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- Pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili i kahi pilina
- E kūkulu i kou manaʻo pilikino
- Pehea e hooki ai i ka lili a me ka kaohi ʻana
- ʻO ka lili kahi b * * * *
ʻO ka lili kahi hoa hele hewa; makemake ia e noʻonoʻo i nā hanana e hōʻino ai i kou lā a huhū i kāu hoa.
Ke hāwanawana mau nei i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i loko o kou mau pepeiao a hiki i kou wā e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ʻo kou hoa ka diabolō i hana ʻia.
Hiki paha ke nani ke nānā aku i kekahi manawa a hahau i ka ego o kāu hoa. Eia nō naʻe, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, e hana ia i mau māwae hiki ʻole ke hoʻoponopono ʻia i ke kahua o kou pili.
ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, alakaʻi wale ia i nā pōpilikia.
No laila mākou e nīnau iā mākou iho pehea e haʻalele ai i ka lili? Pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili nui e hōʻino ai i kā mākou pilina?
Eia ka pilikia, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe.
Pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili i kahi pilina
Inā aloha maoli ʻoe i kekahi, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i ka lili i kekahi manawa a i ʻole kekahi.
He hopena kūlohelohe ia i ka hāʻule ʻana o ke aloha, a kū ʻia i ka mea ʻoi o mākou. ʻO ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻemi i nā manawa lili a oʻo ʻoe i oʻo e lawa ʻole i ka wā e hiki ai.
Ke lili mākou i kekahi ma ke ʻano aloha, ʻaʻole ke ʻano o ka lili a mākou e kipaku ai iā Ferrari ma kahi kokoke i kāu minivan kahiko, pili ia i ko mākou manaʻo pilikino a me mākou iho.
ʻIke mākou i kekahi e komo mai nei i ko mākou wahi pili, a ke hoʻololi nei ia i ko mākou waiwai ponoʻī ma ke ʻano he kanaka. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke kaohi i ko mākou manaʻo, akā hiki iā mākou ke kaohi pehea mākou e pane aku ai iā ia.
Hōʻike ka hapa nui o nā pilikino Alpha i ko lākou ʻāina i kēia manawa. Alakaʻi pinepine ia i nā hakakā a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Akā hiki iā ia ke alakaʻi i kahi hoʻonā wikiwiki ke hālāwai ke Tiga me kahi keiki keiki. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻoikaika i nā paʻa ma waena o nā hoa inā manaʻo lākou ua pale ʻia a ʻae ʻia e kā lākou hoa Alpha.
Akā i ka hui ʻana o kahi Tiga me ka Nahesa, lilo ia i koko koko.
No laila inā he ʻano Alpha ʻoe, e aʻo pehea e hōʻoia ai i kāu ʻāina me ka ʻole o ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka hoʻokahe koko. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke pakele me ia, akā e pau ia i ka lā o kēlā me kēia kanaka. ʻAʻohe makemake i kēlā.
No laila pehea e pau ai ka lili i ka pilina? ʻAʻole ʻoe, pono ʻoe e kaohi iā ʻoe iho a me kou naʻau e ʻike pono ʻole e maikaʻi ʻole nā mea. Inā ʻo kāu hoa ka pāʻina hoʻonāukiuki a lele ākea me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i kou alo, a laila pilikia ʻokoʻa loa ia.
E kau i nā lula honua, aia ma ka ʻaoʻao like me kāu hoa. E hoʻomaopopo pono iā ʻolua i nā hana e lili ai ka hoa ʻē aʻe.
E kūkulu i kou manaʻo pilikino
ʻO ka lili kekahi ʻano o ka palekana ʻole. Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili a me ka hilahila ʻole, a laila pono ʻoe e loaʻa kahi waiwai ponoʻī iā ʻoe iho. I kēia ao kaulua, ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe mai kahi ʻano narcissistic.
Inā hilinaʻi ʻoe a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe he lawaiʻa ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻole ai kāu hoa e pili ana i ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana iā ʻoe no ka makaʻu i ka lilo ʻana iā ʻoe, no laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e lili.
Akā aia kahi laina lahilahi ma waena o ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe a me ka narcissism. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ke unuhi nei i waena o ka hilinaʻi a me nā kuhi hewa.
Inā kuhi hewa ʻoe, a laila ʻo ia kahi ala maikaʻi loa e pili ana i ka pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili, akā e hoʻonā kēlā i hoʻokahi pilikia a hana i nā mea hou.
