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- He aha e hana ai inā ʻaʻole makemake kou ʻohana i kāu wahine hoʻopalau
- Mai haʻi i kāu pakanā
- Hāʻawi i ka manawa
- E ʻike i ke kumu
- E kamaʻilio i kou ʻohana e pili ana
- E hoʻihoʻi i hope
- Paipai i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana
Ke manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe ua loaʻa ʻoe iā “The One” hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea weliweli loa inā ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o kou ʻohana e pili ana i kāu pili pono loa. ʻOiai ʻo ka wahine kūʻokoʻa loa e ʻūlū malū i kona mau niho me ka manaʻo e ʻike mau ana kona ʻohana i kāna aliʻi i kau ʻia e like me ke ʻano ʻino. No laila, he aha kāu e hana ai ke hōʻole kou ʻohana i ke kāne āu e male ai?
Ke makemake ʻole kou ʻohana i ke kāne āu e male nei hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i kekahi mau pilikia. ʻO kahi laʻana, hoʻonāukiuki paha i ka ʻohana. Hiki i kahi māwae i loko o ka ʻohana ke hoʻonāukiuki i nā manaʻo no nā ʻaoʻao āpau i pili. Manaʻo kou ʻohana ʻike lākou i ka mea maikaʻi loa nāu, a ke koho nei ʻoe e noho me kāu hoa kāne ʻoiai ʻo kā lākou mau manaʻo e hoʻonāukiuki paha iā lākou. Ma kou hopena, manaʻo paha ʻoe ke hāʻawi lūlū aku nei lākou i kāu wahine hoʻopalau a i ʻole hoʻowahāwahā ʻole lākou i kāu mau hoʻoholo ma ke ʻano he makua.
ʻO ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kou ʻohana i kāu wahine hoʻopalau, e hoʻohalahala paha ia iā ia no ka waiho ʻana i ka pā i waena ou a me kou mau mākua. ʻIke paha ʻo ia i kahi hemahema ʻole, insecurities, a i ʻole huhū wale paha ia e pili ana. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻopilikia i kāu pilina aloha. E hoʻāʻo i ka hoʻolālā ʻana i ka male ma ka wā aia ka hakakā ma waena o kahi mau kāne a loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pōʻino e kali nei e hiki mai ana.
Paipai ʻia - Papa Mālama Mua
He aha e hana ai inā ʻaʻole makemake kou ʻohana i kāu wahine hoʻopalau
ʻO ka male ʻana kekahi o nā hoʻoholo nui loa āu e hoʻoholo ai i kou ola, a ʻo kou ʻohana ma laila e hōʻike i ko lākou aloha a me ke kākoʻo he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻomaka ai i kou ola ma ke ʻano he kāne a wahine. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hele i kāu hui ʻana hiki ke luku loa.
Inā ʻoe i loko o kēia kūlana paʻakikī, a laila ʻike ʻoe hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki loa, ʻeha, a me he mea pau ʻole lā.He mea nui ia e hele i lalo o nā mea i ka wā hiki. A i ʻole, pilikia paha ʻoe i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kou ʻohana a me kahi kānana nui i kāu mau ipo aloha.
Eia ka mea e hana ai inā ʻaʻole makemake kou ʻohana i ke kāne āu e male ai.
Mai haʻi i kāu pakanā
ʻO ka ʻike ʻana he makemake ʻole kou mau mākua i kāu hoapili ʻaʻole ia he kumu no ka ʻuā ʻana iā ia mai nā kaupaku. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana i kāu kāne hoʻopalau na kou ʻohana ʻaʻole makemake iā ia e hōʻeha loa ia i ke kūlana. Ma kahi o, makemake paha ʻoe e wehewehe i kāu hoa pili i ka pale ʻana o kou mau mākua a aloha ʻoe iā ia e hoʻāʻo a hoʻopaʻa pū me lākou e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā lākou i loko o kahi pilina aloha.
Hāʻawi i ka manawa
I kekahi manawa hiki ke haʻalulu i kou ʻohana ke lohe i kahi pili hou, keu hoʻi inā ʻaʻole lākou e hui me kāu wahine hoʻopalau. Makemake kekahi poʻe i ka loli. No kēia mau mea, hiki ke lawe i kahi manawa no ka loaʻa ʻana o kēlā mau manaʻo puʻupuʻu i kahi lālā hou o ka ʻohana. Mai hoʻoikaika i kekahi ultimatums ma luna o kou ʻohana a i ʻole o kāu hoa. E hoʻonāukiuki wale kēia i ke kūlana. Hāʻawi i ka manawa a ʻike pehea e hiki ai i kāu kāne ke komo i ka hanauna ʻohana hou.
