Anter
- 1. Ke hana nei i nā hoʻohālikelike maikaʻi ʻole
- 2. Ka hana mua ʻole ʻana i kāu hoa a me ka pilina
- 3. Ke hana nei i nā hiʻohiʻona pono ʻole
- 4. Ke hoʻoluhi nei
- 5. Ka makemake ʻole e ʻike i ka kuanaʻike o haʻi
- 6. Kaohi ʻana i ke kamaʻilio hāmama
Paʻa ka pilina ma lalo o ke kūlana maikaʻi loa. Makemake kekahi e manaʻoʻiʻo ua lawa ke aloha i kekahi i kekahi e hana i nā mea hope loa. I kaʻu hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, hiki iā ia ke hōʻehaʻeha i ka ʻike ʻana i ʻelua mau kānaka e mālama maoli i kekahi i kekahi, akā i ka manawa like ma ke kaʻe o ka haki a haʻalele paha. ʻO ka hopena ua hōʻea kekahi mau kāne i ka hopena ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa ka hauʻoli, ke ʻike nei i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo paʻakikī i ka lawa ʻole o ke aloha i kekahi manawa.
ʻO ka manaʻo o kēia ʻatikala e hoʻomālamalama i nā mea āu a kāu hoa paha e hana nei e hōʻeha ai i ka pilina. Aia paha kekahi mau mea i waena o kēia mau manaʻo inā pili ʻoe i kekahi, pili paha ʻoe i kekahi.
1. Ke hana nei i nā hoʻohālikelike maikaʻi ʻole
Hiki i kekahi ke nalowale maʻalahi i ke kumu āu i koho ai (i ka mea i ʻumeʻume iā ʻoe) i kahi mea nui ʻē aʻe i ka manawa mua a ʻike pinepine iā ʻoe iho i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i kāu hoa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe o ka like wahine. Ua pīhoihoi paha ka pīhoihoi a me ka pīhoihoi o nā lā mua a makemake paha ʻoe e kiʻi i kēlā me kahi mea hou. Hoʻonāukiuki nā mea āu i ʻike ai i ka aloha i kēia manawa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohālikelike i kēia i kou noʻonoʻo, leo pololei iā lākou a i ʻole ʻole i kāu hoa, a i ʻole ʻelua paha. ʻO kekahi ala a i ʻole ʻē aʻe paha lākou i loko o kāu mau ʻōlelo a me kāu lawena a hiki ke waiho i kāu hoa me ka hōʻino ʻia, ʻeha, a me / a mahalo ʻole ʻia paha.
2. Ka hana mua ʻole ʻana i kāu hoa a me ka pilina
Ke ʻimi nei i ke kaulike kūpono o ka hui pū a me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka pilina hiki ke maʻalahi a ʻano ʻokoʻa paha no kēlā me kēia pālua e pili ana i nā pono a me nā makemake o kēlā me kēia. Makemake ka hapa nui o ka poʻe ʻaʻole e ʻāpono ʻia e kā lākou hoa, akā i ka manawa like makemake e mahalo ʻia, mahalo a makemake ʻia. ʻO ke kaulike kūpono e komo pū me ka leʻaleʻa ʻana i kekahi mau pono like a me ka manawa like, akā ʻaʻole naʻe e nānā i kāu hoapili e hoʻopiha i kāu mau pono āpau.
Hoʻonui wale ʻia kēia kumu o ka hakakā me ka male. ʻO ka ʻaelike ʻole i ʻōlelo pinepine ʻole ʻia ke ʻae ʻana i ka paʻa loa o ka male ʻana e ʻae mua ana i kāu wahine ma mua o ka poʻe āpau a me nā mea. Hōʻike koʻuʻike i kahi āpau ke kāne, kahi e manaʻo ai nā kāne e alakaʻi i ke ola o ka bachelor ʻoiai he kāne. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe a me kāu hoa ma ka ʻaoʻao like e pili ana i kēlā mau mea i manaʻo ʻia, e ʻeha paha ka pilina.
