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- He aha ka mea i loli ʻole
- 1. E kūpaʻa mau ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi
- 2. Pono ʻoe e hānai a hoʻomākaukau i kāu keiki, ʻaʻole pale iā lākou
- 3. ʻO kāu hana e aʻo iā lākou i ka maikaʻi a me ka hewa
- Nā kuleana male o kahi ʻohana hou
- 1. E hoʻokaʻawale i nā moʻohelu kālā nona, ʻo ia, a me ka ʻohana
- 2. E ʻike me ka manawa hoʻokahi
- 3. Hoʻopiha i nā moemoeā o kekahi i kekahi
- 4. Hana pū i nā hana o ka hale
- ʻO ka male ka mea e pili ana i ka kaʻana like i kou ola a me nā kuleana āpau
Aia kekahi manawa aia kahi laina maopopo ma waena o nā kuleana male o nā kāne. Lawe ke kāne i ka home i ka bacon, hoʻonele ka wahine iā ia, kuke iā ia, hoʻonohonoho i ka pākaukau, hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka papa, holoi i nā pā, a pēlā aku.
Ok, he laʻana wale nō ia, akā loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manaʻo.
I kēia lā, ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o nā mea i manaʻo ʻia no nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. Manaʻo ʻia e hānai i kahi ʻano ʻoi aku o ka pili a me ka hana pū ʻana ma waena o ka ʻohana. Manaʻo mākou e hoʻomāmā i ka ukana kuʻuna i kau ʻia ma nā ʻohana.
Akā ʻo ia ka mea e hana maoli nei?
Maliʻa paha ʻaʻole paha. Akā inā ʻoe e noho ana (a i ʻole makemake ʻoe e ola) i kahi hanana ʻohana o kēia ao, a laila eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻo no ka male ʻana e pono ai.
He aha ka mea i loli ʻole
Nui a hewahewa nā mea i ulu i ka ikaika o ka ʻohana i loko o ka honua urbanized o kēia ao. Akā aia kekahi mau mea i ʻole. E kūkākūkā mākou i kēlā mau mea.
1. E kūpaʻa mau ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi
ʻOiai ʻo ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e hana nui nei e hoʻolilo manawa pū ma muli o kāu ʻoihana koi, ʻaʻole ia he kumu e hoʻopunipuni ai iā lākou.
2. Pono ʻoe e hānai a hoʻomākaukau i kāu keiki, ʻaʻole pale iā lākou
ʻAʻole ʻoe e pale iā lākou, no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe.
ʻAʻole hiki ke ʻike i ka hana a kāu keiki, ma hea lākou, ʻo wai lākou me lākou, i ka lōʻihi o 24/7/365 no ko lākou koena o ko lākou ola.
He aha inā ua make ʻoe? Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pale iā lākou 100% o ka manawa āu me ʻoe, a laila hiki i kekahi mea maikaʻi ke hana ʻole inā ʻoe ma laila. ʻO ke ala wale nō e hana ai ia e aʻo iā lākou e pale iā lākou iho.
3. ʻO kāu hana e aʻo iā lākou i ka maikaʻi a me ka hewa
E hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā lākou e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope o lākou iho, a i ʻole pale i ka hana hewa ʻana i ka mua. ʻO ia wale nō ke ala e hiki ai ma laila (ma ka liʻiliʻi o ka ʻuhane) e pale aku iā lākou a mau loa aku.
Nā kuleana male o kahi ʻohana hou
Manaʻo ʻia ʻo nā mākua hoʻokahi, ʻo kēlā mau mea i male ʻia akā hoʻokaʻawale ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokō i kā lākou mau hana male.
Akā no nā mea āpau ʻē aʻe i male a hoʻomaopopo i ka "He aha ka mea i loli ʻole." ʻāpana, eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kiʻi i kāu mana hou o kahi male e like me ka mīkini aila maikaʻi.
1. E hoʻokaʻawale i nā moʻohelu kālā nona, ʻo ia, a me ka ʻohana
E like me ka ʻAhaʻōlelo, ke moʻohelu kālā ʻana a me ka helu ʻana i ka nui o kā mākou makemake e uku iā mākou iho kahi ʻoihana paʻakikī.
ʻO ka mea mua, hana ia i kēlā me kēia mahina a i ʻole pule e pili ana i ka manawa āu e nānā ai i kāu kālā. ʻO kahi laʻana, hana ka poʻe ʻoihana i kēlā me kēia mahina a uku ʻia ka hapa nui o ka poʻe hana i kēlā me kēia pule. Hoʻololi nā mea, no laila pono e kūkākūkā i kēlā me kēia manawa.
Inā kūpaʻa nā mea āpau, a laila he 10 mau minuke wale nō ke kūkā kamaʻilio kālā ʻana. Hiki i kekahi ke mālama i nā minuke he 10 i ka pule e kamaʻilio me kāna wahine, ʻeā?
Eia ke kauoha o ka mea e pono ai -
- Hoʻohui i kāu loaʻa kālā hoʻolilo (ʻOhana kālā).
