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- 1. E kamaʻilio ākea
- 2. Hoʻonohonoho i nā lula pili e kāohi i ka lawena lili loa
- 3. Mai kānalua i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou aloha
- 4. Hoʻolauna iā lākou i kāu pōʻai hoa
- 5. E hoʻohana i ka psychology huli
- 6. Inā pono, kāhea iā ia e haʻalele
ʻO ke kanaka i ke aloha me kahi hoa overprotective pinepine ʻo ia iā lākou iho me ka hauʻoli ʻole a ʻūlū ʻia i ka pilina. ʻO ka mea pinepine ʻole, ka mea loaʻa, kaohi, a me ka hoa noho aliʻi ʻaʻole i ʻike i ka ʻeha a lākou e hoʻokau nei i kā lākou makemake aloha, a koi pinepine iā lākou e haʻalele i ka pilina.
Inā ʻoi aku ke kōkua o kou bae, pono ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia ma mua o ka hoʻopilikia ʻana i kou pilina ma ka wā lōʻihi. Akā ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokaumaha ka hana ʻana me kahi hoa overprotective.
Hʻeono mau mea āu e hiki ai ke hana e hoʻokele i ka hana palekana ʻole a kāu hoa
1. E kamaʻilio ākea
ʻO ka palaki ʻana i ka pilikia ma lalo o ke kapeta a hoʻopaʻapaʻa paha e hoʻopōʻino wale nō ia i kēia kūlana. E kamaʻilio me kāu hoa a hoʻāʻo e maopopo i kahi e hele mai ai nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole o ka palekana a me ka lili. Ua pilikia paha lākou i ka wā kamaliʻi? Ua alo anei lākou i ka hōʻole ʻia i ka wā i hala? Ua loaʻa iā lākou kahi pilina ʻawaʻawa me ka ex-girlfriend i loaʻa nā pilikia kūpaʻa? ʻO kēia kekahi mau mea e koi pinepine i ka poʻe e hōʻike i ka lawena overprotective, sabotaging i nā pilina olakino.
Inā makemake kāu hoa e micromanage iā ʻoe, kānalua pinepine iā ʻoe, a i ʻole he clingy paha i ka lehulehu, i nā mea āpau a makaʻu lākou i ka hōʻole ʻia a haʻalele i ka pilina.
ʻO ka paipai ʻana iā lākou e wehe a hoʻolohe i kā lākou hopohopo me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo maikaʻi i kāu bae, e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia hilinaʻi ʻole hohonu. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā manaʻo kāu pakanā e hoʻopunipuni ana ʻoe iā lākou ma muli wale o ka hoʻolei ʻana o kā lākou hoapili iā lākou no kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, e hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou he kanaka ʻokoʻa loa ʻoe a ʻaʻole pono e mālama ʻia e like me kā lākou ex.
E ʻike i nā mea e hana nei iā lākou a hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia e like me ia. Hōʻike lākou i nā hōʻailona o ka palekana ʻole ke hui ʻoe me kekahi kanaka a i ʻole kekahi kanaka? ʻO ke ala āu e launa ai me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hoʻonāukiuki iā lākou? ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻaʻohe o lākou pilikia me ʻoe e hui pū ana me haʻi. ʻAʻohe maʻalahi o kou bae ke hoʻopā ʻoe a apo iā lākou iā ʻoe e kamaʻilio ana. Inā ʻo ia ka hihia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kāu hana ma ke akahele ʻana i kāu ʻōlelo kino ke hele pū ʻoe me kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe.
2. Hoʻonohonoho i nā lula pili e kāohi i ka lawena lili loa
ʻOiai piha ka pilina i ka pilina paʻa, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kāu mau hopohopo a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena e kōkua iā ʻoe e kaohi i ka inaina i kou ola aloha.
I ka manawa i hōʻike ai kāu pakanā i kēia mau hopohopo, ua hiki i kou manawa e hōʻike akāka i nā mea kikoʻī e hoʻopilikia ai iā ʻoe e pili ana i kā lākou kaohi ʻana. E hoʻokūpaʻa a kamaʻilio pū, ʻoiai e hana pū ana me kahi hoa hana ʻole, ʻoiai ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e pane i kā lākou palekana, ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e hōʻemi i kekahi ʻano o kou ola. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻokiʻoki i nā pilina me kāu mau hoaaloha maikaʻi wale nō no ka mea aia ʻoe i kahi pilina me lākou.
