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- 1. He aha ka lili moekolohe?
- 2. ʻIke paha mākou āpau i ka lili moekolohe?
- 3. Nā hopena o ka lili nui i ka moekolohe
- 4. Pehea e lanakila ai i ka lili moekolohe
ʻIke mākou āpau i ka lili a pehea e hiki ai iā ia ke hōʻino i ka pilina. ʻIke pū mākou he hiki i ka lili ke loli i ke kanaka a inā haʻalele ʻole ʻia hiki ke hana i paranoia a me ka hopohopo. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, me ka nui o ka lili e hiki ai iā mākou ke manaʻo he mea nui a hiki ke kōkua i ka pilina e ulu ikaika.
Eia naʻe ma mua o ko mākou hahi ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka hana lili i loko o kā mākou pili, pono mākou e kamaʻilio i kekahi mau nīnau - Pehea kou ʻano me ka manawa o ka lili moekolohe? Kūlike paha mākou āpau e pili ana i ka hana lili? a pehea mākou e hōʻoia ai e hiki iā mākou ke mālama pono?
1. He aha ka lili moekolohe?
He aha ka lili moekolohe iā mākou a pehea ia e hana ai i kā mākou pilina?
Ma ka wehewehe ʻana, ʻo ka lili moekolohe kahi ʻano lili i nā ʻano moekolohe. Pili pū ka lili moekolohe me kā mākou biology. ʻOiai i ka nāhelehele, e hana kahi kāne kāne i ka mea e hiki ai ke hōʻoia i kāna wahine ʻo kāna - hoʻokahi wale nō. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻike a ʻike i ka huhū i kekahi kāne e manaʻo nei ua hoʻoweliweli ʻia ʻo ia i kāna hoa pili me kahi kāne ʻē aʻe.
He like ia me mākou nā kānaka. Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, pono ʻoe e kiaʻi me ka makaʻu i ka hana pono ʻole o kāu hoa. ʻO ka lili moekolohe i ka hoa no kēlā me kēia o mākou he maʻamau maʻamau akā hiki ke hōʻino inā haʻalele ʻia mai ka lima.
Ua ʻike anei ʻoe ua ʻike nā kāne i ka lili moekolohe ma mua o nā wahine? ʻO ke kumu ma hope o kēia no ka biology o nā kāne e hānau keiki a pono ʻo ia e kiaʻi i kāna hoa mai nā hoa ʻē aʻe.ʻIke mau nā kāne i ka lili moekolohe i nā kāne ʻē aʻe keu hoʻi ke hoʻoweliweli.
2. ʻIke paha mākou āpau i ka lili moekolohe?
ʻIke nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka lili. Eia naʻe ka lili moekolohe i nā kāne he prone ke kiʻekiʻe ma mua o nā wahine. ʻO ka lili moekolohe i nā wahine e alakaʻi i ka lili manaʻo ma mua o.
E hōʻoia ke kāne i ka paʻa a kūpaʻa ʻole o kāna hoa iā ia. He mau ʻano ʻokoʻa paha kāna e hōʻike ai pehea e lili ai ʻo ia akā ma laila mau nō ia. ʻIke ka wahine ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i ka ikaika like o ka lili akā ma kahi pae naʻau.
ʻOiai, ʻokoʻa ka lili Emotional a me ka moekolohe, ʻeha ka ʻeha o ka puʻuwai puʻuwai mai ka hoʻopunipuni a like ke ʻano o ka like no ka mea pili nā lili Emotional a me ka moekolohe.
ʻOiai he wahine inā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu wahine e pīpī nei a i ʻole e hana i ka moekolohe me kekahi wahine ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka ʻeha āu e ʻike ai ma muli o kou ʻike ʻana iā lākou e hana ana i kekahi mea ʻaʻole pono e hana no ka mea ʻo ia nāu. E hōʻeha kēia i kou mau manaʻo a alakaʻi i ka lili manaʻo.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, kahi kāne e ʻike i kāna hoa e flir ana a i ʻole ke moekolohe ʻana me kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe e hoʻonāukiuki i ka lili wahine i nā kāne.
