Anter
- 1. Paipai i kāu wahine me kā lākou leʻaleʻa
- 2. Mai makaʻu i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka manawa
- 3. E mahalo
- 4. E hoʻopono
- 5. Prioritize
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi leʻaleʻa ka mea nui i nā mea he nui o mākou. Me ka ʻole o kahi leʻaleʻa e hoʻi i hope, ʻike ka hapa nui o mākou iā mākou iho e hāʻule pinepine ana i ka luhi. Ke male ʻoe, ʻaʻole kou ola i kahi ʻimi pākahi; pono ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i kou manawa a me ka nānā ma waena o ʻoe a me kāu hoa.
1. Paipai i kāu wahine me kā lākou leʻaleʻa
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa e alualu ai i kāu leʻaleʻa inā e hana like kāu pakanā. Ua hui nā kāne he nui ma o kahi leʻaleʻa a hoihoi paha, no laila i kekahi manawa he kūlohelohe ke hoʻohui pū kekahi i kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, kahi a kāua me kāu kāne ʻaʻole kahi leʻaleʻa like, pono ʻoe e paipai iā lākou e ʻike i kekahi o kā lākou ponoʻī. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kono mau iā lākou e hui pū me ʻoe, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ʻike kekahi mau kāne i ka manawa kaʻawale he waiwai, a ʻike kekahi poʻe e pono lākou i kahi kaʻawale iki i ko lākou ola. Ke kamaʻilio nei no ...
2. Mai makaʻu i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka manawa
He mea maʻamau ka makemake e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me kāu wahine, keu hoʻi i ka wā e male wale ana ʻoe. Akā he mea nui e ʻike i ka waiwai o ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana ma kahi o kekahi. He waiwai nui ia iā ʻolua i kahi hana a i ʻole ka alualu ʻana hiki iā ʻoe ke hele aku i ka wā e pono ai kekahi o ʻolua i kahi manawa wale nō. Inā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻoe a me kāu wahine (a ʻoi aku ka hana a nā kāne maikaʻi loa), hiki ke kōkua nui inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi leʻaleʻa hiki iā ʻoe ke huli aʻe ma ke ʻano e hoʻomaliʻi i lalo.
3. E mahalo
No nā poʻe he nui, kā lākou leʻaleʻa kahi mea nui o ko lākou ola a me ko lākou ʻike; hiki iā lākou ke lilo i kumu o kahi ʻoihana. Hiki i ka leʻaleʻa o ke kanaka ke lilo i mea nui loa iā lākou. Eia nō naʻe, inā he mea nui kāu leʻaleʻa iā ʻoe, a makemake ʻoe e mahalo kāu wahine i kēlā, pono hoʻi ʻoe e mahalo i kā lākou makemake a me nā makemake. E ʻike pono ʻaʻole ʻoe i ka hana mua i kāu leʻaleʻa ma mua o nā hoʻohiki ʻē aʻe i kāu wahine a mālama ʻoe i kā lākou mau pono me ka mahalo āu e makemake ai.
4. E hoʻopono
ʻAʻole ʻoe e heʻe iki e alualu i kāu leʻaleʻa ma kahi huna. Inā ʻoe e hana ana i kēia, pono ia e koi iā ʻoe e wahaheʻe a alakaʻi hewa i kāu wahine. Pono ʻoe e ʻoiaʻiʻo me kāu hoa, ʻoiai ke hiki mai i kāu mau makemake a me kou mau makemake, a pehea ʻoe e hoʻolilo ai i kou manawa. ʻO ka hānai hānai kahi mea koʻikoʻi o nā pilina a pono ʻoe e lawe i kahi manawa kūpono e hoʻoikaika ai. ʻO ka wehe a me ka pololei e pili ana i kāu leʻaleʻa kahi ala maʻalahi e hāʻawi i kēia.
5. Prioritize
ʻO kekahi ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o nā pilina kūleʻa a lōʻihi hoʻi ka hiki ke hoʻonohonoho mua. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kāu leʻaleʻa he ʻāpana nui ia o kou ola, e ʻike pono i ka maopopo ʻana i kāu wahine i kēia. ʻOiai ʻoe e hōʻike i kou makemake a hiki i ka prioritize i kou manawa, e ʻike maʻalahi kāu pakanā e kākoʻo.
Ke male ʻoe, ʻike pinepine ʻoe ʻaʻohe ou manawa kaʻawale e alualu ai i kāu mau pono ponoʻī. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo a hoʻopono me kāu wahine, pono ʻoe e ʻike he maʻalahi ke hana i ka manawa no kāu leʻaleʻa.