I kekahi ʻaoʻao, pono ʻoe e hana āpau i kou hiki ke hoʻokau i ka hilinaʻi i ka pilina. ʻO kahi laʻana, kūpono i kāu hoa e lilo i mea pono ʻole inā hele aku ʻoe i kahi ʻaina hoʻokahi a hoʻokahi me kāu hoa o ka wahine ʻē aʻe, me ka ʻole o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana iā ia. Malia paha ua maʻa ʻoe i ka hālāwai ʻana me kāu mau hoaaloha ma ke ʻano mau, akā ʻoiai ʻo ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, pono ʻoe e mālama ʻia i kahi loop.
E hana i kahi manaʻo noʻonoʻo i nā mea āu e makemake ai a makemake ʻole e hoʻopili a hoʻonohonoho i nā lula pili e kāohi i ka hana overprotective. Ke kamaʻilio koke ʻoe i kēia mau palena, aia iā lākou e hoʻololi i kā lākou hana lapuwale.
3. Mai kānalua i ka hōʻike ʻana i kou aloha
I nā manawa he nui, ulu ka makaʻu ʻole mai ka hiki ʻole o kekahi o nā hoa ke hōʻike i ko lākou aloha i kekahi. Haʻalele pinepine ka nohona o kēia ao iā mākou me ka manawa liʻiliʻi e ʻōlelo ai i kēlā mau huaʻolelo hoʻokalakupua ʻekolu a kēlā me kēia hoa makemake e hoʻolohe pinepine.
Inā aloha ʻoe i kāu bae, e loaʻa ka manawa e kāhea ai iā lākou i ke ao e haʻi wale ai e noʻonoʻo ana ʻoe iā lākou. ʻO nā mea maʻalahi e like me ka waiho ʻana i kahi leka e hoʻomaikaʻi a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo ʻana e nalo ana i ka lima o kāu hoa, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia i kou bae a hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou e aloha ʻoe i ko lākou alo i kou ola.
4. Hoʻolauna iā lākou i kāu pōʻai hoa
Inā hopohopo kāu hoa pili ʻole e haʻalele iā lākou no kekahi o kāu mau hoaaloha, e hoʻolauna i kāu hoa i kāu hui! Ke ʻike lākou i ke ʻano o ka pilina o kāu mau hoa me kekahi, e ʻoluʻolu kāu bae me lākou, me ka waiho ʻole i kahi kānalua.
Ke hoʻopili nei iā lākou ke hui ʻoe me kāu pōʻai hoa e hōʻike ia ʻaʻohe ou mea e hūnā ai, me ka waiho ʻole ʻana iā lākou i kumu no ka paranoid e pili ana i ka pilina.
5. E hoʻohana i ka psychology huli
ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu hoapili ʻoi loa i ka ʻono o kā lākou lāʻau ponoʻī hiki ke hana i nā mea kupanaha, e kōkua ana iā lākou e hoʻokuʻu i kā lākou overprotective paʻa i ka pilina. Hana lili ʻike ʻia ke pili lākou me kā lākou mau hoaaloha. Ke pale aku lākou iā lākou iho, e wehewehe iā lākou i kou manaʻo ke hana lākou i ka lili a me ka wiwo ʻole, e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻoponopono i kā lākou hana lapuwale. Eia kekahi, ʻoiai ke hana hewa nei ʻoe i kahi hana keu ʻole, ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo nei ʻoe i kāu hoa āu e ʻike ai he nani lākou a makemake ʻole e nalo iā lākou.
6. Inā pono, kāhea iā ia e haʻalele
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e haʻi pinepine ʻia i nā mea e hana ai a i hōʻino ʻole ʻia ai i kahi pilina. Inā ma hope o ka hana ʻana i nā mea āpau i kou hiki ke hoʻopakele i ka pilina, hōʻole kāu hoa e hoʻololi i ko lākou ʻano a i ʻole hōʻino a kolohe paha, pono ʻoe e waiho iā lākou i pronto. Maopopo ʻaʻole pili kēlā me kēia pilina.
Hoʻopili ʻana
Kūlohelohe ia i kekahi manawa ke lili i ka pilina aloha. Eia nō naʻe, hiki ke hoʻonāwaliwali i ka pilina ma o ka ʻae ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole o ka hilahila ʻole a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole e komo i loko. Inā pale wiwo ʻole kāu hoa iā ʻoe a hoʻāʻo e kāohi iā ʻoe e like me ka papeti, ʻo nā ʻōlelo i ʻōlelo ʻia i luna aʻe nei e kōkua iā ʻoe e hana pū kāna hana kūpono ʻole.