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- E aʻo e kamaʻilio ʻokoʻa
- E aʻo e kala aku
- E hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana i kāu hoa
- E ʻike i kahi mea āu e makemake ai a hana
Hele mai ka poʻe he nui e ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo e nīnau ana: "Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻomaikaʻi i kaʻu male?" A nui nā mea, eia naʻe, ua hele lohi loa, ma hope o ka luku ʻia ʻana o ka pilina e ka ʻawaʻawa pau ʻole, nā hakakā, a me ka inaina. ʻO ia ke kumu e hana ai ʻoe i ka pale ʻana i nā mea mai kahi lōʻihi loa a hoʻokō i kekahi mau loli maʻalahi akā koʻikoʻi e hoʻomaikaʻi ai kāu male.
E aʻo e kamaʻilio ʻokoʻa
ʻO ka hapa nui o ka poʻe me ka hauʻoli ʻole e kaʻana like i hoʻokahi nāwaliwali - ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e launa maikaʻi ai. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he lousy komunicator ʻoe i ka maʻamau. ʻO ʻoe paha ka mea momona loa me kou poʻe hoaaloha, keiki, ʻohana, hoa hana. Akā aia kekahi mea e hoʻonāukiuki i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa like ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine i nā manawa hou.
ʻO kēia ke kumu he mea nui e aʻo ʻoe pehea e kamaʻilio ʻokoʻa ai me kāu hoa. He aha ka manaʻo he pono ʻoe e hoʻopalupalu i kāu huaʻōlelo hoʻolauna (ʻike mākou aia kekahi, e like me "ʻAʻole loa ʻoe ..."). Pono ʻoe e hōʻalo i ka pale ʻana a i ʻole ke kolohe. E kamaʻilio wale e like me ʻelua mau mākua. Hōʻalo mau i ka hoʻohewa ʻana; e hoʻāʻo e hāʻawi i ka ʻike i kāu kuana ma kahi, a ʻo ka mea nui loa - e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ka kuanaʻike a kāu wahine.
E hoʻomaka me ka nānā ʻana i nā lauana i kāu kamaʻilio. ʻO wai ka mea i ʻoi aku ka nui? He aha ka mea e hoʻohua ai i ka uwa? He aha ka mea e hoʻololi ai i kahi kamaʻilio maʻamau i ka hakakā ʻana o ka pahi kaua medieval? I kēia manawa, he aha ia mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ʻokoʻa? Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke huki iā ʻoe iho a me kāu wahine ma waho o nā pahu a hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio e like me nā kānaka ʻelua i aloha kekahi i kekahi?
E aʻo e kala aku
ʻO kekahi o nā hiki ke kūkulu ʻia ma luna o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mua e aʻo pehea e kala aku ai. Minamina, ʻaʻole hiki i ka hapanui o mākou ke hoʻopuka i kahi kala pono. Kūleʻa mākou i kekahi manawa, akā ʻaʻole iki mākou e noʻonoʻo i ka mea a mākou e kala aku nei. ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hōʻeha ikaika ma mua o ka ʻole, ʻoi aku ia ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo wale nō.
ʻO ke kumu no ka paʻakikī o mākou ke kala aku ma muli o kā mākou kumu. e ʻōlelo kekahi ua hauʻoli mākou i ka ʻeha a ʻeha ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe no ka mea loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mea mai ia mea. Akā, ʻoiai ʻaʻole mākou he nui o ka poʻe cynics, hiki iā mākou āpau ke ʻae i ka ʻōlelo ʻana "E kala mai" ke manaʻo ʻoe ua ʻeha kou mau kuleana ʻo ia paha ka mea paʻakikī loa ma ka honua.
Eia nō naʻe, i ka hapanui o nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa male, pono nā hoa ʻelua e huikala, no ka mea, ʻeha lāua a ʻeha pū kekahi i kekahi. He hoa ola ʻoe, he kime, ʻaʻole ka ʻenemi. Inā ʻoe e kala me ka minamina a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka ʻeha o kāu hana i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he aha ka mea e aneane e lele kā kāu wahine i ka manawa e hoʻokuʻu i ko lākou mau lima a hoʻi hou i ke aloha a me ka mālama hou.
E hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana i kāu hoa
I nā manawa he nui, ke noho mākou i kahi pilina no ka manawa lōʻihi poina iā mākou ke ʻano o ka mea i ka hoʻomaka. A i ʻole hoʻololi mākou i kā mākou mau manaʻo mua o kā mākou hoa a lilo i ka hoʻohoka: "Pēlā mau ʻo ia, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike." ʻOiai paha he ʻoiaʻiʻo, pololei paha ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe - ʻike mākou i ka maikaʻi a me ka nani o kā mākou wahine, a poina iā mākou ma ke ala. ʻAe mākou i ka huhū e lawe.
A i ʻole, male paha mākou i loko o ka male i nalowale kāna hunaahi. ʻAʻole mākou huhū a huhū paha, akā ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike hou i ke kuko a me ka infatuation. Inā makemake ʻoe e hana i kāu male a lawe i ka hauʻoli iā ʻolua, e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻomanaʻo hou ʻana. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu o kou aloha i kāu kāne a wahine paha i ka mua. ʻAe, ua loli paha kekahi mau mea, a i ʻole ʻoe he optimist ia manawa, akā ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, e nui nō paha nā mea nui āu i poina wale ai.
E ʻike i kahi mea āu e makemake ai a hana
ʻO kekahi o nā mea counterintuitive e pili ana i ka pilina ʻo ia ka nui o kā mākou e mālama ai e mālama, nā hoa maikaʻi ʻoi aku kā mākou. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo e hūnā i nā mea huna a i ʻole e hoʻopono ʻole a i ʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻole, ʻaʻole loa. Akā ke manaʻo nei kēia e pono ʻoe e ʻimi i nā ala e mālama ai i kou kūʻokoʻa a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka hapanui o mākou e hoʻāʻo e lilo i mau wahine maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻololi loa i ko lākou ala a hoʻolaʻa i ko lākou ikaika i ka male. ʻOiai mahalo ʻia kēia i kekahi ʻano, aia kahi kiko e lilo ai ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a ʻeha pū hoʻi kāu hoa i ka nalo. No laila, e ʻike i nā mea āu e makemake ai e hana, hana i nā mea āu e makemake nui ai, e hana i kāu mau moeʻuhane a kaʻana like i kāu mau ʻike me kāu hoa ola. E hoʻomanaʻo, ua aloha kāu wahine iā ʻoe, no laila e hoʻomau iā ʻoe iho.