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- 1. Hiki ke hoʻomaka ʻia ka kānalua ma ke ʻano he pane i kahi mea maʻamau ʻole.
- 2. Hiki ke kānalua mai ke koʻikoʻi a me ka kakali.
- 3. Hiki i ka kānalua ke hūnā i kāu makaʻu maoli.
- 4. Hiki ke kānalua i nā ʻike i hala.
- 5. ʻO nā kānalua i manaʻo ʻia ma luna o ka hoa hiki ke kānalua iā ia iho.
- Pehea e lanakila ai i ka kānalua i ka pilina
Me ka hoʻonui mau ʻana o ka helu male male ma ka honua holoʻokoʻa, pono e noʻonoʻo kekahi ʻaʻohe aloha mau a i ʻole he hoa ʻuhane ma laila no ʻoe. Akā he aha inā hewa ʻoe a aia kekahi mau kumu e kū ʻole ai ka male.
'Pili kānalua ka pilina' kekahi kumu kumu no ka male a i ʻole kekahi pilina, no ka mea, hoʻomaka e hāʻule i ka mua.
Mai ke kānalua ʻana i ka manaʻo maoli o kāu hoa no ka noho pū ʻana me ʻoe i ka kānalua inā ua wahaheʻe a hoʻopunipuni paha lākou, ua make ka manaʻo kānalua i ka nui o nā pilina ma mua o ka lawe ʻana iā lākou a hiki i kahi o ka male.
Inā manaʻo ʻole ʻoe e pili ana i kahi pilina, eia ke kūkākūkā ʻia he ʻewalu mau kumu like ʻole no ka kānalua o ka pilina. Hiki i kēia mau ʻaoʻao ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana inā he kānalua a pilina paha ka mea kānalua.
1. Hiki ke hoʻomaka ʻia ka kānalua ma ke ʻano he pane i kahi mea maʻamau ʻole.
Ke hana a paʻa a paʻa i kahi pilina, hoʻomaka mākou e hoʻomaopopo i kā mākou mau hoa. Kuhi mākou i kā lākou mau pane, ʻike i kā lākou ʻano hana, a kōkua iā lākou e hele i waena o kā lākou ʻano.
Hana ʻia kēia mau mea āpau no ka mea ua maʻa mākou i ko lākou ʻano a pehea lākou he kanaka.
Eia naʻe, kahi hoʻololi iki a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka maʻa mau e nīnau ai ʻoe i kāu pili.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i ke kūleʻa ʻana i ke ʻano o ke kumu i kū ai kahi hanana.
2. Hiki ke kānalua mai ke koʻikoʻi a me ka kakali.
Mālama nā hana o ka honua iā mākou i ka lā holoʻokoʻa, a i kekahi manawa ʻo ke koʻikoʻi a mākou e lawe a puni ke kumu o nā kānalua i kā mākou pili wahine. ʻO kēia ke kumu e mālama pono ai mākou i kā mākou ola ʻoihana mai kā mākou mea pilikino.
Kaumaha, hopohopo, a me ka kakali ʻana mai ka hana a me nā hana ʻē aʻe hiki ke alakaʻi i nā kuhi hewa hou ʻole a pili i nā kānalua me kāu hoa a wahine paha.
E ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho ke kānalua nei i ka nānā a kāu hoa iā ʻoe. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo luhi a me ka noʻonoʻo mua e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole paha e mālama nui kāu hoa e pili ana iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole pololei ia.
3. Hiki i ka kānalua ke hūnā i kāu makaʻu maoli.
I kekahi manawa hiki i kahi hoa ke ʻano maʻamau e nīnau a kānalua i nā mea āpau.
ʻO ke kumu maoli ma hope o ke kānalua e pili ana i kāu pilina hiki ke hūnā lākou i kā lākou makaʻu a noi i kā lākou hoa e hōʻoia i ka maikaʻi o nā mea āpau.
Hiki i ka makaʻu o kāu hoa ke lilo i ka lilo ʻana iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole loaʻa ke aloha maoli, nā pilikia hilinaʻi, a i ʻole maʻalahi paha e like me ka makaʻu o ka ʻike ʻole i nā mea.
ʻO ka hopena e pale ai i kēlā ʻano kūlana a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i nā ʻano kānalua e pili ana ma mua o ka lilo ʻana i mea ʻino e ʻike kikoʻī i ka makaʻu o kāu wahine a laila mālama i kā lākou mau pono e like me ia.
4. Hiki ke kānalua i nā ʻike i hala.
Inā ʻoe i ʻike i ka male haki i kou wā kamaliʻi a i ʻole kahi ulu makua ʻana, hiki i nā ʻike traumatic ke hoʻopaʻa i kou ʻano. ʻOiai inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina ʻawahia ma mua, a laila hiki i kekahi o kāu ʻano o kāu hoa ke palaki iā ʻoe.
