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"ʻO nā leka uila ka lipstick hou ma ke kola, ka bila kāleka hōʻaiʻē mislaid. ʻO ka wikiwiki a me he mea lā maʻamau ʻole, hiki iā lākou ke hōʻoia i kahi hihia hilahila ", i ʻōlelo ʻo Laura Holson i ka makahiki 2009. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ʻike i kēlā manawa i ka nui o ka ʻenehana e holo i mua i nā makahiki he umi e hiki mai ana. Ua hana ka ʻenehana i ke koho; ʻaʻole kapu ʻia ka poʻe i ke kamaʻilio pū ʻana me ka poʻe a lākou e ʻike a hui aku paha e pili ana. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ʻenehana i ka hoʻopunipuni wale nō, ua hoʻololi i ke ala a mākou e noʻonoʻo ai i ka mea e hoʻopunipuni nei a maʻalahi hoʻi e ʻike i kahi kumakaia. ʻAʻole kau palena ʻia ka moekolohe i ka pili kino a i ʻole ka naʻau; ke hoʻonui nei kona wehewehe ʻana a he loli hoʻi mai kekahi kanaka a i kekahi ʻē aʻe: ʻae ʻia kahi kaula o nā leka i kahi malihini i kahi kanaka, a ʻo kahi swipe hoʻokahi ma kahi polokalamu hoʻowalewale hiki ke lilo i mea haʻihaʻi i kekahi.
ʻO ka hihia hou
I kēia mau lā aia he helu palena ʻole o nā papa hana leka e hiki ai ke hoʻohui me kahi malihini a i ʻole lapalapa kahiko i kahi manawa koke, inoa ʻole a i ʻole i kahi huna. Snapchatting, Facebook leka uila, Tinder swiping, Instagram direct-messaging, Whatsapping ... e inoa akā he kakaikahi. ʻO ke ʻano stereotype o ka hana leʻaleʻa ma waena o ka ʻoihana ikaika kiʻekiʻe a me kāna kākau ʻōlelo i hāʻawi ʻia i ka "Tinder urusan", ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hūnā ma mua o ka dalliance o ke keʻena.
Swiping pono
Ua hāʻawi ʻenehana i ke kaiāulu ke komo manuahi i ka ʻikepili a me ka manaʻo, e ʻaʻa ana i ka poʻe e noʻonoʻo ʻokoʻa a wehewehe i kā lākou pono ponoʻī. ʻAʻole he wehewehe maʻalahi o ka infidelity, ma ka liʻiliʻi no kekahi. No ka hapanui, ʻo ka infidelity ka kumakaia o ka hilinaʻi. Ke māhuahua nei ka like ʻole o ka manaʻo o ka poʻe ma ke ʻano he hoʻopunipuni, a hiki i kēia ke loli no kēlā me kēia kāne a me kēlā me kēia kanaka i kēlā kāne. I kahi ana i mālama ʻia e Slater lāua ʻo Gordon, 46% o nā kāne a me 21% o nā wahine i ʻae i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā polokalamu aloha i ka wā e pili ana, me ka luhi i ʻōlelo ʻia ma ke kumu nui. Me he mea lā ma ka laulā, manaʻo ka hapanui o mākou i ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā polokalamu pili i ka wā e hoʻopunipuni ʻia ana (80% o nā mea i nīnau ʻia), akā ua hele a 10% e ʻōlelo ana he hoʻopunipuni wale nō kā lākou hoʻohana inā alakaʻi ia i pili kino.
Kūʻai pūnaewele
Palekana ia e ʻōlelo aku ua holoi ʻia nā kuʻuna kuʻuna o ka male no kekahi mau lālā o ka lehulehu. ʻO Ashley Madison, kahi lawelawe pili aloha e pili ana i nā mea pili i ka pilina a me ka male (a nona ka huaʻōlelo ma mua "Pokole ke ola: Hana i kahi hihia"), ke kaena nei ma kahi o 52 miliona mau mea hoʻohana mai ka manawa i hoʻokumu ʻia ai i ka makahiki 2002. Noel Biderman, kona mea hoʻokumu, ua hakakā hou i ka hoʻohewa, e ʻōlelo ana ua kōkua nui ʻo Ashley Madison i ka poʻe i nā hihia i nā ala e hōʻemi iki ai i ke kaiāulu a ma waho o ka hana. A me ka nānā ʻole, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia "ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka infidelity ma mua o Ashley Madison". Akā i ka makahiki i kau ʻia nā mea āpau ma ka pūnaewele i kekahi ʻano, hiki paha ke noho inoa ʻole a hūnā i nā hana? ʻAʻole maopopo. Ua hacked ka pūnaewele 'maʻalea' i ka 2015, a ua hopena i nā kikoʻī o ka waihona o 32 miliona mau mea hoʻohana i kau ʻia ma ka pūnaewele pouli a hōʻike i nā hana huna a nā miliona o ka poʻe i male.
Nā ʻano o ka loaʻa ʻana
Akā ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu ka ʻenehana i ka poʻe makemake e ʻimi i kā lākou koho; Haʻalele kēlā me kēia leka, kiʻi, a me nā polokalamu i kahi kuhi, ʻoiai ma hope o ka holoi ʻia. Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i nā hoa e hōʻike i nā ʻike makemake ʻole ʻia e ka ulia. A i ʻole kahi e hoʻololi ai i ka lawena, mai ka wā "hana lohi" i ke kelepona i ka ʻauʻau, ua hoʻomaopopo i nā hoa kānalua, hāʻawi ka pūnaewele i nā ala he nui e hoʻokolokolo ai. Aia kekahi mau hanana koʻikoʻi e like me ka wahine i ʻike i kāna kāne e hoʻopunipuni ana i kona wā i ʻike ai iā ia ma ka home o kona haku wahine ma Google Maps, a ʻo ka mea i ʻike pinepine ʻia e hōʻike ana i ka mahalo i kahi leka Instagram i kau ʻia a i ʻole kahi leka uila e uila ana ma ke kelepona. ʻAʻole wale ka maʻalahi o ka wehe ʻana i ka hihia, he pāʻani na ke keiki e ʻike i ka inoa o ka mea ʻē aʻe a kahi kaomi wale nō e ʻike i nā ʻike ʻē aʻe a lākou e hōʻike ai i ka honua ma o ka pāpili kaiaulu.
Nā lālani 'ōliʻuliʻu
Noho mākou i kēia manawa i kahi kaiāulu e ola nei a kamaʻilio pū ma ka pūnaewele. Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke kali i nā mea, nā kiʻi, a i ʻole nā memo maikaʻi ʻole e mālama pilikino ʻia ke hoʻolaha hoʻolaha mākou i ka hapa nui o ko mākou ola? Hoʻokomo ʻia ka moekolohe i kā mākou kelepona ʻaʻole hiki ke holoi ʻia a poina wale ʻia. Ua loli ka wehewehe ʻana o ka moekolohe no nā mea he nui, blur nā laina. Nui aʻe nā ala i kēia manawa e hoʻopunipuni ai, a i ʻole, hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia i nā manawa pūnaewele i kēia manawa. ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki ke haʻi inā he nui aku nā hihia i kēia manawa, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hōʻike ʻana i ka pili ʻole o ka hoa. Maʻalahi loa paha e ʻimi i nā koho ʻē aʻe i kēia au ʻenehana.
ʻO Kate Williams
He loio līkī ʻo Kate Williams ma ka ʻohana kiʻekiʻe a me ka loio loio matrimonial ʻo Vardags nāna i loea i ka waiwai nui, nā hihia paʻakikī a me nā hihia kūwaho.