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- ʻO ka male male male: ʻAe a me ʻAʻole?
- Nā kumu e haʻalele ʻole ai
- 1. Ka hopena maikaʻi i nā keiki.
- Ke kūkulu nei i kahi male mau
ʻO ke koho no ka hemo ʻana ua lilo i maʻamau i ka moʻomeheu o kēia au. ʻOiai ʻo ka hauʻoli loa o nā kāne male i ka manawa hoʻokahi a i ʻole kekahi i hakakā nui a noʻonoʻo lākou e haʻalele i ka hemo.
Kū'ē kēia i ko mākou mau kūpuna, i holo i loko o nā manawa koa paʻakikī, ʻaʻole e haʻalele i ka male ʻana no ka mea i kēlā mau lā, he hanana laha ʻole a hemo hoʻi ka hemo ʻana.
Inā he mau pilikia i ka pilina o ko mākou mau kūpuna - a ʻoiai nō aia - hana lākou iā lākou a noho pū paha me lākou.
Akā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻāwīwī i ka hale hoʻokolokolo no ka mea aia kekahi mau manawa paʻakikī i kā lāua male.
ʻO ka male male male: ʻAe a me ʻAʻole?
Inā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e noʻonoʻo nei i ka hemo male, akā ʻaʻole i hoʻoholo ʻē a paʻa, heluhelu.
E hōʻike ana mākou i nā kumu maikaʻi he nui ʻaʻole e hemo ka male. Akā e maopopo akāka he mau hanana i ka hemo ka mea kūpono e hana.
Eia kekahi o nā hanana i pono ai ka hemo.
- Kūpono ʻole, kahi philanderer pūkaʻina, a i ʻole me ke aloha pūnaewele ʻana ma hope o kou kua
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- He mea hoʻomake. He mea hōʻemi paha kēia i ka ʻalekohola, nā lāʻau, ke piliwaiwai, ka moekolohe, a i ʻole nā ʻano mea ʻae aʻe e hoʻokau ai i kou olakino, palekana, a me kou olakino.
I ka hapanui o nā hihia ʻē aʻe, he koho kāu e haʻalele i ka male a i ʻole ʻaʻole e haʻalele.
Ma mua o ka ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole no ka hemo, e kākoʻo kāua a nānā i nā mea e alakaʻi ai i nā kāne he nui e haʻalele.
Nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole mai ka male male.
ʻO ka hapa nui o kēia ka hewa o ka pāpāho. Nā hānai Instagram, hōʻike wale iā mākou i nā kāne a me nā wahine hauʻoli loa, i nā wahi nani, me nā keiki nani ʻelua.
Hoʻohālikelike mākou i ko mākou mau ola pono ʻole me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia ʻia ma kā mākou pale, a manaʻo mākou "inā he wahine ʻē kaʻu ... maopopo wau e like kēlā me koʻu ola!" Poino loa kēia.
Pono mākou e hoʻoponopono hou i ko mākou ʻike i ka mea o ka male: kahi hui e loaʻa i kona mau lā maikaʻi a me nā lā maikaʻi ʻole, akā hoʻokō mākou iā ia no ka mea ua hoʻohiki mākou e mālama pono kekahi i kekahi.
Ke nānā nei i kāu wahine i kāu mea āpau.
ʻO kēia kekahi manaʻo wahaheʻe ʻole o ke ʻano o ka male. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi kanaka ke lilo i kāu mau mea āpau ... ʻo kou ʻuhane, kou mea hoʻohenehene i loko o ka hale, kāu kauka, kāu kumu haʻuki.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki i kāu wahine ke hana i kēia. ʻAʻole kēia he kumu e haʻalele ai.
Ke hoʻoponopono hou ʻoe i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai i ke ʻano o ka male male-kahi pilina paʻa ʻaʻole ia he kaʻao kaʻao – e ʻōlelo ana ʻaʻole e haʻalele i ka male.
Nā kumu e haʻalele ʻole ai
1. Ka hopena maikaʻi i nā keiki.
Hiki paha i nā mākua hoʻokaʻawale ke haʻi iā ʻoe, "lilo nā keiki iā ia." Akā e nīnau i ka poʻe i ʻike i ka hemo o kā lākou makua, a e haʻi lākou iā ʻoe i ka ʻeha a me ke kaulike ʻole o ka naʻau a lākou i ʻeha ai ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o ko lākou mau mākua.
E hilinaʻi hilinaʻi ʻole paha nā keiki a nā mākua hemo i kekahi nā pilikia me nā aloha aloha. Ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka hopena maikaʻi o ka male male ma luna o kāu keiki, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hōʻole ʻana i ka male male.
