Anter
- ʻO nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi loa e makemake i ko lākou makua e hoʻi
- ʻAʻole mālama nā keiki iā ʻoe no ka mea e haʻalele ʻoe
- Aia nā keiki i ko lākou wā ʻōpio a ʻaʻole mālama nui iā ʻoe
- E hoʻomanaʻo, aia nō nā keiki i ko lākou wā ʻōpio
- E hoʻomanawanui
I kēia lā a me ka makahiki o ka hemo a me ka nui o ka male ma waena o ke ola o kekahi, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o nā mākua kāne a me nā keiki he mea maʻamau. ʻO ka male ʻana i kekahi me nā keiki, e like me nā male ʻē aʻe he koho pilikino ia, a ʻaʻohe kuleana o kekahi e hoʻokolokolo iā ʻoe no ia mea.
Eia nō naʻe, e like me nā hoʻohiki āpau, aia nā kuleana a me ka male ʻana i kekahi me nā keiki ʻo ia nō ʻoe ke kuleana no kā lākou keiki. Inā he kālā wale nō ia, a laila hiki i kekahi kanaka kuleana ke lawelawe iā ia. Akā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka makua ʻanuʻu ma mua o kēlā. Eia nā pilikia maʻamau o nā mākua a pehea e hana ai iā lākou.
ʻO nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi loa e makemake i ko lākou makua e hoʻi
He pilikia maʻamau kēia me nā keiki o ke kula haʻahaʻa. ʻAʻole lākou makemake e ʻae i kahi mākua hou, no ka mea ke lana nei ko lākou manaʻo e hoʻi mai ko lākou makua hānau. ʻIke lākou i ka stepparent ma ke ʻano he "kanaka maikaʻi ʻole" nāna e mālama i ko lākou makua kumu.
Inā ʻo kēia ka pilikia āu e kū nei, e hoʻomanawanui ʻoe no ka mea ke launa nei ʻoe me kahi keiki hala ʻole. Maʻalahi e hoʻoholo inā pili ʻoe i kēia pilikia. E ʻōlelo pololei ke keiki i kou alo.
He mea hoʻowalewale ia i ka hana i hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i makua pani a pani i ka mea i neʻe aku. Mai hoʻāʻo e hana ia no ka mea ʻoiai nui ka hoʻāʻo, ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e lilo i makua makua.
Maopopo ka makua makua o ke keiki i nā manawa āpau, a ke ʻole he hihia kolohe me ka mālama ʻana i nā kauoha e pili ana, he kuleana ko lākou, kū i ke kānāwai a me ka pono, i kēlā keiki.
ʻO ʻoe wale nō. Hana i ke keiki e like me kou makemake e mālama i kāu keiki ponoʻī.
Ke kuhi nei ʻaʻole ʻoe he psychopath a i ʻole kekahi mea me kahi fetish ʻano ʻē, i ka manawa, e hele mai ke keiki a ʻae iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano o ko lākou makua hānau.
Eia kekahi, kaumaha a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomau i ka lele ʻana e hōʻoluʻolu wale i kahi keiki, ke hiki iā ʻoe iho.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana e like me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e pani i ko lākou makua kāne i hele ʻole a lilo i hoa aloha no lākou, e hāpai lākou ma luna a ʻike hope i kāu kuleana i ko lākou ola.
ʻAʻole mālama nā keiki iā ʻoe no ka mea e haʻalele ʻoe
Manaʻo lākou e haʻalele ʻoe, e like me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe He hae ʻulaʻula nui loa kēia. ʻO lāua ʻelua no ke keiki aʻo ʻoe ka hoa hou. ʻO ke kanaka ʻōpio me kēia ʻano noʻonoʻo ke ʻano o ka haki o ko lākou hilinaʻi i nā manawa he nui e manaʻoʻiʻo ʻole i kekahi. E ulu lākou i ka hilinaʻi ʻole i kekahi a makaʻu i ka hoʻokō.
ʻO ia hoʻi ka manaʻo o kāu hoa i kekahi mau hoa i ka wā i hala a ʻaʻole holo pono ia. Hōʻike kahi hiʻohiʻona e like me kēia e paʻakikī i kekahi poʻe e kūkulu i ka launa me kāu wahine hou.
Ma mua o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana, akā noʻonoʻo ia he ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. ʻO ke keiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻopaʻapaʻa me lākou. ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻokumu i kahi manaʻo koʻikoʻi me ke kumu ʻole. E hōʻoiaʻiʻo wale ʻoe iā lākou e hewa ana me ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana e pili ana. ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike pehea e pau ai nā mea no laila ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻohiki i kekahi mea a laila haki i ka hopena.