Inā hilinaʻi ʻoe i kāu hoa a lawa a manaʻoʻiʻo i kā lākou pilina me ʻoe he kūikawā loa, a laila manaʻo ʻoe i ka palekana. ʻO ka pilikia pehea e hana ai i kahi hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o nā mea ʻelua. ʻO kekahi pilikia inā kuhi hewa ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kuhi.
No laila e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa e pili ana i kāu pōʻai hilinaʻi. E nānā inā hilinaʻi ʻia kāu hilinaʻi i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻaʻole i ka ʻike bloated o kāu waiwai ponoʻī. E haʻi aku kāu pakanā iā ʻoe i kou manaʻo a me kou pilina iā lākou.
Pehea e hooki ai i ka lili a me ka kaohi ʻana
ʻO ka lili kekahi e pili ana i ka kaohi.
Ke lili nei ʻoe no ka mea manaʻo ʻoe e pīpī nei kekahi i kāu lau nahele. ʻO ka nui o nā kāne a me nā wahine e hoʻokau i ka lili i ka "ʻaihue ʻana i kā lākou waiwai." ʻO ka mea mua, ʻaʻole kāu hoapili kāu waiwai. He mea hanu ola lākou i hoʻohana i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa e koho e noho pū me ʻoe.
ʻAʻole ʻoe iā lākou, ʻaʻole nā lākou ʻoe, maopopo wale a hoʻokūpaʻa hoʻi ʻoe.
ʻO ka manawa e lili ai ʻoe no ka mea noʻonoʻo ʻoe i kāu pakanā ma ke ʻano he kuleana ma kahi o kahi ʻuhane manuahi nāna i koho e aloha a noho pū me ʻoe, a laila ʻo ia nō kekahi pilikia ʻē aʻe.
He pilikia ka loaʻa ʻana.
Inā kū mai kou lili mai ka loaʻa ʻana, a laila he hōʻailona wale nō ia o ka hoʻokalakupua hewa nui ʻana.
E aʻo e hana me ka loaʻa ma ka pilina. E aʻo aku nō ia iā ʻoe pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili. E aʻo e mahalo i kāu hoa ma ke ʻano he kanaka. Hilinaʻi ʻike lākou i kā lākou mau palena ponoʻī.
He kanaka noʻonoʻo lākou i hiki ke hana i nā koho kūpono (manaʻolana) iā lākou iho. Inā ʻaʻole lawa lākou i ke koho kūpono, a laila, he pilikia ʻokoʻa kēlā, a ʻo ka lili ka mea liʻiliʻi o kāu mau pilikia.
E lawe i ke ala kiʻekiʻe a kāpae i ka lilo ʻana a me ka kaohi ʻana.
Inā aloha ʻoe i kekahi, a hoʻomau lākou i nā koho hewa i kāu pilina, a laila ua hiki i ka manawa e loiloi hou ai i kou pilina ma ke ʻano he nui. E hōʻino ʻia ka lili. ʻO kāu mea e manaʻo nei he pono loa.
ʻO ka lili kahi b * * * *
Mai noho hoʻokahi.
Alakaʻi ka lili i ka wehewehe hewa ʻana, a laila, alakaʻi i nā hana i hiki ke hōʻino i ka pilina. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua i ka lili mai kēlā manawa a kēia manawa, a hiki iā ia ke hoʻoikaika i kou pilina.
Akā ʻo ka overreacting a me ke kaohi ʻana i ka sociopath ʻaʻole loa ia e alakaʻi i kahi hopena hauʻoli.
Inā aloha maoli ʻoe i kekahi kanaka a mālama i kou pilina. E kamaʻilio kūkākūkā e pili ana i kāu insecurities.
ʻIke a hoʻomaopopo kekahi mau kāne olakino i ka ikaika a me ka nāwaliwali o kekahi. ʻAʻole loa lākou e hana ʻino i kou pilina no kahi leʻaleʻa. ʻO ke ala wale nō e hoʻokō ai i kēlā pae o ka pilina e kūkākūkā me ia (ma hope o ka nui o ka moekolohe).
Ke kuhi nei i kāu lula ponoʻī he mea weliweli ia, inā paha ʻo kāu pakanā i loko o ka Myers-Briggs extroverted personalities.
No laila inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike i ke ala ʻoi loa pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka lili, loaʻa kahi hoa pili a hoʻomaopopo hoʻi e hoʻohiki ʻole iā ʻoe pēlā.