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- Ke ʻano kākoʻo āu e loaʻa nei
- He aha ka hana inā loaʻa kahi pilikia?
- Hiki iā ia ke kala a hoʻopoina?
- Ke hāʻawi nei iā ʻoe i kahi
- Ke mahalo nei i nā mea laʻa i kou pilina
ʻOiai ma hope o nā makahiki o ka male (a i ʻole ma hope paha o nā makahiki o ka male ma kekahi mau hihia) noʻonoʻo pinepine nā kāne i kahi pilikia o loko: "Aloha maoli ʻo ia iaʻu?" ʻOiai i loko o kahi honua aloha aloha ʻole ʻoe e kanalua i ke aloha o kāu wahine, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o nā mea he nui nā alahaka kahi e hoʻokaʻawale ai ka wahine i ka naʻau. I kekahi mau hihia, ʻaʻole lākou ma ke ala like, e hoʻomaka.
No laila, eia nā mea ʻelima āu e noʻonoʻo ai inā maopopo ʻole ʻoe i ke aloha o kāu wahine iā ʻoe.
Ke ʻano kākoʻo āu e loaʻa nei
ʻO ke kākoʻo i loaʻa mai i kāna kāne he mea nui ia no ke ola o ke kanaka. Me ka ʻole o ka paipai ʻia mai kāu wahine, hiki i kēlā me kēia maʻamau ke ola maʻamau i ʻelua mau manawa paʻakikī. ʻO kēia, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ia kekahi mea e pili i nā kāne wale nō, kūleʻa nā kāne a me nā wahine ke hāʻawi ʻia lākou i ke kākoʻo kūpono mai kā lākou hoa ola.
Akā, aia kekahi mea e like me ke kākoʻo kūpono a me ke kākoʻo kūpono ʻole. Ke noʻonoʻo nei ʻoe inā he aloha maoli kāu wahine iā ʻoe, e noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o ka hōʻoluʻolu āna e hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe.
He naʻau anei? He ʻoiaʻiʻo anei? Aia mau ʻo ia ma kou ʻaoʻao i ka lehulehu, akā hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaikaʻi ke ʻoe hoʻokahi wale nō? ʻO kēia ke ʻano kākoʻo kūpono i hāʻawi ʻia e ka poʻe aloha iā mākou - kūpaʻa akā hoʻohui ʻia me kahi makemake maoli no ko mākou ulu.
He aha ka hana inā loaʻa kahi pilikia?
ʻO nā mea e hana ʻia ana ma waena o nā kāne i kēlā me kēia lā, aia i ka manawa o nā pilikia e hōʻike ʻia nā kala maoli. Mai hoʻopaʻi i ke aloha o kāu wahine ma muli o ka hana mau ʻana e pili ana i ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōpala. A i ʻole ua hoʻopaneʻe ʻo ia i kāu pō aloha e hele e ʻike i kāna mau hoaaloha. ʻO kēia paha nā mea i hiki ke waiho i ka kānalua i kou manaʻo, akā ʻaʻohe mea e hōʻike ana ʻaʻole maoli kāna aloha.
ʻO ka mea āu e nānā ai ʻo kēia - ke hoʻouna ʻoe i kahi SOS, he aha ka hana? ʻO ka mea, ʻoiai mākou e lawe pinepine ʻole ai i kā mākou mau hoa male i kēlā me kēia lā, ke kū mai kahi pilikia, ʻo ka poʻe aloha maoli e haʻalele i ka hana pilikino āpau a luʻu i loko e kōkua i ka wahine pono.
Ke waiho nei kāu wahine i nā mea āpau, me kāu mau hakakā, ke makemake nui ʻoe iā ia? He hōʻailona ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia inā aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
Hiki iā ia ke kala a hoʻopoina?
ʻO ke kūpono, ʻaʻohe mea e kala ai. Akā, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o nā mea - aia mau nō. Hōʻiliʻili kēlā me kēia male i ka huhū a ʻelua paha ma ke ala. Minamina, ma nā hihia he nui, keu hoʻi inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa i ka pālua kōkua kōkua, kipaku kēia mau huhū mai nā kumu o ka pilina. ʻO ke aloha kahi mea nui i ka male e ʻeha ma lalo o ke kaomi o ka ʻawahia.
No laila, ke hana hewa ʻole kāu wahine, pehea ʻo ia e lawelawe ai? Inā ua hana ʻoe i ka mea e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻokō iā ia, hana ʻo ia i ka hoʻāʻo e kala iā ʻoe?
Pono e nīnau i ka nīnau like ke pili i nā mea nui a me nā mea liʻiliʻi. ʻO ke kala maikaʻi ʻole wale nō nāu, a me kou pilina, akā no kāu wahine nō hoʻi. A, inā ua hana ʻoe i kāu ʻāpana e hoʻoponopono ai, e alakaʻi ke aloha maoli i kāu wahine e kala iā ʻoe.
Ke hāʻawi nei iā ʻoe i kahi
ʻOiai paha he ʻano kūpeʻe paha ia, ke aloha maoli nei nō i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ka hapanui o mākou, ke noi ʻia e kiʻi i ke ʻano o nā kāne pono ʻole, e noʻonoʻo i nā kāne i hoʻokaʻawale ʻole a i hoʻolilo i ko lākou manawa a pau i ka ʻakaʻaka a me ke aloha.
ʻOiai he mea nui ka manawa like no nā kāne, aia kekahi ʻaoʻao ʻeleʻele i ka hopohopo e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi pilina. He hōʻailona ia o ka hoʻopili maluhia, ʻaʻole no ke aloha maoli.
I nā pilina olakino, ulu pū nā kāne a me nā kāne. No laila, ke hopohopo ʻole e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke aloha o kāu wahine, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho - ua ʻae ʻo ia iā ʻoe e noho i kahi kanaka kaʻawale? Kākoʻo a paipai ʻo ia i kāu mau makemake pilikino a me nā makemake, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻopili iā ia? Mālama paha ʻo ia i ka kūleʻa me ʻoe inā paha he mea ia e mōhai i kekahi o kou manawa me ia?
Ke mahalo nei i nā mea laʻa i kou pilina
Aia kekahi mau laina i hiki ʻole ke hele i kēlā me kēia pilina, e aloha a i ʻole kahi ʻoihana. He mea ʻole ka ʻeha, luʻuluʻu, luʻuluʻu, a huhū paha o kekahi kanaka, aia kahi wahi i ʻae ʻole ʻia ai lākou e hoʻokomo i kā lākou negatiʻa i loko. A i ʻole, hāʻule paha ka male. No ka hapa nui o nā kāne, he infidelity, aggression, addicts, ʻehaʻeha e pili ana i nā ʻike traumatic ʻē aʻe a i ʻole insecurities.
Aia kekahi mau hihia i hiki ʻole i ka wahine ke minamina me kāna kāne, e like me ka wā anarcissist.
A ʻo nā narcissists, no ka hapa nui, hiki ʻole ke aloha maoli. Eia nō naʻe, i kēlā me kēia hihia, ʻaʻole e mahalo i kēia mau kapu kapu e hōʻike ana i ke aloha o ka wahine iā ia iho ma mua o kāna kāne.