Anter
- 1. Nā pilikia kamaʻilio pilina
- 2. Hoʻohana pū ʻana i ka manawa kūpono me ka maikaʻi
- 3. ʻOihana
- 4. Pehea e makua ai i nā keiki
Aia paha iā ʻoe ma waenakonu o kahi hakakā o ka ʻohana a i ʻole nā pilikia pili pili, ʻike ʻoe hoʻokahi. akā ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā hoaaloha, ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo he nui nā pilikia ʻohana maʻamau a me nā pilikia pili i nā alo a me nā ʻohana.
He hapa ia o ke kanaka. Makau mākou, luʻuluʻu, ʻiʻini, molowa, luhi, hoʻoluhi, a mālama ʻole. I ko mākou kaʻana like ʻana i kahi me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia lā, paʻa mākou i kekahi i kekahi - me ka manaʻo maoli a me ka manaʻo.
ʻO ke kumu, ʻaʻole maikaʻi kekahi o mākou. Hana mākou āpau i nā koho i kēlā me kēia lā e pili ʻole iā mākou iho akā i ka poʻe a puni mākou. ʻO ka mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai ke aʻo ʻana pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia ʻohana a i ʻole pehea e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia ʻohana.
ʻO ka hana ʻana me nā pilikia ʻohana e pono ai ka hana. Lawe lākou i ka noʻonoʻo a koho ʻana. No laila e noʻonoʻo pehea e hiki ai ke loli i kou ola inā ʻoe e nānā i ka nui o nā pilikia pilina maʻamau a hoʻololi pehea ʻoe e hoʻokokoke ai iā lākou.
E kiʻi i kēlā mau ʻāpana o kou pilina i kumu paʻa mau o ka hakakā ma kou ʻohana. E hoʻoponopono i kēlā mau pilikia a nānā i kahi hopena kūpono.
E kōkua iā ʻoe e hele, eia kekahi mau pilikia ʻohana a me nā pilikia ʻohana a pehea e hana ai hoʻonā i nā pilikia ʻohana:
1. Nā pilikia kamaʻilio pilina
ʻAʻole anei he mea hoʻomākeʻaka i loko o kahi makahiki i hiki iā mākou ke kāhea, ka leka, ka leka uila, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, kekahi o nā pilikia maʻamau o ka pilina ka hiki ʻole ke kamaʻilio pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe?
ʻAʻohe o kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo ma ka home me kou ʻohana a me kāu wahine. I ka manawa a mākou e hoʻi ai i ka home mai kā mākou kuleana he nui mai ka home, ua luhi wale mākou. Huhū mākou. I kekahi manawa, makemake mākou e waiho wale ʻia e hoʻomaha.
ʻO nā manawa ʻē aʻe makemake mākou e hoʻopili a kamaʻilio a aloha ʻia. ʻAʻole pinepine mākou i ka lōkahi a kamaʻilio wale ʻole kekahi i kekahi. Kāohi mākou i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka hana e loaʻa ai kahi mea maʻamau e kamaʻilio ai.
Pehea mākou e hana ai i kēia āpau kamaʻilio ke kumu o nā hakakā i ka pilina? Pono ʻoe e hoʻolālā i ke kaiapuni o kou home e wehe i ke kamaʻilio. Noho pū i ka ʻaina awakea a kamaʻilio maoli.
E nīnau kekahi i kekahi e pili ana i ko lākou mau lā. E hoʻolohe maoli i nā pane. Inā huhū ʻoe e pili ana i kekahi mea, mai waiho wale i loko a paila. E hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kēlā mau ʻano mea, malia paha ma ka hālāwai ʻohana.
2. Hoʻohana pū ʻana i ka manawa kūpono me ka maikaʻi
He kumuhana paʻakikī kēia no ka mea he manaʻo like ʻole kā kēlā me kēia e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke "ʻano maikaʻi" a he aha hoʻi ka "lawa" o ka manawa e noho pū ai ma ke ʻano he kāne a me nā ʻohana.
"Noho mau mākou," e ʻōlelo paha kekahi o ka ʻohana, akā ʻaʻole manaʻo paha kekahi e like me ka noho ʻana i ka lumi like e hoʻolilo pū ana i ka manawa maikaʻi.
