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- 1. Noho pū ʻoe me ka manawa maikaʻi?
- 2. Ehia mau manawa o kou moekolohe ʻana?
- 3. ʻO kou hoa aloha kāu hoa aloha?
- 4. Ua hoʻonohonoho paha ʻoe i nā palena olakino (ʻoiai kekahi me kekahi)?
- 5. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hoʻolālā kālā a me ka hoʻomaha loa ma kahi?
- 6. Hauʻoli paha ʻoe?
Inā e nīnau kekahi iā ʻoe nā nīnau loiloi mare i kēia lā, aia kahi manawa kūpono e nīnau ai lākou iā ʻoe i kekahi mea ma nā laina o "No laila, pehea kou hauʻoli i kāu pili?"
A ʻoiai he nīnau kūpono ia (hoʻokahi a mākou e kiʻi ai i ka hopena o kēia ʻatikala), manaʻo mākou ʻo ka mea i ʻoi aku ka nui no ka loiloi ka pilina ʻo “Pehea olakino ʻO kou male anei ia? ”
Ke olakino kāu male, ʻo ia ke kani, ikaika, a hauʻoli ʻolua. A ke ʻano ia i kēlā ʻano ʻano, hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe i ka ʻuhane, ka naʻau, a me ke kino pū kekahi.
ʻO ia ke kumu a mākou e manaʻo ai he mea nui ia i nā kāne e hoʻohana ai i nā pono loiloi no ka male e like me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kā lākou iho hōʻoia hoʻāʻo kino male mai kēlā me kēia manawa.
ʻO ke kumu, he moʻo o nā nīnau 'olakino olakino male' e nīnau ai ʻoe a me kāu wahine iā ʻoe iho i mea e maopopo ai ke manaʻo nei ʻoe ua maikaʻi kāu male.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i alakaʻi i kahi hoʻāʻo pili olakino a hoʻāʻo olakino male, eia kahi (ʻano paʻakikī) 10 mau minuke hoʻāʻo hoʻoikaika kino a mākou e paipai aku ai iā ʻoe e hana ana i ka wā e hoʻi mai ana ʻoe mai ka hana i kēia pō a i ʻole ka hopena pule inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manawa downtime.
Inā ʻoe e mākaukau no kēia hōʻike hoʻāo?
E hoʻomaka kākou:
1. Noho pū ʻoe me ka manawa maikaʻi?
Manaʻo kekahi mau kāne ʻoiai lākou e kaʻana like i kahi moena, ke hoʻohana nei lākou i ka manawa maikaʻi ma ke ʻano he kāne. ʻOiai he hōʻailona olakino ia o ka male āu e hiamoe ai i ka lumi like, pono ka manawa o ke ʻano he mea ʻoi aku ma mua o kēlā.
Hele ʻoe i nā lā (me ka ʻole o nā keiki)? Hele pū ʻoe i nā huakaʻi aloha i kēlā me kēia makahiki? Hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka manawa i hoʻokahi manawa i ka pule e nānā i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni ma ka moe a hoʻomākaukau pū paha i ka ʻaina awakea?
Kēia nīnau loiloi mare e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i ka nui o kāu hoʻonoho mua i kāu male ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe. Ma ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa maikaʻi me kāu kāne, ke hōʻike nei ʻoe i ka leka he mea nui lākou iā ʻoe — a he hana nui kēlā i kēlā me kēia pilina male.
2. Ehia mau manawa o kou moekolohe ʻana?
ʻOiai ʻokoʻa ka pinepine o ka moekolohe ma muli o ka makahiki o ka wahine, ka papa kuhikuhi, ke olakino, a me ka makemake pilikino, inā ʻoe e hui pū kekahi me kekahi ma lalo o 10 mau manawa i kēlā me kēia makahiki, pili ʻenehana ʻoe i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he male wahine ʻole.
ʻO ka moekolohe kekahi o nā mea nui e pili ana i ka pilina male e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia mai nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau. Hoʻopili iā ʻoe i ka ʻuhane. Hoʻohui iā ʻoe me ka naʻau. Hoʻohui, nui nā keu o ke kino e hiki mai ana.
ʻO ia no ka mea ke kōkua ka moekolohe i ka pale ʻana i ka palekana, hoʻonui i ka maʻalahi, a hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo kaumaha a me nā haunaele. ʻAʻohe kānalua e pili ana. ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona maikaʻi loa o ka male olakino olakino kahi ola olakino a kūlike ʻole i ka wahine.
