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- 1. ʻO ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻohui
- ʻO ka hopena: E hoʻomaka a hoʻopau pū i kou lā
- 2. Ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi manawa
- ʻO ka hopena: E aʻo e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole
- 3. Ka pilikia: ʻaʻole ʻoe e nānā-i
- ʻO ka hopena: E hoʻopili mau
- 4. Ka pilikia: hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe i nā manawa āpau
- ʻO ka hopena: E aʻo e kamaʻilio
- 5. ʻO ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe he hoa
- ʻO ka hopena: E kūkākūkā kekahi me kekahi
- 6. Ka pilikia: ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i kekahi i kekahi
- ʻO ka hopena: E hele i nā lā
E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻolilo ana ʻoe i kāu wahine i kāu helu helu ʻekahi. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, e hana ʻoe i kekahi mea na lākou! Akā ke hōʻike nei kāu mau hana i ka hele mua o kāu wahine? Inā ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa i kāu kalena no ka mahina e hōʻike ana ia i nā pō nui me kāu wahine i hoʻolilo ai i ka pili, a i ʻole hōʻike i nā hanana kaiāulu me kāu mau hoaaloha a me nā kuleana hana?
He aha ka hana mua i kou ola? ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā pono ka male i ka ikaika. ʻOiai no nā kānaka ʻelua me ka hoihoi like, ka pono, a me nā pahuhopu, hiki i ka paʻakikī ke mālama i kahi pilina olakino.
Inā makemake ʻoe i ka hauʻoli hauʻoli, olakino olakino pono ʻoe e aʻo e hana i kou pilina i mea nui i kou ola.
Inā makemake ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hoʻokau ai i kāu hoa i ka wā he nui nā mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻokūkū ana i kāu nānā, e hoʻomau i ka heluhelu ʻana. Eia nā kumu 6 no ke kumu e hana ʻole ai i kāu pilina i mea nui e alakaʻi i ka hopena o kāu male.
1. ʻO ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻohui
Ke hāʻule ʻole ʻoe i kāu pilina i kahi mea nui a hoʻomaka ʻoe e nele i kēlā pili aloha i hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i pupule i kekahi i kekahi. Ma kahi o nā hoa makemake, hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e manaʻo e like me nā hoa noho maikaʻi.
ʻO ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu male ʻana hiki ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia he nui. Nā kuhi hewa ʻole e alakaʻi i nā paio a me ka manaʻo o ka mehameha no hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau hoa.
Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me kāu wahine, hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e haʻi i kekahi mea hou, a hiki i nā mea aloha i waho o ka male.
ʻO ka hopena: E hoʻomaka a hoʻopau pū i kou lā
Ke hoʻomaka pū nei kou lā e hana ana i kahi mea maʻalahi e like me ka noho ʻana i lalo a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana he 10 mau minuke ma ke kope a me ka ʻaina kakahiaka he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻopili aku ai me kāu wahine. E hoʻohana i kēia manawa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu hana ma kēlā lā a i ʻole hopu.
ʻO kekahi ala maikaʻi e hoʻopili aku ai me kāu wahine inā ʻaʻole nui ka manawa e hele pū i ka moena i kēlā me kēia pō.
Hōʻike nā noiʻi aia he loulou pololei ma waena o nā pilikia pili a me nā ʻano hiamoe. ʻO nā poʻe hele e hiamoe i ka manawa like e manaʻo like me ka palekana, ʻoiai ʻo nā kāne e hiamoe ʻokoʻa ana e ʻalo nei paha kekahi i kekahi.
2. Ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi manawa
Hiki iā ʻoe ke alakaʻi i kahi ola paʻa. Ke mālama nei i kāu mau keiki, hana manawa piha, a me nā kuleana o ka ʻohana e waiho paha ʻoe i ka luhi i ka hopena o kou lā, e waiho ana i kahi manawa liʻiliʻi e hoʻopili ai me kāu wahine.
ʻO kāu mau kumu no ka haʻalele ʻana i kāu wahine he kūpono paha ia, akā ʻo ka hoʻomau ʻana i ka hana mua i kāu pili aloha ka mea hope loa e hiki ai i kahi hakakā ma waena ou a me kāu hoa.
ʻO ka hopena: E aʻo e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole
ʻO kahi ala āu e aʻo ai e kau i kāu hoa ma mua e hoʻomaka i ka prioritizing i kou manawa. ʻO kēia paha ke aʻo ʻana e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole i kekahi mau mea, e like me ke kono ʻana e hele pū me nā hoaaloha.
ʻOiai, ʻo ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me nā hoaaloha a me ka ʻohana ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole, akā hiki ke hōʻeha i kāu male inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hāʻawi i kahi manawa pilikino i kāu wahine.
3. Ka pilikia: ʻaʻole ʻoe e nānā-i
Ua manaʻo paha ʻoe e like me ka nīnau ʻole ʻana o kāu pakanā pehea ʻoe e hana nei, a i ʻole me he mea mau kekahi e hele nei āu e ʻike ʻole ai? ʻAʻole ka hana ʻana i kou pilina ma mua i hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa ke manaʻo he malihini.
