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ʻOkoʻa loa ke au o kēia lā mai ko mākou mau kūpuna. Noho mākou i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni sci-fi (a i ʻole nā puke ʻoka, ma kahi) o kēlā manawa. ʻO ka hapa nui o kā mākou ʻike i kēlā me kēia lā ʻaʻohe mea e like me ka manaʻo o kā mākou kupuna kāne a me ko mākou tūtunahine. ʻO nā holomua ʻenehana i kumu ʻokoʻa i kā mākou mau pilina. ʻO nā ʻano o nā pilina e maʻamau i kēia lā inā ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo ʻia. ʻOiai ʻo ka male kuʻuna i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole like iki me ka mea maʻa mau i kēlā manawa. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i hāʻawi ʻia i kou mau kūpuna ʻaʻole hiki i ka ʻelemakule.
ʻO ka mahele o ka hana a me ke kālā
I nā lā i ko mākou mau kūpuna (a ʻo ko lākou mau mākua hoʻi) ʻōpio, ʻo ka mea maʻamau ka hana a ke kāne a no ka wahine e mālama i ka ʻohana a me nā keiki. A i ʻole, inā e hana ana ka wahine, ʻano like nā hana i hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hoʻokokoke i ka mea a ke kāne e loaʻa nei. ʻO ka mahele o ka hana a me ke kālā ua maopopo.
Ma ka haʻi ʻana o kahi hoʻonohonoho like i kahi kāne hou (ʻoiai ʻo nā wahine, ʻoiaʻiʻo), ʻo ka hapanui o ka manaʻo o nā kānaka e walaʻau NO. Eia nō naʻe, hiki ke hoʻonohonoho ʻia kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kū pono i ko mākou au, no ka mea, hoʻokumu ʻia ia ma ke kumu o ke kaulike - inā ʻaʻole ʻike ʻia pēlā. No ke aha? Paipai ia i nā ʻāpana ʻelua i kā lākou kuleana a me nā kuleana a laila i kaumaha ʻole ai kekahi. A he mea maikaʻi kēia.
Sʻo, i kāu male o kēia manawa, mai paʻa i ka hana a nā "wahine" a me nā "kāne". Akā, e noʻonoʻo i ka mea e loaʻa ka manawa manawaleʻa a me ka ikehu, a hoʻokaʻawale i kāu kuleana e like me kēlā.
Eia kekahi, inā lawe kekahi i kālā hou aʻe i loko o ka hale, maikaʻi no nā mea ʻē aʻe e loaʻa nā ala e hāʻawi like ai ma ka couponing, a i ʻole ma ka hana ʻana i nā meaʻai i hana ʻia e ka home, e laʻa me.
Koho i kāu mau kaua
I ka wā kahiko, hōʻike ʻia kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka wahine e noʻonoʻo pono a, e hakakā paha kekahi, hoʻolohe haʻahaʻa. I ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, ke ʻohi ʻana i nā kaua o kekahi no ka wahine ʻaʻole e hoʻomaka i kekahi kūkā kamaʻilio ʻole i koʻikoʻi nui iā ia a i ʻole hiki ʻole iā ia ke lanakila (lokomaikaʻi, ʻoiaʻiʻo). ʻAʻole kēia ke ʻano o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kēia mau lā.
Eia nō naʻe, pono ʻoe e ʻohi i kāu mau kaua i ka male. Hana ka lolo kanaka i kahi ʻano e kuhikuhi i kā mākou kia i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. Ke noho nei mākou me kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, e nui ana nā mea maikaʻi ʻole (maʻamau ka liʻiliʻi) i kēlā me kēia lā. Inā hoʻoholo mākou e ʻae i ko mākou manaʻo e noʻonoʻo i kēlā, e hala mākou i ka hapalua o kā mākou male.
No laila, i ka manawa aʻe e hopu ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i nā mea āpau a kāu kāne a wahine ʻole i hana maikaʻi ʻole ai, e hoʻāʻo a hoʻōki i kou noʻonoʻo mai ka hoʻohuli ʻana i kāu pilina i mea loaʻa nāwaliwali no kāu wahine. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu o kou male ʻana i ke kanaka.
A i ʻole, inā ʻoe e pono i kahi hoʻoikaika kino noʻonoʻo nui aʻe, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe ua hala mau loa lākou a maʻi maʻi paha. ʻAʻole ʻoe e nānā inā lākou e haki i ka wahi āpau ke ʻai lākou i kā lākou toast. No laila, e noho i kēlā me kēia lā me kahi noʻonoʻo e hana i ka pilina maoli.
Nā mea liʻiliʻi e helu
Ma ke ala like, i poina iā mākou e ʻike i nā ʻaoʻao maikaʻi o kā mākou hoa ola, makemake mākou e nānā ʻole i ke koʻikoʻi o nā mea liʻiliʻi i ka male. Nā hana liʻiliʻi o ka lokomaikaʻi a me nā ʻōuli e hōʻike ana i ko mākou mālama nui ʻana iā lākou. ʻO ka poʻe male e haʻalele iā lākou iho i nā kuleana he nui, ka ʻoihana, ka palekana kālā. Lawe wale mākou i kā mākou hoa kāne.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻeha kā mākou mau pilina inā mākou e mālama iā lākou ma ke ʻano he lako. Ua like lākou me nā mea kanu makamae e pono ai ka mālama mau.
I ka wā kahiko, e hōʻoia nā kāne e lawe i nā pua a kā lākou wahine a kūʻai aku i nā makana na lākou i kēlā me kēia manawa. A hana nā wahine i ka pāʻina punahele a kā lākou kāne a i ʻole hoʻonohonoho i kā lākou mau lā hānau. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēlā, a me nā ʻano hana liʻiliʻi ʻē aʻe e hōʻike i kou mahalo i kēlā me kēia lā.
E akahai a kaulike hoʻi
ʻO ke akahai e like me ka hōʻino i nā kāne o kēia au a keu hoʻi nā wahine. Kani kani ia, a hoʻāla i kahi kiʻi o ka wahine hoʻolohe, pale a hoʻomāinoino ʻia. Mai hāʻule i loko o kēia kuhihewa a hōʻole i nā ʻōlelo aʻo waiwai ma muli o kēia kuhi hewa.
ʻAʻole kūlike ka haʻahaʻa.
I ka male ʻana, pono nā kāne a me nā wahine e hoʻāʻo a hoʻomalu ʻia e kekahi mau loina palena ʻole. ʻO kēia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, pololei pololei, a me ka lokomaikaʻi. A inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a me kāu wahine i nā manawa āpau a hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka akahai i nā mea āpau āu e hana ai, ʻike ʻole ʻoe e lilo ʻoe i haʻahaʻa a unpretentious. A he pono kēia, ʻaʻole kahi maikaʻi ʻole.