Anter
- 1. E hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo
- 2. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke kamaʻilio wehe
- 3. E hōʻoia i kāu mau pono
- 4. E aʻo e kala aku
- 5. Lawe i ke kuleana
- 6. E aloha aku ʻoe i kāu hoa
- 7. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa kala
- 8. Hoʻoponopono i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai
- 9. Hana mua i kāu male
He huhū ikaika ka huhū, inā haʻalele ʻole ʻia, hiki ke hōʻino i kāu male. Mai ka manaʻo e mālama mau ʻoe i nā keiki ʻoiai ke hele ʻana o kāu pakanā, a me ka hoʻolapalapa ʻana i kēlā manawa a lākou i ʻae ai i ko lākou makuahine e lawe i ka Lā Hoʻomaikaʻi, hiki i nā ʻeha ke kūkulu koke a lilo i mau ao ʻeleʻele e hoʻopuni nei i ka maikaʻi i kāu male.
Hiki i ka huhū ke hōʻohu i kāu hoʻoholo a haʻalele iā ʻoe me ka huhū ʻole i kāu hoa a hiki i kekahi lā, ʻai ia i nā mea maikaʻi āpau a aia kāu male ma ka pōhaku. Manaʻo nani weliweli, ʻeā? Mahalo, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kali no ka huhū e hana i kāna ʻino ma kāu male. E hāhai i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo he 9 e hōʻoki ai i ka inaina mai ka luku ʻana i kāu male.
1. E hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo
Loaʻa ka mana i ka huhū ke waiho ʻia nā manaʻo e mae. Me he mea lā he hiki i nā male maikaʻi ke haki i ke aloha i nā makahiki o nā ʻeha a me ka huhū i kanu ʻia.
Kūleʻa ke poʻo i ka pass ma ka hōʻike ʻana i kou mau manaʻo ke kū aʻe lākou. Pale aku i ka hoʻowalewale e ale i nā manaʻo paʻakikī a lana ka manaʻo e hele aku lākou - ʻaʻole lākou e hele, a ʻeha paha kāu male ma ke ʻano he hopena.
E hoʻomaopopo a hana pū me kou mau manaʻo i ka wā e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke neʻe i mua.
2. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke kamaʻilio wehe
No loko mai ka huhū nui mai nā mea ʻaʻole i haʻi ʻia. Maʻalahi ke komo i ka maʻamau o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kāu hoa e "ʻike wale" inā ʻaʻole hauʻoli ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole lākou psychic.
Ma kahi o ka waiho ʻana i nā mea e ʻū, e noho i lalo a loaʻa kahi clam, e kamaʻilio mahalo me kāu hoa e pili ana i ka mea i kou manaʻo. E hoʻāʻo ʻaʻole e hōʻino a huhū paha - e haʻi mālie i kou mau manaʻo a nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pū i nā mea.
3. E hōʻoia i kāu mau pono
Hiki i nā hemahema pono ʻole ke lilo i kumu huhū weliweli i ka male. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa kahi manawa iā ʻoe iho ʻoiai e pili pū ana kāu pakanā me kā lākou mau hoaaloha, a i ʻole hoʻopau ʻoe i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana, huhū loa ʻoe a kau ʻia.
ʻO ka manawa kēia e hoʻomaopopo ai i kāu mau pono, a kamaʻilio pū me kāu hoa e pili ana iā lākou. E nīnau iā lākou inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkākūkā i ke kuapo ʻana a i ʻole kaʻana like ʻana i nā hana i hiki i kēlā me kēia ke loaʻa ka manawa e pono ai e hoʻoulu hou. E haʻi iā lākou i nā wahi e pono ai ke kōkua a me ke kākoʻo. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokō i kāu mau pono inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻi iā lākou.
4. E aʻo e kala aku
Hana hewa kēlā me kēia i ka hoʻokolokolo i kekahi manawa. I kekahi pilina e hana hewa nā hoa ʻelua a i ʻole he lā maikaʻi ʻole. Kūleʻa ʻole ia, akā ke aʻo ʻana e kala mai ke hewa ʻoe e hōʻoki ana i ka huhū i luna.
