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'Pili', pehea ka uʻi o kēia huaʻōlelo, akā ma mua o kou lilo maoli ʻana i hoʻokahi. Manaʻo mākou i kahi koi ikaika loa e loaʻa kahi hoa ola, ʻo ia hoʻi nā kāne. Ke loaʻa mākou i kā mākou affine, maikaʻi a leʻaleʻa ia. Loaʻa i ka pilina kahi ʻepekema piha o kāna iho. He mea ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia pilina akā aia kekahi mau mea e pono e mālama ʻia e nā mea āpau, a i ʻole hiki i kahi pilina ke hoʻopau maʻalahi ʻia. Ma kēia ʻatikala e kūkākūkā ana mākou i kahi maʻamau maʻamau a me kahi pilikia nui e pono e mālama pono ʻia.
Manaʻo ʻoe e lilo ana kāu hoihoi a ʻaʻole ʻoe i loko o kāu wahine? ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻāʻo hou ma muli o kou ʻano luhi? Ke lilo nei kāu male i mea kaumaha? Ke lilo nei ka male i mea paʻakikī loa i kou ola? Inā ʻelua, ʻae ka pane a kāu a ʻo kāu wahine paha no kekahi o nā nīnau i luna aʻe a laila no ʻoe kēia ʻatikala e kuʻu hoaaloha.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo he huakaʻi maʻalahi ka male ʻana. Hoʻokahi kuhi hewa HUGE ʻo ia ke manaʻo e ʻike ʻoe i ka pilina me kāu hoa i nā manawa āpau. He mea nui kēia manaʻo i ka luku ʻana i ka pilina o kekahi. E hoʻomaopopo i kēia ʻōnaehana e neʻe i kēlā me kēia ʻanuʻu.
No laila e hoʻomaka me ka hoʻomaka o kāu pili. Ua like paha kāu pili e like me ka moeʻuhane a hoʻokō ʻole ʻia, akā ʻo ka hapa nui paha i loko o kāu wahine. I kēlā manawa manawa ʻaneʻane ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻole e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale a
ua makemake ʻoe e loaʻa kahi ala i waho o kēlā me kēia pilikia. Kūlohelohe kēia koi no ka mea he nui kou mau manaʻo e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kēia mana hoʻokele.
E hele kāua i ka ʻāpana paʻakikī o ka male. Hoʻomaka kēia ʻāpana ke ʻike lohi ʻoe i kahi hoʻokaʻawale iki me kāu wahine, a i ʻole ma ke ʻano ʻē aʻe. Eia mākou e kamaʻilio ai pehea e mālama ai i kāu male ma nā hanana ʻelua i hōʻike ʻia.
Aia ʻoe i kēia kūlana
Ke hoʻomaka nei kēia pae, hoʻāʻo ʻoe e haʻi iā ʻoe iho - ʻaʻole maikaʻi, e hoʻāʻo wau e holo pono nā mea āpau 'akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawelawe pono i ka mea e hana nei me kēlā me kēia lā e hala nei nā manaʻo, hoʻohui iā ʻoe. a me kāu wahine i ka naʻau, e like me ka nalowale. A laila hiki mai kahi manawa ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike iki i ka pilina o ka naʻau. ʻO kēia ke kahua i kēlā me kēia hakakā āu e manaʻo ai e haʻalele i kāu male, ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e hoʻopau i kāu male ma mua o kāu. He aha e hana ai i kēia manawa? Pehea ʻoe i hiki ai i kēia pae? He aha paha ka hewa i hala? He aha ka mea i hiki ke hana ʻia e pale aku ai? Ua hoʻonohonoho ʻia mākou nāu.
Hoʻomaopopo he mea maʻamau
He mea maʻamau ia no ke kanaka, ʻaʻole e ʻike i ka piko o nā manaʻo ma hope o ka male ʻana i kekahi mau mahina / mau makahiki. He kanaka ʻoe ʻike i kou nāwaliwali, a ʻo kēia kekahi o nā mea he nui. ʻO ka mea mua loa āu e pono ai e hōʻoia iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pono iā ʻoe iho he maʻamau kēia a ua makemake ʻia kēia e kū. Hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe iho e like me ke ola piha i nā ʻāpana like ʻole, nā pilina, ʻo ia hoʻi ka male ʻana, piha pū kekahi i nā ʻāpana. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā pae a e hala ia me ka ʻole o ka luku inā ʻoe e hele i kēia pae i ke ala kūpono.
Ke maopopo iā ʻoe i kēia e haʻalele ʻoe i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kāu male ma ke ʻano he ukana a hoʻomaka i ka lawe ʻana i kēia wā he pilikia.