ʻO kēia kekahi o kēlā mau hihia kahi e haʻi ai ka manawa, a ʻo ka mea ʻoi loa e hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ʻo ke pili a waiho i ke keiki e kamaʻilio me ʻoe ke mākaukau lākou.
Aia nā keiki i ko lākou wā ʻōpio a ʻaʻole mālama nui iā ʻoe
Hauʻoli lākou i ka loaʻa ʻana o ko lākou makua i kekahi a noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe i kahi ʻāpana o ka hale ma ko lākou home no ka hauʻoli o ko lākou makua, a ʻo ka lua, manaʻo lākou he malihini wale ʻoe e makemake ana ko lākou makua e mālama e like me kahi pipi makemake ʻole ʻia.
Nui a hewahewa nā pilikia o nā mākua, akā ʻo kēia ka maʻalahi o ka hana. E like me nā holoholona ʻē aʻe i makemake ʻole ʻia a me nā lako pono. Inā maikaʻi, kōkua, a nani hoʻi i kekahi manawa. Ua lilo ia i ʻāpana maʻamau o ka ʻohana.
E hoʻomanaʻo, aia nō nā keiki i ko lākou wā ʻōpio
Mai komo i loko o ko lākou ola ke noi ʻole ʻia e noi e hana pēlā, ʻoi aku ka nui o kāu hana ʻana i ka bossy a me ka "makua-like," ʻo ka nui o nā keiki e loaʻa iā ʻoe ke huhū a huhū hoʻi i kou alo.
ʻO ka mea hope loa e makemake ai nā ʻōpio ʻo kekahi makua ʻē aʻe e haʻi ana iā lākou i ka mea e hana ai. Ua hele mākou a pau ma laila, inaina mākou iā ia. Pēlā nō lākou.
E lilo i hoa aloha, ʻoiai inā ʻo ka stepchild o ka wahine ʻē aʻe, akā e noʻonoʻo i ko lākou wahi pilikino.
E lilo i kaikuaʻana anuanu a hilinaʻi hoʻi ma mua o ka makua mua.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ke ʻano e hoʻomanawanui i ka hana ʻōpio ʻōpio ʻole, keu hoʻi inā ʻo kou hale ia, a laila e hana pū kāu hoa me ia ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana iā lākou ma kahi pilikino.
ʻOiai aia nā keiki i ko lākou wā ʻōpio, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanawanui me ia a kali a haʻalele lākou i loko o ʻelua mau makahiki, a i ʻole ke kaniʻuhū i kāu hoa (ma kahi pilikino) e hoʻopaʻi i kā lākou keiki.
E hoʻomanawanui
Aia kekahi mau pilikia makua ʻē aʻe maʻamau, akā ʻo ka hapanui o lākou he loli o nā hiʻohiʻona ʻekolu ma aneʻi. Ua like ka hopena i loko o lākou āpau. Mai hoʻoikaika i ka pilikia, e hoʻomanawanui, a ʻo ʻoe iho. Inā he kanaka maikaʻi ʻoe, a laila e hoʻokolokolo nā keiki (ʻōpio), no wai ʻoe. Inā wela kou poʻo a makemake ʻole i nā keiki, a laila ʻo ia ka pilikia ʻokoʻa loa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i kāu poʻe keiki hānau ma ke ʻano he ukana a makana paha. Akā me ka nānā ʻole i kou manaʻo e pili ana iā lākou, e lilo lākou i ʻāpana o kāu ola male hou ʻana a mai manaʻo i kāu hoa e lawe i kou ʻaoʻao ma luna o kā lākou, ʻoiai inā pololei ʻoe ... a ma ka liʻiliʻi manaʻo ʻoe ʻo ʻoe ia.
ʻO ʻoe ke mākua, na ʻoe ia e neʻe mua. ʻOiai lākou i neʻe i kou hale, ʻo ʻoe nō ke kiaʻi mau ʻia a hoʻokolokolo ʻia, ʻoiai inā ʻōlelo nā keiki ʻaʻole lākou mālama. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hana lākou, a ʻoiai ʻoe e heluhelu nei i kēia ʻatikala mālama pū ʻoe iā lākou. No laila, ʻo ʻoe iho a mālama. ʻO ka manawa kou hoaaloha a me kou luna kānāwai hope loa.