Anter
- 1. Apo i nā hoʻololi
- 2. Mai hopohopo
- 3. E mālama i kou olakino
- 4. Pili me nā makuahine ʻē aʻe
- 5. Ke hoʻonohonoho nei i kahi maʻamau maʻamau
- 6. E hauʻoli i ka wā makua
- 7. Mai poina i kāu hoapili
He mea ʻole ka mea a nā puke makua e haʻi ai iā ʻoe a i ʻole āu e lohe ai mai nā mākua ʻē aʻe, hiki i kou makahiki mua ma ke ʻano he makua ke wehe maoli i ka maka.
E loli holoʻokoʻa kou ola - kou kino, kāu mau mea mua, kou mau pilina a pau e ulu, a ʻo ia kou makahiki mua ma ke ʻano he makua ʻaʻole hauʻoli wale akā luhi pū kekahi.
ʻO ka hoʻohui o kahi lālā o ka ʻohana kahi hanana hauʻoli, akā hiki ke kaumaha nui no nā mākua ʻelua. ʻO kou makahiki mua ma ke ʻano he makua e ʻae iā ʻoe e hoʻokō i nā nui o kāu mau hanana hoʻomohala ponoʻī i ke kaulike ʻana i nā pilikia o ka noho male, kaomi ʻana i ka hana, a me ka mea nui loa i nā papa hana hiamoe.
I ka hopena o ka makahiki mua, e ʻike ʻoe i ka paʻakikī o kēia makahiki, ka ʻoluʻolu o ka hoʻokō ʻana i kahi mea nui e waiwai ai nā mea āpau.
1. Apo i nā hoʻololi
ʻO nā mahina mua o ka makahiki mua o ka lilo ʻana o nā mākua i mea paʻakikī loa. ʻAʻole maopopo kāu papa manawa a like me ka haunaele.
ʻAʻole hiki ke hana i nā mea ma mua āu e hana ai ma mua akā nui nā mea e lilo i hiki iā ʻoe. Apo i nā loli hou a mai poina e mahalo iā ʻoe iho a me kāu hoa no ka mālama ʻana i kēia mau hoʻololi me kāu puʻupuʻu o ka hauʻoli.
2. Mai hopohopo
Mai hopohopo inā pilikia kou home a ʻaʻohe ou ikehu no ka kuke ʻana i ka ʻaina awakea. Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaha a hoʻāʻo e hana ʻole i nā mea āpau iā ʻoe iho.
ʻO ka mea nui ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me kāu pēpē.
ʻO nā mea ʻē aʻe e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e noho noʻonoʻo i nā malama mua ʻekolu - hiamoe ke hiamoe kāu pēpē.He mea nui iā ʻoe e hoʻomaha maikaʻi e mālama i ka pēpē a hana i nā hana āpau a puni ka hale.
3. E mālama i kou olakino
I ka makahiki mua o ka makua, e mālama pono i kāu papaʻai no ka mea pono ʻoe i ka ikaika e kāhea i nā hana hou aʻe. Eia kekahi, e nā makuwahine, pono ʻoe i kēlā meaʻai āpau no ka hānai ʻana i ka waiū.
Mai noho i loko o ka hale. E hele i ka pāka i ka hale kūʻai paha e hana nā mea kupaianaha i ka loli o kahi ʻikena.
ʻAe i ke kōkua mai nā hoahānau, nā hoaaloha, a i ʻole nā hoanoho. Inā makemake lākou i kahu hānai, kōkua i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe hale, a i ʻole hāʻawi i ka meaʻai, ʻae mau.
4. Pili me nā makuahine ʻē aʻe
I ka makahiki mua o ka makua, he mea kōkua inā hoʻohui ʻoe me nā makuahine a i ʻole nā makuakāne hou e like me ka mea e hōʻoluʻolu loa e kamaʻilio me nā mākua e kū like ana i nā ʻano like. Kōkua ia e ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe wale.
E kōkua pū kēia mau hana i ke kūʻē ʻana i ke ʻano o ke ʻano āu e ʻike ai. ʻOiai ʻo kēia ka manawa hauʻoli a hoʻokō loa i nā ola o nā mākua hou, he mea maʻamau ka pīhoihoi, uē, a kaumaha.
