Anter
- 1. Ka moʻo maka ʻōmaʻomaʻo
- 2. Ka "ʻaʻohe manaʻo ma hea mākou"
- 3. Ka paia pōhaku naʻau
- 4. ka "maikaʻi ʻole ma ka lilo ʻana i mākua"
- 5. Ka "hōʻike iaʻu pono ʻoe iaʻu i ka pāʻani"
- 6. ʻO lākou i loko oʻu ʻaʻole paha? hulahula
- 7. Ka "Drama Llama"
ʻOiai ke ʻano oʻo loa, pili olakino kahi hana keaka liʻiliʻi i kēlā me kēia manawa. E nalo nā manaʻo, hoʻā ʻia ka wela a me nā kūkākūkā e lilo i mau paio. ʻO kahi pilina olakino kahi e hoʻomāmā koke ai nā dramas, a ʻae nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua e hoʻāʻo i ka hana ʻana i nā mea.
ʻO kahi liʻiliʻi o ka hakakā ma aneʻi a ʻaʻole hiki ke hiki, akā inā ʻoe makemake e ulu kou pilina i ke oʻo ʻana. aia kekahi mau ʻano hana keaka āu e ʻelemakule ai ke hana aku.
E nānā i ka 7 kiʻekiʻe ma lalo:
1. Ka moʻo maka ʻōmaʻomaʻo
Loaʻa ka maluhia iki o ka poʻe i kekahi manawa. Ia hana. Akā pehea kā lākou lawelawe ʻana ia mea i ka nui e pili ana i ke olakino o kou pilina.
Inā hoʻopiʻi kāu hoa iā ʻoe no ka hiamoe ʻana, a hoʻāʻo paha e kāohi iā ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi mau hoaaloha, hiki koke i kāu pili i ka pilikia.
Ke hele nei i loko o kāu kelepona, e nānā ana i kāu mau leka, e hoʻāʻo nei e heluhelu i kāu leka uila a i ʻole ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻokau ʻia iā lākou i nā manawa āpau nā hōʻailona āpau o nā pilikia kaohi. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa kahi pilina olakino me ka hilinaʻi ʻole - a ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokaumaha ʻia kekahi i ka nānā ʻana i nā manawa āpau. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe i kēia ʻano keaka i kou ola.
2. Ka "ʻaʻohe manaʻo ma hea mākou"
Inā ʻoe i ka wā mua o ka pilina, maikaʻi loa ia ʻaʻole ʻike i kāu pilina a i hea ia e hele nei. Akā inā ua hala ʻoe ma mua o ka pae pili mua, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e waiho kau ʻia me ka manaʻo ʻole i ka mea e hiki mai ana.
ʻO ka hōʻole ʻana e wehewehe i kou pilina a i ʻole makemake ʻole e hele kūʻokoʻa a kamaʻilio paha e pili ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana nā hōʻailona āpau i ka ʻole o ka hoʻokō. Ke oʻo nei i kou pilina, makemake ʻoe e ʻike i ka hoʻopukapuka ʻia o kāu hoa e like me ʻoe.
Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kūpaʻa i ke kau lōʻihi, ʻo ka manawa kēia e neʻe ai.
3. Ka paia pōhaku naʻau
Kūkulu nā pilina maikaʻi i ka hilinaʻi a me ka hāmama. ʻO kāu pākahi kekahi āu e pono ai e palekana e lilo i nāwaliwali - a like ʻoe me lākou.
Unavailability Emotional hoʻokokoke ʻana i kahi kokoke loa a paʻakikī loa. Pono ʻoe e noho pū me kekahi āu e manaʻoʻiʻo ai a hilinaʻi hoʻi. Inā hoʻoikaika kāu hoa i ka mālama ʻana i kā lākou mau manaʻo naʻau - no nā kumu a lākou e hāʻawi ai - ua holo paha kāu pili.
4. ka "maikaʻi ʻole ma ka lilo ʻana i mākua"
He makua ʻoe - a pono ʻoe i kāu hoa e lilo pū kekahi. ʻO kahi hoa e noho ana i ka hale no laila ʻaʻole pono ia no kahi hōʻike kīwī pūnaewele a ʻaʻohe ou manaʻo pehea e hoʻokele ai i ke kālā e hoʻopau koke iā ʻoe. E palaha kou pilina ma lalo o ke kaupaona o nā haunaele āpau.
Hiki mai kahi manawa i kou ola ke pono ʻoe i kahi nui o ke kauoha a me ke kūpaʻa. He leʻaleʻa ka noho ʻana i kahi ola hihiu ke hele wale ʻoe i iwakālua, akā hiki ke lole lahilahi. Pono ʻoe i kahi hoa i mākaukau no ke kūpaʻa e like me ʻoe.
5. Ka "hōʻike iaʻu pono ʻoe iaʻu i ka pāʻani"
Pono kēlā me kēia kanaka i kahi hōʻoluʻolu iki mai kēlā manawa a kēia manawa, akā inā makemake kāu pakanā i ka hōʻoia mau mai iā ʻoe, hiki i kāu pilina ma ka ʻāina pōhaku.
I kou wā makua, ʻike ʻoe he kuleana ʻoe no kou iho ponoʻī a me nā pono o ka naʻau. Pono ʻoe e makemake i kahi hoa e hāmama, aloha a hoʻopono me ʻoe - akā ʻike pū ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e pono i kā lākou hōʻoia 24/24 e noʻonoʻo a hauʻoli i kāu pilina.
Inā ke leka uila mau nei kāu hoa iā ʻoe, e kāhea ana iā ʻoe, a e nīnau paha iā ʻoe inā makemake maoli ʻoe e noho pū me lākou, ua hiki i ka manawa o ʻolua e kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi.
6. ʻO lākou i loko oʻu ʻaʻole paha? hulahula
I ka hoʻomaka mua o kahi pilina, hiki i ka paʻakikī ke haʻi inā pili maoli kekahi iā ʻoe, a maikaʻi nō. E ʻike ʻē aʻe ʻolua a ʻike inā he kūpono maikaʻi ʻoe. Akā ma hope o nā lā mua, pono ʻoe e hōʻike i kahi hōʻailona inā lākou i loko ou ʻaʻole paha.
Inā ua hoʻokumu ʻia kou pilina ma mua o kekahi mau pule a ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike inā lākou i loko ou, ʻo ka manawa kēia e hele ai i mua a i ʻole moku i waho. Ke pāʻani ikaika nei i ka loaʻa ʻana he pāʻani ʻaʻohe mea e lanakila.
7. Ka "Drama Llama"
He lā maikaʻi ʻole kā kēlā me kēia. Ua loaʻa iā mākou nā manawa āpau kahi e snappish ai mākou, a i ʻole makemake e kīki i nā lako. He mea ʻole kou ʻano makua, e hoʻāʻo kekahi poʻe iā ʻoe i kekahi manawa i ka hana keaka, a pono ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu iā ʻoe iho.
Akā aia he ʻokoʻa nui ma waena o ka lā hoʻomaha, a me ka noho pū ʻana me kekahi mea pāʻani ke ʻano o kona ola. Inā hōʻike lākou i ka huhū ma luna o nā mea liʻiliʻi loa a i ʻole me he mea lā e hakakā ana me kekahi mea a i ʻole kekahi, hiki paha i kāu manawa e haʻalele ai.
Kūpono ʻoe i kahi pilina makua, olakino me ka hana keaka liʻiliʻi. E nānā i waho no kēia mau hōʻailona hōʻailona keaka a nip iā lākou i ka maka ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana o ka lima.