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- 1. E ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe wale
- 2. He maikaʻi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine
- 3. Hele i ka lā hoʻomaha
- 4. E hoʻāʻo i kahi mea hou
- 5. Mai makaʻu i ka hoʻōla wahine
- He aha kāu e manaʻo ai mai ka sex therapy?
ʻO ka mea i hele mua mai — ka moa a i ʻole ka hua manu?
Aia nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa maikaʻi no nā mea ʻelua, ʻo ia ke kumu i ʻae ʻole ai ka lehulehu āpau e ʻae iā ia.
Kū aʻe ka nīnau like i ka wā e pili ana i nā kāne male me nā pilikia pili i ka wahine ke hiki ke nānā i nā mea i kēia ala.
Ua maloʻo ka moekolohe iā ia iho a alakaʻi i nā pilikia, a i ʻole nā mea ʻē aʻe i kolo i loko o ka lumi moe no ka pili hea ka pilina.
I kekahi manawa paʻakikī ka pane i kēlā nīnau. Loaʻa i nā wā male ka manawa paʻakikī a me nā manawa maʻalahi.
Ke loaʻa iā mākou nā manawa maʻalahi, lana wale nā mea. I kēlā mau manawa, lawe mākou i kekahi i kekahi no ka mea ʻole. Lawe paha mākou i ka nui o ka moekolohe a mākou e loaʻa ai no ka mea. Akā i kēlā manawa, hiki mai nā manawa paʻakikī.
Maliʻa paha he pēpē hou i ka huikau, a i ʻole neʻe i kahi kūlanakauhale hou, a i ʻole he hana hou a make paha i ka ʻohana.
ʻO nā pae kiʻekiʻe o ke koʻikoʻi ma kahi o ka manawa lōʻihi e zap iā mākou i ko mākou ikaika a me ka zest no ke ola. I kekahi manawa, i ka hopena o ka lā, manaʻo ʻia me he mea lā ʻaʻole mea i koe e hāʻawi.
ʻO kā mākou male a me kā mākou moekolohe haʻahaʻa ma ka papa inoa makakoho. Ke ʻimi nei i nā manaʻo moekolohe ʻoi loa no nā kāne male ʻaʻole ia ma ke kumumanaʻo o nā mea e hana ai.
Minamina, hoʻokau pinepine mākou i nā pilikia moe kolohe i ka male ma ka mea hoʻā hope. A i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ke hana ʻole pinepine mākou ia mea, lilo ka libido iā mākou.
Inā kū ʻoe i nā pilikia i loko o ka lumi moe, eia nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā ʻōlelo aʻo moe no ka lumi moe no nā kāne male.
1. E ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe wale
He helu kupanaha o nā kāne male i pili i ka moekolohe i kā lāua male ʻana.
A ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha — ke manaʻo nei ʻoe aia kekahi ala no ka moe kolohe like ʻana o kēlā me kēia kāne male? ʻO nā manaʻo like e pili ana i ka moekolohe? Ka pae like o nā mea pāpā? Aʻole iki!
ʻO ka hana pū ʻana i ka mea nui maoli hiki ke lilo i ʻāpana o ka mea e nui ai ka male. Inā hiki iā mākou ke hui pū e hoʻonā i nā pilikia, hiki iā mākou ke ikaika.
Hana ʻia i nā mea āpau. ʻO ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ka moekolohe ma ka male ʻana e pono ai i nā hoʻoikaika mau. ʻO ia kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo wahine maikaʻi loa no ka male e kōkua i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kou ola moekolohe.
Inā nele ka moekolohe ka pilikia, ʻo ʻoe kekahi o nā mea āpau a puni ka U.S. Wahi a Newsweek makasina, ma kahi ma waena o 15-20 pakeneka o nā kāne a male paha e ʻike nei i kahi "male kolohe ʻole," i ʻōlelo ai kekahi e moe kolohe ana ma lalo o ʻumi mau manawa i kēlā me kēia makahiki.
E like me ke aʻo ʻana ma 2017, ʻoi aku ma mua o 15% o nā kāne a aneane 27% o nā wahine i hōʻike ʻaʻole lākou moekolohe i ka makahiki i hala.