3. ʻO kou hoa aloha kāu hoa aloha?
I ka manawa e male ai ʻoe, ʻaʻole pono i kāu pakanā ke hoa aloha wale me ʻoe; akā inā ʻo lākou kou hoa aloha ʻoi loa, he mea maikaʻi kēlā. ʻO kēia ka mea ʻo lākou ke kanaka mua āu e koho ai e hele pū me kou mau manaʻo, kou kānalua a me nā makaʻu, a me kāu mau manaʻo e pono ai pū kekahi.
ʻO lākou ke kanaka mua āu e nānā ai no ke kākoʻo a me ka paipai. ʻO lākou ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka mea mua āu e lawe ai (a mahalo).
ʻO kahi keu pono maikaʻi loa o ka lilo ʻana i hoa aloha me kāu wahine ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki ke kōkua i ka hihia-hōʻoia i kāu male ʻana; ʻoi loa ke hiki mai i ka hōʻalo ʻana i nā hihia ʻano hiki ke hiki.
4. Ua hoʻonohonoho paha ʻoe i nā palena olakino (ʻoiai kekahi me kekahi)?
ʻO ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka "lilo ʻana i hoʻokahi" me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. Ma ka manawa like ʻole, ʻaʻole pono ia e lilo ma ke kumu lilo o ka lilo ʻana o kāu pilikino ponoʻī. Aia kahi ʻāpana o ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena olakino, ʻoiai i loko o kāu pili male.
Hoʻokahi puke i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i kēlā Nā Palena i ka male ʻana na Henry Cloud lāua ʻo John Townsend. Pili nā palena i ka mahalo a me ka mahi ʻana i mea nui e like me ke aloha i kāu hoa.
5. Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hoʻolālā kālā a me ka hoʻomaha loa ma kahi?
ʻO ka hoʻoikaika kino i ka male kālā. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei i kēlā, he hoʻolālā kālā kāu a me kāu hoa? ʻO kekahi e kōkua iā ʻoe e haʻalele i ka hōʻaiʻē, e mālama i ke kālā, a e mālama i kāu helu ʻaiʻē? Pehea e pili ana i ka luhi?
Me nā ʻatikala he nui a paʻi ʻia e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e hana ka nui o nā poʻe ma mua o ka makahiki līkī, ʻaʻohe manawa e like me kēia manawa e kau i nā hoʻolālā i wahi e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe kekahi o lākou.
6. Hauʻoli paha ʻoe?
E haʻi aku kekahi mea male iā ʻoe he hana paʻakikī ka male ʻana. ʻO ia ke kumu he kūpono ʻole ke manaʻo e hauʻoli i kāu pilina nā mea āpau o ka manawa.
Akā inā he hui olakino ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā manawa kokoke i kēlā me kēia lā e ʻūlū, ʻakaʻaka a ʻakaʻaka ai ʻoe a makaʻu ʻole, makaʻu, hopohopo, a hauʻoli ʻole paha i kāu pili.
Ke hauʻoli ʻoe i kāu male ʻana, ʻo ia hoʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka leʻaleʻa, ʻoluʻolu, a me ka hauʻoli i loko o kāu hui. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo "ʻae" ma ka laulā, ʻakaʻaka. E noʻonoʻo i kāu male ʻana i olakino maikaʻi a maikaʻi hoʻi!
E hōʻoia i kou olakino male:
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Lana ko mākou manaʻo ua pane ʻoe i nā nīnau i kēia male e kōkua i ka hoʻāʻo e like me ka hiki iā ʻoe. Inā ma hope o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, manaʻo ʻoe ua hauʻoli ʻoe, hoʻokō a paʻa i ka pilina me kāu wahine, a laila hauʻoli. Inā ʻaʻole, a laila e hana ma nā wahi āu e makemake ai i kou aloha a me kou nānā.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kēia mau nīnau i a nīnau nīnau loiloi mare no kekahi mea e pili ana i ka male a e hakakā mau nei me ka manaʻo "ua kūpono wau no ka male?"
Inā weliweli loa ka mokuʻāina o kou pilina, a laila mai hoʻokaʻulua i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi koho me kahi mea lapaʻau. Me kahi kōkua waho liʻiliʻi, hiki paha iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā ke hoʻohuli i ka mokuʻāina o kāu male. Pōmaikaʻi iā 'oe!