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- ʻO kāu male i kēia manawa
- He ʻumi mau haʻawina e hoʻololi ai i kāu male
- 1. Hiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke hoʻoikaika i kou hui ʻana
- 2. He mea nui ka mahalo i ka pilina
- 3. Hoʻomaopopo i ka pono o kekahi
- 4. Hana pū i kahi pahuhopu like
- 5. E waiwai i nā mea maikaʻi a kāu hoa
- 6. E noʻonoʻo i kou ola ma ke ʻano he kāne male
- 7. Hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu wahine
- 8. Loaʻa ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai me kekahi
- 9. E loaʻa mau ka puʻuwai mahalo
- 10. E hoʻohiki i kāu male a i kāu wahine
- E hoʻomanaʻo ke makemake ʻoe e hāʻawi pio
Inā ʻoe e heluhelu ana i kēia a manaʻo ʻoe i loko o kou puʻuwai ke alo nei ʻoe i nā hakakā ma kāu male ʻana a laila e heluhelu. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale a he mea maʻamau ke kaumaha i nā manawa. ʻAʻohe mea e like me ka male maikaʻi akā aia nō he mea maikaʻi loa.
ʻO kekahi ʻano a i ʻole nā ʻē aʻe, e loaʻa i nā kāne i kā lākou mau pilikia ponoʻī ma ke ʻano kālā, kolohe ʻole, hōʻalo, naʻau a i ʻole kēlā manaʻo laulā o ka hāʻule ʻana i ke aloha. He aha ia, aia kekahi mau ala e holo pono ai nā mea. E nānā i nā haʻawina he ʻumi e hoʻololi i kāu male e hoʻomaka nei.
ʻO kāu male i kēia manawa
Loaʻa ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i nā makahiki i hala aku nei a i ʻole mau mahina o kou ola male. Pehea ia? Ua kū i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai? Hoʻonawaliwali paha ʻoe i kāu mau pilikia a ʻimi paha ʻoe i nā haʻawina a i ʻole nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i nā mea?
ʻO ka makemake e hana ma kāu male ʻana he mea nui ia. ʻO ia ka hoʻomaka o kahi mea maikaʻi no ka mea me ka ʻole o kāu kūpaʻa, no ka hopena o ka haʻawina a me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo paha, ʻaʻole holo pono ia. Pono ʻoe a me kāu hoa e aʻo mai kēia mau haʻawina inā makemake ʻoe e hana a hoʻololi i kāu male no ka ʻoi aku.
He ʻumi mau haʻawina e hoʻololi ai i kāu male
ʻO ke kanaka āu i koho ai e noho pū i kou wā e ola pū kekahi, ʻo ia ke kanaka āu e hilinaʻi ai a mahalo ai. E hele kāua i loko o kēia mau haʻawina he ʻumi e hoʻololi i kāu male e hoʻomaka nei.
1. Hiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke hoʻoikaika i kou hui ʻana
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ke luhi loa mākou a i ʻole ʻaʻole maikaʻi mākou, makemake mākou e ʻōlelo ua maikaʻi mākou e hiki ai ke hana i kā mākou hana ma ke ʻano he wahine.
Mai waiho i ka hihia. E ʻoluʻolu e haʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kēia ala e hiki ai i ʻolua ke kuikahi.
Inā luhi nui ʻoe a pono ʻoe i kōkua me kāu pēpē - e ʻōlelo pēlā. Mai hoʻopaʻa iā ia i kāu wahine inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake e hoʻopono iā ia.
Mai nā mea liʻiliʻi a i nā mea huna nui i hiki i nā mea āpau ke makaʻu e kamaʻilio e like me ke aloha ʻana o kekahi iā ʻoe a i ʻole kahi ex i hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe. E maopopo iā mākou pehea e hana ai ka wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo akā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka wehe.
2. He mea nui ka mahalo i ka pilina
Hiki i ka mahalo a me ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ke hana i nā mea he nui no kāu pilina. No kekahi, ka leo e pili ana i ko lākou aloha, mahalo a hoʻokūpaʻa i kā lākou mau hoa kāne he aloha lākou iā lākou a i ʻole ʻo lākou ka ʻoi loa e kani paha cheesy akā ʻo ia? ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e loaʻa kahi pilina kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo manuahi ua haʻaheo ʻoe i kāu wahine?
