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- Pilikia 1: Nui ka manawa i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia
- Pilikia 2: Ka makaʻu o ka hilinaʻi ʻole a i ʻole discontent pili
- Pilikia 3: Leo o ka mana
- Pōmaikaʻi 1: Accountability
- Pōmaikaʻi 2: Hoʻokalakiko
- Pono 3: Pili a kaiāulu
ʻO ka male ʻana ʻaʻole e disqualify iā ʻoe mai ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoaaloha. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hoʻohui pinepine nā kāne i nā hui o nā hoaaloha me kā lākou male! Hoʻohui kāu mau hoaaloha a me nā hoa aloha o kāu wahine e hana i hoʻokahi hui nui i ʻike ʻia ʻo “kā mākou mau hoaaloha.” Akā pili naʻe paha ʻoe i nā kāne ʻē aʻe, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā hoa aloha ʻole a i ʻole he mau hoa aloha i hui ʻole ʻole iā ʻolua ma ke ʻano he kāne, akā e hoʻolilo manawa me ʻoe wale nō.
ʻO ka hoʻolimalima manawa ʻana me nā hoaaloha me ka ʻole o kāu wahine hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu a me ka loli o ka wikiwiki, akā he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo pū i ka weliweli e hoʻokumu ʻia no kāu male.
Pilikia 1: Nui ka manawa i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia
Hoʻolālā ka manawa me nā hoaaloha ʻoiai e waiho ana i kāu wahine ma ka home he olakino. ʻAʻole ʻoe mau e noho me kāu wahine, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa! Eia nō naʻe, inā hoʻomaka ka manawa i lilo me kāu mau hoaaloha i ka manawa āu e hoʻolilo ai me kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe, hiki i kāu ʻano maʻamau ke lilo i kahi pali paheʻe. ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻauheʻe ana mai kāu wahine aku a ʻike ʻo ia "ʻaʻole maopopo" iā ʻoe ʻo wai ʻoe. E makaʻala pehea ʻoe e hoʻolilo ai i kou manawa a pehea e hoʻopili ai i kāu wahine. E hoʻolālā e like a hoʻokaʻawale i kāu manawa waiwai nui no ke kanaka āu e aloha ai, ma mua o kāu mau hoaaloha.
Pilikia 2: Ka makaʻu o ka hilinaʻi ʻole a i ʻole discontent pili
He mau hoaaloha ka hapanui o mākou he kāne like me kā mākou wahine. ʻAʻole ia he mea mau ʻole iā mākou ke hāpai i nā hoaaloha kahiko i nā pilina hou. Eia naʻe, hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea weliweli loa i kāu male ʻana no ka mea e hoʻonui ana i ka makaʻu o ka infidelity a me ka discontent pili. ʻOiai hewa ʻole ʻoe i ka hana hewa, ʻaʻole mahalo paha kāu wahine i kāu manawa e lilo ai me kahi mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka hilinaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe e hana i ka mea kūpono he ʻāpana ia o ka male, akā e noʻonoʻo ʻoe i kāu wahine a kaulike a i kaupalena ʻia i ka manawa āu e noho ai me kekahi mea like kāne me kāu kāne.
Pilikia 3: Leo o ka mana
ʻO ka manawa nui loa me nā hoaaloha, ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea ma waho o ka hui "mākou hoaaloha", hiki ke hana i ka makaʻu o ka hōʻoluʻolu e ka mana. ʻO ka poʻe āu e lilo ai ka manawa nui me ka mea ʻoi loa ka mana, a ʻoiai he mea nui nā hoaaloha no ka hoʻomohala pilikino ʻana a me ka ulu ʻana, hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i nā leo a me nā manaʻo he nui loa. ʻIke maopopo ʻia kēia ke kūlike ʻole ʻolua me kāu wahine e pili ana i kekahi mea; he mea maʻamau ka hele i nā hoaaloha no ka ʻōlelo aʻo. Akā he nui nā hoaaloha a me nā leo he nui e weliweli i kāu male.
ʻOiai aia nā pilikia o ka noho aloha ma waho o kāu male, aia kekahi mau pōmaikaʻi o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoaaloha pili.
Pōmaikaʻi 1: Accountability
Hiki i nā hoaaloha me ka noʻonoʻo like ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka nui o ka maluhia noʻonoʻo, a ʻo ia ka mea e kōkua iā ʻoe i ka mālama ʻana i kāu wahine me ke aloha a me ka noʻonoʻo. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka male, akā ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa aloha a i ʻole ʻelua e huli i kēlā mau manawa o ka nele hiki ke kōkua i ka mālama pono ʻana i kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou. Pono ia, he mau hoaaloha hilinaʻi a akamai hoʻi me nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i kāu mau mea a nānā i luna no nā ʻōlelo aʻo maikaʻi.
Pōmaikaʻi 2: Hoʻokalakiko
Hiki i nā hoalohaloha ke hāʻawi i ka paipai like. ʻO ʻoe a me kāu wahine he waiwai nui paha no kekahi mau kāne ʻē aʻe, e like me kā lāua. Eia hou, he mea nui e ʻike i nā hoaaloha me nā manaʻo like a me ka noʻonoʻo like; ʻo ka poʻe i kūlike ʻole me nā loina o kou home ʻaʻole paha ia ka mea e nānā ai i ka ʻōlelo paipai.
Pono 3: Pili a kaiāulu
He mea nui, ma ke ʻano he mau, e pili mau i nā poʻe a puni ʻoe. Me ka ʻole o ka launa aloha ʻana, paʻakikī e lilo i ʻāpana o kahi kaiāulu a manaʻo ʻia e kākoʻo ʻia a paipai ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. He waiwai nui ka ʻohana, akā ʻaʻole makemake ka ʻohana i nā manawa āpau e haʻi iā ʻoe i nā mea āu e lohe ai. Eia naʻe, e nā hoaaloha, hana pinepine lākou i kahi pūnaewele o ke kākoʻo a me ke kūlike i makemake nui ʻia e nā kāne. Hoʻohui ʻia, pili pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke manawa kūpono e hoʻokomo i ka paipai a kākoʻo i loko o nā ola o nā kāne ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka ʻike he pilikia ka pili aloha ma waho o kou male ʻana ʻaʻole pono e keakea iā ʻoe mai ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kākoʻo o haʻi. Akā, pono nā pōmaikaʻi i ka manaʻolana a me kahi o nā alakaʻi ākea no ka hana ʻana i nā pilina hohonu me nā mea e kākoʻo, paipai, a hoʻomaikaʻi i ka pilina āu me kāu wahine!