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- Loaʻa i ka hui kūpono i kou ʻaoʻao
- Hoʻomaopopo hou i kāu mau mea nui
- ʻIke i ka manawa e noi ai i kōkua
- E noʻonoʻo i nā kumu waiwai hou aʻe
- E aʻo e ʻono i nā manawa kūikawā
- Mai hōʻemi i ke koʻikoʻi o nā hui kākoʻo
- Loaʻa iā ʻoe kēia!
I ka manawa i manaʻo ʻia he pilikia wale no kanakolu-somethings a me kanahā mau manawa, ua lilo ka "wehe male kālā" a i ʻole "hemo male hina" i mea maʻamau. I nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua piʻi ka nui o nā helu male no nā kāne ma mua o 60 mau makahiki:
"ʻO kekahi o ʻekolu mau boomers e kū i mua i ka makahiki makua ʻole," wahi a Susan Brown, ka luna alakaʻi o ka National Center for Family & Marriage Research ma Bowling Green State University i kāna noi hou ʻana. ʻO ka Revolution Revolution Revolution.
ʻO ka hemo ʻana i kēia makahiki a me ke kau o kou ola ke hōʻike nei i kekahi mau pilikia kūʻē. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i nā poʻe he nui ke kūleʻa me ke ʻano o nā kūlana ma ka hāhai ʻana i kekahi mau kaʻina maʻalahi.
Loaʻa i ka hui kūpono i kou ʻaoʻao
E ʻike i kahi loio i loea i ka male male, a me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo kālā. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine, ʻaʻole maopopo i nā pōmaikaʻi i loaʻa iā lākou, e like me ka alimony a me ka penihana ma hope o ka male ʻana no 20 mau makahiki.
Ke hoʻoholo ʻoe e faila no ka hemo a i ʻole hoʻomaka i kahi hoʻokaʻawale hoʻokolokolo, e hōʻoia e palapala i nā hanana nui. E hoʻohana i kēia mau hanana e kōkua i ke kuhikuhi ʻana i kāu kamaʻilio me kāu loio. Kākau i nā lā nui e like me ʻoe a i ʻole ua neʻe a haʻalele paha i kahi hoʻāʻo e launa hou. Nā lā i lawe ai kāu wahine i ke kālā mai kāu moʻokāki hui ʻana a i ʻole hōʻike i nā hana hoʻonāukiuki, he mea nui kēia a pau.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, e hana i nā kope o nā palapala koʻikoʻi e like me ka ʻike panakō, nā palapala hoʻomaha, nā palapala a me nā poʻo inoa, nā palapala ʻinikua, ka palapala male, nā palapala hānau a kāu keiki a me nā kāleka palekana pilikanaka. E kōkua kēia mau palapala iā ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa i nā keu pono āu e kuleana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana.
Hoʻomaopopo hou i kāu mau mea nui
ʻO ka hele ʻana mai ka male a i ka male hoʻokahi e koi iā ʻoe e hoʻohuli i kāu mea i nā mea nui iā ʻoe. ʻO kēia ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai ʻoe no wai ʻoe a me nā mea āu e makemake ai, ʻokoʻa ka mea a nā poʻe āpau e manaʻo ai iā ʻoe no nā makahiki he nui.
"Hoʻonohonoho nā wahine akamai i ko lākou ikaika ma hope o ka hemo ʻana i ka nānā ʻana i ko lākou ola, kā lākou pahuhopu, kā lākou mau hewa a pehea e hiki ai iā lākou ke aʻo mai ka wā i hala.
ʻIke i ka manawa e noi ai i kōkua
He haʻaheo paha ia, a i ʻole he pono nui wale paha e hōʻoia iā ʻoe iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke hana iā ʻoe iho, akā he nui nā wahine hemo i ʻike i ke noi ʻana i ke kōkua kekahi o nā mea ʻoʻoleʻa loa e hana ai: , akā, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana hoʻokahi wale nō. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina pili a me ka hana ʻana i mau hoaaloha hou he mea nui ia no nā wahine hemo ma hope o 60, "wahi a Margaret Manning o Sixtyandme.com.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kākoʻo mai nā hoaaloha a ʻohana, e ʻimi i kahi leʻaleʻa hou e ʻae ai iā ʻoe e hui me nā poʻe hou. Inā he kanaka ikaika ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo i ka piʻi pōhaku, a i ʻole kekahi hana adventurous ʻē aʻe. Ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe i kahi mea kamaʻāina ʻole, e aʻo ʻoe i kahi mākau hou, e hoʻonui ai i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. Hoʻomaopopo iki paha kēia i ke kaʻina hana hemo.