3. Hoʻomaopopo i ka pono o kekahi
Hoʻomaopopo i ka pono o kēlā me kēia a ʻaʻole wale kāu. ʻO ka hapanui, lohe mākou i nā huaʻōlelo "makemake wau", "Pono wau" a "kuleana wau" akā ua hele i kou manaʻo e pono ai kāu wahine, makemake a kuleana pū kekahi e loaʻa iā lākou kekahi mea?
Hāʻawi i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa a lawe a hoʻomaopopo i nā makemake a me nā makemake o kāu wahine.
4. Hana pū i kahi pahuhopu like
He nani mau ke ʻike i nā kāne e hana nei ma ke ʻano he kime i kā lākou mau moemoeā e kūʻē i ka ʻike ʻana i kahi kāne e hakakā ana no ka mea a lākou e makemake ai.
He ʻohana ʻoe i kēia manawa a ma ke ʻano he hoʻokahi, he kūpono ia e ʻike pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua i kekahi i kekahi.
5. E waiwai i nā mea maikaʻi a kāu hoa
Manaʻo i nā ʻano maikaʻi o kāu pakanā ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i kā lākou hemahema.
ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi a ke male ʻoe i kāu wahine, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manaʻo e pono ʻoe e ʻae i kēia kanaka holoʻokoʻa. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka hemahema o kāu hoa, ʻaʻole ʻoe e aʻo e mahalo iā lākou.
6. E noʻonoʻo i kou ola ma ke ʻano he kāne male
I kekahi manawa hiki i nā mea ke lilo i mea nui loa a he mea maʻamau ia akā noʻonoʻo mau ʻoe ua male ʻoe a inā ʻoe e hana ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī, hana ʻoe.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo pono i kou ola me ka ʻole o kāu wahine? Mai poina e hōʻoia hou i kāu mau hoʻohiki a ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻae hou i kāu male me nā manaʻolana kiʻekiʻe.
7. Hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu wahine
Hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu wahine ʻaʻole wale ke hauʻoli ʻoe akā ʻoiai ke kū nei ʻoe i nā hoʻāʻo. Paʻa lima, ʻapo a honi pū.
E hoʻomaopopo i kāu wahine hiki iā ʻoe ke hele pū i nā hoʻokolohua pū. E hoʻolohe i kou puʻuwai a mai hoʻohilahila e hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu wahine.
ʻO ia kekahi o nā huna huna maikaʻi loa o ka male male ʻana. Hōʻike i kou aloha a haʻaheo o ia.
8. Loaʻa ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai me kekahi
ʻO ke kamaʻilio paha kekahi o nā haʻawina maʻamau e aʻoaʻo ʻia e nā kāne male kūleʻa i kēlā me kēia.
Hiki ke hana ʻia i nā pilikia o ka male me ke kamaʻilio kūpono a mai huikau me ka loaʻa wale o ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai.
Pono ke kamaʻilio me ka hoʻolohe pū kekahi. E noho ma laila e hoʻolohe a kuʻikahi ʻaʻole wale no ke kamaʻilio.
9. E loaʻa mau ka puʻuwai mahalo
E loaʻa mau ka puʻuwai mahalo a e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea āpau. Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ke ola? Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i kāu male?
Inā ʻoe e ʻike ia mea he ukana a laila lilo ia i ukana. ʻIke i loko o nā paʻakikī a me nā hoʻāʻo, aia kekahi mau mea e mahalo ai. E kia pono i kēlā a e ʻike nō ʻoe i ka ʻokoʻa.
10. E hoʻohiki i kāu male a i kāu wahine
ʻAʻole e pau ka hoʻohiki ke kau inoa ʻoe i kāu ʻaelike. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ka hoʻomaka o kou ola pū. E hoʻohiki e noho ma laila no kāu wahine a ʻike ʻoe i ka ikaika o kāu male.
E hoʻomanaʻo ke makemake ʻoe e hāʻawi pio
Aia kekahi mau manawa ke makemake wale ʻoe e hāʻawi, kahi e hele nei a lōʻihi loa aku nā mea akā koho ʻoe pehea? ʻAʻole lohi loa; i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole e lohi loa inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hāʻawi i kekahi i kekahi. Inā manaʻo ʻoe he kōkua iki ʻoe, e hoʻomaka me ʻoe a noʻonoʻo i kāu mau manaʻo i kēia manawa.
Ke hoʻomaka nei me kēia mau haʻawina he ʻumi e hoʻololi i kāu male, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka nui o kāu hiki ke loli me nā haʻawina maʻalahi o ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, ka hoʻokō a me ka mahalo i kāu kāne wale nō akā no kāu male ponoʻī.