- Ka hoʻolawe hana hāʻawi (nā kumukūʻai halihali, nā meaʻai, a pēlā aku)
- E hōʻemi i nā lilo o ka home (Nā Pono, ʻInikua, Mea ʻai, a pēlā aku)
- E waiho i kahi nui nui (ma ka liʻiliʻi 50%) ma ke ʻano he mālama kālā
- E hoʻokaʻawale i ke koena no nā Luxury pilikino (Beer, Budget budget a pēlā aku)
Kēia ala ʻaʻole e namunamu kekahi mau kāne inā kūʻai kekahi i kahi Kalepa Golf maikaʻi a i ʻole kahi ʻeke Louis Vuitton. He mea ʻole ka mea e loaʻa hou aʻe, inā e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā pono pilikino me ka ʻae ma mua o ka lilo.
ʻOi aku ka mea nui o ka ʻāpana hana ma mua o nā pono hana no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke noho me ka uila ʻole ma ka home, akā inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke uku i ke alaloa o ke kaʻaahi e hele i ka hana a laila hoʻohewa ʻoe.
2. E ʻike me ka manawa hoʻokahi
Ma muli wale o ka manaʻo e noho ka poʻe i ka wā e male ai lākou, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e haʻalele lākou i ka pili aloha ʻana. Mai hoʻokuʻu i kahi mahina holoʻokoʻa me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni (ʻoiai ma ka home) me ʻoe wale nō a me kāu wahine.
E kiʻi i kahi kahu hānai a haʻalele paha i nā keiki me nā ʻohana inā pono ʻoe e haʻalele i ka hale. ʻO kekahi manawa ke hoʻolilo nei i kekahi mau hola wale nō mai nā mea āpau e hana i nā mea kupanaha no kou olakino noʻonoʻo a hoʻomaikaʻi i kou pilina.
3. Hoʻopiha i nā moemoeā o kekahi i kekahi
Ua hana paha kēia mau mea i ka wahine no ka manawa lōʻihi, akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e haʻalele i ka hana ʻana ma hope o kāu male ʻana. E mālama i kou kino i ke kūlana maikaʻi ma o ka hoʻoikaika kino ʻana a me ka ʻai ʻana.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole pili ka moekolohe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, e like me ʻekolu a me nā gangbang, a laila hele e hana. Roleplay me nā lole inā pono ʻoe, akā mai poina e hoʻomākaukau i kahi huaʻōlelo palekana.
ʻO ka moekolohe ʻana me ka mea like no nā makahiki he hiki ke hōʻeleu a luhi hoʻi.
ʻO ka hope, e manaʻo ia e like me ka "chore duty" ma mua o kahi mea leʻaleʻa. Hoʻokumu ia i nā māwae i ka pilina a hiki ke alakaʻi i ka infidelity. ʻOiai ua paʻa mua ʻoe i hoʻokahi kanaka, hana i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke pīni iā ia. Ma waho aʻe, ʻo kāu mau koho e hele adventurous me kou ola wahine a i ʻole hope haki.
4. Hana pū i nā hana o ka hale
Nui nā kahe o ka loaʻa kālā ma nā ʻohana o kēia ao.
Hahai ʻia e kaʻana like ʻia nā hana o ka hale ma ke ala like. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e hana pū iā lākou āpau, ʻoi aku ka leʻaleʻa a hoʻonui i ka pilina. Hoʻomaʻemaʻe pū, kuke pū, a holoi pū i nā pā. Hoʻopili i nā keiki i ka wā e hiki ai iā lākou ke hana.
Maopopo ia e uē a nui ka nui o nā keiki e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i nā hana. E wehewehe iā lākou e hana lākou i ko lākou ola āpau e like me kāu e hana ai i kēia manawa. E aʻo pehea e hana ai i ka wanaʻao a me ka maikaʻi e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka manawa hou ke neʻe lākou.
Ma kēlā ala ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolilo i kā lākou mau kula nui i ka hopena pule e hoʻāʻo ana pehea e hao ai i ko lākou lole ponoʻī.
ʻO ka male ka mea e pili ana i ka kaʻana like i kou ola a me nā kuleana āpau
O ia wale nō. ʻAʻole nui, a ʻaʻole ia he papa inoa paʻakikī. ʻO ka male e pili ana i ka kaʻana like ʻana i kou ola, a ʻaʻole ia he ʻōlelo metaphorical. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kou puʻuwai, kino, (koe wale nō kou mau puʻupaʻa) a me kou ʻuhane i kekahi.
Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kāu kālā loaʻa paʻakikī a me ka manawa kaupalena me lākou e kūkulu i kahi wā e hiki mai ana me kahi wā hoʻomanaʻo ʻole.
ʻO nā kuleana o ka male ʻana ua hālāwai ʻoe me kekahi e makemake e kōkua iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia ʻano o kou ola. E hana lākou no ka mea aloha lākou iā ʻoe a mālama iā ʻoe. Akā ʻo ka ʻāpana nui ʻaʻole e manaʻo ana e hiki mai ia, akā e hana ana ia no ke kanaka āu i koho ai e aloha a mālama hoʻi.