Anter
- 1. E ʻike i nā ala hana e hōʻike iā ia i kou aloha iā ia
- 2. E akahai, ʻoluʻolu a mahalo
- 3. E kamaʻilio kūpono
- 4. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa no ke aloha
- 5. Hōʻalo i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana
- 6. Hāʻawi i nā kuleana ma ka home
ʻAʻohe kānalua he hana nui ka male. Lawe ʻia nā hoʻoikaika like ʻana mai nā hoa ʻelua e neʻe i kā lāua pilina i ke ala o ka hauʻoli a me ka kūleʻa. ʻO ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, ka mahalo a me ke kūpaʻa i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo ia nā pōhaku e heʻe ai i kahi pili lōʻihi.
ʻO kekahi mau mea i kūkulu i kā lāua male ma luna o kēia mau kumu e kū mau a alakaʻi i kahi ola hauʻoli, ʻoluʻolu.
ʻAʻole pili ka male ʻana i ka ʻakaʻaka a me nā manawa maikaʻi, kū mākou a pau i nā piʻi a me nā lalo nui a pono e hana i kā mākou ala i loko o ia mau mea i mea e paʻa ai a male ʻole paha ka male.
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine e koi i ka manaʻo o ke aloha ʻia e noho hauʻoli i ka pilina a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi i ke aloha. ʻO nā mea āpau e pili ana i nā mea liʻiliʻi i loko o ka pilina e hoʻohiki ai nā wahine a hoʻomau i ka male o ka wahine.
ʻO ka papa inoa ma lalo nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili maikaʻi loa no nā kāne e ʻike mau i ke ahi i loko o kā lāua male male.
1. E ʻike i nā ala hana e hōʻike iā ia i kou aloha iā ia
E hōʻike ana i kāu wahine i kou aloha iā lākou kahi ʻāpana hoʻohui o ke ola male. Pono nā kāne āpau e hōʻoia i ka hoʻomanaʻo o kā lākou hoa i ka nui o kā lākou hoʻomana ʻana iā lākou i kēlā me kēia lā. ʻAʻole pono ia e lako a ma kahi o nā ʻōpili liʻiliʻi e like me ka waiho ʻana i kahi memo aloha i loko o ka ʻeke a kāu kāne a kuke ʻana iā lākou i kā lākou pāʻina punahele.
Hiki i nā kāne ke kiʻi i kā lākou wahine pua i kēia manawa a laila a hoʻolauleʻa i nā makahiki hoʻomanaʻo ʻole i ʻike ʻo ia i kou waiwai i nā manawa āpau āu i noho pū ai me ia.
2. E akahai, ʻoluʻolu a mahalo
Pono nā wahine āpau i kahi mea e mālama iā lākou me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka mahalo. ʻOiai ʻo ka assertive o nā wahine i hoʻolilo i ko lākou lā luna e makemake i kā lākou kāne e mālama a akahai iā lākou i ka hopena o ka lā. Hōʻike kēia i kou ʻano maoli nona a me kou pono e hoʻohanohano i kāu wahine.
3. E kamaʻilio kūpono
Wehe, kūkā kamaʻilio hiki ke kōkua hoʻopau i kekahi mau pilikia o ka male. Pono nā kamaʻilio e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi e pili ana i nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi ʻole a hilahila paha. E haʻi iā ia e pili ana i kou lā a kaʻana like i nā ʻike hoihoi. ʻAʻole wale kēia, akā he mea nui no nā kāne e hoʻolohe pono. He kihi pilina koʻikoʻi kēia no nā kāne.
ʻO ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kāna ʻōlelo e pili ana i nā mea liʻiliʻi loa e hiki ai iā ia ke lohe a hōʻike e mahalo nui ʻoe i kāna mea e ʻōlelo ai.
Manaʻo pinepine nā wahine i kā lākou kāne e heluhelu ma waena o nā laina a ʻike i ka mea e hana ai me ka ʻole o kāna haʻi ʻana iā lākou. ʻOiai hoʻonāukiuki paha ia, akā, hiki ke heluhelu i kāu wahine maikaʻi loa! Pono ke kamaʻilio i ka manawa a me ka hoʻoikaika e hemolele no laila mai haʻalele a hoʻomau i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana.
4. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa no ke aloha
Hoʻololi nā kāne i ke aloha i ka manawa a lāua e male ai. Eia naʻe, maikaʻi ʻole kēia no kā lāua pili. He mea nui ka Romance e mālama i ka male a ola. E kuke i kāu wahine i ka ʻaina kakahiaka i ka moena i kēlā me kēia manawa a kahaha paha iā ia me nā tiketi ʻaha mele a kāna hui punahele.
ʻO nā pō lā pule he mea maikaʻi loa e mālama i ke ahi i kāu male.
Hiki i kekahi ke hoʻolālā i nā huakaʻi hele a hoʻāʻo paha i nā leʻaleʻa hou a me nā ʻike like, nā mea āpau e hiki ai iā lāua ke ʻoluʻolu ma ke ʻano he ʻelua.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ka pili kino ʻana kekahi ala kupaianaha loa ia e makemake ai a aloha ʻia ʻo ia.
5. Hōʻalo i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana
ʻO ka mea maikaʻi ʻole i hiki iā ʻoe ke hāpai i ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i kāu male ʻana, ʻo ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i kāu wahine me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
Mai hoʻohālikelike i kāu wahine i kahi mea koʻikoʻi a kāu hoaaloha a i ʻole kekahi ʻano i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. ʻO kēia e hōʻino wale iā ia a ulu i ka palekana.
Ma ke ʻano he hopena o kēia, e ʻāwīwī paha ʻolua a hōʻino maoli i kou pilina. ʻAe e lawe mākou āpau i kā mākou kīnā ʻole a hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ua koho ʻoe e aloha iā ia me nā mea āpau.
6. Hāʻawi i nā kuleana ma ka home
He kuhihewa maʻamau ka hana ʻole ʻia o nā kāne ma ka hale no ka mea he kāne. He hewa hewa kēia! Lawe ʻelua i mea e kūkulu ai i ka home ma loko o ka hale, ka hoʻoikaika like ʻana a me ka manawa ka mea e hoʻonui ai i ke aloha a me ka mahalo i waena o nā kāne.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole nui nā kāne e hiki ke hana maikaʻi i nā hana o ka home ka hana nui ia e helu ʻia.
Hāʻawi i kahi lima kōkua i kāu wahine e hana i nā pā i kekahi lā a i ʻole ka holoi lole.
Inā he keiki kāu, e hauʻoli ʻo ia inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e mālama i nā keiki ʻoiai he lā hoʻomaha kona.
Hiki i kēia mau ala ke hele i kahi ala lōʻihi inā hoʻohana maikaʻi ʻia i ka male. ʻOkoʻa nā pilina āpau a ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia. ʻO ke kāne ʻoe, pono ʻoe e ʻike e pili ana i kāu mau wahine makemake a makemake ʻole a hana i nā mea e hauʻoli ai ʻo ia. Kēia ala, ʻaʻole wale nō ʻo ia e hoʻihoʻi like iā ʻoe akā i ka wā lōʻihi hiki ke lilo i mea kōkua maikaʻi loa no kāu male.