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- 1. He hoa helehelena nahenahe me ke ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka
- 2. Ka nānā i hoʻololi ʻia i nā ʻano makemake i ka hoa
- 3. Loaʻa nā hoihoi like akā ʻaʻole like loa
- 4. Ke loaʻa ʻana o ke aloha i ka male lua
- 5. Ka hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hauʻoli i ka pilina kāne like
- 6. Ka haki ʻana i ke kumu no ka launa ʻana me ke ʻano hewa
- 7. ʻO ka mea nāna e hoʻopuka i nā mea ʻoi loa i loko ou
Hoʻoikaika mākou āpau e loaʻa kahi pilina piha. Akā he aha kā mākou e manaʻo nei e "hemolele?" He hemolele kahi ʻike ʻike, wehewehe ʻokoʻa ʻia e kēlā me kēia kanaka āu e kamaʻilio pū ai. E nānā i ka wehewehe o ka poʻe aʻe i ka mea i pili i ka pilina kūpono no lākou, a ʻike inā aia kekahi mau mea like i ka mea a lākou e wehewehe ai ma ke ʻano he pilina piha i nā ʻano like ʻole.
1. He hoa helehelena nahenahe me ke ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka
ʻO Molly, 25, ʻeono mau mahina i loko o kāna pilina aloha. "He hemolele loa kaʻu ipo," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. “Akamai ʻo ia, uʻi, a he ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka kona. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo kēia ka mea i huki iaʻu i ona lā. ʻO ka manawa mua aʻu i ʻike ai iā ia, e kū ana ʻo ia i luna ma ka hui komedi kūloko. Ua wae ʻo ia iaʻu i waho o ke anaina ma ke ʻano he mahele o kekahi o kāna hana maʻamau. ʻOiai ua hilahila iki wau, ua piʻi wau iā ia ma hope o ka hōʻike e hoʻolauna iaʻu iho. Ua noi ʻo ia iaʻu i waho, a maikaʻi, maikaʻi nā mea āpau (i kēia manawa)! Makemake nui wau i ka maʻalahi o ka hana ʻana i ka lehulehu a makemake nui ʻo ia i kāna mea hoʻomākeʻaka. ”
2. Ka nānā i hoʻololi ʻia i nā ʻano makemake i ka hoa
Steve, 49, he ʻano ʻokoʻa ko ka ʻike. ʻAʻohe lula manamana nui i kahi pilina pili pono a i kekahi manawa, pili ka loli i kahi loli. A ʻo ia ka mea i hana ʻia me Steve.
"E, ua haʻalele wau no laila ʻike wau i ka mea e like me ke kūpono inā 22 hiki ke loli i ka manawa o 40. Ke aloha wau me kaʻu wahine, ua manaʻo wau ua hemolele ʻo ia. Nani, i loko o ka mālama ʻana i kona helehelena o ke kino, a me kahi homebody maoli. Ua hoʻi mai wau i ka home mai ka hana a maikaʻi nā mea āpau: maʻemaʻe ka hale, ʻaina ahiahi ma ke kapuahi, a nani mau kona ʻano. Akā hōʻoluʻolu kēlā i kēlā me kēia makahiki. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i makemake e huakaʻi nui — e like me kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai, he homebody ʻo ia - a he kaupalena kona hoihoi ma waho o ke kālepa ʻana a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i kona lauoho.
Ua aloha wau i kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe aʻu i launa ai ma o kaʻu kalapu holo. Ua hoʻopau wau i ka haʻalele ʻana i kaʻu wahine mua, a i kēia manawa hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo maoli he pilina paʻa koʻu. ʻO Samantha (ʻo kaʻu wahine ʻelua ʻē aʻe e like me aʻu. Ua loli au i koʻu pili. "
3. Loaʻa nā hoihoi like akā ʻaʻole like loa
Camille, 30, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia manaʻo ʻo ka pilina kūpono kahi mea like nā makemake o nā kānaka ʻelua akā ʻaʻole like loa. "E hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kahi mea hou i loko o ka pilina, i nā manawa he nui," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. “ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e kūʻē polar - paʻakikī kēlā no ka mea ʻaʻohe ou mea like, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e noho i loko o nā ʻeke a kēlā me kēia manawa. Luhi nō kēlā.
Makemake au i kahi kaulike maikaʻi kahi a kāua hoa a me kaʻu mau mea nui i kūlike ai — ka politika, ka hoʻomana, ka hoʻonaʻauao, pehea mākou e ʻike ai i ka ʻohana — akā he kūʻokoʻa ko mākou e hele ai e mākaʻikaʻi i nā mea ʻē aʻe e like me ka hana a mākou me kā mākou manawa leʻaleʻa. . ʻO kahi laʻana, makemake wau e pāʻani i ka tennis ma nā hopena pule, a makemake ʻo ia e wehe i kekahi mau hola ʻelua e paʻi kiʻi i nā kiʻi me kāna lāʻau paʻi kiʻi. Ke hoʻi mai mākou i ka home mai kā mākou hana like ʻole, he nui kā mākou e kaʻana like ai.