3. Nā hopena o ka lili nui i ka moekolohe
Hoʻomaopopo mākou āpau pehea e lili ai ka lili i nā pilina. No ka nui o kou aloha i kekahi i kekahi, ʻo ka lili nui loa e pepehi i ka hilinaʻi, aloha, a me ka mahalo i loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi.
Hiki i ka lili nui a kolohe paha ke hōʻino i kou pilina ma nā ala aʻe:
- ʻO ka lili nui a ʻoi loa ka lili moekolohe hiki ke hana i kekahi pilina i mea ʻawahia. I ka manawa pōkole, ma kahi o ka hauʻoli e ʻike ʻoe i ke kahawai ke hele ʻoe me kāu hoa.
- Inā ʻoe i manaʻo i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e hui pū ai, e hana wale ʻoe i nā hoʻopiʻi kumu ʻole, a laila hiki i kēia ke hoʻokaʻawale i kāu pilina.
- Hiki iā ia ke hana i kāu hoa e haʻi wahaheʻe i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka hakakā pono ʻole.
- Hiki iā ia ke lilo i ka hilinaʻi ʻole, ke aloha, a me ka mahalo i kā lākou hoa.
- E hāʻawi pū ka lili nui i ka pilikia i nā pilikia ʻē aʻe e like me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana, ka inaina, a me ka paranoia.
ʻAʻohe mea e makemake e lilo i kahi pilina kahi e hoʻopiʻi ʻia ai ʻoe no ka male ʻana me nā kāne ʻē aʻe - hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ka luku ʻia o kāu male a i ʻole ka pili.
4. Pehea e lanakila ai i ka lili moekolohe
Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina ma kahi āu e ʻike ai ua ʻeha kāu ipo a i ʻole ipo i ka lili nui i ka moekolohe, a laila paha ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai pehea e hana ai i ka lili moekolohe ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o ka lima.
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kāu hoa i ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka lili wahine a pehea ʻoe e hoʻolōʻihi ai i kou ahonui? Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka lili wahine.
- E haʻi iā ia e aloha ʻoe iā ia a inā pono, e hāʻawi iā ia i ka hōʻoia e pono ai iā ʻoe. I kekahi manawa, hiki i kēia ke hōʻoluʻolu i kāna lili moekolohe.
- Hōʻalo i nā hanana i kahi āu e manaʻo ai e lili kāu kāne a wahine paha. Inā he hoa aloha kāu e kāhea mau nei iā ʻoe a i ʻole e ʻaʻa wiwo ʻole e ʻapo iā ʻoe a laila e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe i ka hopena o kāu hoa.
- Inā lilo i lili nui ka lili moekolohe, a laila makemake paha ʻoe e ʻimi i ke kōkua ʻoihana. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he pilikia noʻonoʻo a i ʻole psychological paha ʻoe. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he ala maikaʻi loa kēia e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pilikia ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o ka lima.
- Inā hōʻike kāu hoa i ka lili nui i ka moekolohe ma muli o kāna mau pilina i hala, a laila hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻolōʻihi iki i kou ahonui a hiki i kona aʻo ʻana e hoʻopau i kā lākou lili moekolohe. ʻO kēia ala, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaha mai ka ʻeha a kāna pili ma mua i hāʻawi iā ia.
- Loiloi hou i kou hilinaʻi a me ke aloha me kekahi. I kekahi manawa, me ko mākou ola nui, ke hele nei mākou i kahi kaʻawale kahi mea e hopohopo ai i kā mākou mau hoa. Hiki i ke kamaʻilio ke kōkua nui i nā kāne i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kēia pilikia.
Hiki iā mākou āpau ke lili i ka lili wahine a ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka hapa nui o kā mākou kumu e hoʻomaopopo pono ʻia. Eia nō naʻe, inā makemake mākou e ʻike he pilina olakino kā mākou, a laila pono mākou e ʻike pehea e lanakila ai i ka lili moekolohe iā mākou iho ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o ka lima.
E hoʻomanaʻo he hiki i ka lili liʻiliʻi i ka pilina ke hoʻoikaika iā ia akā inā ʻoe e holo i kai, hiki i ka lili ke hoʻopau i kou pilina.