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- 1. ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻo kāna mea nui
- 2. E akahele i ka hilinaʻi iā ia
- 3. E wehe i kāu mau koho
- 4. Mai hoʻokau i nā pane pohihihi
- 5. Inā hemo ʻo ia, e loli pū ana kou pili
- 6. ʻAʻole paha ia e haʻalele i kāna wahine
- 7. ʻAʻole pili kā lākou mau pilikia male
- 8. E hoʻopono me ʻoe iho
ʻAʻole paha ʻoe i hoʻolālā e hāʻule i ke aloha me kahi kāne male, akā aia kekahi mau manawa ke ʻoi aku ka naʻaupō i waena o mākou e ko lākou naʻau.
Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi ʻike mai kahi noi ʻana ʻaʻole e koho wahine i nā koho a nā kāne a kūlike a makemake i nā kāne e pili mua me nā wahine ʻē aʻe, kahi hanana i ʻike ʻia ʻo ke kope kope.
Mālamalama ka noiʻi ʻana i ke kumu e makemake ai nā wahine e pili kāne me nā kāne i makua.
Hiki i ka male ʻana i kahi kāne male ke lawe iā ʻoe ma luna o ka mahina, akā hiki ke ʻeha pū kekahi.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo ua hoʻāʻo ʻoe e pale aku iā ia, akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou naʻau. ʻAʻole mākou ma aneʻi e haʻi iā ʻoe e "hoʻopau iā ia" a i ʻole e hōʻino ʻoe i kāu koho.
Ma kahi o, makemake mākou e kōkua iā ʻoe e lawelawe i ka launa ʻana me ke kāne male a pale iā ʻoe iho mai ka ʻeha ʻana, ʻo ia paha ka mea nui.
Nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai ke pili i ke kāne male
1. ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻo kāna mea nui
ʻO ka launa ʻana me ke kāne male ka manaʻo e hele i ka maluhia me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo kāna ʻohana kāna mea nui. Hiki iā ia ke hana iā ʻoe i ke ʻano kūikawā a irreplaceable, ʻo ʻoe ia, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe ka mea nui.
Ke hiki mai i ke koho ʻana i ka mea e noho ma laila i kahi pilikia, e koho ʻo ia iā lākou.
Loaʻa ka pilina me ke kāne male i ke ʻano o ka hele ʻana i ka ʻōlelo me ka hiki ʻole ke helu i kāna kākoʻo me ka ʻole.
2. E akahele i ka hilinaʻi iā ia
ʻOiai aloha ʻoe i kahi kāne male a ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia he aloha iā ʻoe, e akahele. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi i kekahi e koho nei e hoʻopunipuni iā haʻi?
Inā lākou i wahaheʻe a hūnā paha iā ʻoe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, pili lākou. ʻOiai hiki iā ia ke mihi, e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole paha ʻoe ka mea mua.
E noʻonoʻo i kāna kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i kāna wahine, ʻoiai e ʻōlelo ana e pili ana iā ia a me kāna ʻano ma mua o kāna.
3. E wehe i kāu mau koho
ʻO ke aloha me ke kāne male hiki ke lilo i mea pīhoihoi, a no kekahi manawa, a manaʻo paha ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka lawa. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i ka launa ʻana me ke kāne male ke waiho iā ʻoe me ka hilahila, kaʻawale, a me ke kaʻawale.
Ke makemake ʻoe iā lākou, ʻaʻole paha ma laila. No laila, hiki ke naʻauao e mālama i kāu koho a hāmama i ka pili aloha. ʻO lākou, no laila no ke aha ʻaʻole ʻoe kekahi?
Hiki i kēia ke mālama iā ʻoe i ka ʻehaʻeha loa ke pau ia a ʻae iā ʻoe e hālāwai me kahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi wā e hiki mai ana.
4. Mai hoʻokau i nā pane pohihihi
Inā aloha ʻoe i kahi kāne male, pono ʻoe e makaʻala no nā pane maopopo ʻole a kānalua paha.
Inā hoʻohiki lākou e haʻalele i kāna wahine, nīnau i ka wā a noi i ka hōʻoia. ʻAʻole lawa nā huaʻōlelo wale nō.
5. Inā hemo ʻo ia, e loli pū ana kou pili
ʻOkoʻa ke aloha aloha me ke kāne male ma mua o ka pili ʻana me lākou ma hope o ka hemo.
E huikau lākou, hilahila, hoʻomaha paha, akā ʻo ka hana maʻamau ka nui. E hoʻopili kēia i kāu pilina me lākou; no laila ʻaʻole e like ka manaʻo me ia i kinohi.
6. ʻAʻole paha ia e haʻalele i kāna wahine
ʻO ka hoihoi i kahi kāne male hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonui me ka makaʻala ʻole i kou hui pū ʻana. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo kāna male, no ka manawa lōʻihi i kēia manawa, he male hauʻoli ʻole ia, akā aia nō ʻo ia i loko o ia.