No laila ua hiki i ka manawa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e lawa ai ka “lawa” a me nā mea e like me ka “maikaʻi.” ʻAʻole ʻae nā mea āpau, no laila e hoʻāʻo e hui i kahi ma waena.
Ehia mau manawa e hana pū ai ʻoe i kekahi mea me ka ʻohana ma ka home, e like me nā pāʻani papa pāʻani? Ehia mau manawa e hana pū ai ʻoe i kahi mea ma waho o ka home?
Malia ma ke ʻano he kāne, ʻelua i hoʻokahi manawa ma ka lā pule e hana no ʻolua. ʻO ke kī i ka hoʻonā ʻana i nā pilikia o ka pilina e kūkākūkā me ia a hele i kahi ʻaelike ma mua o ka waiho ʻana i kahi manawa kūpono.
3. ʻOihana
Ke noho mākou me kekahi, ʻike mākou iā lākou ke luhi a i kekahi manawa mālama liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole lākou makemake e kiʻi i kā lākou mau kākini a hoʻomaʻemaʻe paha ma hope o lākou iho; malia paha ua haʻi lākou iā ʻoe e hana lākou i kekahi mea nāu, akā poina.
Nui a hewahewa nā ala a kā mākou mea aloha e hoʻokuʻu ai iā mākou i lalo. A hiki i kēlā ke alakaʻi i hoʻokahi pilikia pili pilina maʻamau: nitpicking.
"No ke aha e hiki ʻole ai iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia?" aiʻole "No ke aha ʻoe e ʻai nei i kēlā?" kekahi mau mea a mākou e ʻōlelo ʻole aku ai i kā mākou mau hoaaloha, akā no ka ʻoluʻolu loa me kā mākou wahine a me ka ʻohana, hoʻopoina mākou i kā mākou akamai.
Maʻalahi loa e ʻōlelo i kēlā mau mea. Pehea mākou e hiki ai e hoʻokuʻu i ka nitpicking e hoʻonāukiuki i ka hakakā ʻohana a me ke koʻikoʻi?
Hōʻalo iā ʻoe iho e hele wale i kahi lā me ka ʻōlelo ʻole ʻana i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole i kāu wahine a mau keiki paha. Hoʻokahi wale nō lā, ʻeā? ʻOiai inā ʻōlelo lākou i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe, e hoʻoholo i ka maikaʻi.
He mana nui kou manaʻo a me kou ʻohana. Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe i kahi lā hou, ʻaʻa iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo hou ʻole i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole, ʻoiai inā loaʻa ka makemake. ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hou ʻana, e maʻalahi ka maʻalahi.
4. Pehea e makua ai i nā keiki
Hiki i kēia ke lilo i kumu nui o ka paio ma waena o nā mākua no ka mea ʻaʻohe ala kūpono i ka makua. Akā ma laila kahi e paʻakikī ai.
Maliʻa ua ulu aʻe kekahi kāne me nā mākua i hana i kekahi ala, a ua ulu aʻe ka wahine ʻē aʻe me nā mākua i hana ʻokoʻa i nā mea. He kūlohelohe kēlā a me kēlā me kēia wahine e pili me ka mea a lākou i ʻike ai.
ʻO kahi nīnau maʻamau a ka poʻe e ʻimi nei i kahi pane - "Pehea e hana ai i nā pilikia ʻohana mai loko mai o kahi hanana? ” ʻĀ, no kēia, pono ʻoe e ʻohi a koho i nā mea i kūpono no kou ʻohana o kēia manawa. A ʻo ia ka nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
E kamaʻilio e pili ana pehea ʻoe e makemake ai e makua i kāu mau keiki, me kahi e hana ai i nā pilikia ke piʻi aʻe lākou. He aha nā hoʻopaʻi e kūpono ai? Eia kekahi, e hoʻoholo pū i kāu mea e hana ai ke kū mai kahi mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia.
Hoʻokahi manaʻo e kala iā ʻoe iho mai kāu keiki, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkākūkā i ka pilikia ma hope o nā puka paʻa a laila hoʻi i kāu keiki me ka alo o mua.
E like me nā mea āpau i ke ola, hoʻomaʻamaʻa ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia ʻohana. No laila hoʻoholo i kāu mea e makemake ai, a hana i kēlā me kēia lā.