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- 1. Ikaika maikaʻi ʻole
- 2. ʻAʻole hauʻoli ʻoe i ka pili
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe hilinaʻi i kāu hoa
- 4. ʻAʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio kūpono
- 5. ʻAʻole ʻoe pili i kekahi
- 6. ʻAno palekana ʻole ʻoe
E ʻae ka hapanui o mākou i ke komo ʻana i nā pilina olakino kahi ʻāpana hoʻohui o kahi ola i hoʻokō ʻia. ʻO ka pili ʻana kekahi o nā mea e pono ai ka ulu ʻana a me ka nohona holomua.
Hoʻonui ka pilina i ko mākou ola a hoʻohui i kā mākou leʻaleʻa o ke ola ʻana, akā ʻike mākou āpau ʻaʻohe pilina i kūpono. ʻOiai hiki i nā kānaka ke pili i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i kahi ala maikaʻi a hoʻomaikaʻi, akā, ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia mau.
I kekahi manawa, ʻae mākou i ke ʻano hewa o nā kānaka e komo i loko o ko mākou ola. ʻAʻole maikaʻi kā mākou pilina me lākou, maikaʻi ʻole, maikaʻi ʻole, a ʻo ka hapanui, ʻaʻole hua - ʻike ʻia he pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
Hiki i kēia mau pilina maikaʻi ʻole ke hōʻoluʻolu a hoʻopilikia i ka laʻa o kou noʻonoʻo, ʻuhane, ʻuhane, a me kou kino.
I kēia manawa, he aha ka mea e hana i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole?
E ʻike inā pili ʻoe me kahi kanaka maikaʻi ʻole, eia kekahi mau hōʻailona o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke pili i kekahi o kēia ʻano o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole, pono ʻoe e nānā i kāu pilina ma mua.
1. Ikaika maikaʻi ʻole
ʻOiai ʻoe e hana nei i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole, kūpilikiʻi ʻoe, huhū a huhū hoʻi a puni kāu hoa i ka hapanui o ka manawa. No nā kumu kumu paha kēlā.
Eia nō naʻe, hiki i kēia ʻano pilina maikaʻi ʻole ke kūkulu i ka ikehu weliweli i kou kino a i ʻole e piʻi i ka hoʻokaʻawale a me ka antipathy no kekahi.
ʻO ka maikaʻi ʻole i ka male ʻana a i ʻole ka maikaʻi ʻole i nā pili kokoke hiki ke hoʻokahe iā ʻoe i nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o kou ola.
ʻO ka ikehu maikaʻi ʻole i nā pilina e hoʻokahe iā ʻoe i ka noʻonoʻo, i ke kino, i ka ʻepekema, i ka ʻuhane, a me ka naʻau. Ua koi ʻia mākou e hana i kēia pōuliuli ma kahi o kāu pilina i kahi hoʻomaha mai kēlā ʻano koʻikoʻi.
2. ʻAʻole hauʻoli ʻoe i ka pili
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona koʻikoʻi o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole ʻaʻole hauʻoli ʻoe e noho hou i loko. ʻIke mākou āpau ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻoluʻolu i kēlā me kēia manawa o kou pilina, akā ma ke ʻano he mea nui, ʻo ka noho pū ʻana me kāu hoa e hoʻohui i kou hauʻoli
Pono kāu hoa e kākoʻo iā ʻoe, komo, hauʻoli, a hiki ke hana i nā mea āu e makemake ai e hana.
Ke hauʻoli ʻole ʻoe a puni kāu hoa, he hōʻailona hōʻailona ia aia ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe hilinaʻi i kāu hoa
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e paulele hou i kāu pakanā, he hōʻailona maopopo ia o ka neg negative i loko o kahi pilina. Aia ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e kānalua i nā huaʻōlelo a me nā hana a kāu hoa.
Inā hoʻohuli pinepine kāu pakanā i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo a hoʻololi paha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke makemake ʻole lākou i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, he hōʻailona ia e pili ana ʻoe i kahi pilina me kahi hoa i hilinaʻi ʻole ʻia.
Ke hoʻololi aʻe kāu hoa i ka hewa no kā lākou hana i kekahi ʻē aʻe a i ʻole i ke kūlana, hōʻike ia iā ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole me kahi kanaka makemake ʻole e lilo i kā lākou hana.
4. ʻAʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio kūpono
E like me ke kamaʻilio ʻana ke ola loa ia o kahi pilina olakino a maikaʻi hoʻi, hiki i ka nele o ia mea ke alakaʻi i ka pilina e lilo i mea ʻino, maikaʻi ʻole, a ʻawahia hoʻi. Inā hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole ʻia ke kamaʻilio, hiki iā ia ke alakaʻi i ka hopena o ka pilina.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi he alo a he alo, ʻoiai inā kokoke ʻoe kekahi i kekahi. Makemake ʻoe e hoʻohana i nā hōʻailona a me nā huaʻōlelo ma kahi o ka kamaʻilio waha.
ʻAʻohe kamaʻilio kūpono, a hoʻohana wale ʻoe i nā huaʻōlelo liʻiliʻi loa e like me ke kuleana. He kanalua ʻole kēia mau ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o kahi pilina.
Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio kūpono i kahi pilina, hōʻike ia i ka maikaʻi ʻole o kāu a me kāu pakanā i ka pilina.
Ke piʻi aʻe kekahi mea i ke ola, inā he hopena ia, hanana, a i ʻole hanana, ʻaʻole ʻo kāu hoa ka mea mua āu e kaʻana like nei - hiki i kēia ke hōʻike i nā pilikia kamaʻilio a alakaʻi i ka ulu ʻana o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
5. ʻAʻole ʻoe pili i kekahi
Ke hauʻoli ʻole ʻoe i ka hui o kāu hoa, he hōʻailona ia aia ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina olakino a ʻona paha.
Ke ʻike ʻoe no kekahi manawa nui o kou hui pū ʻana me ke kino akā ʻaʻole pū pū ma ke ʻano tangent emos, he hōʻailona maopopo ia o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole a pili ʻole paha.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noho i ka lumi like, akā ke heluhelu nei kekahi o ʻoe ma ka pona lawe lima a i ʻole ke kelepona. ʻAʻole ʻoe pili i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe inā ʻoe e hiamoe pū ana ma ka moena hoʻokahi.
Eia kekahi, ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kēia kūlana, a ʻaʻole ʻolua e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻololi. ʻO kēia nā hiʻohiʻona pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
6. ʻAno palekana ʻole ʻoe
Ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e hopohopo ʻole i ka pilina, a ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i kou kū i kahi pilina, hiki iā ia ke hōʻike he pilina maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe.
Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe kahi e kū ai a i ʻole pili i kahi pilina. Hōʻoluʻolu paha ʻoe, kānalua ʻole, a hopohopo paha e pili ana i kahi e hele nei ka pilina.
Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e kānalua e pili ana i kahi pilina, e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa, a nīnau i kahi e hele nei ka pilina ma waena o ʻolua.
Inā hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi pane hoʻohuli, hāʻawi ia i ka ʻike e pili ana i kā lākou ʻike i ka wā e hiki mai ana no ʻolua, akā ʻaʻole paha ia ka hopena o ka pili. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻi i kēia kamaʻilio ʻana i kekahi manawa ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mamao e noʻonoʻo ai.
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona pilina maikaʻi ʻole. Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi o kēia mau mea mau no kekahi manawa i kāu pili, pono ʻoe e kau i kou nānā i kāu pili a me ka nānā ʻana i kahi e hele nei.
Eia kekahi, inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole pili ka pilina o kāu pilina a ke hāʻule nei ʻoe me ke kumu ʻole, e nānā i ka wikiō aʻe.
Malia paha hiki iā ʻoe ke nalo i kekahi mau kumu koʻikoʻi. I ka mua, e kia i ka hoʻoikaika e hoʻopakele i kou pilina a hoʻihoʻi i kāu male i ke ala.
Akā, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ke ala me ke kūlana a i ʻole ke kaumaha loa e hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho a pau, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i ke kōkua mai kou mau hoaaloha a i ʻole nā ʻohana o ka ʻohana āu e hilinaʻi nei.
Ke ʻimi nei i ke kōkua loea mai ke kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole ka mea hoʻoponopono laikini hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kālailai maikaʻi i kāu kūlana a hiki i ka hopena kūpono.