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- 1. mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- 2. Nāna e kaumaha aku nāu
- 3. Kaʻana like ʻoe i nā waiwai
- 4. He aloha palena ʻole kona aloha
- 5. Aloha kou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha iā ia
- 6. Hōʻike aku ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- 7. Hoʻolohe mau ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- 8. Ke hoʻonui waiwai nei nā kamaʻilio me ia
E kiʻi i kēia; ua hui wale ʻoe i kēia kanaka kupaianaha i loaʻa nā ʻano āpau āu e makemake ai i loko o ke kāne. Hāʻule ʻoe no kāna leʻaleʻa hoʻoikaika a ʻae e hele pū me ia. ʻIke ia makemake ʻoe iā ia a i ka manawa manawa ʻole aia ʻoe i kahi pilina me ia. He nani kāu mea ʻelua, ʻae, ma ka liʻiliʻi no kekahi mau mahina ma mua o ka hopena iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e holo pono ka pilina.
I kahi manawa o ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī, nānā ʻoe i hope a ʻike he nui nā mea āu i nānā ʻole ai e pili ana iā ia ma mua. Maliʻa paha, ua makapō ʻoe e ke aloha akā i kēia manawa ua pau ka ʻāpana meli o kou pili a ʻike ʻoe i nā mea me ka maopopo loa. A maopopo leʻa ua noho ʻoe no ke kāne hewa.
Pā ʻia iā ʻoe kēlā mau hoaaloha a ʻohana nāna i haʻi iā ʻoe ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻoiaʻiʻo nāu. ʻAʻole ia i kākoʻo i kāu mau moeʻuhane a ʻokoʻa kou kuanaʻike i ke ola mai kāna. Pehea ʻoe i hopena ai me ia?
ʻĀ, he mea hiki ke ʻano like ke ʻano ke hoʻokumu ʻia ka pilina ma luna o nā manaʻo. A no laila ke holo nā manaʻo i kā lākou papa ʻaʻohe mea nui e hoʻopaʻa pū i ka pilina. Akā ʻo ka mea maikaʻi he ala mau e haʻi ai inā he kāne maoli kāu. Eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻo ia ke kāne kūpono nāu.
1. mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe
ʻO ka mea mua e pono e haʻi iā ʻoe inā ʻo ia ke kāne kūpono nāu no ka mahalo iā ʻoe. He mea maʻa mau ke haʻi aku inā he kāne mahalo ʻo ia ma ke ʻano o kāna mālama ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a i kou mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha. Hiki i nā kāne ke hana nui, no laila inā hele ʻo ia i kāna ala e hoʻolālā manawa iā ʻoe a laila pono ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo. ʻOiai hōʻike kēlā ua hoʻohanohano ʻo ia i kou kūlana wahine ma kona ola a ʻo ia ka mahalo. Eia kekahi, ʻaʻohe mea e kū i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka loiloi inā mahalo kahi kāne. ʻO kēia wale nō ke ʻano e pale iā ia mai ka hōʻino ʻole iā ʻoe e ka hūnā ʻana iā ʻoe.
2. Nāna e kaumaha aku nāu
Hana ʻia kahi pilina maikaʻi o nā kānaka ʻelua i manaʻo e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i nā mea ma waena o lākou. A ʻo ka manaʻo nui o kēia ʻelua no ʻolua e hana i nā mōhai he nui ma ke ala. No laila inā makemake ʻole kāu kāne e hana i nā mōhai na ʻoe, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia iā ʻoe. No ka mea inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea e hana mau ana i nā mōhai nona, e pau ʻoe me ka pilina kaulike ʻole. No laila, ʻo nā mōhai āna i hana ai a i ʻole hana ai hiki ke hōʻike inā mālama maoli ʻo ia iā ʻoe a me kou olakino. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi iā ia e hele mai i loko ou inā pilikia ʻoe?
3. Kaʻana like ʻoe i nā waiwai
ʻO kekahi o nā mea e alakaʻi pinepine ai i ka hakakā ma waena o nā kāne a ʻo ia nō ka ʻokoʻa o ko lākou mau manaʻo i ke ola. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻalo maʻalahi i ka hāʻule ʻana i kēia pahele ma ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāna waiwai a me ke ʻano o kā lākou ʻike i ke ola.Ua like kāna waiwai me kāu? Inā ʻaʻole maopopo maopopo ʻole, a laila ʻaʻohe mea ʻino ke noi aku iā ia no ka maopopo. ʻO ke kumu o ke koʻikoʻi o nā waiwai like ka mea e hōʻoia i ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka pilina.
4. He aloha palena ʻole kona aloha
ʻAe mākou ʻaʻohe mea hemolele a aloha ʻole ka palena ʻole, ʻeā? ʻĀ, nui nā kumu e hana ai kāu kāne i kēia ʻano aloha. Ke aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe me kāu mau kīnā āpau, ʻo ia wale nō ke kākoʻo āu e pono ai e lilo i ʻano mana ʻoi aʻe. ʻOiai ke koena o ka honua e manaʻo he waiwai ʻole ʻoe, e ʻike nō ia i ka waiwai ke noho pū me ʻoe. A e hōʻoia kēlā i ka hauʻoli i kāu pilina no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana.
