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- 1. Hoʻokaʻina mua i nā mea kūhelu
- 2. E kamaʻilio me kahi hoa
- 3. E hoʻokomo i kou ikehu i kahi mea maikaʻi
- 4. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e haha
ʻO ka male male kekahi o nā mea paʻakikī loa a ka poʻe e hele ai ma muli o ka manaʻo pinepine ʻole ʻia e pili ana iā lākou. He paʻakikī i nā lā mua o ka male ʻana e noʻonoʻo ai i kahi manawa āu e makemake ʻole ai e lilo i ke koena o kou ola me kāu wahine i kēlā manawa, akā naʻe me ke ola.
Hoʻololi ka poʻe, hoʻololi i nā ʻoihana, hoʻololi i nā ala, ulu mākou i kekahi i kekahi - a ʻo ka hemo ʻole ka mea maʻamau i kēia mau lā, no laila ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō e hele i kēia a ola i kahi hemo.
ʻIke maopopo pehea e ola ai i kāu male male male me ka hāʻule ʻole a pehea e hana hou ai iā ʻoe iho ma hope o ka hemo ʻana he mea nui ia no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā ala e ulu ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana.
Inā ʻoe i loko o ke kaʻina o ka hele ʻana i loko o kahi hemo a me ka haʻohaʻo pehea e ola ai i kahi male male, eia nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻehā e lana ka manaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e neʻe i mua i kou ola.
1. Hoʻokaʻina mua i nā mea kūhelu
He ʻeha nā pae mua o ka hemo, no laila ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā kū kānāwai o nā mea āpau paha ka mea hope āu e makemake ai e hana i kēia manawa.
Eia naʻe, ʻo ka wikiwiki o kāu hana ʻana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāu ke ola ma hope o ka hemo e. E kahaha paha ʻoe i ka wā i loaʻa iā ʻoe, e like ke kaumaha nui me he mea lā ua hāpai ʻia mai kou poʻohiwi aku.
Mālama kou home i waiwai ʻoi loa āu e lilo ai ma ke ʻano he kāne male, no laila ke kūʻai aku ʻana i kou hale i ka wā hemo, eia naʻe ʻoluʻolu ʻole, makemake ʻia e hele me he mea lā ka wikiwiki.
ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, aia ka nui o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kū kānāwai i waho e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo e pili ana i nā mea ʻoi iā ʻolua. He manaʻo maikaʻi inā hiki iā ʻolua ke noho ma nā ʻano pili i ka nohona.
ʻO ka maluhia hou aku hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i ka male male, ʻo ka maʻa maʻalahi e hoʻokaʻawale i ka ʻaoʻao kū kānāwai o nā mea ʻelua no ʻolua.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe āu e noho pū ai ma ke ʻano he ʻelua, inā he kaʻa paha, nā holoholona holoholona, a i ʻole he mau keiki kāu. Ke hiki mai i kēia mau hoʻoholo ʻana, pili ia i nā mea e pono ai nā keiki.
Ke hōʻoia nei ʻaʻole lākou ka hewa a mālama lākou i kahi pilina olakino me ʻolua he mea koʻikoʻi. Inā maikaʻi ʻole nā mea, mai hoʻopili iā lākou. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi e kau ʻia ma luna o lākou, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
2. E kamaʻilio me kahi hoa
Inā laki ʻoe i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa aloha he mea hoʻolohe maikaʻi, mālama a mālama iā lākou kokoke - i kēia wā paʻakikī.
ʻO ka mea paʻakikī e pili ana i ka hemo male, ʻoiai inā he keiki e pili ana, ʻoiai ʻoe ke ʻeha nei ʻoe e hoʻāʻo a mākua e pili ana i ka hiki. I ka hana ʻana i kēia, hana hewa ka nui o nā poʻe i ka mālama ʻana i nā hopohopo a me nā pilikia āpau iā lākou iho, a ʻaʻole kamaʻilio pū me kekahi.
Inā he mea maikaʻi kāu, ʻo kahi hoaaloha ka mea ʻoi loa āu e kamaʻilio ai. ʻAʻohe o lākou pili ʻohana me ʻoe, no laila e ʻike paha lākou i ke kūlana mai kahi hiʻohiʻona kūlike ʻole - ʻo ia hoʻi hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohālikelike i nā ʻōlelo aʻoi loa.
ʻOiai inā ʻaʻohe a lākou ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hiki ai iā lākou ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe, ʻo ka lawa ma laila e hoʻolohe ai. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana i nā mea me ka leo nui kekahi o nā ʻanuʻu mua e wehe ai i nā mea kolohe i pinepine i ko mākou mau poʻo ke hele mākou i loko o nā manawa paʻakikī i ko mākou ola. Mai hoʻowahāwahā wale iā ia.
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3. E hoʻokomo i kou ikehu i kahi mea maikaʻi
ʻAʻohe mea kupanaha ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana a i ka wā o ka hemo ʻana, waiho ka poʻe me ka huhū nui, ke kaumaha a me kekahi manawa i ka huhū ʻole i kā lākou wahine ma mua, e like me ke kūlana o ka hemo.
Hiki ke loli ke loaʻa ʻana o kēia mau manaʻo āpau, a hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi mea e like me ke koi ʻole e hōʻole i ka poʻe a ʻimi i kahi ʻano hoʻopaʻi ma mua o kāu ex. Inā ʻoe e hana e pili ana i kēia, inā he mea hana kūleʻa ia, no laila e hoʻohana i kēia ikehu a waiho i kahi mea maikaʻi.
He pahuhopu ponoʻī paha ia e like me ke kūpono i ka hale hoʻoikaika kino, a i ʻole ke kiola ʻana iā ʻoe iho i kāu ola ʻoihana. He mea ʻole ia he aha ia, inā e hopena maikaʻi ia iā ʻoe, a hiki iā ʻoe ke ulu aʻe mai ia mea.
4. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e haha
ʻO ka hope, ʻo kekahi o nā mea nui loa nā ala kūpono e hana hou iā ʻoe iho ma hope o ka hemo ʻana e ʻae iā ʻoe iho e ʻike i ka mea āu e manaʻo nei, a mai hoʻohilahila iā ia.
I kekahi manawa hoʻāʻo ka poʻe a kanu i ke kaumaha i hele mai me ka hemo male. ʻOiai inā he ʻaelike ʻelua ia, ma hope o ka hele ʻana i ka hanana o ka male a me ka noho pū ʻana me kekahi mea lōʻihi, he mea hoʻonāukiuki paha ka hemo.
ʻO ka ʻae ʻana iā ʻoe iho e uē, kaumaha, a ʻeha ʻo ia ʻāpana āpau o ke kaʻina hoʻōla i ka holo lōʻihi. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae iā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia mau mea, ʻōmole ʻoe iā lākou a hele i mua. Eia nō naʻe ʻeha, hoʻomanaʻo e cathartic ia i ka wā lōʻihi.