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- Hiki i kahi pilina ke ola 'noho kaʻawale' ma hope o ka noho pū ʻana?
- He aha nā mea maikaʻi ʻole o ka noho kaʻawale ʻana?
- Ka nele o ka pilina
- Kamaʻilio nāwaliwali
- Nā pilikia hilinaʻi
- Hoʻonui i ka hana i ka mālama ʻana
- Panina hopena
Ke loaʻa nei i kahi manawa hoʻokahi iā ʻoe iho hiki ke manaʻo he manaʻo maikaʻi i kekahi manawa; akā naʻe, aia wale nō ka manawa hoʻokahi wale nō e pili ai kāu pilina ma mua o ka haki ʻana a hāʻule pū.
ʻOiai ʻo ka nui o nā kāne paʻa e pīhoihoi nei e pili ana i nā lilo o ka male ʻana, ke koho nei kekahi mau kāne no ka male ma ke kaona kūlanakauhale, a aia kekahi hui o ka poʻe e hana nei i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
Koho paha ka poʻe i ka male a male ʻole paha, ukali nā kāne he nui i ke ʻano o ka pilina ma kahi a lākou e hui ai, aloha aku ai, a laila neʻe pū kekahi me kekahi.
I kēia mau lā, eia naʻe, ke hoʻololi nei kekahi poʻe i ka stereotype a koho no ka hāʻule ʻana i ke aloha a me ka pili pili lōʻihi me ka noho ʻole ʻana me kā lākou mea aloha. ʻO kēia ka mea i ʻike ʻia e noho kaʻawale ana.
Hiki i kahi pilina ke ola 'noho kaʻawale' ma hope o ka noho pū ʻana?
Ma mua o ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka noho ʻokoʻa ʻana o ka hana a i ʻole ʻole, e hoʻomaopopo kākou i ke ʻano o ia mea.
No nā kāne ʻōpio, ʻo ke koho e noho kaʻawale ma muli o ke kūlana kālā a i ʻole no ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻia e ke kula a i ʻole ka hana.
E like me ka nui o nā makahiki o nā kāne ma mua o 60, ʻo ke kumu maʻamau no ka noho ʻana i kahi pilina "noho kaʻawale" e kūʻokoʻa.
I ka hui ʻōpio o nā kāne, ʻo ka hapanui o ka poʻe makemake e neʻe me kā lākou mau hoa, ʻoiai ke hiki i ka wā ʻelemakule, ʻaʻohe o kēlā mau hoʻolālā i ka nui o nā kāne.
Makemake kēia mau kāne e noho i ko lākou hale ponoʻī a pili pū me ke ʻano o ko lākou noho ʻana ke koe i ka pilina paʻa.
Eia kekahi, he poʻe ka poʻe ʻelemakule i male ma mua a loaʻa i nā keiki makua. ʻAʻole makemake kēia poʻe i ka haʻalele i kā lākou kūʻokoʻa a hoʻomaka i nā mea āpau.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ka hapa nui o kēia mau poʻe ʻaʻole i mālama i kā lākou wahine, a ʻaʻole makemake kekahi e hoʻopīpī i ka hoʻoilina o kā lākou keiki.
No laila, ʻo kēia noho kaʻawale ʻana o ka nohona e hiki ai iā lākou ke ola i ke ala a lākou e makemake ai, i kahi manawa ponoʻī e hana ai i kā lākou mea, a kekahi e aloha a aloha ʻia ai.
He aha nā mea maikaʻi ʻole o ka noho kaʻawale ʻana?
E like me nā hoʻoholo ʻē aʻe, ke noho kaʻawale pū kekahi me nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi manawa wale nō hiki ke manaʻo he mea maikaʻi, akā a laila ʻo ka nui o ka manawa wale nō e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kaumaha a me kou pilina āpau e hāʻule.
ʻO kekahi mau mea maikaʻi ʻole ʻē aʻe i hele pū mai me ka noho kaʻawale ʻana:
Ka nele o ka pilina
Hōʻike pinepine nā kāne hauʻoli i ko lākou aloha ma o nā hana kino e like me nā honi a me nā ʻapo. He aha ka hana inā makemake ʻoe i kahi ʻūlū ma ke aumoe?
E ala ana i kou wahi moe ʻole ke hele a ʻelemakule ʻoe i kahi pilina, a makemake ʻoe i kahi mea e ʻapo me kekahi.
Noho wale ka pilina ma waena o ka wā e pono ai ka poʻe ʻelua i kahi ākea a maikaʻi me ka nele o ka pilina ma kēia manawa.
Kamaʻilio nāwaliwali
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma mua o ka ʻōlelo wale ʻana. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka kamaʻilio waha ʻole ka mea nui ma mua o ka kamaʻilio waha i kāu pilina.
ʻAʻole hiki i kahi leka maʻalahi a me ke kelepona ʻana ke pani i ka pīhoihoi āu e ʻike ai ke ʻike maka aku kāu poʻe i aloha ai, a i ʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo maikaʻi i kekahi i kekahi me ke kālepa ʻana i nā minoʻaka a me nā honi.
ʻOiai noho kaʻawale, kamaʻilio maʻalahi ka nāwaliwali, a alakaʻi kēia i nā pilina nāwaliwali.
Nā pilikia hilinaʻi
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ke kūkulu ʻana i ka hilinaʻi me kekahi ke hiki ʻoe ma laila e nānā i kā lākou hana a nānā iā ia.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā e hoʻopunipuni ʻia ʻoe inā ʻaʻole kokoke kāu hoa iā ʻoe i ka hapa nui o ka manawa? Pehea ʻoe e hoʻoponopono ai i kēia pilikia hilinaʻi?
ʻO ka noho ʻana ma ke 'noho kaʻawale ʻana' hiki ke alualu nā pilina e nā poʻe i ikaika i ko lākou manaʻoʻiʻo e noho kūpaʻa. Hoʻohana kekahi poʻe i kēia mau pilina e ʻike i ka mea i waho a e ʻimi pū kekahi i nā pilina wehe.
Inā 'ʻaʻohe mau kaula i hoʻopili ʻia i loko o kahi pilina' he mea ia āu e ʻaelike ai me kāu hoa, a laila ʻo ka noho kaʻawale ʻana he mea maikaʻi loa nāu. Akā inā ʻoe e pili i nā pilikia hilinaʻi, a laila alo i ka loaʻa ʻana o kēia ʻano pilina.
Hoʻonui i ka hana i ka mālama ʻana
Ma waho o nā kumu i luna no ka hōʻalo ʻana i kēia noho kaʻawale ʻana, ʻo kekahi mea maikaʻi ʻole e lawe ai ka noho kaʻawale ʻana.
ʻO nā ālaina āpau a me nā pilikia o ka noho ʻole ʻana i ka ʻākoakoa like me kāu hoa e nīnau ai iā ʻoe e pili ana paha ka pili o kāu pilina i kēia hana.
ʻOiai he mea kupaianaha paha kāu pakanā, nui nā iʻa ʻē aʻe i ke kai, a ke ʻike ʻoe i kahi kanaka āu e makemake ai e noho pū, makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻopau i ka noho kaʻawale ʻana o nā pilina.
Panina hopena
ʻO ka nīnau "hana ʻokoʻa ka hana a ʻaʻole paha" kahi mea e pili loa iā ʻoe.
Inā ʻae ʻoe e hana, maikaʻi ia, a inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana, a laila ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi. No laila, koho naʻauao.