ʻoe i kēlā ʻāpana i loko o lākou.
20) Koho no ka “pili” Tweet i kēia
GREG GRIFFIN, MA, BCPC
Kahu Kahunapule
Ma ka hoʻomaopopo, he paʻakikī paʻakikī ka co-makua no ka hapanui o nā mākua hemo, a paʻakikī hoʻi no nā keiki.
ʻOiai ke kahakaha ʻana o ka palapala hoʻokaʻawale e hōʻike ana i nā "rula" e pono ai e mālama ʻia, aia mau nō ke koho e waiho i ka ʻōlelo hoʻoholo a koho no ka "pilina," ma ka liʻiliʻi no kēia manawa, e noʻonoʻo i kahi hopena maikaʻi e lawelawe ai i ke keiki a i ʻole nā keiki.
ʻAʻohe mea (stepparent, hoa o kēia manawa) e aloha i nā keiki ma mua o nā mākua ʻelua.
21) E mālama iā ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i kāu ex Tweet i kēia
ANDREA BRANDT, PhD., MFT
Lapaʻau male
No ka nui o kou makemake a hoʻowahāwahā paha i kāu ex, e hoʻomau i kou mau manaʻo e pili ana iā ia iā ʻoe iho, a i ʻole e mālama iā lākou ma waena ou a me kāu mea hoʻoponopono a ʻo ʻoe a me kahi hoa pili. Mai hoʻāʻo e hoʻohuli i kāu keiki i kāu ex, a i ʻole e makaʻu paha i ka hana ʻana me ka ʻike ʻole.
22) E kia mua i nā keiki Tweet i kēia
DENNIS PAGET, M.A.
Kūkākūkā ʻoihana
ʻO ke kuhi makua hoʻokahi aʻu e hoʻolako ai i nā kāne i haʻalele ʻia e hānai pū ana i nā keiki e nānā i nā keiki ma mua. Mai kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hemahema o ka makua ʻē aʻe i nā keiki.
E mākua a e kiʻi i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. E hoʻomaopopo i nā keiki ʻaʻole kēia na lākou ka hewa, aloha maoli ʻia lākou, a hāʻawi i kahi no lākou e hōʻike ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo a ulu aʻe ma o kēia hoʻololi nui i ko lākou ola.
23) Kūhewa nā palena maopopo Tweet i kēia
KATHERINE MAZZA, LMHC
Psychotherapist
Pono nā keiki e ʻike i ka paʻa o kēlā me kēia mākua i kahi ola hou a ke mahalo nei lākou i ke ola hou o kā lākou hoa. Hāʻawi kēia i nā keiki i ka ʻae e hana like.
Hoʻokomo pinepine nā kamaliʻi i kahi makemake ʻole e hui hou ko lākou mau mākua, a no laila ʻaʻole mākou e makemake e hoʻoulu i kēia manaʻo wahaheʻe. ʻO ka ʻike i ka manawa e laulima ai i ka co-makua, a i ka wā e huki ai a ʻae i kahi no nā mākua pākahi, ke kī.
24) Aloha i kāu keiki Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. ʻO DAVID O. SAENZ, PhD, EdM, LLC
ʻOlogistlapa psychologist
No ka hana makua ʻana e hana, pono wau e aloha i kaʻu keiki a i ʻole kaʻu mau keiki ma mua o koʻu inaina / makemake ʻole i kaʻu hoa pili mua. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi pale / ʻenemi wau, ʻo ka maʻalahi a me ka maʻalahi o ka noho ʻana o ka noho makua.
25) E kia i ka noho ʻana o kāu keiki Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. ANNE CROWLEY, Ph.D.
ʻO ka mea kālailai laikini
Inā ʻaʻole ia i holo i kāu male, mai hoʻomau i ka hana ʻana i kāu male male. Kū a hana i kahi mea ʻokoʻa. Maʻalahi paha e like me ka loli o ke ʻano / kuanaʻike ... he hoihoi like koʻu me kēia kanaka - ko kāua keiki maikaʻi.
Hōʻike nā kānaka noiʻi pehea e pili pono ai nā keiki kūpaʻa ma hope o ka hemo ʻana i ka pilina o ka makua ma ka hemo ʻana ... ʻaʻole kōkua kāu hakakā ʻana i ka male. e hoʻonui wale ia i nā mea i ka hemo male.
E mahalo i kou hoahānau. He wahine lousy paha ʻo ia, akā ʻokoʻa kēlā mai ka makua maikaʻi.
25) E lilo i mau mākua maikaʻi Tweet i kēia
ʻO DR. DEB, PhD.
Marriage and Family Therapist
Palekana loa nā keiki ke manaʻoʻiʻo lākou he poʻe maikaʻi ko lākou mau mākua. Aia a hala nā makahiki ʻōpio, aia nō ka lolo o nā keiki i ka hana o ka hoʻomohala ʻana.
ʻO kēia ke kumu i ʻike ai kā lākou ʻano i ka hopena hohonu i nā mākua: Impulsive, drama, unrealistic. Akā no kēia kumu no ka hiki ʻole i nā keiki ke mālama i ka ʻike mai kekahi makua e hoʻouka i ka makua ʻē aʻe.
