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ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā ka male ma nā moʻomeheu like ʻole ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo like me ka mea like me 100 mau makahiki i hala aku nei, a ʻaʻole like loa me nā haneli mau makahiki i hala.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ia ma mua loa kēlā nā ʻano ʻokoʻa o ka pilina male pili i ka palekana; i loko o ka honua me ka manawa kūpono palena ʻole, makemake ʻoe e hōʻoia i kahi kūpaʻa o kou wā e hiki mai ana, a ʻo ka male ʻana kahi ʻāpana nui o kēlā. He ulu hou wale nō ia a male ka poʻe no ke aloha.
Ke noi nei ia — ua lawa anei ke aloha?
ʻAe a ʻaʻole. ʻIke maopopo he hewa kekahi mea inā hapa o nā mea āpau ʻano male pau i ka hemo male. E lilo i ka male komohana, a i ʻole ka male pilikino a i ʻole nā ʻano male o ka baibala i ʻoi aku ma mua o ke aloha no nā mea ʻelua e noho pū.
ʻAʻole paha mākou e male no ke aloha no ka mea ʻo ke aloha kahi mea hiki ʻole iā mākou ke hilinaʻi mau i ka noho ʻana ma laila, a i ʻole ʻo ke aloha maoli ʻole ka mea e hāpai iā mākou i kēlā me kēia lā o ke ola. A i ʻole aia wale nō mākou i kahi ʻano kikoʻī o ka male ʻana a ʻike ʻole ia.
Eia ka 5ʻano o ka male ʻana. No ke aha he mea nui kēia e ʻike ai? No laila hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ʻo ka male ʻole ka pua a me ke aloha. Aia ia ma laila e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻokō i kekahi mea.
No ke aha ʻoe e ʻohi ai i hoʻokahi? I mea e ʻike hou ai kāu male ʻana iā ʻoe i hiki ai iā ʻolua ke loaʻa hou aʻe, a i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kaulike i ke aloha a me ke kumu e hana i kahi pilina kūpono.
1. Ka Hui
I kēia ʻano male male a i kēia ʻano o ka male ʻana, hana ke kāne a me ka wahine e like me nā hoa ʻoihana. Kūlike lākou i nā ʻano like ʻole. Maliʻa paha, hana lāua ʻelua i nā hana manawa piha a kaʻana like i ka nui o ka kuleana o ka ʻohana a me ka hānai keiki.
I kēia mau ʻano male, hoihoi ka poʻe kāne i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kā lākou hapalua i mea e hana hou ai i kahi hui pū. Inā ʻoe i loko o kēia ʻano pilina, ʻike ʻoe i ke kaulike ke hana ʻole kekahi kanaka i nā mea like āu e hana nei.
No laila inā ʻoe makemake e loaʻa i nā kuleana ʻokoʻa, pono ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale maoli iā ia a kūkā a hiki i ka wā e manaʻo ai ʻolua i ka wāwae like. Pili kēia i nā ʻaoʻao āpau o ka male male - a ʻo ka ʻāpana aloha. E hana like ʻolua i kēia ʻāpana.
Heluhelu Pili: Nā ʻano o nā pilina
2. Ke Au Okoa
Ka poʻe i loaʻa i kēia ʻano o ka male ʻana makemake i ke kū kaʻawale. Noho lākou i kahi ola ʻokoʻa a ʻokoʻa paha. ʻAʻohe o lākou manaʻo e ʻaelike i nā mea āpau, no ka mea, ua kaʻawale ka manaʻo a me ka manaʻo o kēlā me kēia mea mai kā lākou pono a waiwai i kā lākou kuleana ponoʻī.
Hāʻawi lākou i kahi lumi i kekahi i kekahi e like me ka mea a lākou e makemake ai; hoʻolilo paha lākou i ko lākou manawa kaʻawale ma kahi kaʻawale. Ke hiki mai i ka hana ʻana i nā mea a puni ka hale, hana ʻokoʻa lākou i kā lākou wahi ponoʻī a me kā lākou manawa iho.
