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- 1. ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia - mai hoʻāʻo e kāpae
- 2. Ke hāʻawi ʻole mākou i ka ʻae i ka wahine e loli
- 3. Ka nele o ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea e ālai ai i ka ulu ʻana
- 4. ʻAʻole makemake mākou i kekahi o nā loli
- 5. E ʻae i kāu wahine e ulu i loko o ke kanaka a lākou e koho ai
- E kuhikuhi i ka pōʻino hiki a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi hoʻolālā o ka hana
"Ua loli ʻoe!" - I ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, lohe wau i nā kāne he nui e haʻi ana ua loli kā lākou wahine ma hope o ka male.
Lohe nui wau i kā lākou wehewehe ʻana a kūkākūkā ʻana i kā lākou kāne a lākou i manaʻo ai ʻaʻole ia he kanaka like nāna ka lā a lākou i ʻōlelo ai: "Hana wau!" Ma hope o ka hoʻopiʻi ʻia no ka loli, ʻōlelo pinepine ka mea i hoʻopiʻi ʻia e like me, “ʻAʻole ua loli wau. ʻO wau nō ke kanaka like! ” I kekahi manawa hoʻololi hou lākou i ka hoʻopiʻi a hoʻopiʻi i kā lākou wahine i ka hewa like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻO ʻoe ka mea i hoʻololi ʻia!" ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo kāu wahine ma mua o ka loli, a pēlā pū kekahi me ʻoe. Maikaʻi kēia! Inā ua male ʻoe ma mua o kekahi mau makahiki a ʻaʻole i loli iki kahi pilikia no nā kumu he nui.
1. ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia - mai hoʻāʻo e kāpae
ʻAʻohe mea like, keu hoʻi i ka lāhui kanaka. Mai ka lā e hāpai ai mākou ke loli nei mākou i kēlā me kēia lā. Hoʻololi mākou mai kahi embryo, a laila pēpē, a laila pēpē, kamaliʻi, keiki liʻiliʻi, ʻōpio, ʻōpio, ʻōpio ʻōpio, a pēlā aku. Hoʻololi ko mākou lolo, hoʻololi i ko mākou kino, loli ko mākou kumu ʻike, hoʻololi ko mākou kumu mākau, kā mākou makemake a makemake ʻole i ka loli, a loli hoʻi kā mākou maʻamau.
Hiki ke hele i kēia papa inoa o nā loli mau no nā ʻaoʻao.Wahi a ka manaʻo o Erik Erikson ʻaʻole wale mākou e hoʻololi biologically, akā ʻo ko mākou hopohopo, nā pilikia o ke ola, a me nā mea nui i hoʻololi ʻia i kēlā me kēia manawa a me kēlā me kēia wā o ke ola. Inā mākou e hoʻololi mau nei mai ka hapai ʻana, no ke aha e hoʻokū koke ai i ka lā a mākou e male ai?
No kekahi kumu ʻano ʻē, manaʻo mākou i ka loli e kū i ka manawa a kā mākou wahine e hoʻoholo ai makemake lākou e noho i ke koena o kā lākou mau lā me mākou. Makemake mākou e noho lākou i ke kanaka ʻo lākou ka lā a mākou i aloha ai iā lākou a mau loa me he mea lā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke aloha iā lākou i kekahi ala ʻē aʻe.
2. Ke hāʻawi ʻole mākou i ka ʻae i ka wahine e loli
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻole o ka loli i ka male ʻana kahi pilikia no ka mea ʻo ka loli pinepine kahi hōʻike o ka ulu. Manaʻo wau hiki iā mākou āpau ke ʻaelike ke ʻōlelo mākou ʻaʻole i loli, ke ʻōlelo nei mākou ʻaʻohe ulu. Ke hāʻawi ʻole mākou i ka ʻae i kā mākou wahine a mākou e haʻi nei ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae e ulu, ulu, a holomua paha.
ʻIke wau ʻaʻole maikaʻi a loli olakino paha nā loli āpau, eia nō naʻe, he ʻāpana kēia o ke ola. ʻAʻole like nā mea āpau e like me kā mākou i manaʻo ai a i makemake ai paha.
Noʻu iho, ua male au i 19 mau makahiki, a mahalo wau ʻaʻole like kekahi o mākou e like me mākou i ka wā i kūleʻa ai mākou i nā hoʻohiki i ko mākou mau makahiki 20. He poʻe nui mākou i kēlā manawa e like me mākou i kēia manawa, akā, ua hemahema mākou a nui nā mea e aʻo ai.
3. Ka nele o ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea e ālai ai i ka ulu ʻana
ʻO nā kūlana olakino ʻokoʻa a me / a i ʻole nā pilikia o ka naʻau, ka hilinaʻi ʻana o ka kemika, a i ʻole ke kū ʻana i ka ʻeha e hiki ke pale i ka ulu a me ka loli. Hiki i kahi kauka lāʻau laikini ke loiloi a me ka diagnose e hoʻoholo inā aia kekahi pilikia pilikino e pono e mālama ʻia.
