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- Nā kumu kūpono a me nā hōʻailona hōʻailona o kahi hihia naʻau
- Hana me ka kānalua o ka hoʻopunipuni i ka male
ʻO ka kumakaia kolohe e ʻoki loa i ka ʻuhane o ka male. He hana ʻino pili ʻole ia.
Eia nō naʻe, hōʻike ka noiʻi a me kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku i nā pilina extramarital nonsexual hiki ke hōʻeha hou aku. No ke aha mai?
E noʻonoʻo wale e pili ana: ʻO ka hoʻopunipuni moekolohe ma ka male ʻana ka mea i kaupalena ʻia i nā hewa o ke kuko. Hiki i ka wahine i hana ʻino ʻia ke koi i ka manaʻo he nui nā paʻa ʻē aʻe o kā lāua male
Akā hiki ʻole ke hoʻonui ʻia ka pilina o ke kāne hou ʻole no ka mea ua huki ʻia ka wahine hoʻopunipuni i ke kanaka holoʻokoʻa.
ʻO kēia ʻano hana hoʻopunipuni manaʻo i ka male ka mea i kapa ʻia he Emotional Affair. Ke haʻohaʻo nei ka wahine i hana ʻino ʻia i kēia manawa: "Makemake paha kaʻu wahine, mahalo, a makemake iaʻu?"
ʻO ka hihia o ka hoʻopunipuni manaʻo i ka pilina e hana i nā nīnau he nui, akā ʻo nā mea maʻamau ʻelua.
- He aha kekahi mau hōʻailona hōʻeuʻeu o ka hilinaʻi ʻole o ka naʻau?
- Pehea e hana ai i kahi hihia naʻau?
Eia kekahi mau manaʻo e pili ana i kēlā mau nīnau.
Nā kumu kūpono a me nā hōʻailona hōʻailona o kahi hihia naʻau
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, kēia hana hoʻopunipuni ʻole kino i ka male ʻana ma ka hana. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he mau manawa kūpono paha kāu wahine e noho pū ai me kēia hoa.
Ke hana nei paha lāua ʻelua i ka papahana like a i ʻole ke holo nei kekahi i kekahi i loko o ka ʻeleweka a i ʻole ka hale kope kokoke, a i ʻole ke hele ʻana i nā hālāwai nui a me nā hanana kaiāulu o ke keʻena.
A ʻo ka ikaika o ka hana ʻana i kahi papahana e hoʻonui i ka ʻano o ka pilina a me ka hana pū ʻana.
ʻO kahi laʻana, manaʻo lākou kaʻana like lākou i nā waiwai a me nā manaʻo. Kākoʻo lākou i ka manaʻo o kekahi i kekahi i nā hālāwai, hoʻomalie i ka hopohopo o kekahi, a hauʻoli pū kekahi i kekahi.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻike ka hapanui o nā hoa i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā hoa hana a me nā hoa ʻuhane, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka hoʻowalewale ʻia ʻana e hiki i kekahi poʻe keʻa i kēlā laina-ʻoi loa ke loaʻa nā pilikia i ka male.
ʻO nā hōʻailona hōʻailona o nā hana ʻelua a me nā hana ʻole he like akā ʻaʻole like.
Eia kahi papa inoa wikiwiki o nā ʻano e nānā ai no nā kūlana ʻelua.
- Hoʻolālā kāu wahine i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka manawa ma ka hana. A i ʻole inā ʻaʻole he hoa hana ka hoihoi hou, a laila e wehewehe paha kāu wahine ʻo ia "e noho lōʻihi ma ka hana." Hoʻohui paha ka mea hoʻopunipuni aia kekahi hihia nui a i ʻole papahana e koi ana i ka manawa keu.
- Honi pinepine kāu wahine i ka waiʻona ke hoʻi mai ʻo ia i ka home — a ʻaʻohe paha ʻo ia i ka ʻona ma kona hanu — koe wale nō mai nā ʻaha keʻena hoʻomaha. ʻO ka hanu ʻona mau i hiki ke lilo i hōʻailona o ke kaumaha — a i ʻole nā hālāwai ma hope o nā hola me kēia kanaka nāna i hopu i ka manaʻo o kāu wahine, ka puʻuwai — a me ke kino paha.
- Pēlā nō, hoʻi pinepine kāu wahine i ka home no ka ʻaina awakea—Aole pōloli (no ka mea ua ʻai mua ʻo ia me kēia mea hou.)
- Hoʻonui ka manawa o kāu wahine ma mua o ka maʻamau ma ke kelepona a i ʻole kamepiula—A hana malū ʻo ia iā ia a huhū a pale paha ke hele ʻoe i loko o ka lumi.
