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ʻO nā kāne hou, hoʻopuka kēia huaʻōlelo i nā kiʻi o ʻelua mau kānaka e ʻalalā ana ma ka sofa me kahi kīʻaha kope i ko lākou mau lima e pāʻani ana i kahi pāʻani o "Guess nāna e kuke" a hoʻopau i ko lākou lā me nā puke waihona puke i hala lōʻihi ma lalo o ka lāʻau ʻāpala.
Eia naʻe, mamao loa ka ʻoiaʻiʻo mai kēia; ʻo ka hapa nui o nā hale ʻaʻole hele mai me ka lāʻau ʻāpala akā he hale pōpō ko lalo. ʻOkoʻa nā mea maoli o ke ola male ma mua o ka mea i hoʻolaha nui ʻia.
No ka loaʻa ʻana o ka male maikaʻi he mea nui e hoʻonohonoho i nā mea mua i ke ʻano ma mua o ka hoʻomaka pū ʻana o kou ola.
Eia kahi papa inoa o nā mea nui a ka wahine hou e noʻonoʻo ai e hoʻokumu i kahi pilina olakino a lōʻihi.
1. Hana i kahi mea kūikawā pū
ʻO kēia, i nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi, ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana i kahi hana like. ʻO ke kumu, he manaʻo kēia e pono i nā kāne a me ke kāne e hoʻoikaika e pili ana i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi moʻomeheu kūpono ma hope o ka male ʻana o kā lāua ponoʻī a kū hoʻokahi lua ʻole. Noho mākou āpau i ko mākou ola holoʻokoʻa e kia ana i ka hana ʻana i ko mākou ʻike ma o ko mākou ʻohana a me kāna kumu.
A laila, i kekahi lā ua hoʻoholo koke mākou e male a paʻa i kahi ʻike hou. Kūkā ʻia i nā kāne e hoʻomaka i kahi mea na lākou iho.
Hiki i kēia mea ke lilo i mea maʻamau e like me ka piʻi ʻana o ke kakahiaka Sābati a i ʻole ke kanu ʻana i kekahi mau waiwai e like me ka hoʻokipa a me ka lokomaikaʻi.
I kekahi manawa hiki ke ʻae like i ka moeʻuhane a me ka hana ʻana i ka loaʻa ʻana e like me kahi huakaʻi makahiki 5 i Atlanta a i ʻAigupita paha.
Eia nō naʻe, i mea e hōʻuluʻulu ai i kahi mea pono ʻoe e makaʻala i ka makaʻu o kāu hoa, nā manaʻolana a me nā kānalua, pono ʻoe e nānā i kāu ʻike, a pono ʻoe e mōhai.
He leʻaleʻa ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mea a he mea maʻalahi hoʻi e makakoho.
2. Hakaka Kaulike
ʻO kēia ka mālama ʻana i nā paio a me nā paio e kū aʻe. Aia kekahi kumu e ʻumeʻume ai nā mea haku mele a me nā mea haku mele i nā kiʻi o ke kakahiaka Pōʻalima hopohopo ʻole ma mua o kahi Lāpule piha kaumaha. ʻAʻole poetic nā hakakā a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki ke hana ʻia me ke akamai.
He mea nui ia e ʻike ai nā kāne he hiki ʻole ke pale ʻia. ke hiki koke mai lākou i nā ʻōlelo me kēia ʻike, ʻo ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Ke hana ikaika nā kāne me kekahi a hoʻomaopopo i ka iwi hope a me ka anatomy o kā lākou hoʻopaʻapaʻa, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokumu i kahi ʻano olakino o ka hilinaʻi. Hiki i kēia ke kōkua i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ke kahua o kā lāua male ma ka wā lōʻihi.
No laila e hakakā maikaʻi, e ʻike i kāu mau hewa a e kala aku inā hewa ʻoe. ʻAʻole leʻaleʻa ke hakakā ʻana i ka maikaʻi akā ʻoi aku ka pilina a pono e lilo i mea nui no ka makahiki mua a me nā makahiki e hiki mai ana.
3. E hōʻiliʻili i nā kumuwaiwai
He makakoho kēia i hele me ka ʻōlelo ʻole. I ka manawa e male ai ʻoe, he mea maikaʻi e hōʻiliʻili i nā kumuwaiwai e like me ka mea hoʻoponopono, kahi aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo aʻoi aku.
E ʻike pono i kou hoalauna, e lawe i nā papa kuke, a e kipa aku i ka waihona puke kaiāulu. ʻO ke kumu, e hoʻāʻo e ʻike i kēlā me kēia kumuwaiwai i loaʻa i kāu a i kou kaiāulu.
ʻAʻohe o ka male male ma kahi holo, a pono ʻoe e ʻike ma hea, pehea a me ka manawa hea e hāʻawi ai a lawe i ke kōkua; hiki i kāu kaiāulu ke kōkua iā ʻoe ma waho maʻalahi.
He mea nui kēia ke pau ka manawa o ka melemona, a komo ʻoe i loko o ka "Ua lōʻihi ko māua male, he aha kā mākou e hana ai i kēia manawa?".
4. ʻAʻohe mea minamina
Me nā manaʻo a pau ma luna, ʻano ʻē paha kēia mea nui. He hana nui ka male ʻana a he hoʻokau lōʻihi ia; i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, hiki ke hana hewa. He mea maʻamau ka loaʻa o ka minamina.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka minamina, ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā mea e like me "Ua hala wau i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona" a i ʻole "ʻAʻole pono mākou e male ma ka mua" - ʻaʻole maikaʻi kēia.
Mai haʻalele i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona, e hāmama ka maka i nā manawa āpau a mai mihi i kāu hoʻoholo. E hōʻoia i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka loiloi e pono ai kāu pilina.
E hoʻomanaʻo i ka kūleʻa o kāu male ʻana iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine pū. Ke hoʻokumu mua i kāu mea nui, pono ʻoe ʻelua e pale iā lākou a mālama iā lākou. Hana i nā loli e pono ai, pale i nā mea e hoʻonāukiuki ai i kāu wahine a mōhai a kuʻikahi inā pono.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono hou i kāu mau mea nui i ka wā e pono ai a hana i kāu male male ke paʻakikī nā manawa. Kaukaʻi i kekahi i kekahi, lawe i ke kōkua mai ka hoʻōla ʻana a mai hoʻokuʻi aku i kekahi i kekahi ke paʻakikī nā mea.
E hoʻomanaʻo he maʻalahi ka hoʻolei ʻana i ke kāwele i loko o kāu male akā ʻo ka hana ʻana he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli o ka hoʻoholo.