4. ʻAʻole makemake mākou i kekahi o nā loli
I kēia manawa ua ʻike mākou e loli kā mākou mau wahine a pono e loli, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke kumu e paʻakikī ai ka hoʻopili ʻana i kēlā mau loli. Nui a hewahewa nā pane i kēia nīnau, akā ʻo ka pane maʻamau a nui loa ʻaʻole makemake mākou i kekahi o nā loli. Aia nā hoʻololi a mākou e ʻike ai i loko o kā mākou hoa kāne a mākou e mahalo ai a mahalo ai, a aia kekahi e ʻoluʻolu ʻole ai mākou, hoʻowahāwahā ʻia mākou.
5. E ʻae i kāu wahine e ulu i loko o ke kanaka a lākou e koho ai
Paipai wau i nā poʻe male āpau e ʻae i kā lākou mau wahine e lilo i kāne a wahine paha a lākou i manaʻo ai e koho. Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻolālā i ka lawena a i ʻole ʻano kanaka o kekahi ma mua o kāu mau hopena ponoʻī i ka huhū, ka hakakā, a me nā pilina koʻikoʻi.
Ke manaʻo ke kanaka makua inā ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou iho, hoʻohilahila wale ʻoe no ka mea aia lākou i mua o kahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, a manaʻo lākou ua hōʻole ʻia e kā lākou hoa kāne a makaʻu lākou i ka ʻike ʻana i nā ʻōuli o ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha, nā manaʻo kaumaha. , huhū, huhū, a me nā manaʻo hiki i ka hilinaʻi ʻole.
Makemake kēlā me kēia o mākou e ʻae ʻia e ko mākou mau hoa kāne a manaʻo me he mea lā ua maikaʻi lākou me ka poʻe a mākou ma mua o ka hoʻohilahila ʻia e mākou.
ʻO kahi laʻana maikaʻi kahi wahine e manaʻo nei i kāna kāne e hoʻi i ke koleke e loaʻa ai kāna kekelē no ka mea makemake ʻo ia iā ia i kahi ʻoihana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Ua aʻo maikaʻi ʻia ʻo ia, he inoa hanohano me kāna haku hana, a maopopo ʻole mau i ka nīnau ʻana o kāna mau hoapili e pili ana i ka hana a kāna kāne.
Hilahila ʻo ia i ke poʻo inoa o kāna kāne e paʻa nei me kāna luna hana. Ke hoʻomau nei ʻo ia e ʻōlelo i kāna kāne no ka hoʻomau ʻana i kāna aʻo ʻana, ʻoiai ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻohe ona makemake e hana pēlā a hauʻoli ʻo ia me kāna ʻoihana o kēia manawa. ʻO kēia ka hopena o ka huhū o kāna kāne iā ia, me he mea lā ua hilahila ʻo ia iā ia, me ka manaʻo ʻaʻole lawa, a e nīnau paha iā ia e pili ana i kāna male.
ʻO ka makemake ʻana i ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no kāu hapa maikaʻi aʻe he mea nui ia i ka male hauʻoli.
I kekahi manawa he mea nui e ʻae i kāu mea ʻoi loa no kāu wahine ʻaʻole like paha me kā lākou mea maikaʻi na lākou iho. E ʻae iā ia e lilo i poʻe a ʻae iā lākou e hauʻoli. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā kumu maikaʻi e kūkākūkā ana i nā pahuhopu ʻoihana me ka wahine e hiki mai ana ma mua o ka male ʻana he mea nui.
Hāʻawi kēia i ka manawa kūpono e hoʻoholo inā kūlike kā lākou pahuhopu ʻoihana i kāu, inā ʻaʻole, e hoʻoholo inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ola a noho pū me ka hauʻoli me nā pahuhopu ʻokoʻa a me nā wehewehe ʻana paha o ka kūleʻa.
E kuhikuhi i ka pōʻino hiki a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi hoʻolālā o ka hana
Ke hiki i nā loli e hōʻeha i ka pono pilikino a i ʻole ke olakino o ka pilina, ke kiʻina i lawe ʻia he kī i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pōʻino e hiki mai ana a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi hoʻolālā e kūleʻa a / a hoʻoponopono paha. Ke hele nei i ke kumuhana a me kāu wahine me ke aloha a me ka hoʻomaopopo ma mua o ka hōʻino a me ka huhū he mea nui.
He mea nui ka hiki i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua ke hana i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi hoʻolālā e hōʻemi i ka hōʻeha a hana pū i nā hoʻololi hou inā pono.
E hoʻoliʻiliʻi kēia ala i ka manaʻo o kekahi ʻaoʻao e like me nā hoʻololi i hana ʻia a me ka hoʻolālā e hoʻomaʻa i nā loli ke hana ʻia "iā lākou" ma mua o "me lākou."