Anter
Me he mea lā he nīnau maʻamau ke nīnau kekahi, he aha ka pilina, ʻeā?
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia is he nīnau maʻamau. Akā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka pane. Ua aloha ka poʻe, aloha aloha, male, a hemo no nā makahiki, akā ʻaʻole nui ka poʻe o mākou e kū a noʻonoʻo e pili ana ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia hoʻi i loko o kahi pilina olakino. Kūleʻa mākou e hele i waena o nā manaʻo ma mua o ka ʻole, ʻaʻole aʻo nui mai kēlā me kēia pilina a mākou e hana ai me kekahi kanaka.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua kelepona ʻia mākou e lilo i kanaka pilikino. Makemake mākou i ka launa a me ka pili loa me nā kānaka ʻē aʻe, no laila no ko mākou pono maikaʻi ke kau aku nei mākou i kekahi mau alakaʻi no ka hana pololei ʻana.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ia e like me ke kānāwai gula: hana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e like me kou makemake e hana ʻia iā ʻoe.
Nui nā loli hana e hana i ke kumumanaʻo no kahi pilina maikaʻi ma mua o ka mea. ʻOiai paʻakikī paha ia i ka nui, aia nō kekahi mau pou i hōʻike ʻia i kēlā me kēia pilina nui a mākou i ʻike ai. E lawe i kahi minuke a kūkākūkā i kēia mau pou i ke kikoʻī, a lana ka manaʻo inā hiki iā mākou ke pin i kēia mau mea i lalo, e kī ʻia mākou i ke aloha a pau ke ola.
Palapala
"ʻO ka pilikia nui loa i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ʻo ia ka illusion i hana ʻia".
- George Bernard Shaw
A ma laila ʻoe. Ua wehe ʻo Mr. Shaw i kekahi o nā ālai nui loa i ka pilina kūpono, a ua hana ʻo ia pēlā i hoʻokahi huaʻōlelo puʻupuʻu. Manaʻo pinepine mākou he hāmama mākou a pololei me kā mākou mea nui ʻē aʻe, akā i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, paʻa mākou. ʻAʻole mākou e hōʻike i ka ʻaoʻao hohonu o kā mākou iho no ka makaʻu i ka ʻike ʻia o ka mea e noho ana ma ke alo o mākou.
ʻO ka paʻa ʻana e like me kēia ke kumu e hoʻopaʻa ai mākou i nā wahi ʻē aʻe o kahi pilina a male paha. He wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo ma aneʻi, he hana haʻalele ʻole ma laila, a i ka ʻāwīwī aia nā hemahema i hana ʻia i loko o ka mea āu i manaʻo ai he pilina pono a hilinaʻi hoʻi. Ma hope o ka manawa ua hoʻonui ʻia kēia mau hakahaka, a me ka kamaʻilio āu i manaʻoʻiʻo ai ʻaʻohe mea maoli.
E hāmama. E hoʻopono. Hōʻike i kāu hoa i kāu ʻaoʻao ʻino. ʻO ia wale nō ke ala e hoʻokō pono ai i kou pili i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai.
Hilinaʻi
Me ka hilinaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻohe ou mea. ʻO kahi pilina kou home noʻonoʻo, kahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi no ka hōʻoluʻolu. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kāu hoa, e hoʻokele ʻoe iā ʻoe iho (a ʻo lākou paha) pūpule pū me ka moʻolelo ma hope o ka moʻolelo āu i hana ai mai ka ea lahilahi. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi i kāu hoa me kou puʻuwai a me kou ʻuhane, aia ʻoe i kahi hewa.
ʻLelo lākou he makapō ke aloha, a pili i ka hilinaʻi, pēlā e pono ai. ʻAʻole e ʻōlelo he naive a i ʻole kekahi mea e like me kēlā, akā ʻo ʻoe pono hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻoʻiʻo e hana mau ana ʻoe me kāu pakanā i kahi ala e mahalo ai iā ʻolua a me kou pilina, ʻoiai nā hoʻowalewale paha ma laila.
