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- ʻAnuʻu 1 - E hōʻoia (hōʻoia) i kāu kānalua
- Kau 2 - Ka weliweli o ka kumakaia a me ke kaumaha
- Papa 3 - Ka ʻae ʻia
- ʻOihana 4 - Ke kūkulu hou ʻana i ka pilina a hui hou me kāu kāne
Minamina, ʻike nā wahine he nui iā lākou iho i kahi kūlana o ka haʻohaʻo pehea e kala ai i kā lākou kāne no ka hoʻopunipuni a me ka wahaheʻe iā lākou. Hōʻike nā helu helu aia he nui ka hoʻopunipuni i ka male. Ma kahi o hoʻokahi o ʻekolu mau male e ʻae ai kekahi a i ʻole nā kāne ʻelua i kēlā mau lawehala. A, ʻo kēia mau helu e pono ke lawe ʻia me ka palaoa o ka paʻakai, ʻoiai ka hūnā ʻana i kahi hihia ka mea nui a nā mea hoʻopunipuni āpau. No laila, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hoʻāʻo ana pehea e pau ai i ka pili pono ʻole o kāu kāne. Eia pehea e hele ai ke kaʻina hana hoʻōla, a pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua.
ʻAnuʻu 1 - E hōʻoia (hōʻoia) i kāu kānalua
ʻO ka mea e ʻike e pili ana i ka pili o kā lāua kāne e hōʻoia ia - ʻaʻohe mea e like me "ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha". Hoʻoweliweli mau ia. He mea ʻole no ka lōʻihi o kou kanalua ʻana, ke hana nei nō hoʻi i nā kumu. Inā noho ʻo ia ma ka hana i ka lohi, ua hana ʻoe i ka mea ʻoi loa e manaʻoʻiʻo iā ia ka haku nastiest i ka honua holoʻokoʻa.
No laila, ke hōʻoia hope loa ʻoe i kāu mau makaʻu, ʻaʻole hiki i kēia ke hele i ke kahaha nui loa i kou ola holoʻokoʻa. Ua manaʻo paha ʻoe me he mea lā ua kaʻawale ka honua. A hana ʻiʻo nō. ʻO nā mea āpau āu i noʻonoʻo ai e pili ana i kou ola, kou ʻohana, kou male a me kou wā e hiki mai ana, ua nīnau ʻia i kēia manawa.
ʻO kēia ke kumu e pono ai ʻolua, a me kāu kaʻina hana o ke kala ʻana, e noho i lalo a kālailai i ka mea i hana ʻia. E paʻakikī ana ʻolua. Iā ia e nānā ai i ka ʻeha āna i hana ai. No ʻoe e hoʻolohe ai i kāna mea i hana ai. Lohe paha ʻoe i nā mea āu e makemake ʻole ai e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēia manawa. Akā, ke ʻike koke ʻoe i nā kumu a pehea pehea ia, ʻo ka hiki koke iā ʻoe ke neʻe i kahi pae aʻe.
Kau 2 - Ka weliweli o ka kumakaia a me ke kaumaha
Ma hope o kou hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea i hana maoli ʻia i kāu male ʻana a ma waho o ia mea, e paʻi ʻoe i ka wā e kaumaha ai. Ua eo ʻoe i kekahi mea. Ua ʻaihue ʻia ʻoe i kāu ʻike o kou ola, kāu kāne, a me kou wā e hiki mai ana. ʻAʻole e like hou nā mea. A ʻo ia ʻike e pono ʻoe e lawe i ka manawa e kanikau ai.
Pehea e loaʻa ai i kēia pae me ka kūleʻa, a me ka wikiwiki? Ma ka ʻike ʻana, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe i noi no ia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāu male ma hope o ka hihia. ʻAʻole wale ia ka hopena o ka pilina, hiki iā ia ke hoʻololi iā ia i mea hou aʻoi aku ka ikaika. ʻOiai ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e manaʻoʻiʻo i kēia manawa i kēia manawa, nui nā male i hiki ke holomua ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole o ke kāne.
Akā, no kēia manawa, e kia i kou mau naʻau. Mai hakakā me lākou mai hoʻāʻo e hōʻalo a hōʻole paha i ka ʻeha. Mai kāohi iā ʻoe iho i ka ikaika a me ka hoʻopau koke ʻana i ka hihia. He kuleana kou e kūmākena i kou nalo ʻana, a e hana ia no ka lōʻihi e pono ai ʻoe. Mai makaʻu i kou mau naʻau, e holo i nāhelehele, i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻōla i ka wā i pili aku ai ʻoe me lākou āpau.
Papa 3 - Ka ʻae ʻia
Ma hope o kou hele ʻana i loko o ka pīhoihoi mua a me ka huhū e hele pū ana me ia, a ma hope o kou lilo ʻana i kahi manawa kūpono e kanikau ai no ka make o kāu male e like me kāu e ʻike ai, ʻo ka manawa kēia e ulu ai i waho o kēia mau manaʻo. Ke holo ʻolua i waho o ka haunaele o ka traumatic ʻike, e hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i kahi wā mālie o ka ʻae ʻia.
ʻAʻole ʻae ka ʻae, ka hōʻole ʻana i ke koʻikoʻi o ka mea i hana ʻia. ʻAʻole ʻoe e manaʻo ʻia e ʻōlelo ua maikaʻi. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻae i ka ʻeha a me ka wahaheʻe ʻana ka mea maʻamau. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē. Ke ʻike nei ia i nā kumu i hiki ai a aʻo mai ia mea.
I kēia manawa, ma kaʻae ʻana i ka hihia, nā kumu a me nā hopena, ʻae pū ʻoe ke hele nei ʻoe i kahi ala hou. Kūpikipiki kēia ala i ka wā mua, ʻoiai ʻoe e noho i nā ʻano hou. E ʻae ʻoe i kāu male ma mua o ka maikaʻi ʻole o ka hihia. E aʻo pū ʻoe e ʻike ma o nā maka a kāu kāne. ʻO ia wale nō ke ala e hiki ai ke kala iā ia.
ʻOihana 4 - Ke kūkulu hou ʻana i ka pilina a hui hou me kāu kāne
I ka hopena, ma hope o kou ʻae ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kāu pili, a me ke kuanaʻike a kāu kāne (ʻo ia pū paha me kāu mau hemahema ponoʻī), aia ʻoe i kēia manawa i kahi ala i kahi pili hou, ikaika, aniani moakaka, a me ka hohonu. E aloha hou ʻoe, i kēia manawa wale nō me kahi kāne āu e ʻike ai a ʻike pono ai.