ʻO ke kumu o ka liʻiliʻi o ka moekolohe ma ka male ʻana hiki ke lilo i mau mea he nui, e like me nā pilikia i ka pilina, i nā ʻano ʻano ʻino o ka moe kolohe. Wahi a WebMD, 43 pākēneka o nā wahine a me 31 pākēneka o nā kāne i kekahi kekelē o ka pilikia moekolohe.
No laila, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō. Hoʻopilikia nā pilikia o ka wahine i ka male i nā poʻe he nui.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea e pīni ai i nā mea i loko o ka lumi moe
2. He maikaʻi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka moekolohe me kāu wahine
ʻO ka mea e pili ana i ka moekolohe ʻaʻole mākou e hele i loko o nā kikoʻī e pili ana iā ia ma waho o kā mākou mau hoa.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, i ka wā o ka pō o nā kaikamahine, aia paha ke kumuhana o nā pilikia lumi moe ma ka papa, akā he mau ʻōlelo maʻamau wale nō ia. Mālama ʻia ka nitty-gritty no ka lumi moe, e like me ka mea.
Akā nui nā kāne ʻaʻole kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka moekolohe kekahi i kekahi. ʻAʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo pono iā lākou a hilahila paha.
I ka manawa pinepine ʻaʻole maopopo iā lākou he maikaʻi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana, a ʻaʻole paha lākou i ʻike pehea e kau ai i nā huaʻōlelo i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
"Maliʻa paha wau e kolohe iā ia" a i ʻole "E hoʻoholo ia iā ia iho" kekahi o nā manaʻo e hele nei i loko o ka manaʻo o kekahi poʻe.
Akā, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio pinepine e pili ana i ka moekolohe. Kūkākūkā i nā manaʻo moe kolohe no nā kāne male a nānā paha ma ka pūnaewele no kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aloha maikaʻi i ka male.
Inā ua lōʻihi kou male ʻana a ʻaʻole i ala mai ke kumuhana i kāu kamaʻilio uluna, a laila manaʻo paha ʻoe he mea lapuwale e lawe nei i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole makemake ʻoe e hōʻino i kāu hoa a i ʻole ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe i ke ʻano o nā mea.
Akā he kumuhana nui loa kēia, a ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike aunoa i nā mea āpau. No laila ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻeha ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea - hiki ke kōkua wale.
Heluhelu hou: Pehea ka pinepine o ka male ʻana o nā kāne male
Inā pilikia ʻoe i ka haki ʻana i ka hau, lālau i kahi puke e pili ana i ka moekolohe a me ka male, a heluhelu ia i loko o kahi moe. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e loaʻa nā nīnau i loko o ka puke; hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kāu wahine. "Pehea kou manaʻo no kēia nīnau, e ka meli?"
ʻAʻole pono ia e hopena ma ke ʻano he kūkākūkā lōʻihi, ʻoiai i ka hopena, hiki nō. E hoʻāʻo iki i ka wai a ʻoluʻolu ʻolua e kamaʻilio e pili ana.
E hoʻomanaʻo, he mea maʻamau nā pilikia moekolohe ma ka male ʻana, a ʻaʻohe mea na ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hilahila ai. A ʻo ke kamaʻilio ʻana e kōkua maoli iā ʻoe i ke kumu o ka pilikia.
E like me kāu e ʻike ai, kōkua ia i kou pilina; e paipai wale ia iā ʻoe e hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka moekolohe.
3. Hele i ka lā hoʻomaha
Hōʻoia ka noiʻi i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pilina pili hohonu me kāu hoa kōkua e kōkua iā ʻoe e leʻaleʻa i ka pilina me lākou.
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo wahine maikaʻi loa no nā kāne male ka haki ʻana i ka monotony a hele i kahi huakaʻi.
Inā loaʻa ka nele o ke kālā no ia mea, e hele wāwae lōʻihi ma hope o ka ʻaina awakea, hoʻolālā i kahi lā lōʻihi, kūikawā a i ʻole ʻoliʻoli i kahi ʻaina pikiniki - nā mea āpau e hauʻoli ai ʻolua. E hoʻopaʻa paʻa ʻoe i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui i kahi hohonu.
