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- ʻO wai ka mea hiamoe hou?
- ʻO wai ka mea hana hou aʻe no ka pēpē?
- Ka nele o ka moekolohe
- Manaʻo ʻole ʻia ka mahalo ʻia
- Nā ʻano mākua
ʻO ka lilo ʻana i makua he hoʻoponopono nui loa ia. E aʻo pū ʻoe me kāu wahine pehea e mālama ai i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe a hoʻomaka i kāu huakaʻi nui loa i kēia manawa. Lawe pū ka makua i nā hakakā hou aku. Manaʻo nā hoa ʻaʻole pili iki, e like me nā kīʻaha piʻi a me nā hola pau ʻole me ka hiamoe ʻole.
ʻAʻole pono ke kaua, a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i nā ala e hoʻopili hou a hui pū. E hoʻomanaʻo, ke hele nei kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou i kahi hoʻololi paʻakikī, no laila ke koi nui ʻia nei ke kala ʻana. Eia nā hakakā makua ʻelima hou a pehea e launa ai, no ka mea makemake ʻoe i ikaika kou pilina.
ʻO wai ka mea hiamoe hou?
ʻAʻole hiamoe nā pēpē hānau hou e like me kā mākou e manaʻo ai. Maʻalahi ke hoʻomaka e hakakā e pili ana i ka mea hiamoe hou. Ua luhi ʻolua, a maʻalahi ka manaʻo me he mea lā e hiamoe hou ana ka mea ʻē aʻe. E haʻi ʻia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau manawa ke hiamoe hou kahi makua, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hakakā mākou no ia.
E hōʻoia i ka hiamoe ka mea nui no nā mea āpau. Inā ala ʻoe me ka pēpē i ka wanaʻao a puni, hiki i kāu pakanā ke ʻae iā ʻoe e hiamoe i ka hopena pule. Pono kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou e hiamoe keu. ʻIke kekahi mau mākua he mea kōkua ke hana i kahi papa hiamoe na lākou iho, akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e ʻike i kēlā kikoʻī.
ʻO wai ka mea hana hou aʻe no ka pēpē?
"Ua hoʻololi au i ʻehā mau diaper poopy i kēia lā."
"Ua mālama au i ka pēpē no ʻelua mau hola."
"Ua ʻauʻau au i ka pēpē ʻekolu mau manawa."
"Ua hoʻomaʻemaʻe wau i nā ʻōmole āpau i kēia lā a nehinei."
Hele mau ka papa inoa. Makemake paha ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka helu a helu i kāu hana, akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi kēlā. Huki nā mākua ʻelua i ko lāua kaumaha. I kekahi lā, mālama paha ʻoe i nā hana hou me ka pēpē, akā hana hou kāu wahine i ka hana hale.
I ka hopena, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo he kime ʻoe. Inā kōkua ia, hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea e pono ai no ka lā a mahele ia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i kekahi mau lā no ka ʻauʻau me kēlā me kēia hoa e hoʻohuli i ka hana.
Ka nele o ka moekolohe
Ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hōʻailona maikaʻi no kāu kauka, manaʻolana paha kāu pakanā hiki iā ʻoe ke lele i hope i ka moena. ʻAʻole pēlā ka hihia. Maʻalahi ʻaʻole e manaʻo i ke ʻano ma hope o kou hoʻolilo ʻana i ka lā āpau me ke kuha ʻana, nā pale poopy, a me ka hānai ʻana i ka waiū. Hoʻoemi ka hānai ʻana i ka hānai i kāu wahine.
I kēia manawa, e kamaʻilio i kou mau manaʻo, akā e hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu hoa. Cuddle, hāʻawi i nā lomilomi, ʻapo a honi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e cuddle i ka pō, kahi e hoʻokau ai iā ʻoe i ke ʻano. Kōkua iki kahi liʻiliʻi o ka waina.
Manaʻo kekahi mau kāne he mea kōkua ke hoʻonohonoho i ka moekolohe. ʻAe, ʻano ʻē ke kani, akā ʻo ka moekolohe a me ke aloha kino kahi ʻōlelo aloha. Kōkua ia i nā kāne a aloha ʻia a pili aku. ʻIke paha ʻoe e kamaʻilio maikaʻi aʻe i ka manawa e moekolohe hou ai.
Manaʻo ʻole ʻia ka mahalo ʻia
Ke hana ikaika nei kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou i ka lā holoʻokoʻa, maʻalahi ka manaʻo ʻole ʻia e kekahi. E hana paha ʻelua a ʻelua paha ma waho o ka home. He mea ʻole ia, e hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo inā ʻaʻole mahalo kāu hoa i nā hana āu e hana ai.
"ʻAʻole ʻo ia i ʻike ua hana wau i kāna pāʻina punahele."
"ʻAʻole loa ʻo ia e hoʻomaikaʻi iaʻu no nā mea āpau aʻu e hana nei a puni ka lā."
Hoʻohui i nā homona postpartum, a he meaʻai no ka pōpilikia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e like me nā mea āpau āu e hana ai a puni ka hale a no ka pēpē hou ʻike ʻole ʻia. Eia nō naʻe, hele maʻamau i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi e hana ai e ʻike i kāu wahine i kou manaʻo ʻaʻole mahalo ʻia, akā pono ia e hele i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. E hoʻomaikaʻi aku iā ʻoe ma aneʻi a ma aneʻi no nā mea āna e hana ai a puni ka hale. Hoʻomaikaʻi i ka ʻaina awakea āna i kuke ai i kēlā ahiahi. E hōʻike i kou mahalo no ka ipuhao kope e kali nei ke ala ʻoe i ke kakahiaka. ʻAʻole pono ia e mau, akā pono ʻoe e mahalo i kāu hoa inā makemake ʻoe e mahalo ʻia pū kekahi.
Nā ʻano mākua
I kēia manawa he makua hou ʻoe, aia a loaʻa i kāu pakanā nā manaʻo ʻokoʻa e pili ana i nā ʻano mākua. Ulu ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia kanaka a i ʻole ʻokoʻa nā hoʻolālā no ka makua. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e ʻaelike me kāu hoa. E kūlike ʻole paha ʻoe e pili ana i:
- Pākuʻi
- Moe-moe
- Lole pēpē
- Nā ʻano aʻo
- Ke uē nei
ʻO ia wale kekahi mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae pū me kekahi, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pū. E ʻike i nā kumuwaiwai e heluhelu pū e pili ana i ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi ʻole o kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao. E hoʻāʻo e hele i loko o kēia mau hoʻoholo a kaulike ʻole a kū alo iā lākou. Mai nānā iā ia e like me kou makemake e hōʻoia i ka hewa o kekahi. Pono ka mākua i ka hāʻawi a me ka lawe ʻana i kēlā me kēia kanaka. E ʻike pū ʻoe i kahi waena hauʻoli.