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- E hoʻomākaukau no kahi hoʻololi paradigm
- Pehea e haʻalele ai i kahi hoa narcissist?
- E aʻo e kū i ka hana narcissistic
- E mākaukau no kahi hemo lōʻihi lōʻihi i unuhi ʻia
- E hoʻomau i kou maka i ka pahuhopu
ʻO ka hopena o ka male kahi ala ola piha i ka naʻau; ʻoiai ʻo ʻoe ka mea e hoʻomaka ai ka hemo, he mea maʻamau ke kaumaha, ke ʻano o ka holomua, a me nā manawa kānalua.
Ke haʻalele nei ʻoe i kahi hoa narcissist, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui i ka huhū a me ka huhū i kēia hui o nā manaʻo.
Noho me kahi kanaka i hoʻopilikia ʻia me Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a i ʻole NPD, ua lawa i ka ʻaʻa; ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka haʻalele ʻana iā lākou.
He mea nui e noʻonoʻo e loaʻa i kahi kanaka me NPD i kahi maʻi maoli. Ua hoʻomohala lākou i kēia ʻano pilikino, hoʻomalu, kāohi, a me ke ʻano ʻole empathy ma ke ʻano he pane i kekahi mea traumatic i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi.
ʻO ia wale nō ke ala a lākou e ʻike ai pehea e hana ai me ka honua, kahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kā lākou pilina pili kanaka. ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kēlā.
ʻO ke ala wale nō e hoʻoholo ai i kou manaʻo no ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi hoa narcissist ke ʻike ʻoe he hiki ʻole ke loli.
Eia naʻe, ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi narcissist e hoʻopuni i kekahi mau pilikia e pono ai ʻoe e hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe iho. No laila e nānā i kekahi mau ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻōla iā ʻoe iho a me kou ʻohana a pehea e hana pū ai me kahi mea narcissist i kēia manawa ua mākaukau ʻoe e haʻi i ke aloha i ka male.
E hoʻomākaukau no kahi hoʻololi paradigm
Ua hoʻohuli paha kāu hoa iā ʻoe i loko o ka pilina me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā maunu maʻamau o kahi narcissist: ʻoluʻolu lākou, ua hoʻoheheʻe aku lākou iā ʻoe me nā mahalo, a aloha ʻia ʻoe e like me ka mea i hana ʻole ma mua.
Akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ua ʻike ʻoe ua hāʻawi kēia ʻano maʻamau, aloha i kahi kanaka e kaohi ana, ʻaʻole hoʻolohe a mahalo ʻole i kou mau manaʻo, hana i nā mea āpau e pili ana iā lākou iho, a wahaheʻe pinepine hoʻi.
Ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i kēia mau pilikia pili, e hoʻohiki lākou iā ʻoe e loli nā mea. ʻAʻole lākou i hana. Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei pehea e hele ai i kahi narcissist, a laila mai hoʻoluhi i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā pane, no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa iā lākou.
I kēia manawa ua ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi iā lākou, pono ʻoe e hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe iho no kahi neʻe o kāu ikaika.
ʻAʻole e lawe maʻalahi kāu narcissist iā ʻoe e hōʻike ana i ka ikaika. ʻAʻole lākou e ʻae iā ʻoe, ma ke ʻano nui, huli i kou kua iā lākou.
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi hoa narcissistic e kāhea ana no ka noʻonoʻo pono ʻana i nā mea pili. E nānā iā lākou:
E nānā pū kekahi:
Pehea e haʻalele ai i kahi hoa narcissist?
Pono ʻoe e hōʻiliʻili i kahi kime maikaʻi i mea e ikaika ai a mālama i kāu kaʻina hemo. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e haʻalele i kahi narcissist. Ke haʻalele nei ʻoe i kahi hoa narcissist, eia kekahi mau mea āu e pono ai e noʻonoʻo-
- ʻO ka mea mua, e noi i kahi loio loea, kahi mea maʻa i ka hana ʻana me nā ex e like me kāu. E ʻike lākou i ka mea e nānā ai a pehea e hōʻalo ai i nā pahele a kāu ex e hoʻonoho ai.
- Ka lua, hana me ka ʻoihana ola noʻonoʻo ʻo wai ka mea hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi wahi palekana e hōʻike ai i kou huhū a me ka huhū ke hoʻokaʻawale i kahi narcissist.
E hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e noho ikaika a kiaʻi i kāu pahuhopu o ka haʻalele ʻana i kēia male ʻana a hoʻomaka i kahi ola hou me ka ʻole o ka narcissist.
- Ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe pehea e ola ai i kahi hemo me kahi narcissist, e noʻonoʻo i kāu mau hoaaloha. Inā he mau hoaaloha maikaʻi kāu āu e ʻike ai e kākoʻo ana i kēia neʻe ʻana o ke ola, hilinaʻi iā lākou.
Inā naʻe, ʻaʻole lākou makemake e "ʻaoʻao" a ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha lākou i kāu hoʻoholo e haʻalele i kāu male, mai hoʻopili iā lākou i kāu pōʻai o ke kākoʻo.
E aʻo e kū i ka hana narcissistic
ʻAʻohe mea huhū i ka narcissist ma mua o ka hōʻole ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i kahi ʻano hoʻopaʻi e like me kāu kāne, e like me
- Hiki i kā lākou hoʻopaʻi ke hoʻopili i nā pilikia kālā iā ʻoe (ka lawe ʻana iā ʻoe mai nā waihona waihona hui like a i ʻole nā waiwai.
- Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻolei i nā keiki iā ʻoe (e wahaheʻe ana iā ʻoe i nā keiki).
- Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopau iā lākou e hoʻomālamalama iā ʻoe (e hōʻole ana i kā lākou ʻōlelo ʻana i kēia a i ʻole, e hoʻi mai ana i ka home inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ma laila a hemo i nā mea)
- ʻAʻole paha lākou e mahalo i kāu ʻaelike mālama (lohi e kiʻi i nā keiki,
- ʻAʻole paha lākou e hoʻihoʻi i nā keiki i kou home i ka manawa i ʻaelike ʻia), a me nā mea hou aku.
Pono ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hoʻokele ai i kā lākou hopena. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole e komo i nā kūkākūkā lōʻihi me kahi narcissist, no ka mea ʻaʻohe o lākou hiki ke komo i kahi kūkaʻi maʻamau a me ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka hopena. Pono lākou i nā manawa pololei.
E mālama iki i kāu kamaʻilio me kāu ex. "E ʻoluʻolu e mahalo i ka ʻaelike mālama a lawe / hoʻokuʻu i nā keiki i ka manawa a mākou i ʻae ai," ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka ʻōlelo ʻana
“ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke manaʻo ua hana hou ʻoe i kēia! He kūpono ʻole ia e hoʻowahāwahā i ka manawa āu e manaʻo ai e hoʻihoʻi i nā keiki i ka home. Ke kali nei wau no ʻelua mau hola no lākou! ”
Hāʻawi wale kēia ʻano ʻano i ka leʻaleʻa narcissist, ʻoiai ʻo kekahi o kā lākou mau pahuhopu ka mea e ʻike he pōʻino ʻoe.
Mai hāʻawi iā lākou i ka māʻona. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e haʻalele i ka narcissist e hoʻomanaʻo i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai mai iā ʻoe a hana i kahi ala e hāʻawi ʻole ai iā lākou i nā mea hōʻoluʻolu.
ʻO kahi ala maikaʻi e hana pū me kahi narcissist e nānā ʻole iā lākou. Akā inā he ʻohana kāu mau keiki, ʻaʻole hiki ia. No laila e mālama i kāu kamaʻilio waha ʻana me lākou i ka pōkole, me ka manaʻo ʻole, a me ke kuhikuhi.
E mākaukau no kahi hemo lōʻihi lōʻihi i unuhi ʻia
Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei i ka mea e manaʻo ai ke haʻalele i kahi narcissist, a laila e hoʻopaʻa iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole like ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi narcissist me ka hemo ʻana i kekahi mea paʻakikī ʻole mai ke ʻano olakino noʻonoʻo, no ka mea ʻaʻole e maopopo i ka narcissist kā lākou ʻāpana i ka hoʻohālikelike hauʻoli ʻole.
Ma muli o ka nele o ka noʻonoʻo a me ka ʻike pono ʻole o ka poʻe narcissists, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻike pehea e kuleana ai lākou no ka holo pono ʻole o ka male.
I hoʻopaʻi iā ʻoe, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana i kā lākou loio e hoʻolohi i ka hana okioki ma ka nui i hiki.
I kēlā me kēia manawa ke ʻike ʻoe e hiki ana i kahi ʻaelike ma kahi kiko nui, hana paha kāu ex i kekahi mea e kākoʻo i hope, hoʻopau i ka neʻe i mua, a wili i nā mea a paʻa.
ʻAʻole kēia no ka mea makemake lākou e noho male iā ʻoe (ʻaʻole aloha lākou i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o lākou), akā no ka mea ʻo ko lākou instinc ka mea e hoʻopaʻi ke kūʻē kekahi iā lākou. Minamina, ʻo ʻoe kēlā kanaka.
Ke haʻalele nei i kahi narcissist, he mea nui ia e hoʻomanawanui a e hoʻomau i kou neʻe i mua i kāu pahuhopu.
E hoʻomau i kou maka i ka pahuhopu
E hele mai ana kāu male male ma ka hope, a e noa ʻoe i kēia ikaika maikaʻi ʻole.
Akā e mākaukau ʻaʻole e maʻalahi a wikiwiki hoʻi kāu male male e like me ka hemo ʻana ma waena o ka poʻe i hoʻopilikia ʻole ʻia e kekahi o ka NPD hoa. Akā e waiwai ia.
ʻO ka noho ʻana i ka male me ka narcissist ʻaʻole wale ia e luhi a hoʻonāwaliwali hoʻi iā ʻoe, akā he mea hōʻino ia no nā keiki e hōʻike nei i kēia pilina kaulike ʻole a maikaʻi ʻole ma waena o nā mākua.
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi narcissist me nā keiki, akā, i kekahi mau pilikia ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka hana pū ʻana me ka narcissist ma luna o ka mālama ʻana o ke keiki inā he nui kā lākou waiwai kālā ma mua o kāu, hiki iā lākou ke hana ma ke aloha iā lākou a lilo paha iā ʻoe e lilo i kāu mālama.
I ka hopena o ka hemo ʻana i kahi kāne a wahine paha, narcissist paha, aia paha he mau hiccup ʻelua.
Inā pili ʻoe i hoʻokahi, pono ʻoe e loaʻa kahi manaʻo e pili ana i ka hopena o ka narcissist e haʻalele ai. He mau egos gigantic nā Narcissists, a ʻo kā lākou mau hoa e hoʻāʻo nei e kāpae iā lākou mai hele pū pono ʻole me lākou.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe hiki i kāu pakanā ke hana ʻino a hoʻomāinoino paha, e ʻike e ʻohiʻohi i ka ʻikepili e pili ana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kauoha kaohi ma mua.
Ke ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noʻonoʻo inā he pono kēia hakakā a pau, e nānā i ka ʻohana hauʻoli, ʻoluʻolu āu e loaʻa ai me kāu poʻe keiki. Ke hana nei ʻoe i kēia mea nāu iho, a ʻo ka mea nui, na lākou.