3. Ke hana nei i nā hiʻohiʻona pono ʻole
E alo ia, ʻo ka hapa nui o mākou ʻaʻole i hāʻawi ʻia i ke olakino o nā hiʻohiʻona hiʻohiʻona e ulu ana. ʻOiai ke ʻano o ka mea pono ʻole e hana ai, a hiki i ke aʻo ʻana ʻana iā mākou a i ʻole ke hōʻike ʻana i kahi ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ʻike mākou iā mākou iho i nā raupā hana ʻole i loko o kā mākou pili makua ponoʻī. Koho pinepine mākou (ʻoiai subconsciously) wae i nā hoa i nele i ke ʻano olakino like o kā mākou kahu, e noʻonoʻo nei hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoponopono iā lākou a loaʻa iā lākou e hālāwai me kā mākou mau pono kūpono ʻole mai ka wā kamaliʻi. ʻAʻole mākou e kūleʻa nui i ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai. ʻO ka hopena pinepine ka hauʻoli ʻole, huhū a haki paha.
4. Ke hoʻoluhi nei
I ko kēia ao honua o ka pāʻoihana kaiapili, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ma mua o ka noho ʻole piha ʻana i kā mākou pilina. Hiki i nā kāne i ka lumi like akā hoʻopili i kā lākou hāmeʻa, e alakaʻi ana i ka hemo nui. Hāʻawi ka pāpaho kaiaulu i nā mea maikaʻi he nui akā wehe ʻia ka puka i kahi manawa hou aku e kipi ai. Lawe ka manawa i hoʻolilo ʻia ma ka pāpaho kaiapili mai ka pili maoli, pilikino, pili maoli. Hiki i nā mea hoʻonāukiuki ke hele mai i ke ʻano o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka lāʻau, ka piliwaiwai, ka hana, nā leʻaleʻa / haʻuki a ʻo nā keiki a me kā lākou mau hana.
5. Ka makemake ʻole e ʻike i ka kuanaʻike o haʻi
ʻO kahi kuhi hewa maʻamau aʻu e ʻike nei, ʻaʻole pili nā hoa i ka manawa e hoʻomaopopo piha ai i ka mea ʻē aʻe, akā ke kuhi nei i kā lākou mea nui ʻē aʻe i like ka ʻike, nā pono a me nā makemake. ʻO ka ʻāpana o kēia me ka ʻike ʻole ʻana i nā mea mai kā lākou mea nui ʻē aʻe i hōʻeuʻeu ai i ko lākou naʻau kaumaha, i mea e hōʻalo ai i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i ka mea a lākou e aloha ai. Pili pili ka hoa i hakakā e pololei mau, ʻaʻole makemake e lawe i kā lākou hāʻawi i nā pilikia a wikiwiki e kau i ka ʻimi ʻana i ka hewa i kā lākou hoa.
6. Kaohi ʻana i ke kamaʻilio hāmama
ʻO kekahi ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻē aʻe ma mua o ke kamaʻilio kūpaʻa ʻole e huahua no kekahi pilina. Hoʻonohonoho kekahi i nā manaʻo, nā manaʻo a me nā makemake i hoʻokahi no ka invalidation a ʻo ka hopena nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana e puka i kahi ala minamina. ʻO ka paʻakikī o ke kanaka me ke kamaʻilio he multifaceted a paʻakikī paha; nānā 'ole i kona kumu, i nā hualoaʻa ma ka pilina hana.
ʻO kā mākou manawa a me ko mākou ikehu ka mea nui e kia i nā mea hiki iā mākou ke loli a kāohi: he aha kā mākou e hāʻawi nei i ka pilina. Inā pili nā ala i ʻelua ala, pono mākou e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ko mākou ʻaoʻao o ke alanui a noho i kā mākou ala ponoʻī. Inā ʻike ʻoe he kuleana ʻoe no kekahi hana pono ʻole i kāu pilina, e noʻonoʻo e kamaʻilio i kāu ʻāpana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoi pākahi a me nā kāne paha.