E ʻike i ke kumu
Ke aʻo ʻana i ke kumu i makemake ʻole ai kou ʻohana i kāu pakanā e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pehea e alakaʻi maikaʻi ai iā lākou i kahi pili aloha. Ua hāʻule paha i waena o kāu kāne a me kou mau mākua? Manaʻo paha kekahi mau kāne male male i kāu pilina e like me ke ʻano hauʻoli ʻole e like me kā lākou. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia nā kumu āpau āpau, kūpono a kūpono ʻole, no ke aha e makemake ʻole ai kou ʻohana i kāu kāne kāne?
Malia paha ʻaʻole makemake kou mau mākua i ka hana a kāu wahine hoʻopalau, kāna ʻano, kāna hana i hala, kāna mau ʻano maikaʻi ʻole. Maliʻa paha a male ʻoe e neʻe ana ʻoe e noho pū me ia a ʻaʻole makemake kou mau mākua i kēia manaʻo. A i ʻole ke lana nei paha ko lākou manaʻo e hoʻi pū ʻoe me ka mea nona ka inoa ʻeono makahiki i hala. ʻO nā mea āpau a lākou e noʻonoʻo ai, inā ʻaʻole makemake kou ʻohana i kāu ipo kāne ʻo ia kāu mea makemake nui e ʻike i ke kumu.
E kamaʻilio i kou ʻohana e pili ana
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ke kahua no nā pilina maikaʻi, me ka pilina me kou ʻohana. E hoʻokokoke aku i kou ʻohana ma kahi pilikino a nīnau iā lākou e pili ana i kā lākou pilikia me kāu wahine. He hana maikaʻi i ka honua e hoʻolohe iā lākou a loaʻa ka manawa kūpono e wehewehe iā lākou i nā kumu āpau āu e aloha ai i kāu kāne a no ke aha lākou e hāʻawi aku ai iā ia i kahi pana kūpono.
E haʻi i kou ʻohana pehea ʻo ia e mālama iā ʻoe me ka naʻau a me ke kino, e kamaʻilio e pili ana i loko o nā mea hoʻomākeʻaka i loaʻa iā ʻoe a me nā ala āu i kākoʻo ai kekahi i kekahi. E wehe i ko lākou ʻaoʻao o nā mea a e kamaʻilio i nā hopohopo a lākou e loaʻa ai. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻololi i kekahi manaʻo kuhihewa i loaʻa iā lākou nona.
E hoʻihoʻi i hope
Inā ʻaʻole makemake kou ʻohana i ke kāne āu e male ai, he mea pono paha ke hoʻi i hope a nānā i ke kumu. ʻIke paha kou ʻohana i kekahi mea e ʻae ʻole paha nā aniani o ke aloha e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe? Malia paha ke kāohi nei ʻo ia, hōʻike i ka lili maikaʻi ʻole, a i ʻole ke hoʻokuʻu ʻia nei i kāu mau pahuhopu a me kou aloha aloha. He hae ʻulaʻula nui kēia āu e ʻike ʻole ai i kēia manawa.
Paipai i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana
ʻO ka haʻalulu i waena o kou ʻohana a me kāu ipo aloha e like me ka paʻa ma waena o kahi pōhaku a me kahi paʻakikī. ʻAʻole hoʻokipa maikaʻi kou ʻohana i kēia kāne i loko o ko lākou ola inā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike maoli iā ia.
E hana i nā hanana i hiki iā ʻoe ke hui pū a ʻike i kekahi i kekahi. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻopili i kahi mea maʻamau e like me ke kofe i ke awakea i kahi mea hou aku e like me ka hoʻolālā ʻana i kahi huakaʻi lā me kou ʻohana a me kāu ipo. Ma hope o kekahi mau huakaʻi, ʻike paha kou ʻohana he leʻaleʻa ʻo ia ma mua o kā lākou i manaʻo ai.
Makemake ʻoe i kou ʻohana e hauʻoli me kāu hoʻoholo i ka mea e male, akā i ka hopena, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a ʻoi paha, ʻo kāu hoʻoholo ia e hoʻoholo. Inā lākou e aloha a mahalo iā ʻoe, me ka manawa e hoʻokipa ai kou ʻohana i kāu hoapili i loko o ko lākou ola. A hiki i kēlā manawa, hauʻoli wale ʻoe ua ʻike ʻoe i ke aloha i kou ola.