Loaʻa paha iā lākou ka liʻiliʻi o ka hui kino ma mua o nā kāne ʻē aʻe akā manaʻo like me ka hoʻokō ʻia. ʻO ka poʻe leʻaleʻa i kēia ʻano o ka male ʻana e kahakaha inā hemahema loa kā lākou wahine a makemake paha e noho i nā manawa āpau.
E ʻike wale ʻaʻole e huki ana kahi mea kūʻokoʻa no ka mea ʻaʻole aloha lākou iā ʻoe - pono wale lākou e loaʻa i kēlā wahi kūʻokoʻa.
E nānā i kēia wikiō o kahi mau kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka mālama ʻana i ka pilikino a me ke kūʻokoʻa i ka wā e male ana.
3. Nā ʻimi ʻimi degere
Pālua i kēia ʻano ʻaina o ka male ʻana aia i loko ona e aʻo i kekahi mea. ʻO nā manawa he ʻokoʻa loa ke kāne a me ka wahine i kēia pili — a ʻo ka ʻaoʻao ʻē paha. Hiki i kekahi ke maikaʻi maoli i kekahi mea, a ʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole nui loa, a ʻo ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.
No laila loaʻa iā lākou ka mākau i ka ʻē aʻe e makemake e hoʻomohala. ʻO ka mea nui, ua like ka male me ke kula o ke ola. Ke aʻo mau nei lākou i kēlā me kēia. ʻIke lākou he mea hoʻonāukiuki loa ke nānā ʻana pehea e ola ai nā mea ʻē aʻe a lawelawe iā lākou iho i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa.
Ma ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, hoʻomaka lākou e ʻohi i ka mākau a kā lākou hoa kāne a hauʻoli maikaʻi e pili ana i kēlā hana ke holo ʻia.
Inā manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole lākou e aʻo hou ana i kekahi mea mai kā lākou wahine aku, manaʻo paha lākou e hoʻonāwaliwali; no laila e mālama i nā mea hou i ke aʻo mau ʻana a me ka ulu ʻana no ʻoe iho a no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kekahi mea i kāu wahine e ʻimi nei i ke kekelē.
4. Nā Manaʻo "Kuʻuna"
ʻO kēia ke ʻano o ka male i hōʻike ʻia i nā hōʻike kīwī kahiko. Noho ka wahine ma ka hale a mālama i ka hale a me nā keiki; hele ka kāne i ka hana a hoʻi mai i ka home a heluhelu i ka pepa a i ʻole ke kiaʻi TV.
Ua wehewehe maopopo ka wahine i nā kuleana a ua wehewehe pono ke kāne i nā kuleana, a ʻokoʻa lākou.
I loko o male lehulehu, ke ʻike ke kāne a me ka wahine i ka hauʻoli i kā lāua kūlana a kākoʻo ʻia e ka mea ʻē aʻe, holo pono ia. Akā i ka hoʻokō ʻole ʻia o nā kuleana a i ʻole ka hili ʻana o kā lākou kuleana, hiki i ka huhū a i ʻole ka nalo ʻana iā ʻoe iho.
5. Ka Hoa
I kēia male ʻē aʻe, makemake ke kāne a me ka wahine i hoa aloha lōʻihi. Kamaʻāina a pilina aloha kā lāua pilina. He aha lākou ma hope o kekahi e kaʻana like i ko lākou ola me-kekahi e pili me lākou i nā mea āpau.
Aia ka liʻiliʻi o ke kūʻokoʻa i kēia male, a ua maikaʻi. Mahalo nui lākou i ka hui pū.
ʻOkoʻa kēlā me kēia male, a ʻaʻohe ala kūpono e loaʻa ai kahi male maikaʻi. ʻO ka mea nui aia ʻolua ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi a hiki ke kōkua i kekahi i kekahi e hoʻokō i kāu mau makemake a me nā pono.
Hiki paha i kāu male male ma mua o ka manawa?
ʻOiaʻiʻo.
E hōʻoia wale ʻoe e lawe pū i kēlā mau ʻanuʻu.