E lilo i pōhaku
ʻIke ʻoe i ka lawe ʻana o kou makuahine a makua paha iā ʻoe i kou wā e hina ai i kou wā kamaliʻi? Ke nui a makua ʻoe e hele i ka honua, pono ʻoe i kēlā ʻano kākoʻo kākoʻo ʻole. E noho mau ana kou mau mākua ma kekahi ʻano, akā ʻo ke kuleana o "ka pōhaku" i kou ola e hāʻule ma luna o kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe.
E ʻoluʻolu ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻoulu i kekahi i kekahi ke kaumaha nei kekahi. Inā make kekahi o ko lākou ʻohana, pono ʻoe i ko lākou poʻohiwi e uē ai. Inā makemake lākou i ke kākoʻo i ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi ʻoihana, pono ʻoe e lilo i ʻakaʻaka e aloha iā lākou ke hele nā mea i nā ala.
ʻAʻole koho ia, koi ʻia ia. Pono ʻoe i kanaka e hāpai iā lākou i loko o ko lākou mau lā ʻeleʻele, a pono lākou e mākaukau e hoʻihoʻi i ka ʻoluʻolu.
Ahonui
Ma ke ʻano he kāne, predisposed mākou e kolohe. Loaʻa mākou i ka hemahema i kūkulu ʻia i loko o kā mākou DNA. Ke hoʻoholo nei e hoʻolilo i kou ola me kahi mea ʻē aʻe he ala ia e ʻōlelo ai "ʻae wau iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe, nā hemahema a me nā mea āpau."
A manaʻo ia.
Aia kekahi mau manawa e hoʻokele loa lākou iā ʻoe.
Aia kekahi mau manawa ke hōʻeha lākou i kou mau manaʻo.
Aia kekahi manawa ke poina iā lākou ke hana i kekahi mea a lākou i hoʻohiki ai e hana lākou.
Pono ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu iā lākou mai ka makau? Aʻole loa. Akā ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hoʻokuʻikahi ma hope o kā lākou hoʻohaki ʻana i kahi hoʻohiki a i ʻole ʻōlelo i kekahi mea ʻeha, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui me lākou. Hiki iā lākou ke hana hou, akā maikaʻi nā manawa ʻaʻole lākou e manaʻo e hōʻeha iā ʻoe i ke kaʻina.
Maikaʻi maoli nā poʻe. Akā he kina ʻole hoʻi lākou. Hilinaʻi ka mea nāna i ʻōlelo mai aloha lākou iā ʻoe ʻaʻole kolohe. E manaʻoʻiʻo he prone lākou i ka hana ʻana i nā hewa kakani, e like me ʻoe.
E ahonui me kāu hoa, ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e mau ai nā mea.
Noho ma waho o kāu moʻolelo aloha
E ʻae i kāu hoa a me ʻoe iho e hana i nā mea ma waho o kāu pilina. Kūʻokoʻa kekahi i kekahi me ke aloha nui kekahi i kekahi.
ʻ saidlelo pinepine ʻia ka male ma kahi e lilo ai nā kānaka ʻelua i hoʻokahi. ʻOiai he ʻōlelo maikaʻi ia, ʻaʻole pono e ukali ʻia me ka maopopo.
Loaʻa kahi leʻaleʻa i pili ʻole me lākou, a paipai iā lākou e hana like. ʻAʻole ia ʻoe e koi iā ʻoe iho e hoʻolilo i ka manawa ma kahi kaʻawale, ʻo ia wale nō ka hana ʻana i kahi no kāu mau pono ponoʻī ma waena o kāu pilina. ʻAe iā ʻoe e hoʻolilo i kahi manawa kaʻawale, a laila leʻaleʻa maoli i nā manawa āu e kaʻana like ai me kekahi.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻolilo pū i kēlā me kēia manawa ala pū. E hele pono i waho o kāu moʻolelo kaʻao a hoʻi mai e hoʻouluulu.
Panina hopena
ʻAʻole he ʻepekema ka hana ʻana i ke aloha i ke ola holoʻokoʻa, ua like ia me ke kiʻi kiʻi; he hulahula. Aia kekahi mau pou e like me kēia ke kahua o kahi mea kūikawā. Akā ke iho ʻoe i kēia mau mea, ʻo kāu pilina kāu e hana ai. ʻAʻole like ka male a pili ʻole paha, no laila e hulahula i ke kuʻi o kāu pahu ponoʻī ke aʻo ʻoe i kēia mau ʻanuʻu maʻamau.