Anter
- 1. E hele no ka hoʻōla
- 2. E hōʻoki i nā pilina mai kou makuakāne narcissistic
- 3. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻaʻole e hoʻoholo i kāu waiwai ponoʻī
- 4. Hoʻonohonoho palena
- 5. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻae ʻana
ʻO nā pohō i hiki i kāu psyche ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi makuakāne narcissistic hiki ke loaʻa nā hopena lōʻihi. Akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e mau kēia mau hopena i ke ola holoʻokoʻa.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻōla a pale iā ʻoe iho (a ʻoiai kekahi modicum o kahi pilina me kou makuakāne narcissistic i ka wā e hiki mai ana). ʻO ka pilikia o ka makua narcissistic, e like me ka hōʻike ʻana o nā noiʻi, aia i kahi kiʻekiʻe loa a me ka hana ʻana i nā hopena i pilikia.
Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pēlā inā ʻoe e koho e hoʻōla i nā hōʻino e hiki mai ana a laila hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻae a kūkulu i kou mau palena (ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaʻana like me kou makuakāne e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokele i kou pilina me ia).
Eia kekahi mau manaʻo kūpono e noʻonoʻo inā makemake ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hana ai me nā mākua narcissistic, a ʻoi loa inā ua māʻona ʻoe a makemake e aʻo pehea e hana ai me kahi makuakāne narcissistic:
1. E hele no ka hoʻōla
ʻO ke Therapy kahi ala maikaʻi loa o ka hoʻōla hou ʻana mai ka hana hoʻomāinoino narcissistic a no ka hana ʻana me nā pohō i loaʻa i kekahi mai ka hōʻino ʻia, e like me nā pohō i hana ʻia e kahi makuakāne narcissistic. Inā hōʻike ʻia ka hopohopo a PTSD paha e like me nā ʻōuli o ka hana hoʻomāinoino narcissistic, a laila e hele no ka hoʻōla ma nā ʻano āpau a mai hoʻolohi hou iā ia.
Hiki i kahi kau hoʻōla maikaʻi ke paʻi i nā pilikia o ka wā kamaliʻi i hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hana a pale aku iā ʻoe iho mai kou wā kamaliʻi no ka mea ʻōpio loa ʻoe. Hiki i ke Therapy ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana hou i ka wā kamaliʻi āu i haʻalele ai ma muli o ke koi a kou makuakāne iā ʻoe.
ʻO nā kau kau lāʻau ʻē aʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke komo i ka noʻonoʻo.
ʻO Mindcious, ma ke ʻano he therapy, e kono iā ʻoe e nānā hou i ka manawa a ʻae i ka wā i hala e like me ia.
A inā ua ulu ʻoe i ka hopohopo mai kāu pilina me kou makuakāne narcissistic (i lawe ʻia paha e nā manaʻo āu e ana ʻole ai iā lākou) hiki i ka noʻonoʻo ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokele i kēia mau pilikia.
ʻAʻole ʻehaʻeha ke komo i ka lāʻau no ke ola ʻana i kahi narcissist. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana e hana i ka ʻae ʻana he mākau ola nui ia e lawelawe maikaʻi iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole pili wale i kou pilina me kou makuakāne narcissistic akā i nā ʻano āpau o kou ola a me ka wā e hiki mai ana.
E nānā i ka wehewehe a ka psychologist psychology ʻo Ramani Durvasula e pili ana i nā makuakāne Narcissistic a me kāna ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka hōʻino ʻana i ka narcissistic.
2. E hōʻoki i nā pilina mai kou makuakāne narcissistic
Inā makua ʻoe, ua hiki iā ʻoe ke kākoʻo a mālama iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole e loli kou makuakāne narcissistic, hiki iā ʻoe ke koho e ʻoki loa i nā pili mai iā ia inā e hōʻino a ʻino hoʻi.
Ma ka liʻiliʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pēlā a hiki i kou aʻo ʻana e ʻae iā ia ʻoiai ʻo ia a pale iā ʻoe iho mai ka hoʻouka kaua ʻana a ka makuakāne.
E hoʻomanaʻo i kahi makuakāne narcissistic, e like me nā narcissist āpau, hoʻohana a hoʻohana i nā kānaka ʻē aʻe e kiʻi i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi keiki hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohui i kā lākou keiki i kā lākou "waiwai nui" e kōkua ai e wehewehe a hoʻonui i kā lākou waiwai ponoʻī.
E makemake kahi makuakāne narcissistic i ke keiki (a i ʻole nā keiki) nāna e hoʻohanohano iā ia no ka mea, i kahi makuakāne narcissistic, hoʻolōʻihi nā keiki iā lākou iho. A hiki i kēia ke hoʻonāukiuki.
Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pono i kēia ʻano a mālama i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai i kou Makua a pale iā ʻoe iho i nā hopena o kāna narcissism inā makemake ʻoe e mālama iā ia i kou ola. Inā ʻaʻole e ʻokiʻoki nā kaula i ke ala ʻoi loa e pale aku iā ʻoe iho.
3. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻaʻole e hoʻoholo i kāu waiwai ponoʻī
ʻO kā lākou hōʻino ka hopena o ka loaʻa ʻana i kahi ʻano pilikino narcissistic. Ua hana hewa nā poʻe he nui i ʻike i ka hoʻomāinoino i ka waiho ʻana i ka hana ʻino a i ʻole nā mea hōʻino e hoʻoholo i ko lākou waiwai ponoʻī.
Hoʻokumu ʻia ka hoʻopili trauma ma muli o nā ʻike ʻano ikaika me kahi kanaka ʻona. Ma muli o ka paʻa o ka trauma, hoʻopaʻahao ʻia mākou i ka naʻau. Hoʻoikaika ʻia e nā kōkua kuikawa e like me ka pōkā aloha wā.
He mea weliweli a paʻakikī hoʻi ke hele aku i kahi paʻa o ka trauma a paʻakikī paha ʻoe e haʻalele ai, a e ʻike paha ʻoe i kēia ʻano paʻa me kou makuakāne narcissistic a me nā mea kūlohelohe ʻē aʻe a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia āu e hana ai me kahi makuakāne 'maʻamau' pū kekahi.
He paʻakikī ke kaʻawale mai kāu mea hoʻomāinoino ʻoiai pili loa ka pili.
ʻO ka poʻe i hōʻino ʻia e ʻike nei i ka pili o ka trauma ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike iā lākou iho ma ke kaʻawale ʻana mai kā lākou poʻe hana ʻino.
Me nā pilina ʻawahia, ka nui o ka hōʻino āu e ʻike ai (ʻo ia hoʻi, ka hoʻokalakupua i ka noʻonoʻo, hoʻohilahila ʻia, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe) ʻaʻole i kūlike i kāu waiwai ponoʻī.
Nani ʻoe i kou kuleana ponoʻī; hiki iā ʻoe ke kū i luna nāu iho, a ʻoi aku ʻoe i ka hiki ke hoʻokō i nā mea ma kāu iho keu ke hiki mai i ke kū ʻana me kahi makua narcissistic. E like me ka helu 2, ʻike he maikaʻi maikaʻi ke ʻokiʻoki i nā pilina ʻoi loa ke hele a ʻona loa ka pilina.
4. Hoʻonohonoho palena
ʻIke nā makuakāne Narcissistic i kā lākou keiki i nā pono hana. ʻO Bluntly, "waiwai" kā lākou keiki. A no ka mea "kuleana" lākou iā ʻoe, e hoʻohana lākou iā ʻoe.
Inā ʻoe e noho nei me kahi makua narcissistic, e hoʻonohonoho i nā palena a paʻa i kēia mau palena.
E hoʻomanaʻo i ka manaʻo aloha ʻole o kou makuakāne narcissist malignant. ʻO kēia nele o ke aloha e hiki ʻole iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo a i kou mau manaʻo paha.
Ke hoʻomaka kou makuakāne e hakakā i nā palena āu i hoʻonoho ai, kū i luna a hōʻaʻo i kona kūlana. Eia hou, he makua ʻoe i kēia manawa, a no ka hana pū ʻana me kahi makuakāne narcissistic, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i ke koi ʻana i kāu mana ponoʻī ke hōʻike aku kou makuakāne i ka ʻano hoʻohaʻahaʻa.
Aka, akahele; palupalu ke ʻano pilikino o ka narcissist, ʻaʻole loa lākou e makemake i kahi ʻano pilikino o lākou iho e hoʻopiʻi ʻia e kekahi. Kū ikaika me kou mau palena ʻoiai e noho nei me nā mākua narcissistic.
5. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻae ʻana
ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kēia ma ke ʻano he koho no ka hōʻalo ʻana i ka hana hoʻomāinoino narcissistic akā ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa nei i ka ʻae ʻana i nā kōkua.
Ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e komo ai i ka lāʻau, e ʻae i kou makuakāne narcissistic no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ia. Akā no ka poʻe ʻaʻole, ʻo kēia paha ka mea paʻakikī loa e hana keu ʻoiai he hemahema kou makuakāne.
ʻAʻole hiki i kāna "ʻuhane paʻakikī" ke haki, ma hope o nā mea āpau, e ʻike wale kahi kanaka narcissistic iā lākou iho he hemolele a kūpono i kēlā me kēia ʻano o ka ʻike (hōʻike kēia ʻike pehea lākou e ʻike ai i ko lākou ʻano maʻi).
Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono hou i kou kuanaʻike hiki ke mālama ʻia i kahi liʻiliʻi, no laila e ʻōlelo (mai hōʻike iā ia e mālama ʻia ana ʻo ia!).
Ke hana nei i kēlā ʻanuʻu mua i mua o ka hoʻōla ʻana mai ka hoʻomāinoino narcissistic a paʻakikī e hoʻomaka kēia pilina hōʻino. Akā ke hana ʻoe i kēlā ʻanuʻu, ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻoi aku o ka maikaʻi o ka hiki ke kaʻawale mai nā pohō o ke keiki a kahi makuakāne narcissistic.