Hōʻike ka noiʻi ʻo 'blues pēpē,' i kumu ʻia no ka hōʻemi ʻana i nā pae estrogen, hiki ke hoʻopili iā 50% o nā wahine i kekahi mau lā ma hope o ka hānau ʻana.
Eia nō naʻe, nalo kēia mau blues i hoʻokahi mahina ma hope o ka hānau ʻana inā hānai ʻoe. Kōkua ka hānai ʻana i ka hānai i nā hopena o nā loli hormonal.
5. Ke hoʻonohonoho nei i kahi maʻamau maʻamau
I ka manawa ʻeono mau makahiki o ka pēpē, hoʻi hou nā wahine he nui i kā lākou mau hana a i ʻole ka ʻimi ʻana i waho i ka honua maoli ma ka hele ʻana i ka hale hoʻoikaika kino a hoʻokō i nā kuleana ʻē aʻe.
He mea nui ia e ʻike i kahi mālama mālama lā maikaʻi inā hana ʻoe i ka manawa holoʻokoʻa. Ke māʻona ʻoe i kāu kahu hānai, hiki iā ʻoe ke maʻalahi i kāu hana ma ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi manawa maʻalahi a māmā paha. E kikoʻī me nā poʻe āpau inā makemake ʻoe e huki i kou kaumaha, e loaʻa wale ʻoe i loko o nā hola i hoʻonohonoho ʻia.
I kēia manawa ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana i nā lā lōʻihi a i ʻole lawe i nā hana keu i ʻole he palena ʻole kou manawa mai kāu pēpē.
ʻO ka mea nui loa, e mālama iā ʻoe iho ʻoiai ʻo ka hapanui o nā makuahine hana e mālama ʻole iā lākou iho. ʻAi pinepine lākou i ka hele, loaʻa ka hiamoe liʻiliʻi loa, a kākaʻikahi ka hoʻoikaika kino. Hiki ke kaumaha i kēia koʻikoʻi.
Pili ka mea like i nā makuakāne hou.
6. E hauʻoli i ka wā makua
ʻEono mahina o kāu pēpē i kēia manawa.
ʻOiai ʻo ka hapa lua o kou makahiki mua ma ke ʻano he makua hiki ke ʻoi aku ka mālie ma mua o ka hapa mua, ʻike paha ʻoe i kou poʻo e wili nei me nā loli hou i kou ola. ʻO kēia ka manawa e hoʻi i loko o ka piʻo o nā mea.
E hoʻāʻo e launa hou me nā hoaaloha āu i lohe ʻole ai i kēia mau lā no ka mea ʻo ka mālama ʻana i kēia mau pilina kūikawā hiki ke kōkua i ka hoʻonui ʻana i kou ola.
E hoʻolālā i ka manawa no nā hana āu i leʻaleʻa ai ma mua o kāu pēpē. E ʻauʻau, kū ma kāu hale kūʻai kope punahele, e kipa i ka hale hōʻikeʻike, a e heluhelu paha i kahi puke. E kōkua kēia mau mea iā ʻoe e hoʻomaha a hauʻoli.
E nānā i ka ʻlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana, ʻo Diana Eidelman e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea a kēlā me kēia makua hou e ʻike ai:
7. Mai poina i kāu hoapili
Hiki i nā makua ke lilo i mau ʻano seismic i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine.
ʻAʻole wale ʻoe e hopohopo e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana i ka manawa a me ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā diapeka ma kahi o ka hele ʻana i kahi ʻaina awakea maikaʻi, akā ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe iho i ke ʻano no ke kamaʻilio kamaʻilio ʻana, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ke aloha ʻana me kāu hoa.
I mea e ʻike ai i ka moekolohe a me ka ʻuhane e pili pū me kāu hoa, kālai i kekahi "manawa manawa". Hele i nā lā a hoʻolālā i ka moekolohe pū kekahi. Mai hopohopo e pili ana i ka lilo ʻana o ka spontaneity. E ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho me ka leʻaleʻa i ka manawa a ʻolua e noho pū ai.