Eia ke kumu e noho pū ai nā kāne e huakaʻi like ana a loaʻa nā pilina olakino.
4. E hoʻāʻo i kahi mea hou
Hiki i ka moe lumi ke moe ke luhi. No laila, pehea e loaʻa ai ka moekolohe maikaʻi ma ka male?
He mea nui e haki i ka moekolohe ma ka ʻimi mau ʻana i nā manaʻo pīhoihoi e kau ana i ka moekolohe maikaʻi loa no nā kāne male.
I ka pehea e loaʻa ai ka moekolohe maikaʻi i ka male ʻana, mai waiho i kāu ola moekolohe e wānana ʻia iā ʻoe a i kāu wahine paha.
Wale no ka mea ua male ʻoe ʻaʻole ia he kumu ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hele adventurous i kahi moe. Kūkākūkā ākea i kāu mau makemake me kāu hoa, e hoʻāʻo i nā kūlana hou, nā mea pāʻani moekolohe, a me nā moemoeā hou.
He mea kōkua nō hoʻi e hoʻāʻo i nā manaʻo lumi moe like ʻole no nā kāne male i kēlā me kēia pule a i kēia mahina paha e ola ai ka buzz i kāu ola wahine.
5. Mai makaʻu i ka hoʻōla wahine
Inā loaʻa nā pilikia pili wahine i kāu male ʻana a ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻolua ka mea e hana ai, ʻo kahi mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hele i kahi moekolohe a i ʻole therapist male.
ʻAʻohe mea e makaʻu ai ke hiki mai ka sex therapy. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ʻoe wale nō kēia a me kāu wahine e hele nei i kahi therapist a kamaʻilio. O ia wale nō.
ʻOiai ke kūkākūkā ʻana i kēia kumuhana kikoʻī hiki ke huʻewaʻa i ka mua-e hoʻomanaʻo e hana ana kāu mea hoʻoponopono me nā kāne a me nā pilikia like. Ma hope koke iho e hōʻoluʻolu ko lākou kūleʻa ke wehe aʻe ʻolua e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo. E noa loa ia, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
I loko o kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ua emi a emi mai ke kapu a ʻae ʻia e ka lehulehu.
He mea maʻamau no nā mākua e ʻimi i ke kōkua mai kahi therapist o kekahi ʻano. ʻOiaʻiʻo, pili pū me nā ʻano kumuhana āpau, me nā pilikia pili. Eia nō naʻe, hōʻike ʻia kahi mea nui - hilinaʻi ka poʻe he nui i ke kōkua o kahi ʻoihana olakino noʻonoʻo.
He aha kāu e manaʻo ai mai ka sex therapy?
ʻOiaʻiʻo, pili ia i ka mea hoʻoponopono, akā ma ka laulā, aia ʻoe ma laila e loaʻa ai nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo moekolohe maikaʻi no ke ola hauʻoli a kūkākūkā i nā pilikia pili.
I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe ke kumu kumu o ia — i ia manawa, e hoʻāʻo ka mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike — a i nā manawa ʻē aʻe, ʻike ʻoe he aha ia, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hala.
ʻO ke kamaʻilio e pili ana me kahi mea hoʻoponopono e kōkua iā ʻoe, a hele mai kāu wahine i ka ʻike maikaʻi aʻe a lana ka manaʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi i kou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka moekolohe.
ʻO ka pahuhopu nui ke kōkua i kāu ʻike moekolohe me kāu wahine me ke kōkua o nā manaʻo moekolohe no nā kāne male a me nā ʻike e pili ana i ka moekolohe maikaʻi ma ka male.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole pono ka moekolohe ma ke ʻano he holo kino wale nō, akā he pilina palupalu a me ke aloha. Me ka ʻole o ka pāʻani, ke aloha aloha, lilo ka wahine i buzz e nalo i kāna kuanaʻike, kahi e hōʻeha ai i kou pilina.
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi loa no nā kāne male a hiki ke kōkua maoli iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻi i ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli i kāu moekolohe i ʻike mua ʻia.