Ma kahi o ke kau ʻana i ka hakakā a i ʻole ke kuhi ʻana i ka mea kūpono, e aʻo e hoʻomaopopo ke kuhi hewa ʻoe a i ʻole ka hōʻino ʻana i kāu hoa. E ʻōlelo ana e kala aku e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka ea, e hōʻike iā lākou e mahalo ʻoe iā lākou, a kōkua i ka hoʻokū ʻana i ka huhū ma ka puka.
5. Lawe i ke kuleana
ʻAʻohe mea e makemake e manaʻo hewa no nā mea i hewa, akā he mea maoli ia o ke ola i kekahi manawa ua hewa mākou.
ʻAʻole ia e ʻōlelo e pono ʻoe e hahau iā ʻoe iho ma luna ona - hana hewa nā mea āpau. Akā ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāu kuleana i nā hanana paʻakikī e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ia i ka huhū a hōʻike iā ʻoe i kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i nā loli no ke olakino maikaʻi e hiki mai ana.
6. E aloha aku ʻoe i kāu hoa
Maʻalahi loa e kiʻi i ka huhū e kūʻē i kāu hoa, a i ʻole e hana i nā manaʻo e pili ana i kā lākou mau manaʻo.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole lākou ko ʻenemi, eia nō naʻe ʻo kāu hoa hui. Hiki i ke aloha a me ka hoʻomaopopo ke hele i kahi ala lōʻihi e hoʻopau ai i ka inaina. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hoʻolohe a hoʻomaopopo, a laila hōʻoia i ko lākou mau manaʻo ma ka hōʻike ʻana iā lākou “hey, lohe wau iā ʻoe.”
7. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa kala
Aia kekahi kuhi hewa maʻamau ʻo ke kala ʻana ke kumu o ka ʻae ʻana i ka lawehala maikaʻi ʻole, a i ʻole ke hoʻomake ʻana iā ʻoe iho me nā mea ʻeha. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole pololei kēlā. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo he ʻeha ke kūlana, ʻoiai e kala mau nei.
Paipai i ke kala ʻana me ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana he kanaka wale kāu hoa, a ʻae ʻia lākou e hana hewa i kekahi manawa. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole aloha lākou iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole lākou he kanaka maikaʻi. Mai waiho i nā hewa i hala i lilo i huhū no ka wā e hiki mai ana.
8. Hoʻoponopono i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai
Hiki i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia ke hoʻoulu koke i ka inaina. Inā ʻoe e manaʻo e ʻike mau kāu hoa i kou manaʻo, lawe mau i ka ʻōpala, a loaʻa mau paha i kahi kālā, maʻalahi e huhū inā ʻaʻole holo pono nā mea.
E kūpono i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he pessimistic ʻoe; ʻae ʻae he kanaka ʻolua a ʻaʻole hele mau nā mea e like me ka hoʻolālā. Prioritize empathy, aloha a me ka wehe kamaʻilio ma luna o ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu hoa i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai.
9. Hana mua i kāu male
Hiki i nā pilikia o kahi ola hana ke lawe i ka male i kāu male ʻana. Ma waena o nā keiki, nā ʻoihana, nā hūnōna kāne a me nā hana kaiāulu, hiki i kāu male ʻana ke noho koke i kahi noho hope.
ʻO ka prioritizing i kāu male maʻalahi ka maʻalahi o ke kamaʻilio ākea me kāu pakanā a ʻike hoʻi e hoʻokō ʻia kāu mau pono ʻelua. E hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa no kekahi i kekahi i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻa, kamaʻilio, a kūkulu i kahi pilina olakino.
He huhū huna hūnā ka inaina e hōʻino loa inā waiho ʻole ʻia. E hāhai i kēia mau hana maʻalahi e hōʻoki i ka inaina mai ka paʻa ʻana a mālama i ka ikaika o kāu male.