- Hoʻomaopopo hou aku kāu wahine i kāna hoʻomaʻemaʻe, nā lole, a me nā lauoho. ʻIke paha ʻoi aku ka hoihoi o ka nānā ʻana i nā mea hou aʻe. Ua kūʻai paha ʻo ia i kekahi mau kūʻai hou-a lākou e wehewehe ai ma ke ʻano he "hemahema" i ka palule a me ka pālule hou.
- Hōʻike kāu wahine i ka hoihoi a pīhoihoi paha i ka nānā ʻana i nā hōʻike kīwī ʻokoʻa a i ʻole nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni — a i ʻole nā hana ʻē aʻe (no ka mea ʻo ia nā makemake o kēia kanaka hou.)
- Kohu mea paha kāu wahine emi hoihoi i ka moekolohe (no ka mea, ʻo kāna ikehu moekolohe na kēia kanaka hou). A i ʻole, makemake ʻo ia e hoʻāʻo i ka moekolohe hou āna i hoʻāʻo ai a i ʻōlelo ai paha (no ka mea ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e noho aliʻi i kāna ʻumeʻume ʻana iā ʻoe.)
E nānā pū kekahi: Ka hopena a me nā hopena o kahi hihia Emotional.
Hana me ka kānalua o ka hoʻopunipuni i ka male
Nui nā koho āu.
Mai hoʻomaka i ka walaʻau ʻana, ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana, ka hoʻolei ʻana i nā mea, ka hoʻoweliweli ʻana i ka hemo male, ka hihia ʻana, a me ke kaohi ʻana o ka naʻau. Ma kahi o, e hoʻāʻo i kēia mau ʻōkuhi i kūleʻa hou aʻe.
- ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hana i kēia mau manaʻo āpau. Maopopo, hiki i kēlā me kēia ke hōʻoluʻolu ʻole iā ʻoe. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēlā me kēia-a i ka wā kānalua, e ʻimi i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ʻoe iho.
- E haʻi i kāu wahine i kou manaʻo e ʻauheʻe ana ʻoe i kēia mau lā. E nīnau inā manaʻo like ʻo ia.
- E paipai i ka hana i nā mea hou āu i kūkākūkā ai e hana nei ma mua— Akā ʻaʻole loa i hana i.
- E haʻi i kāu wahine makemake ʻoe iā ʻolua e hana i nā papa inoa o nā mea like pū.
- Hāʻawi e hui no ka ʻaina awakea a i ʻole pāʻina awakea i ka wā o ka hana. (Inā hū kāu wahine i kēia — a i ʻole hoʻokau iā ʻoe - e nīnau he aha ka hana ma ka hana.)
- E kākau i kahi leka aloha i kāu hoa a hoʻokomo i nā mea āu e makemake ai a mahalo a aloha hoʻi e pili ana iā ia. E noi i kāu wahine e hana like. (Inā hōʻole kāu wahine, e nīnau no ke kumu ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e hana.)
- E haʻi i kāu wahine e haʻo iā ia. A i ʻole, ʻaʻole like ke ʻano o ka moekolohe i kēia mau lā, a makemake ʻoe e ʻike i ke kumu - a he aha nā mea a kāu wahine e makemake ai e hana. (Inā hoʻokuʻu aku kāu kāne iā ʻoe, e nīnau ʻoe no ke aha.)
- Inā maikaʻi ʻole kekahi o kēia mau manaʻo i ka pilina — a inā paha e hoʻonui ka pane o kāu wahine i kāu kānalua, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau inā he manaʻo kona no kekahi ʻē aʻe. Inā haʻi aku kāu wahine, mai hele i ka hopena hohonu! Ma kahi o, hana i kekahi o nā mea paha i lalo:
- E noi iā ia e hele pū i ke kūkākūkā pū ʻana
- E noi iā ia e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i ka moʻolelo a pau a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
- E noi iā ia e haʻi iā ʻoe i kāna mea e pono ai mai kāu pilina.
- Hāʻawi i kāu manawa ʻelua e aʻo, hoʻōla, a ulu i kahi pilina paʻa.
Hoʻopunipuni kūlohelohe i ka male ʻana hiki ke maʻa loa, ʻoi loa i kēlā me kēia manawa ke kanaka ʻo ka hoʻopunipuni i ka male ʻana ʻaʻole paha e ʻike i nā ʻōuli o ko lākou moekolohe.
Eia kekahi, hāʻawi ʻia ʻaʻohe pili kino, hoʻonāukiuki wale ia i ka ʻike ʻana i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona o ka hoʻopunipuni i ka male.
No laila, inā he manaʻo kānalua kou e hoʻopunipuni paha kāu wahine i ka male, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia ʻatikala ma ke ʻano he alakaʻi i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka loli o ka hana a kāu hoa, a inā hewa ʻo ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i kāu huakaʻi o ka hoʻōla hou ʻana mai kahi hana naʻau.