4. Ke loaʻa ʻana o ke aloha i ka male lua
"He kūpono koʻu pilina naʻu, akā ʻaʻole wau e noʻonoʻo e hana wau ma mua o koʻu hālāwai ʻana me Mike," wahi a ʻO Cindy, 50. "Ua male wau ma mua, i kahi kāne conservative maoli. ʻO mākou ka wahine a ka poʻe āpau i lili a makemake e like. ʻO ka hale maikaʻi, nā hana maikaʻi, nā keiki e hana maikaʻi ana i ke kula. He poʻe haipule mākou a hāʻawi hou i ke kaiāulu.
Ma hope o ka maʻi ʻana o kaʻu kāne a hala akula i ka make, ʻaʻole au i manaʻo e male hou wau. ʻAʻole nō paha kekahi e like me Mike. He biracial ʻo Mike, pili ʻo ia i ka hema i ka hema, ʻuhane akā ʻaʻole hoʻomana. Akā ua huki ʻia wau i kona ikehu, a aloha mākou. He mea hoʻopūʻiwa paha! Laki nō wau i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa kūpono e loaʻa ai nā pili kūpono ʻelua. ʻOkoʻa loa kēlā me kēia. Kuhi au i ka mea aʻu e ʻōlelo nei ʻo ia ka “hemolele” i loko o nā ʻono ʻē aʻe. Mahalo! ”
5. Ka hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hauʻoli i ka pilina kāne like
"ʻAʻole paha koʻu pili pili i ka mea a ke kaiāulu i kapa ai he hemolele," wahi a ʻO Amy, 39. “He wahine kuʻu hoa. ʻAʻole paha e kapa ʻia kekahi he pilina maikaʻi loa kēia, akā hemolele ʻo ia noʻu. E aloha wau iā ia inā he kāne ʻo ia. ʻAno, ʻakaʻaka ʻo ia, a hōʻike iaʻu ua aloha ʻo ia iaʻu i mau ala miliona i kēlā me kēia lā. Kūlike mākou i ka pilina: kaʻana like mākou i nā hana o ka hale, loaʻa iā mākou nā ʻono like i nā mele, nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a me nā mea a mākou e makemake ai e nānā ma ke kīwī. Kūkākūkā mākou, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā mau ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai i ka ʻaoʻao o kēlā me kēia. A ʻaʻole mākou e hiamoe me ka huhū. Inā ʻaʻole like ia me kahi pilina piha, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu.
6. Ka haki ʻana i ke kumu no ka launa ʻana me ke ʻano hewa
ʻO Kathy, 58, lōʻihi ka manawa e loaʻa ai kahi pilina kūpono. "Ua launa au i ka nui o nā kāne ma lalo o ka maikaʻi i koʻu wā ʻōpio," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "A laila kū wau. Ua manaʻo wau e ʻo wau wale nō ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi keikikāne i inu, a i piliwaiwai paha, a i ʻole mahalo ʻole iaʻu e mālama pono iaʻu.
ʻO ia ka manawa i kū ai wau i ka ʻae ʻana i ka hana maikaʻi ʻole mai nā kāne a hoʻomaha iki mai ka pili aloha ʻana ua hālāwai wau me Gary. Ua kūpono ʻo Gary noʻu, ma waho pono o ka ʻōpeʻapeʻa. ʻO ia wale nō kekahi o kēlā mau kāne noʻonoʻo, noʻonoʻo, mālama mau i kāna ʻōlelo, hōʻike i kona naʻau. He mau hoaaloha ko mākou ma ka like, kaʻana like i nā kuko, a makemake nā mea ʻelua e pelu a honi! Nui koʻu hauʻoli ua hāpai wau i kaʻu mau hae o ka mea aʻu e makemake ai. Inā ʻaʻole wau, inā he ola o nā hoa i hoʻohoka iaʻu, a ʻaʻole wau e launa me Gary. ”
7. ʻO ka mea nāna e hoʻopuka i nā mea ʻoi loa i loko ou
"ʻIke ʻoe i ka mea e hana i kahi pilina kūpono?", Nīnau Maria, 55. "Hoʻopuka kāu hoa i ka mea ʻoi loa i loko ou. Uaʻike wauʻo James ka mea i maopopo iaʻu ua hoʻokauʻo ia iaʻu i nā hōkū. Makemake ʻo ia iaʻu e hoʻāʻo iaʻu iho, no laila mahalo mau wau iā ia. ʻ,, ʻike wau e aloha ʻo ia iaʻu i nā mea āpau aʻu e hana ai, akā hoʻohoka ʻole ʻo ia iaʻu. Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ia iaʻu, kākoʻo iaʻu a hāʻawi iaʻu i kahi e pono ai e ulu mau. Hana wau i ka mea like nona. He pilina kūpono kēlā iaʻu! "
He aha nā mea a mākou e aʻo ai e pili ana i ka pilina hemolele mai kēia poʻe? Me he mea lā he ʻokoʻa ka pilina kūpono no nā mea āpau. He mea maikaʻi kēia. Inā hele mai ka pilina pili loa i hoʻokahi nui, aia a nui nā mea hoʻonāukiuki i waho! He mea nui e wehewehe he aha kāu "hemolele", no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ia ke hiki mai i kou ala.