E alakaʻi kēia ʻike i ka hoʻonui ʻia o ka maluhia, a ʻo ia hoʻi, alakaʻi i nā ʻano hana i nā mea e ʻoi loa ai ka maikaʻi.
ʻO kahi laʻana, manaʻo paha lākou he palekana ko lākou ʻaoʻao ʻana me ka makua ikaika a makaʻu paha i ke kino - no ka palekana wale nō. Nui paha ka manaʻo o ka makua i loaʻa ke kūpaʻa o kāna keiki, akā ʻaʻole ia ma ka lilo o ka makua ʻē aʻe wale nō, no ka lilo ia o ke keiki.
26) E hōʻalo i ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole ʻana Tweet i kēia
AMANDA CARVAR, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist
ʻO kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo makua koʻikoʻi no nā mākua hemo ka mea e hōʻalo ai i ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole ʻana e pili ana i kāu ex i mua o kāu mau keiki a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i kekahi mea e keakea i ka pilina o kāu keiki me ka makua ʻē aʻe.
Koe i nā kūlana koʻikoʻi o ka hōʻino, he mea nui ia no kāu mau keiki e hoʻomau i ka hoʻomohala ʻana e like me ke aloha i ka pilina me kēlā me kēia mākua. ʻAʻohe makana nui aʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā lākou ma o kēia hoʻololi paʻakikī.
27) E mahalo i kou ex mau i nā mākua ʻē aʻe Tweet i kēia
CARIN GOLDSTEIN, LMFT
ʻO ka Laikini Laikini a me ka Mea Hoʻohana ʻohana
"E hoʻomanaʻo he ʻaiʻē kāu i kāu poʻe keiki e mahalo i kāu ex a ʻo lākou ka makua mau ʻē aʻe. He mea ʻole nā manaʻo, maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha, ʻike mau ʻoe i kāu wahine ma mua, ʻo kāu kuleana ia e ʻōlelo wale ʻole e pili ana i ka makua ʻē aʻe akā e kākoʻo i kā lākou pilina. Eia kekahi, ua hemo paha ʻaʻole paha, ke nānā mau nei nā keiki i ko lākou mau mākua ma ke ʻano he laʻana pehea e mālama ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka mahalo. "
28) Mai hoʻohana i nā keiki ma ke ʻano he pawn no kāu hakakā me kāu ex Tweet i kēia
FARAH HUSSAIN BAIG, LCSW
Mea Hana Pilikino
"Hiki i ka co-makua ke lilo i mea paʻakikī, keu hoʻi ke hoʻohana ʻia nā keiki ma ke ʻano he pawns i ke kaua egos. Wehe i kou ʻeha a kau i ka nalo o kāu keiki.
E makaʻala a kūlike me nā huaʻōlelo a me nā hana, e hoʻokokoke ana i kā lākou pono maikaʻi, ʻaʻole kāu. E pili ka hopena o ka ʻike o kāu keiki i ko lākou ʻike iā lākou iho a me ka honua a puni lākou. ”
29) E haʻalele i nā manaʻo a pau o ka kaohi Tweet i kēia
ILENE DILLON, MFT
Mea Hana Pilikino
ʻAno ʻoluʻolu ʻole nā keiki e nā mākua e huhū nei e pili ana i ka hana a kekahi. E aʻo e hoʻokaʻawale a ʻae i nā ʻokoʻa. E noi no kāu mea e makemake ai, e hoʻomanaʻo nei i ke kuleana o ka haʻi ʻē aʻe e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole."
ʻCklelo aku i kāu keiki: “ʻO ia ke ala āu e hana ai i nā mea ma ka hale o Māmā (Pāpā); ʻaʻole pehea e hana ai iā lākou ma aneʻi. A laila, neʻe i mua, e ʻae ana i nā ʻokoʻa!
30) ʻAnuʻu "i loko" a me "waho" Tweet i kēia
DONALD PELLES, Ph.D.
Hypnotherapist i hōʻoia ʻia
E aʻo e "hehi" i loko o kēlā me kēia o kāu mau keiki a me kou hoahānau, ma ka ʻaoʻao, ke ʻike i ka manaʻo o kēlā kanaka, nā manaʻo, nā manaʻo, a me nā manaʻo, e like me kou ʻano a me kou kani iā lākou. Eia kekahi, e aʻo e "heʻe i waho" a nānā i kēia ʻohana ma ke ʻano he mea mākaʻikaʻi, nānā kū ʻole.
E kōkua kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo iā ʻoe a me kāu ex hoʻomaikaʻi i kou mākau kōkua makua a e hoʻohauʻoli i ka keiki i kāu wā kamaliʻi a me ka liʻiliʻi o ke koʻikoʻi.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe pono ʻoe i ke kōkua ʻoihana a laila e ʻimi i kahi kākāʻōlelo co-makua no nā ʻōlelo aʻo a nā mākua pū kekahi, nā papa me nā mākua, a i ʻole me ka co-parenting therapy.