ʻAe, ʻo ʻoe paha ke kihi huli. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻopau iā ia i loko o kekahi mau mahina o ka hui pū ʻana me ʻoe, ʻo ka manawa o ka haʻalele ʻana i kāna hoa e hoʻoliʻiliʻi hou aku i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa.
Eia kekahi, ke hoʻopau ʻana i kāna male ʻana e hoʻopau hopena paha i kou pilina. Inā hāʻawi kekahi o ʻolua iā ia i nā mea a pau āna e makemake ai, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia i nā pilina ʻelua.
ʻEha paha kēia i ka hoʻolohe ʻana, akā hiki iā ia ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomākaukau no nā mea e hiki mai ana.
E nānā pū kekahi: no ke aha e hiki ʻole ai ke aloha i kahi kāne i male ʻia
7. ʻAʻole pili kā lākou mau pilikia male
ʻO ke aloha ʻana me ke kāne male ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike iā ia no ka mea maoli, no ka mea ʻike ʻoe pehea e noho ai me ka mea i male ʻia, ʻaʻole ka mea hoʻokahi iā ia.
ʻOiai paha e hoʻokau ʻo ia i nā pilikia male ma kāna hoa, he kuleana ko kāna. E noʻonoʻo i kēlā i ke kiʻi ʻana me ia i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
8. E hoʻopono me ʻoe iho
He ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole i loko o kāu hoʻolālā nā hāʻule ʻana no ke kāne male. ʻO ke kuʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho e pili ana ʻaʻole ia e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i ke kūlana.
E hoʻopono me ʻoe a nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kekahi mau nīnau paʻakikī i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolālā a pale iā ʻoe iho.
- He aha ke kūlana maikaʻi loa e hiki ke hiki? Pehea kēlā?
- He aha ka hanana maikaʻi ʻole e kū ʻia? Pehea ia?
- He aha ke ʻano o ka wā e hiki mai ana āu e ʻike ai nou iho? Kūlike paha ia me kāna?
- He aha kāu e hana ai inā hoʻokahi makahiki mai kēia manawa ʻaʻohe mea i loli?
- Anei oe makemake e mōhai i kou wā e hiki mai e noho me ia?
- Pehea ka lōʻihi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke mālama i kēia?
Ke hoʻomākaukau nei iā ʻoe iho no kahi pilina me kahi kāne male
I kēlā me kēia manawa, e pau paha kou pili me ia. ʻIke paha kāna wahine a hāʻawi iā ia i kahi ultimatum.
Ua luhi paha ʻo ia me ka pilina, ʻike he nui loa ka hana, a i ʻole he loli ka puʻuwai. Ua luhi paha ʻo ia i ka wahaheʻe ʻana a me ka ʻalo ʻana.
Ma hea ʻoe e haʻalele ai? ʻO ka hoʻomākaukau no kahi ʻano e hiki ke hoʻopakele iā ʻoe mai kahi honua ʻeha.
Inā mākaukau ʻoe e hoʻopau iā ia a ʻaʻole paha, e hoʻāʻo e noʻonoʻo pehea ia. He aha kāu mea e nalo ai? He aha kāu e nalo ai mai ke aloha ʻana me ke kāne male?
E kākau i nā mea āu e makemake ai e noho pū me ia, e like me ka hiki ʻole ke hoʻolālā no ka wā e hiki mai ana a i ʻole noho iā ia i ka pō.
Ke kīkē ka ʻeha o ka nalo ʻana iā ia, a hoʻomaka ʻoe e puhi i kāu pilina me ia ma waho o ka like, hiki i kēia papa inoa kāu pahu kōkua mua.
Kākoʻo hope loa a me nā ʻōlelo akahele
Ua kū ka mea ʻole - aloha ʻoe i ke kāne male.
I ka mua, ke aloha a me ka uila i ke kāne male. A laila kīpaku ka hewa, hilahila, a me ka hoʻokaʻawale. Kāhāhā ʻoe, e puka paha ʻoe i waho a like pū me ʻoe ke hana.
Aia kekahi mau mea e noʻonoʻo ai ke aloha me kahi kāne male.
Pono ʻoe e hilinaʻi iā ia, hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i nā pane pohihihi, pehea ʻo ia e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kāna wahine a me kou mua? ʻOiai pena ʻo ia i kēlā ala, ʻaʻole hauʻoli kāna male ma muli o kāna wahine wale nō.
Me ka nānā ʻole i kēlā, ʻaʻole paha ia e haʻalele iā ia, akā e loli kou pilina me ia inā haʻalele ʻo ia.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, ua male ʻia ʻo ia, no laila ʻoe e hāmama ai a koho aku i kāu mau koho i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
E noʻonoʻo i kēia mau mea ke aloha ʻoe me kahi kāne male e hoʻomākaukau iā ʻoe iho a pale i ka ʻeha a hiki ke hiki.
ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke pale iā ʻoe mai nā ʻeha āpau, akā inā hoʻomaka koke ʻoe e hoʻomākaukau, hiki iā ʻoe ke lawelawe i ka pilina a me ka hopena o ia mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.