2. Hoʻowahāwahā ka naʻau i ka naʻau.
ʻAʻohe mea, ʻo ka mea hoʻonāukiuki hoʻi i ka hemo, i puka i waho o kahi hemo me ka hōʻeha ʻole. ʻO nā hopena o ka naʻau o ka hoʻopau ʻana i kou ola kaʻana lōʻihi loa ia, me ka lilo o ka hilinaʻi, ka hilinaʻi, ka manaʻo o ka palekana, a me ka palekana.
Eia kekahi, hiki i nā manaʻo i hoʻonā ʻole ʻia ke ninini i loko o kā lākou mau pili aʻe no ka mea makaʻu lākou i ka mea hou e hana hou ʻia.
Ma kahi o, hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe e pili ana i kou manaʻo me kāu wahine a hoʻohana i nā manawa paʻakikī i kou ola male e hōʻoia hou i kekahi i kekahi a mai haʻalele i kāu male.
Inā kūleʻa ʻoe, hiki i kahi ʻike paʻa paʻa, e hoʻoikaika ana i kāu hui.
3. ʻO wai ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻo Mr a ʻo Mrs.
Ke noʻonoʻo nei inā hemo a haʻalele paha ʻaʻole e haʻalele, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho ʻo wai ʻoe inā he kāne me ʻoe?
ʻO kekahi kumu e haʻalele ʻole ai ka nalowale o kou ʻike. ʻO ʻoe ʻo Mr a i ʻole ʻo Mrs. ʻO wai ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ka wahine a kāu wahine?
ʻOi loa i ka male lōʻihi. Hoʻolei ka male male i kāu ʻike i loko o ka nīnau, waiho iā ʻoe me ka manaʻo ʻole a me ka ʻole.
Ma kahi o, e hana i kāu male a hoʻāʻo e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i ka hilinaʻi like ʻana i kāu pilina. E hoʻolilo kēia iā ʻoe i mau hoa ʻoluʻolu hou aʻe a kōkua pū iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo ʻo wai ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka.
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4. ʻAʻole wale kou ʻohana pili e hoʻokaʻawale.
ʻAʻole pili ka male male iā ʻoe, kāu wahine, a me kāu poʻe keiki. Ke hiki mai ka hemo ʻana, nalowale pinepine ʻoe i ka ʻohana o kāu wahine.
ʻO ka makuahōnōwai wahine i lilo i lua makuahine nou. ʻO kou kaikuahine o kou hoahānau, kou kaikoʻeke, āu i puana ai i nā mea huna a me nā hilinaʻi. Lawe ʻia kēia mau mea āpau me ka hemo male.
I kekahi manawa mau kēia mau pilina, no nā keiki hoʻi, akā ʻoluʻolu ʻole nā mea ke komo nā kāne hou i ka ʻohana a hoʻāʻo ʻia nā kūpaʻa.
ʻO ka mālama pū ʻana i ka ʻohana ʻohana he kumu maikaʻi e ʻōlelo ai ʻaʻole e haʻalele. Hāʻawi ia i ke kūpaʻa a me ke ʻano o ka mea nui i ko mākou olakino.
Ke kūkulu nei i kahi male mau
ʻO nā kāne e hele kokoke i ka lihi akā hoʻi i hope e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole no ka hemo a hoʻohiki hou i kahi male mau loa āpau a ʻōlelo lākou he waiwai ia. ʻIke lākou i ka ikaika hou o ko lākou aloha ma ke ʻano he mokuna ʻelua i kā lākou moʻolelo male.
Ke hele kokoke nei i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, a laila hana i nā mea, kōkua iā lākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka waiwai o ka hoʻopaʻa male, a me ko lākou mahalo i ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi i kekahi. ʻO kā lākou ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo?
- E ʻimi i ke kōkua mai kahi kākāʻōlelo male ma mua o ka male a me ka mākaukau e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā kumu e haʻalele ʻole ai.
- E hoʻokuʻu i nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia. ʻAʻole hiki i kāu wahine ke lilo i mea nui o kou ola.
- Hana pū i nā mea ma ke ʻano he kāne male akā hoʻohanohano pū nō hoʻi i ka pono no ka manawa hoʻokahi.
- Ke ʻōlelo nei ʻoe ʻaʻole e haʻalele i ka wahine, e ʻōlelo wau aloha wau iā ʻoe kekahi i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo 100%.
- E mālama i kahi ola moekolohe a me ka hoihoi, hoʻohui i nā manaʻo a me nā ʻenehana hou. Mai hōʻaleʻale i kou ola aloha.
- Noho mau a kūpono iā ʻoe iho a me kāu hoa. E hoʻomanaʻo i kāu mau lā aloha, pehea ʻoe e hoʻolilo ai i ka manawa i ka ʻaʻa pono ʻana no kāu mau ahiahi? Mai hoʻowahāwahā i kou helehelena inā ua male ʻoe i mau makahiki. Hōʻike ia i kāu wahine e mālama iā ʻoe a makemake e nānā maikaʻi iā lākou. (E hōʻoluʻolu hoʻi ia iā ʻoe.)