5. Aloha kou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha iā ia
ʻAe, aia ka pilina ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka akā ma mua o kou noʻonoʻo ʻana i kēlā kāne aʻe, e ʻike i ka manaʻo o kou ʻohana pili a me nā hoaaloha nona. He poʻe kēia i noho i kou ola no nā makahiki he nui a ʻike paha lākou i ka mea maikaʻi loa nāu. Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e pili ana i kēia kāne hou. Eia kekahi, e makaʻala i kāna mālama ʻana i ka poʻe, nā mea kokoke iā ʻoe, e hōʻike ia iā ʻoe i kona ʻano maoli. Inā ʻo ia ke kāne kūpono nāu e mahalo ʻole iā ʻoe wale nō akā i ka poʻe āu e aloha nui ai.
6. Hōʻike aku ʻo ia iā ʻoe
Hōʻike ʻokoʻa nā kāne i ko lākou mau manaʻo mai nā wahine. ʻAʻole paha e haʻi aku kāu kāne iā ʻoe ke aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe akā e hōʻike ʻo ia i kona aloha iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano o kāna mālama ʻana iā ʻoe. ʻO kekahi ala e hana ai ke kanaka i kēia ma ka hōʻike ʻana iā ʻoe i kāna mau hoaaloha pili loa. ʻO ka pololei ʻole, ʻo ia kēnā e haʻi aku nei iā ʻoe i ka nui o kahi momi āu a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e haʻaheo ʻo ia me ʻoe. ʻO kekahi mea e pili ana iā ia e hōʻike aku ana iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e māka i kāna ʻāina a puni ʻoe. A loaʻa wale nā kāne i kēia pale a puni nā mea a i ʻole nā poʻe a lākou e waiwai ai.
7. Hoʻolohe mau ʻo ia iā ʻoe
ʻO ke kamaʻilio nui ke kī e hoʻomau ai i kekahi pilina ma o kona piʻi a me lalo. No laila, pono ʻoe i kahi kāne e kūlou ʻole i mua i kona ala i kāu uku. Pono ʻo ia e oʻo e hoʻolohe a noʻonoʻo i kou manaʻo i nā hoʻoholo āpau āu e hana pū ai. ʻO kēia ʻano ka mea e hoʻokau iā ʻoe i mea hilinaʻi hoʻokahi wale nō. ʻO ʻoe ke kanaka hoʻokahi āna e holo mau ai i kona wā pilikia a pono i kekahi e kōkua iā ia e noʻonoʻo i nā mea. ʻOiaʻiʻo, kahi mea āu e makemake ai, ʻaʻole?
8. Ke hoʻonui waiwai nei nā kamaʻilio me ia
Pono mākou āpau i kēlā kanaka a mākou e nānā nei i mua e kaʻana like i nā kikoʻī o ko mākou ola. Inā ʻaʻole kāu kāne kēia kanaka a laila pilikia nui kāu pilina. ʻIke, ʻo ke kamaʻilio pilikino kekahi ala kūpono e kūkulu ai i ka pilina o ka naʻau me kekahi. Pēlā e kūpono ai kahi pilina maikaʻi i kahi kaiapuni kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea āpau a waiwai ʻia. Hana kēlā ʻano i kahi ala no ka wehe i kāu pilina e hoʻokokoke loa ai ʻolua.
Pili wau i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kēia manawa e hoʻopau i nā nīnau āu i nīnau ai inā ʻo ke kāne o kēia manawa āu e ʻike nei ʻo ia ka mea kūpono nāu. ʻO ka hapa nui, ʻaʻole maopopo loa kēia ʻano iā ʻoe i nā pilina mua e loaʻa iā ʻoe. Akā pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo nui i ka hoʻokumu ʻana inā ʻo ia ke kūpono kūpono. E nīnau iā ia i nā nīnau āpau āu e pono ai a e ʻike pono e pili ana i kāna ʻano iā ʻoe a me kāna mau hoaaloha. Me kēlā, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻiliʻili i nā mea he nui ma luna ona e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo maikaʻi loa.
ʻO John
ʻO John ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i www.thedatinggame.co, kahi pūnaewele i hoʻolaʻa ʻia i nā wahine e ʻimi nei i ka ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka pilina a me nā pilina. Nui kona makemake e kōkua i nā wahine e noʻonoʻo maikaʻi e pili ana iā lākou iho a loaʻa i kahi pilina maikaʻi a hoʻokō. I kona mau manawa manawaleʻa, makemake ʻo ia e heluhelu e pili ana i nā kumuhana ‘geeky’ e like me ka mōʻaukala kahiko a me ka ʻepekema ākea.