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- Hoʻopilikia paha ka monogamy i ke ola moekolohe maikaʻi?
- ʻO kahi pilina lōʻihi a me kahi ola wela
- ʻOi aku paha ia e pili ana i ka pōʻaiapili
- Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono no ke ola moekolohe?
- 4 o nā helu 13 mai ka papa inoa o nā kāne me kahi ola nui loa:
ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole e make kou ola wahine ma muli wale nō o kou noho pū ʻana akā lōʻihi paha kahi mea ʻē aʻe e pepehi ai.
Hoʻopilikia paha ka monogamy i ke ola moekolohe maikaʻi?
ʻO kekahi o nā kuleana aʻu i ʻike hou ai i kēia mau makahiki ʻo ia ka monogamy e hoʻopōʻino i ke ola moekolohe maikaʻi.
ʻO ke koi e pepehi ka monogamy i ka eroticism. No laila inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina monogamous, e mānoanoa kou ola wahine i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa a e hoʻoliʻiliʻi kou makemake no kekahi i kekahi a ʻo ka hope loa, ʻo ka eroticism ka mōʻaukala.
ʻO ia kā lākou e ʻōlelo ai.
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma ke ʻano kumu ʻaʻole mākou "hana" biologically e noho me hoʻokahi hoa wale nō.
Ke pau ka mua o ka “in-love feelings” a mae ʻelua a ʻoluʻolu loa ʻoe, aia hoʻokahi wale nō ala e hiki ai i ka moekolohe ke poʻo a aia i lalo.
ʻO ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ke hele a ikaika ka pilina a nui ka palekana a me ka palekana ma waena o ʻolua, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia ka hormone oxytocin, a i ka wā e kū ai kēlā me he mea lā he hanana i hana ʻia i hoʻokahi manawa a ʻaʻole hiki ke hana hou ʻia. lilo ia i mea paʻakikī e manaʻo ʻaʻa a kuko i kāu hoa.
Eia nō naʻe, inā pololei kēlā, no ke aha ia e nui ai nā hana maikaʻi, nā kāne lōʻihi e ʻōlelo nei he ola maikaʻi a maikaʻi hoʻi kā lākou.
ʻO nā kāne e huli mau ʻia e kekahi, e ʻoliʻoli pū kekahi i kekahi me ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki ʻōpio, nā kūlike ʻole, ke kaumaha, nā piʻi a me nā lalo. ʻike ʻoe, nā mea āpau e hele i loko.
ʻIke wau i kēlā mea hoihoi loa.
ʻO kahi pilina lōʻihi a me kahi ola wela
Inā pololei ke kuhiakau "ʻo ke aloha, ka pilina a me ka palekana e hōʻino ai i ke ola moekolohe," a laila pehea e loaʻa ai i kēia mau kāne a me kahi pilina maikaʻi a palekana hoʻi a me ka nohona aloha a kolohe hoʻi?
ʻAʻole wau wale nō ka mea hoihoi i kēia.
Ma waena o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ua alakaʻi ʻo Northrup, Schwartz, a me Witte i kahi noiʻi me nā mea i komo ma mua o 70,000 mai 24 mau ʻāina like ʻole. Ua hoʻomaka kēia hoʻopaʻa e ʻike i nā ʻokoʻa maoli ma waena o nā kāne a me ke ola maikaʻi a me nā mea i loaʻa kahi crappy.
ʻOluʻolu nā hopena. Ua loaʻa iā lākou he 13 mau mea like ma waena o nā kāne i haʻi he ola maikaʻi kā lākou. ʻAʻole nānā kēia i ka makahiki, ka ʻāina, ka nohona a pēlā aku.
Ma mua o 50% o kēia mau kiko he mau hana, a mākou e ʻike nei e hoʻokuʻu i ka oxytocin. Paipai ʻo Oxytocin i ka pilina a me ka pilina. ʻO kekahi o nā mea a nā kāne i hana ai e huli i kekahi i kekahi me ka naʻau a me ke kino. I kēlā me kēia lā. ʻIke wau i kēia mea hoihoi loa e like me ke kūlike ʻole me nā mea āu e lohe ai; ke lilo ka pilina lōʻihi i mea paʻa loa, make ke ola wahine.
ʻOi aku paha ia e pili ana i ka pōʻaiapili
E pili ana ia i ka hakahaka āu e hana ai nou iho kahi e loaʻa ai kahi ola moekolohe maikaʻi. Ua kamaʻilio ʻo Emily Nagoski e pili ana i kēia mea i loko o kāna puke hou:
Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono no ke ola moekolohe?
ʻAʻole ia e pili ana i ke ola moekolohe wale nō iā ia iho; ʻaʻole kēlā ka mea e luku ai i ka erotic element.
ʻAʻole ʻaʻole, ʻo ia ke ala a mākou e mālama pinepine ai i ko mākou moekolohe ma ka pilina monogamous. ʻO ia ka mea pepehi iā ia.
4 o nā helu 13 mai ka papa inoa o nā kāne me kahi ola nui loa:
- Honi lākou i kekahi i kekahi me ke kumu ʻole
- Hoʻonoho mua lākou i ko lākou ola wahine a ʻaʻole ia ma lalo o ka papa inoa o ka hana
- ʻLelo ʻoluʻolu lākou e pili ana i ko lākou ola moekolohe a aʻo pehea e
- ʻIke lākou i ka mea e huli a kāpae aku i kā lākou hoa hana erotically
Hoihoi ia, ʻeā?
ʻOiai inā ua hala mākou i ka noiʻi a me nā noiʻi i hana ʻia a lele pono i loko o kaʻu keʻena ponoʻī, ʻo ka mea aʻu e ʻike nei i kēia manawa ʻo nā kāne e makemake ana e hoʻihoʻi i ko lākou ola ke makemake i ka mea like: ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manawa.
ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka manawa e hana pū ai i ke kuko i kekahi me kekahi a like me ka nui o ka moekolohe.
Ua hala wau i ka helu o nā manawa aʻu i lohe ai i ka ʻōlelo: "Inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā mākou manawa kūpono, e hoʻomaikaʻi ia i ko mākou ola wahine a makemake mākou i kekahi i kekahi."
A ke kōkua wau iā lākou e hana mua i kēia manawa pū, pololei lākou; hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lākou ola wahine.
ʻIke mau lākou inā lākou e ukali i ko lākou kuko no ka manawa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manawa - ka manawa e hoʻopili ai i ka naʻau - a laila e hana i ka moekolohe ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. ʻAʻole wale lākou i hoʻolohe akā koho lākou e ʻae i ka moemoeā e hoʻopau mau kahi pilina lōʻihi i ka luku ʻana i ke ola wahine.
ʻIke wau i kēia mea hoihoi loa a aloha wale nō. A malia paha e ʻike ʻoe he mea hōʻeuʻeu pū kekahi. ʻO kēia ka mea ʻo ʻoe ka mea me ka mana e hana i kahi ola wahine maikaʻi ʻole - kūlohelohe maoli ʻole ke ʻano iā ʻoe.
Pane a Maj: Hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i ka pilina monogamous a loaʻa kahi ola wela.