Mai hoʻokamani
ʻO kahi kuhi hewa āu e hana ai paha, e hoʻomeamea i mua o kāu wahine ʻaʻohe mea i hewa. ʻO kēia ke manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻopakele paha kāu pilina i ʻole a maʻalahi paha no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e ʻeha kāu hoa. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o kēia pāʻani hoʻokamani ma mua o ka maikaʻi. Malia paha e hoʻopakele ai i kāu hoapili no ka ʻehaʻeha no kahi manawa pōkole akā akā ʻoiai e hele hewa wale kēia pāʻani hoʻokamani, me ka ʻike ʻole ʻole, e lilo ʻoe i mea kānalua a hōʻeha loa i kāu wahine.
No laila ma kahi o ka hoʻopunipuni, e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa. E ʻoluʻolu mai hōʻino loa e like me 'hey, ʻaʻole wau i loko ou, ua hānau ʻoe iaʻu.' ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ke ala kūpono he art, hoʻohiki wau. Eia nō naʻe, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kāu wahine ma ke ʻano e hōʻemi iki ʻia lākou i ka hiki. E noʻonoʻo ʻoe pehea? No laila pono ʻoe e haʻi iā lākou ke hele nei ʻoe i loko o kahi manawa paʻakikī a i kēia manawa makemake ʻoe i kāu hoa like he hoaaloha i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka puka ʻana i waho o kēia kaʻina. E mahalo nui a pono nō hoʻi ʻoe e hōʻoia e hōʻike ʻoe i kāu pākana āu e makemake maoli ai e puka i waho o kēia manawa ma ke kiʻi ʻana i kahi wahi liʻiliʻi a i ʻole e haʻi paha iā lākou i nā mea o ka male e hoʻonāukiuki ai iā ʻoe, i ʻolua hiki ke lanakila iā lākou.
E kāohi iā ʻoe iho
I kēia manawa e hoʻopunipuni paha ke kāne. ʻAe, heluhelu pono ʻoe. ʻAʻole hana hewa wale nā kāne i kākau ʻia ma luna ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻoleʻaleʻa akā hoʻomaka nō hoʻi i ka hihia. ʻAe wale mākou e ʻae i kēia ʻano e ʻumeʻume ʻoe i nā kaikamahine ʻē aʻe. E hoʻomaka paha kou puʻuwai e heihei no kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, akā ʻo kēia ka manawa pono ʻoe e hoʻokau i ka HUAKAI ʻʻI. Eia kahi mea hoʻomanaʻo no ʻoe: aia kekahi pōʻai i kēlā me kēia pili, pili ʻoe a laila ʻaʻole ʻoe pili. No ka nui o nā manawa e loaʻa ai i kahi pilina, e hana hou kēia pōʻai iā ia (inā lōʻihi kēlā pili). No laila e aʻo e kāohi iā ʻoe iho. He maikaʻi ke huki ʻia i kekahi ʻē aʻe ma mua o kāu wahine no ka mea ʻaʻole ia i kāu kaohi, akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi ke pane maikaʻi i kēlā mau manaʻo. Pono ʻoe e lanakila i kēlā mau manaʻo. Hilinaʻi iaʻu hiki iā ʻoe, ʻo nā mea āu e hana ai e hoʻoikaika i nā lā / mau pule mua a laila e hala kēia mau manaʻo. E kaohi mau ke kāne pono iā ia iho no kāna wahine a e kūpaʻa mau i kēia manawa paʻakikī. E noʻonoʻo hou aʻe i kāu wahine; Hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe iho i kāna mea nui a me nā mea i kūpono iā ia, he kāne hoʻopunipuni a i ʻole he kāne kūpaʻa a aloha hoʻi? E hoʻāʻo e hoʻokomo iā ʻoe iho i nā kāmaʻa a kāu wahine a nīnau iā ʻoe iho pehea kou manaʻo inā hoʻomaka ʻo ia e pili i kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe?
E hoʻomanaʻo mau i kou kūlana kū hoʻokahi iā ʻoe. ʻO ka mea āu e hele ai i kāu pilina ʻike wale ʻia e ʻoe. Pēlā nō, ʻo ʻoe ka luna kānāwai ʻoi loa e hoʻoponopono i kāu male a i ʻole pili pilina. ʻO ka mea paʻa i ka manaʻo pololei e mālama i kāu pilina. Inā ʻoe e kia ana i ka mālama ʻana i kāu pilina, ʻaʻohe wī o nā hiki.