I kekahi manawa hoʻomaka mākou e hana e like me kā mākou mau hoa ma ke ʻano he ʻano pale e hoʻomaopopo pono i kā lākou kuanaʻike a hana pū me lākou e like me.
No laila, hiki ke kānalua i kāu mau ʻike inā hana me nā hanana i waiho i ka hopena mau loa i kou noʻonoʻo e kānalua ai ʻoe i ka maikaʻi o kāu pilina.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana e ʻae a mahalo i ka mea maikaʻi hiki ke kōkua i ka pale ʻana i kahi ʻano kānalua a hana maoli ia i mea pono ma mua o ka lāʻau ʻona.
5. ʻO nā kānalua i manaʻo ʻia ma luna o ka hoa hiki ke kānalua iā ia iho.
I nā manawa pinepine a kānalua nā hoa i ka mea like i kā lākou mea nui ʻē aʻe i kānalua ai no lākou iho. Hiki ke kau ʻia mai ka hānai ʻana i kā lākou insecurities i ka nīnau ʻana ko lākou pono ponoʻī i nā maka o kā lākou hoa.
ʻO nā kānalua pili pili ka mea paʻakikī i ka noho ʻana me kahi kanaka e hoʻokau mau nei iā ʻoe a puni, e hoʻopiʻi iā ʻoe no nā mea āu i hana ʻole ai, a hiki ke kaohi pono i kou ola.
I ke kūlana maikaʻi loa, hiki i kēlā mau pilina ke alakaʻi i ka hōʻino, kahi e pono mua ai i kou palekana.
Pehea e lanakila ai i ka kānalua i ka pilina
I kēia manawa ua ʻike mākou i kekahi o nā kumu aniani no ka kānalua i ka pilina, hāʻawi ʻia kēia mau mea i kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kāpae i kēia mau kānalua pili pilina.
1. Pono e hōʻike i nā kānalua ma kahi o ke alakaʻi ʻana
ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e lanakila ai i nā ʻano kānalua i ka pilina e kamaʻilio ʻia.
ʻO nā kānalua, ka makaʻu, ke kuhi hewa ʻole, a me ka hilahila ʻole e hiki ke haʻi ʻia e hoʻopau ʻia e like me ka mea i loaʻa ʻole. Inā paʻakikī e alo i kāu hoa pili e pili ana i kahi mea e hoʻonāukiuki nei iā ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i kahi kōkua essay e kākau i lalo i kou mau manaʻo a heluhelu i kāu pakanā e ʻike pehea lākou e pane ai.
ʻO kahi hoa makemake e hana iā ia e mahalo mau i kou mau manaʻo.
2. Pono e hoʻokaʻawale i nā kānalua mai nā instincts a me nā ʻōpū
I kekahi manawa kuhi mākou i kā mākou pilina i nā kānalua ma ke ʻano he manaʻo instinctive a ʻōpū paha. ʻIke i ka ʻokoʻa he mea nui ia no ka mea kahi hiki i kāu ʻōpū puʻuwai ke pono, pono ʻole ka kānalua.
He maikaʻi ʻole ke ʻano pili e pili ana i ka kānalua kahi āu i manaʻo ai ua hewa kekahi mea, ʻoiai, me nā manaʻo ʻōpū, makemake ʻoe e hana i kahi koho aʻo e pili ana i nā mea like.
3. Mai ʻae i nā kānalua e sabotage i kou pilina.
ʻO nā kānalua i ke ʻano o ka skepticism ʻoihana i kahi wahi hana hiki ke olakino akā ʻaʻole loa i kou ola pilikino. Hiki i nā kānalua ka pilina ke sabotage i kāu hoʻopaʻa.
ʻO ka nīnau nīnau, kānalua, hoʻolālā ʻana i kāu mau makaʻu a me kou hopohopo ʻole ma kāu pakanā nā hiʻohiʻona āpau o kekahi e ʻimi i kahi manaʻo ʻona a ʻaʻole aʻo ʻia e noho ma waho o ia.
No laila, pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka kānalua i kahi pilina?
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka maikaʻi, ʻimi i ka lāʻau, a i ʻole ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e hoʻololi i kāu manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a hoʻokuʻu iā ʻoe iho mai ka mālama ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o kou pepehi ʻana i kou pilina me kahi mea i aloha ʻia.
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Laina lalo
Ma nā mea āpau, pono i kēlā me kēia wahine e kūkulu i ka ʻike e hoʻomau i ka kānalua i ka pilina.
A inā paha lākou e kānalua i kekahi ʻano o kā lākou pili, pono koke lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea me ka waiho ʻole ʻia e noho a hōʻike i kahi mea nui aʻe.
ʻAʻohe kānalua i ka ʻōlelo ʻana he mea ʻawaʻawa ka pilina pili no ka male olakino a i ʻole kekahi pilina ʻē aʻe.