E nānā pū kekahi: 7 mau kumu maʻamau no ka male male
E noʻonoʻo i nā kumu waiwai hou aʻe
ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā i ka hoʻokaʻawale e kau i kāu kālā. Ma waho aʻe o ka noho ʻana ma kahi kālā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī, mai kāpae i ka hana ʻana i kekahi mea e hoʻonui i nā kahawai o ka loaʻa kālā. Hiki i kēia ke komo pū me ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kāu ʻoihana ponoʻī, ke kūʻai aku ʻana i kekahi hōʻiliʻili kahiko, a i ʻole ke ʻohi ʻana i kahi hana ʻaoʻao i kou manawa kaʻawale.
E aʻo e ʻono i nā manawa kūikawā
Ke hele nei ʻoe i loko o kekahi o nā hanana kūpilikiʻi loa a i kekahi manawa i kou ola. E ʻike i nā mea e hauʻoli ai ʻoe a hoʻohui iā lākou i kou ola. "Ua noʻonoʻo wau i ka mākaukau loa i nā mea ʻono e hauʻoli ai au - ke kakali nei i kahi kipa ʻana me kahi hoaaloha a i ʻole ke hele ʻana i kahi hale kiʻi kiʻi, a i ʻole ke kūʻai ʻana i kahi mea ma ka pūnaewele a laila ke kali nei no kahi manawa e wehe ai," wahi a Peg Streep, me Psychology i kēia lā.
Mai hōʻemi i ke koʻikoʻi o nā hui kākoʻo
ʻO kekahi o nā kumuwaiwai waiwai nui a hiki ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ke hele nei i loko o ka hemo male kahi hui kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kāu mau hopohopo, makaʻu, a me nā manaʻolana. ʻO nā hopohopo o kahi wahine hemo i kā lākou 60 mau makahiki ka ʻokoʻa loa ma mua o nā hopohopo o kā lākou mau hoa ʻōpio. Aia ka liʻiliʻi o ka manawa e mālama ai no ka hoʻomaha loa a hiki i ka mākeke hana ke ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka haki ʻana, keu hoʻi inā ua hoʻolilo ʻoe i nā makahiki he 40 i ka mālama ʻana i kahi home, ke kālā ʻohana a loaʻa koke iā ʻoe iho ka ʻimi ʻimi hana. E nānā i kahi hui kākoʻo kikoʻī iā ʻoe a me nā mea āu e hakakā nei, e loaʻa ai ka pōmaikaʻi ʻoi loa.
Loaʻa iā ʻoe kēia!
ʻO ka manaʻo o ka hoʻomaka ʻana ma kēia wahi o kou ola hiki ke ʻano weliweli. E hoʻomanaʻo, hana ʻoe i loko, akā ʻaʻole ia he maʻalahi e maʻalahi ʻoe i kou kuhi ʻana i nā mea āpau. E ʻike i kēlā, e kuʻikahi me kēlā, a hoʻohana i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kūpale i ka wā e hemo ai.
ʻO Nanda Davis
ʻO Nanda Davis ka mea nona ka Kānāwai Kānāwai ʻo Davis a mahalo kāna mau mea kūʻai aku i kāna empathy a me kāna kūpaʻa i loko o ke kaʻina holoʻokoʻa. Kōkua ʻo ia iā lākou e hoʻoholo i ka mea maikaʻi loa no lākou a me ko lākou ʻohana a makemake mau e hele i nā hoʻāʻo e loaʻa ai ka hopena maikaʻi loa no kāna mea kūʻai aku. Ma mua o Virginia ʻākau, ua puka ʻo Nanda i ka magna cum laude mai ke Kula Law of University ʻo George Mason ma 2012 a ua puka ʻo ia mai ke Kulanui o Virginia ma 2008. ʻO Nanda ka Hope Pelekikena o ka Salem Roanoke County Bar Association, a ʻo ka Pelekikena o ka mokuna Roanoke o ka Hui Loio Wahine Virginia.