ʻAʻohe ou kuhi i kā lākou makemake a ʻike ʻole paha
ʻO ka hopena: E hoʻopili mau
E hoʻolilo i kou pilina i mea nui ma ka proactively ka hoʻopili ʻana me kāu wahine. E kūkākūkā wikiō ma ka wā ʻaina awakea, kāhea, a i ʻole kākau ʻōlelo i loko o ka lā e mālama kekahi i kekahi i ka ʻike e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei a puni ka lā.
E maʻa i ka noho mau ʻana i ka lā holoʻokoʻa. Pōmaikaʻi pū kekahi mau kāne ma ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi 'check-in' male i kēlā me kēia pule kahi e kūkākūkā ai lākou i nā mea e hana nei i ko lākou ola, a me nā mea a lākou e mahalo ai a me nā mea e hiki ke hoʻohana i ka hana i ka pilina.
4. Ka pilikia: hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe i nā manawa āpau
ʻO ka hana ʻole ʻana i kou pilina ma ke ʻano he hiki ke alakaʻi i ka huhū i ka male. Ke huhū ʻoe i kāu pakanā a i ʻole manaʻo i ka pili iā lākou ua ʻoi aku kou makemake e hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma kahi o ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau pilikia.
ʻO ka hopena: E aʻo e kamaʻilio
ʻO ke kamaʻilio kekahi o, inā ʻaʻole ka mea nui o ka pilina olakino. I mea e prioritize ai i kāu wahine, pono ʻoe e aʻo pehea e kamaʻilio ai me lākou. ʻO kēia ke kaʻana like i kou ola, kou mau manaʻo, a me kou mau hopohopo, ʻoiai ke paʻakikī a ʻoluʻolu ʻole paha e kamaʻilio.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ke kamaʻilio pū kekahi me ka ʻike i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai a i ka wā e hoʻolohe ai. E hoʻomaopopo i kāu pakanā ua loaʻa iā lākou kou nānā ʻole i ka wā a lākou e kamaʻilio nei.
Kau i kāu kelepona i lalo, huli i nā uila uila, e nānā i nā maka, a hāʻawi i nā pane noʻonoʻo. ʻO ka hana pēlā e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻohui a kamaʻilio me ka ʻole o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa.
5. ʻO ka pilikia: ʻAʻole ʻoe he hoa
Kūkākūkā nā hoa me kekahi ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana. Kākoʻo lākou kekahi i kekahi ma o ka mānoanoa a lahilahi, a kamaʻilio pinepine lākou. ʻO ka mea liʻiliʻi o ka mea nui a ʻo ʻoe a me kāu wahine e lilo ai i kekahi i kekahi, ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi e like me 'nā hoa' ʻo ʻoe.
ʻO ka hopena: E kūkākūkā kekahi me kekahi
E hoʻomaopopo i kāu pakanā he mea nui lākou iā ʻoe ma ke nīnau ʻana iā lākou ma mua o kāu hoʻoholo ʻana.
ʻO nā hoʻoholo nui e like me ka lawe ʻana i kahi hana hou a i ʻole neʻe i kahi kūlanakauhale hou ʻike maopopo ʻia nā koho ola e kūkākūkā ʻia me kāu wahine.
Akā mai poina e hoʻokomo iā lākou i nā hoʻoholo liʻiliʻi e like me ka mea e ʻohi i nā keiki i kēia pō, ke hoʻolālā ʻana me nā hoaaloha no ka hopena pule, a i ʻole ʻoe e ʻai pū ana i ka ʻaina awakea a i ʻole hopu i kahi mea na ʻoe iho.
6. Ka pilikia: ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i kekahi i kekahi
E noʻonoʻo i kāu male e like me ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ai e aʻo i kahi ʻōlelo hou. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻoi aʻe ma mua inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa, hoʻomaʻamaʻa, hoʻomaʻamaʻa. Pēlā nō, i ka male ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi pilina hohonu me kāu wahine inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo.
ʻO ka hopena: E hele i nā lā
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi lā lā maʻamau i kēlā me kēia pule he ala maikaʻi loa ia e launa hou ai me kāu wahine. Hoʻolilo i kēia manawa aloha e like me kāu i hoʻomaka ai i kāu pili. E hoʻohana i kēia manawa e leʻaleʻa me kāu wahine, e hoʻolālā i kahi e hele ai, a e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi.
Mai hoʻokuʻu i kahi nohona hana e hoʻokau i kāu male i ka backburner. E kāohi i kēia lā ma ka hōʻike ʻana i kāu wahine i ko lākou aloha, hauʻoli, a me ka launa pū ʻana he mea nui nāu. Hāʻawi i kāu wahine i kou manawa a kamaʻilio pinepine e pili ana i kou ola. ʻO kēia mauʻanuʻu e hoʻokokoke aku ai iā ʻoe e hana i kou pilina ma mua.